So I have been somewhat investigative, looking at his past relationships to get answers and connect the dots. So far I have tried and have met with some stumbling blocks. One woman says that she did not see him as anything significant and doesn't even remember him, as I seen on his facebook page he had thoughts of being serious with her although she seemed aloof and distant with him and acted more like a friend. Some things are not as they appear to be as we find out in the relationship itself down the road. A few other women in his past seem to act like I am their worst enemy for even asking to get answers and you would think other women could be more empathetic. I suspect and I only say suspect that one of those women was in on the scam with the tunisian rat. I am not analyzing this to death I don't care that it is over I just want to understand it. I may never find out but what I do know from looking at his page in the past is that he has a problem sustaining a relationship just based on his posts. There were clues there I just did not see it. I am seeing a professional about coming to terms with the abuse I suffered, I have been told it is like the phases of grief and I am confidently at the end of this coming to terms with it and accepting it in order to move on and look after myself.