A word of warning for sexual relations via webcam

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  1. beznessbitch

    beznessbitch Well-Known Member

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    I feel proud of myself actually.. I wasn't nasty or childish but was firm and stated how it is now so I'm not ashamed. .... x
     
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    beznessbitch Well-Known Member

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    and I don't feel angr
    and i dont feel angry... this is all progress x
     
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    :eek:Hard on you? I had no idea of this.
     
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  4. Mango Chutney

    Mango Chutney Well-Known Member

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    You've done well, you handled it really well. I'm not one for hate and nastiness either, I'd have dealt with it similar to you. We all cope in our own ways and none of them are right or wrong, they just reflect our different personalities.
    Get that new phone number sorted next. He will still find another way, but every effort you make to stop him playing on your softness is another hurdle on his path.
    I like to think that after we've thrown x amount of hurdles, they'll piss off and die....but they just don't give up!!
    Does he know who your family members and friends are on FB? If yes, they will be his next way of trying to contact you. Mine did it via my kids, I played right into his hands....I reacted! It's impossible not to though when they target kids :Evil:
    Keep going as you are...I think you're doing great :love:
     
  5. Mango Chutney

    Mango Chutney Well-Known Member

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    Tis the language barrier again, chick....sometimes things don't read as they ought to, especially when we are emotional and sensitive :)
    Don't worry....we all love our straight talking Liona :love:
     
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  7. Liona

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    Thank you, dear, I thought about this. Very difficult to "hear" the intonation...
    Yes-yes.:love:
     
  8. Mango Chutney

    Mango Chutney Well-Known Member

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    It really is! That's the problem with the written hand, you can't see facial expressions nor feel the emotions behind words....even when you have the same mother tongue!
    Many a family and friendship has been broken by a misunderstanding on FB or similar...it's really very sad :(
     
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    Wow! 220k and a broken heart! It’s terrifying how easy it is to scam someone with a fake hard luck story. Poor man.
     
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    sorry liona it's a saying that is used and not meant to offend xx
     
  11. beznessbitch

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    don't worry I have deleted my Facebook account now.. I'm kinda happy without it and i stay in touch with my friends via watsapp x once my number is changed it should really be end of it x
     
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  12. Mum2knowitallteen

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    Why don't you just block him on your phone and social media and then you won't have to read his messages? Its not fair that you should you have to change your number.?

    And talking to your rat for 5 minutes, is 5 minutes too long to waste on a rat. He just wants to stay in contact so he can reel you back in and use you again. Don't give him the opportunity.

    What would you advise one of your friends if they were in your situation and remained in contact with a man who had behaved in such an appalling way? Stay strong and focus on your friends and family.
     
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  13. Mango Chutney

    Mango Chutney Well-Known Member

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    This doesn't work, chick :Cry: For example:

    I blocked my rat EVERYWHERE, he just created new FB, Twitter accounts etc, bought new SIM cards, borrowed SIM cards, messaged me through friends accounts etc. The only way I could see to completely get rid of him, was to deactivate all my accounts, get new emails, remove Viber etc.
    I thought this would work, but it didn't....he started messaging my kids, my family and my friends.
    Every time the new account was blocked by them, he'd create another.
    It was continuous harassment until I gave in and ended up in contact again because I was so embarrassed and stressed.
    They are evil....there is just no getting rid of them.

    Changing her number will give BB a bit of breathing space to recover her strength, but ultimately...he will find a way back in, hence my explaining the above.
    They just don't give up, they reappear weeks, months, years down the line :Evil:
     
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    thank you for all the advice.. I had to tell him again.. I've moved on.. I have and never will anyone treat me like that again
     
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    your right maybe i won't change number.. he is blocked anyway. if he texts we can all laugh at what he is writing and add to the rat phrases catalogue lol
     
  16. Mango Chutney

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    I like it!!!
    Can't wait to see the new contributions to our online 'Ratty Begging and Bullshit Phrases Manual' :D

    Oh....but will they be new...or will it just be more of the same old regurgitated shite they all utter? :D
    Who cares....shove it all on anyway, it's cringeworthy and funny to see how desperate they are. :thumbsup:
     
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    this is not my rat but this is along the lines of what he has done to me.. threats to send pictures to friends and family. if he ever threatens me again I will go to the police and Tunisian embassy.. I was so powerless over him. I even threaten to kill myself and i meant it at the time. I didn't just meet him and this happened it. I went there 10 - 12 times. I would say this the reason it went on so long and why I sent him money. I was afraid :( but now I know this is a crime I would be taken seriously. still I would never want the 'screenshots' taken without my knowledge to be spread anywhere. this must be his and his dirty families business
     
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    and i hope it goes some way to explaining my reluctance to expose him here x
     
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    just to make it clear.. this case is far more serious than what he did. i didnt do anything depraved or lick toilet seats or anything so bad.. but the principles are the same.. threats if i didn't send money etc
     
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    if i ever hear him threaten me again I will go to the police. I'm not so powerless now. it's abuse and the world is recognising it now
     
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    What a low down dirty conniving rat.
    I admire your courage that you have found within these last few days .
    I would be ready with some very well photo shopped images of the rent a rat in compromising homosexual circumstances.
    I would put together the blackmail dossier with a record of all the threats ,
    Monies extorted etc Dates , Times , amounts .
    I would also claim to have incriminating screenshots and recordings that you had also made of him .
    If he should ever contact you or threaten you again with exposure turn the tables on him and threaten that you will do the same to him.
    Even demand money for not publishing his pornographic pictures.

    I hope that he nibbles on poison.
     
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    beznessbitch Well-Known Member

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    Yes he saw me as a victim. maybe i am I don't know. I not been with him a while and not seen him for well over a year. but i feel now I can get it out my system and move on.. older and wiser.. alot poorer but much stronger than I have ever been.. xxx
     
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    I hope that he nibbles on poison.[/QUOTE]

    I hope he actually gets decapitated in a rat trap
     
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    Madam Medusa Well-Known Member

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    SURVIVOR.

    She who fights and runs away
    Lives to fight another day
     

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