A word of warning for sexual relations via webcam

Mango Chutney

Moderator
Staff member
Thank you, dear, I thought about this. Very difficult to "hear" the intonation...
It really is! That's the problem with the written hand, you can't see facial expressions nor feel the emotions behind words....even when you have the same mother tongue!
Many a family and friendship has been broken by a misunderstanding on FB or similar...it's really very sad :(
 

beznessbitch

Junior Rat Expert
You've done well, you handled it really well. I'm not one for hate and nastiness either, I'd have dealt with it similar to you. We all cope in our own ways and none of them are right or wrong, they just reflect our different personalities.
Get that new phone number sorted next. He will still find another way, but every effort you make to stop him playing on your softness is another hurdle on his path.
I like to think that after we've thrown x amount of hurdles, they'll drain off and die....but they just don't give up!!
Does he know who your family members and friends are on FB? If yes, they will be his next way of trying to contact you. Mine did it via my kids, I played right into his hands....I reacted! It's impossible not to though when they target kids :Evil:
Keep going as you are...I think you're doing great :love:
don't worry I have deleted my Facebook account now.. I'm kinda happy without it and i stay in touch with my friends via watsapp x once my number is changed it should really be end of it x
 

Mum2knowitallteen

Active Member
well I'm changing my number so i won't have to have my eyes hurt with his cruel messages
Why don't you just block him on your phone and social media and then you won't have to read his messages? Its not fair that you should you have to change your number.?

And talking to your rat for 5 minutes, is 5 minutes too long to waste on a rat. He just wants to stay in contact so he can reel you back in and use you again. Don't give him the opportunity.

What would you advise one of your friends if they were in your situation and remained in contact with a man who had behaved in such an appalling way? Stay strong and focus on your friends and family.
 

Mango Chutney

Moderator
Staff member
Why don't you just block him on your phone and social media and then you won't have to read his messages? Its not fair that you should you have to change your number.?
This doesn't work, chick :Cry: For example:

I blocked my rat EVERYWHERE, he just created new FB, Twitter accounts etc, bought new SIM cards, borrowed SIM cards, messaged me through friends accounts etc. The only way I could see to completely get rid of him, was to deactivate all my accounts, get new emails, remove Viber etc.
I thought this would work, but it didn't....he started messaging my kids, my family and my friends.
Every time the new account was blocked by them, he'd create another.
It was continuous harassment until I gave in and ended up in contact again because I was so embarrassed and stressed.
They are evil....there is just no getting rid of them.

Changing her number will give BB a bit of breathing space to recover her strength, but ultimately...he will find a way back in, hence my explaining the above.
They just don't give up, they reappear weeks, months, years down the line :Evil:
 
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Mango Chutney

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Staff member
your right maybe i won't change number.. he is blocked anyway. if he texts we can all laugh at what he is writing and add to the rat phrases catalogue lol
I like it!!!
Can't wait to see the new contributions to our online 'Ratty Begging and Bullshit Phrases Manual' :D

Oh....but will they be new...or will it just be more of the same old regurgitated shite they all utter? :D
Who cares....shove it all on anyway, it's cringeworthy and funny to see how desperate they are. :thumbsup:
 

beznessbitch

Junior Rat Expert
this is not my rat but this is along the lines of what he has done to me.. threats to send pictures to friends and family. if he ever threatens me again I will go to the police and Tunisian embassy.. I was so powerless over him. I even threaten to kill myself and i meant it at the time. I didn't just meet him and this happened it. I went there 10 - 12 times. I would say this the reason it went on so long and why I sent him money. I was afraid :( but now I know this is a crime I would be taken seriously. still I would never want the 'screenshots' taken without my knowledge to be spread anywhere. this must be his and his dirty families business
 
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beznessbitch

Junior Rat Expert
just to make it clear.. this case is far more serious than what he did. i didnt do anything depraved or lick toilet seats or anything so bad.. but the principles are the same.. threats if i didn't send money etc
 
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Madam Medusa

Well-Known Member
What a low down dirty conniving rat.
I admire your courage that you have found within these last few days .
I would be ready with some very well photo shopped images of the rent a rat in compromising homosexual circumstances.
I would put together the blackmail dossier with a record of all the threats ,
Monies extorted etc Dates , Times , amounts .
I would also claim to have incriminating screenshots and recordings that you had also made of him .
If he should ever contact you or threaten you again with exposure turn the tables on him and threaten that you will do the same to him.
Even demand money for not publishing his pornographic pictures.

I hope that he nibbles on poison.
 

beznessbitch

Junior Rat Expert
What a low down dirty conniving rat.
I admire your courage that you have found within these last few days .
I would be ready with some very well photo shopped images of the rent a rat in compromising homosexual circumstances.
I would put together the blackmail dossier with a record of all the threats ,
Monies extorted etc Dates , Times , amounts .
I would also claim to have incriminating screenshots and recordings that you had also made of him .
If he should ever contact you or threaten you again with exposure turn the tables on him and threaten that you will do the same to him.
Even demand money for not publishing his pornographic pictures.

