He told us, that his car got hit when he was coming out of tunis airport, hit by another car.... Im happy to meet just private message me when and where
I suppose the lesson is .. if you suspect something then post a name! - maybe if we had all done it a little sooner he wouldnt have got away with so much, still live and learn dont we.
He told me that he was drunk on his way back from Nebal - on the dual carriageway section, lost control and rolled it into a ditch - car ended up upside down with all the glass broken. So 3 different stories, i expect the German woman knows the truth!
Your'e right Guzu, but there are lots of women out there as you say who are not comfortable coming forward and posting. It is sad, as I am sure if more came forward more rats would get caught.
Me he told that when he came from his home village he has in Tunis to change into the louage (big taxi) and this loage made the accident. Who does know the truth? I will pm you about the meeting.
I think you mean Nabeul? I also know Karim and the two French/Algerien women, they came together to the Brasserie when I was Nizar meeting there. The other one Nebal I dont know.
Yeah Nabeul even! lol. It seems Nizar is always with Karim and the 2 F/A women, they have been sighted many times together. The other guy is called Nedal. Tried to upload an album but its not working.
Hello, I read the comments about Nizar has, I am shocked. I met him in a hotel in Hammamet 7 years ago and we had a relationship for six months ... he has never asked for money, he lived with his parents I believe in the north of Tunisia so we speak the same man apparently. What can you tell me about him? I realized that reading was not very honest with women ... I hope to have answers ...
Lol 'not very honest with women' is a bit of a understatement, this man is a chronic liar and cheat! The fact that 3 women have come forward on this thread saying they've been conned by this man is enough information for you to go away with, don't you think?! I've gasped to myself all the way through reading this thread! Thank you Allah for revealing my rat's true colours early on..omg i'm still in shock!
Dodo's reaction is just typical , she didn't know , she was not aware of who he was ...many "innocent"women stay in the fog like that and even keep a sweet memory of the boy and story and staying in "fantasyland" for years, thinking they had a genuine relationship...i think they are happier :you don't suffer from what you don't know ...i met a few girls( "flower power" girls ,let's say ...) not even able to understand or imagine what is rattery ...as they had short and light stories with a rat who didn't scam them,i felt it was useless to tell them because it would blow their memories ... you see here with Dodo that even years after it's over ,you receive a shock when you learn a boy you were involved with , even for a short time ,was a rat...
My reaction is certainly naive because the man I have known seven years ago did not seem to be the same as that which you speak ... But I do not doubt your words. It is unfortunate that many women have been duped by Nizar and I'm glad not to have been a part. Do you know if it continues its "scams" in Tunisia and where? For I must soon go back ... I will not want to see Nizar! Thank you for your answers
Amber I post this with a lot of vodka in my system. So I am open to all critics who believe that women are idiots and should know better. I know I am gonna get shot down but hey ho! I have suffered the last 5 years. A little less as each year goes by, I say this so the women who are suffering right now will know there is an end to it. Never in my life have I felt pain like the pain of finding someone you love could treat you so bad, and I have had a lot of life's pains. I won't go into my story. It doesn't really matter. What matter's is the fact that I had faith in another human and they didn't care. No-one could have told me he was bad news, I would never have believed them. So I understand when women come here and are told what is reality and they fight it because who would want to know there situation is 'normale' and their partner is a rat. I don't believe I will ever get over my experience completely and those in a similar situation will not either. I am used to waking in the morning and thinking of him. Before sleeping at night thinking of him. It is what I am left with. I appear to be strong to the outside world but inside he hurt a part of me that has never been touched. So I urge those of us who have never experienced this to have compassion for those that have and treat them gently. We do not need to be told we are gullible or wearing 'rose coloured glasses'. Who know's what we need, just a little time maybe to get used to our pain. Right I'm off to my bed and know doubt I will read tomorrow that I was an idiot or whatever!!! I just want to say, have a little grace people and there for the grace of God!!
Sparkle, the pain and suffering is concerning the image you had of this man, not concerning what this man really was... No doubt that most women here understand and feel compassion for the victims, but healing takes a lot of time and is in the hands of the victim herself, some deep introspection and psychological healing are needed for full recovery, each one in her own rythm and time. Women are not idiots and I for myself am sure that the most empathic and "good" women are the ones that get hurt the most deeply by rats... Come on girl, peace and ease of mind can be found in ourselves, as at the end of the journey we all are facing but ourselves. Have a nice day, life is great!
