Please do not feel discouraged from seeing all your hospitality and willingness to help abused so, by the way.
It does sound like they are perfect for each other, surely but perhaps she is inconvenienced and just waking up? Since it is unlikely to at least apologize to RockChick, she should figure that out on her own. What matters is that the warm welcome will encourage other victims who are far more bewildered than I am right now for obvious reasons. Probably better that way.