I hope that he nibbles on poison.
Yes he saw me as a victim. maybe i am I don't know. I not been with him a while and not seen him for well over a year. but i feel now I can get it out my system and move on.. older and wiser.. alot poorer but much stronger than I have ever been.. xxx
 

Mango Chutney

Moderator
Staff member
if he ever threatens me again I will go to the police and Tunisian embassy..
The Tunisian police? Don't bother! As long as there is money being put into their failing economy, they don't care how it got there. They are nice to your face, taking bribes and laughing behind your back.
The gang rapists and paedophile were given new names and went back to work...they ain't gonna do nothing about money and threats.
There are no harassment laws in Tunisia, I learned this after my rat and another one from here on the forum harassed me and my family.
Trust me....they won't do anything.
Reporting him and sending proof to the Embassy is worthwhile though....it will go against him if he tries to obtain a British visa via another victim.
it's abuse and the world is recognising it now
Yes, the civilised world recognises it.....Tunisia doesn't.
I would put together the blackmail dossier with a record of all the threats ,
Monies extorted etc Dates , Times , amounts .
I would also claim to have incriminating screenshots and recordings that you had also made of him .
This is a good idea, get all your proof together in one file....send it to the Embassy. Don't waste your time with the Tunisian police.
 

beznessbitch

Junior Rat Expert
the worst part was not being able to tell anyone.. my daughter still doesn't know. my friends don't know.. I'm opening up a bit now but u ladies are the only people I can talk to about this. i wanna cry that i been so stupid.. I'm not young girl. I was 41 when I met him with the mind of a teenager :(
 
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Mango Chutney

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Staff member
the worst part was not being able to tell anyone.. my daughter still doesn't know. my friends don't know.. I'm opening up a bit now but u ladies are the only people I can talk to about this. i wanna cry that i been so stupid.. I'm not young girl. I was 41 when I met him with the mind of a teenager :(
To be honest, chick....they wouldn't understand even if you could talk to them about it. The only people that can understand the hurt and devastation caused by a Bezness relationship, are those that have been through it, hence why the media and it's readers have made a joke out of Bezness, they blame and mock the victim.

In real life, I have one friend that suffered similar, so had a good understanding....but even she couldn't understand why I kept flying back to the freak after visiting England.
Stick with us, just keep pouring it out on here. Writing it down helps to release it from our systems and helps us to make sense of it all. It was only after I started writing here that I realised just how bad things had been.
You are not alone :)
 

beznessbitch

Junior Rat Expert
I will... it has taken a while as when I first came here I would still talk to him when I was lonely or bored.. but now everything feel different. I really don't want other ladies to suffer like I have. so me telling what has happened to me hopefully can help someone else not do the things I did and hopefully someone reading this maybe a lightbulb will go on for them and other women who are pressured into sexual relation via webcam.. the scheming rats can and do use it to extort money from their victims and also to have a hold over them.. that's the biggest one the hold over me was vicelike. I do still worry about it but I also know that he was evil but as to carrying out the threats i dont know. he knows now no money left. he also knows I've moved on. the only reason he has left is pure spite.. I pray he is not so spiteful but what with other victims of abuse and harassment speaking out I would hope that he would make himself look pure evil. I don't have a spiteful bone in my body.. but if he does anything now he is going to be the one who is famous not me
 

Heidi

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but if he does anything now he is going to be the one who is famous not me
Even if you can't get at him in Tunisia, you can get him into the tabloids in your country. They will be salivating for your story and he will be widely known. Of course, so will be you. It does take a lot of guts to do that and I normally don't recomment it, but if the cat is out of the bag (so to speak) - what have you got to loose :Ninja:
 

beznessbitch

Junior Rat Expert
Even if you can't get at him in Tunisia, you can get him into the tabloids in your country. They will be salivating for your story and he will be widely known. Of course, so will be you. It does take a lot of guts to do that and I normally don't recomment it, but if the cat is out of the bag (so to speak) - what have you got to loose :Ninja:
no no no.. I would never bring that attention on myself.. I'd rather remain anonymous here and deal with it in my own way.. not everyone needs to know my business plus I struggle to put it in any chronological order x
 

Heidi

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To make myself clear: If my rat had put degrading pictures of me on the internet and to all my family and friends (which he could not, since nobody wants to see a P ussy cat :whistle:), you can bet on it, that he would have been in the tabloids and all the sex magazines I would have been able to find
 

beznessbitch

Junior Rat Expert
Me either....I'd cry at the comments by the readers that don't understand this scam, that make us into a public laughing stock.
If and when you feel ready, fame on TLR is enough.
The media are very cruel about this scam.
yes I know mango.. I've read very mocking stories where nasty undertones about the woman run through the report. no I been through enough x
 
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