Sparkle, You are human, and I would try and ignore the all knowing critics who believe you are an idiot and should know better. It must be so reassuring for them to be able to sit on high and look down on those below, pontificating. Public forums like this attract all sorts. People are here for different reasons, as I see it: Some are rat victims, and come to name and shame, and support/warn others. There are members who have never been victims, but are appalled by rattery, and come here to support/warn women. We have our trolls. The married members who live in Tunisia who give useful information, updating us on what is happening on the ground, and sharing their knowledge of the culture, and who are also TLR detectives. Members who are trying to show Tunisia in a different light, want to support Tunisia, keep it in the public eye, and find it unbearable when anything negative is said about Tunisian men. They don't realise that we are not talking about all Tunisian men here but rats. The only way in which they can hold their position is by saying all rat victims are stupid. People who are just lurking with no particular interest. Members in relationships who want to keep their eye on the ball. Members who just come on to tell their love story, and let everyone know that their man is different. I accept that there are some women out there, who can see the blinding lights, and walk straight into them, but each case is different. Sadly, there are people who don't have the capacity to be compassionate to others, in certain circumstances, because of their belief systems, concept of themselves, and conditions of worth, in my experience.It is only when some of these people are able to walk in your shoes for a day, that there may be a shift in their perspective(empathy).They try to fit you into their belief systems, not recognising that you are an individual with different values, and your context is different. What happened to you has meaning for you, and that is what is important, hold onto that Sparkle. I am sorry that you are still mourning the loss of your relationship. There is no time limit for grieving.It is like when people have lost a loved one, child,family member, or friend, the pressure they feel from others that they should have moved on, by a set date. I have worked with people who think they should recover from their losses in a week or so. Who has the right to tell you when you should move on????? How do they know when is the right time for you? In my experience no Bereavement counsellor, will give a client a time limit on grieving. What is normal for one person, is not for the next person. We all come from different contexts, and how we are, is influenced by that. I accept that there are times with grieving, when it becomes pathological, but that is not what you are talking about, in my experience. It sounds like the pain is less for you now, which is a good thing. I think there are some experiences in life that leave us scarred,that you can never get over completely. Sending you healing thoughts.
Hi Sparkle, I know you hate it when I talk about the pink glasses and the pink cloud. But I really hate it more to read that you or someone else has suffered 5 years!!! I'm really shocked about it to be honest that it take you such a long time and still you wake up and go to sleep and think at him. He's not worth it!! And he's that way still manipulating your life allthough your relation is over! You say that you had your life pains, me too and like you I will not mention them open and out at the internet, but I hope you believe me. And allthough I had my life pains, and one off them was really pretty close to be dead and turned the rest of my life upside down without I can do anything about it, it didn't take me 5 years to get over it. Did any of your other life pains such a long time to get over it? I hope not? Maybe dear Spearkle, it's time to get some help, becaus you deserve soooo much more! There are specialist who can help you with this, so you can get him out of your daily system, he's been there long enough now!!! We will support you here. But you have to make a next step, how difficult it is, you can't let this going on like this!!! What I try to say is that I know you don't like me for what I'm writing, but I hope you understand that it's not because I'm against you personally or any other persons (OK LOL sorry I can name one here who I'm against too, but she is banned here, it's a pitty she popped up at the other side! LOL), but because I hope that at one moment, one day, maybe something from what I did say, pop in someones mind at the right moment and that she thinks owwww that girl made me mad when she did wrote that....but was this what she was talking about .....? And every person is different, so maybe and hopefully I reach 1 person like that who isn't ready for it now, for other persons it will be you or another member at this website who will pop up in her head when the moment is right. Take care! And a big hug!
Dear Sparkle, don't worry you are very clear even with Vodka in your blood!i hope the hangover will not be too bad ...but you can read the answers ,you will find support and understanding ! i am deeply touched by your post and i can both empathize and understand what you live...i noticed that you noticed we were made of kind of "same wood"...and at least on the same side of the river...i will not repeat what Laurence and Marylina said above in my bad english..they wrote fantastic posts i fully agree with! one of the main reason i came on this site and stayed was first to heal and hold on to something but also to welcome other victims in what i feel is the more appropriate way , that is to say welcoming the emotionnal expression first without judging or trying to make women think PREMATOUROUSLY about what they live...two different times to me ... and the second part is to be done out of here with professionals in counselling sessions...first the welcoming and support then if needed and with grace and mercy and having the main lines of the story, trying to lead to an introspection ...i am always shocked whoever it comes from to read bad comments and harsh views ...i agree with Laurence than the "best" of us are the more potential victims , i mean women with good heart and sensible...may be too sensible ...i am not saying harsh ones here don't have heart , but they are made another way... and we don't have all the same capacity and taste for emotionnal talkings ...we are all different but i think only deeply and honest hurt rat's victims come here to tell and share their story and warn others to protect them, no bitches , no sex tourists !!so to me , as someone once said somewhere talking about herself, those who can't understand how we can get trapped or think they are unreachable should just prevent themselves from talking in the first time !!!...because it's just to "shoot on the ambulance" , you are down and you receive in the wrong moment the final shot from women who never experienced these feelings ...needless to add that of course i fully agree we victims have to question ourselves and to take our part of responsibility ! but this comes second according to the rythm you can cope with... big hugs and kisses to you sparkle , always be there for a chat ...
Sparkle reading your post just now I had tears rolling down my cheeks, reason being there's so much I can relate to. I feel the same, I wake up in the middle of the night thinking about what he's done and it hurt's soooo much. How do we draw comfort in something that was fake? It will take time but remember god has better plan's for you. That's how I comfort myself, my refuge is with Allah and only he know's what is best for me, he will not give me more than I can bear. Sometime's in life you have to lose in order to gain, time is a great healer and believe me you WILL heal. You have comforted me and given me a lot of good advice, I really admire you. If you even need to talk i'm here. Big hugs xx
your going to have a shit hangover mate but its good to get it all out even thou you didnt share the vodka ( you tight git ) your going be ok you got your bestest mate lou lou to look after you xxxxxx
Thanks to all that sent me such lovely messages, sometimes it spills out (helped with a little too much voddie ) But needless to say I'm fine today apart from the headache hahaha. Group hug girls xxxxxxxxx
