- Sep 30, 2018
I'm so glad that you and others got away from there. I can't imagine.
Not an ideal life for someone who just wants love. Who would of thought that these men would be such animals bent on destroying others.Yeah, it was draining and heartbreaking. You end up spending a lot of time trying to fix something that doesn't want to be fixed - plus with a rat, they just scurry away towards entertainment, lusting after young girls, or other European women. The Tunisian women have a lot of challenges, and I don't envy them. Of course, they're terrible people if they support and agree with bezness. Regardless, I learned a lot and am very glad to be alive and home. I'm thankful for TLR. This place really informed me and helped me make the right decisions to extricate myself from an impossible situation.
You've been through a lot so having that extra support is always a plus.Yeah, I understand it 100%. Thank goodness my friends knew me well beforehand -- they know my intentions and how I handle stuff. My family was the biggest support. So, it was moping a little around when I got back, but I'm back into life. Though, still struggling to tie up the loose ends of this marriage.
It's horrible when you think you know someone and to find out that you never really knew them at all, or as you said so many versions of him.I'm already tired of reading this chapter. It wasn't good on any level. It was like forced reading and it was a situation I would NEVER have ever gotten involved with under any circumstances. The whole thing was awful. I mean, I guess if my rat had been a real person, maybe strong character, a good guy, and we had worked well together, that would have been ideal. But, from the minute I got to Tunisia I was flung into a nightmare of crisis after crisis, and couldn't distinguish who he was - or what his natural personality was at all. I got 500 versions of 1 Tunisian. The last version was the radical Islam version. So, yeah... he still blames me and is angry, but I got a terrible marriage with him. It was awful, all around.
My God, how I hear you! I never knew hour by hour which face I was gonna see.I got 500 versions of 1 Tunisian.
I am married to one I can assure you that they are no different to Tunisia. They are very violent, oh they love bomb you like you never hear before.ha ha ha, it is my friend, he seems very nice, he has said he will come to visit her in england, he does not seem to have a problem going to different places, been living in france with his family, has told her when she said she will pay the hotel, no a woman does not pay. she pays nothing, also offered to help her out with money, just wondering should i be worried, do they work on the same rat principle, though this one does not seem to match the profile. hhhhhhhhhhhhh....and no its not for me, only lost Hassen 11 weeks ago!
Run like hellAlgerian Love Rats
U.S. Embassy in Algeria
Many Algerians befriend American citizens through Internet dating and social networking sites and these relationships may lead to engagement and marriage. While some of these marriages are successful, the U.S. Embassy in Algiers warns against marriage scams. It is not uncommon for foreign nationals to enter into marriages with Americans solely for immigration or financial purposes. Relationships developed via correspondence, particularly those begun on the Internet, are especially susceptible to manipulation. Often, the marriages end in divorce in the United States when the foreign national acquires legal permanent residence (“green card”) or U.S. citizenship. In some cases, the new American or permanent resident then remarries a wife he divorced before, around the same time as entering into a relationship with a sponsoring American citizen.
The U.S. Embassy has seen several cases in which American citizens are lured to Algeria and are then held against their will in abusive situations. American citizens who do not speak the local languages and are dependent solely on the one Algerian national are especially vulnerable. Sometimes the American citizen is able to escape only with police / Embassy intervention. American citizens in this situation have often found that their personal and financial information is hacked. As an American citizen, you need to be responsible for ensuring you are in legal status in Algeria and not rely on someone promising to take care of it for you. The Algerian national may try to threaten to have you arrested/deported if you do not follow his commands.
Some of the signs that an Internet contact may be developing a relationship with an American in order to obtain an immigrant visa through marriage, or financial gain/identity theft are:
While chat rooms, dating and social networking sites are great ways to make friends across international borders, the U.S. government urges Americans who meet foreign nationals on the Internet to take the time necessary to get to know them well before considering marriage. Entering into a marriage contract for the principal purpose of facilitating immigration to the United States for an alien is against U.S. law and can result in serious penalties, including fines and imprisonment for the American citizen and the foreign national involved.
- Initial contact through unsolicited requests via Skype, Facebook, on-line gaming, or other means
- The person uses on-line dating sites to meet other foreign nationals
- Lack of real shared interests – i.e. the person on the other end parrots back whatever the American mentions
- Requests for relationships between a young Algerian man and a much older American woman. (In the Algerian cultural context it is extremely unusual for an Algerian man to have a legitimate relationship with a woman even slightly older – and especially unusual to have a first-time relationship with someone beyond child bearing age.)
- Declarations of love within days or weeks of the initial contact
- Proposals or discussions of marriage soon after initial contact
- Requests to send money or provide access to financial accounts
- Responses to messages from the American friend are along the lines “I love you/Sorry I missed your call,” or similarly one-sided conversations
- Request to get married in Tunisia with a single witness because “it’s easier to get married quickly there.” Note that weddings in Algeria are major social occasions, and it is extremely unusual for large numbers of family and friends not to be present at the wedding
- Once engaged, married, or an immigrant visa petition is filed, suddenly starts missing scheduled appointments to chat or call
Nice to see you, glad you made it back alright and hope that you have a speedy recoveryHi I've been very sick and in hospital.
Got home a week ago.
I'm doing a little better now I'm home from that country never going to set a foot there again.
How are you, and thank you
Actually, anyone who does not live in a depressed economy or third world country. If you are first world, stick to first world working guys. I’ve been finding so many rats all over the place.Anything outside of North Africa or Muslim majority countries will do.
All the freakin same, be they Tunisian, Algerian, Moroccan, Turkish etc