Bizarre behaviours...

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  1. Galleta

    Galleta Well-Known Member

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    OK here is a question for all you experienced ladies....do all Tunisian guys have such bizarre and weird behaviour?

    Things have been going well with me and my 'friend' (who I happen to love even though as I explained elsewhere, we are not talking marriage or anything like this).
    Hes been lovely recently, attentive, kind, laughing happy etc.....
    and suddenly he turns..becomes nasty, acuses me of things I have not said..to pick a fight, and then goes cold and silent til he decides to change.
    This is a pattern I have seen over the long time I have known him.
    It used to leave me really upset but now I see the pattern and wonder....is this a Tunisian thing or is it just guys in general?
    Guess I just needed to get if off my chest.
     
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  2. AmberHeart

    AmberHeart Lady Amberheart of Gafsa

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    I wouldn’t say it’s a general behavior, but typical from someone used to manipulate others.
     
  3. juicyfruit

    juicyfruit Well-Known Member

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    Hi Galleta....Maybe results of long term inbreeding culture....:mad:this could also be a Tunisian "rat" thing which they display when happen to get another victim and use this behavior so they can skulk off and spend time with them:sneaky: leaving you guilty and thinking "WTF did I do?":confused: Or it could only be "bizarre and weird behavior:rolleyes: Please be careful and take care of yourself.:)

    I am very positive you will get a lot of feedback on this one.;)
     
  4. Galleta

    Galleta Well-Known Member

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    Thank you . So what do they gain by making you come close to you ... really close.. and then pushing away in a really nasty way? I’m so confused and upset
     
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  5. Galleta

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    He knows I think the world of him .. is it just a horrible game, or is he disturbed?
     
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    AmberHeart Lady Amberheart of Gafsa

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    They gain attachment. Making you feel anxious, overthinking and using your time to think about them. It’s all about their control over you.
     
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    AmberHeart Lady Amberheart of Gafsa

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    Both.
     
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    AmberHeart Lady Amberheart of Gafsa

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    There’s a thread named “psychological tips” that has several videos and info about Narcissism. It will help you understand why he reacts the way he does. Why they boicot and treat their targets.
     
  9. Galleta

    Galleta Well-Known Member

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    Damn it . I should have learnt by now . But every time it hurts just as much
     
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    You should read about Borderline Personality Disorder. It describes rat behavior almost exactly.
     
  11. Galleta

    Galleta Well-Known Member

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    Yes ... the “push /pull” dynamic .
    He’s extra nice for a while and gets me as close as he can then spits me out . And the annoying thing is, it works every time
     
  12. Galleta

    Galleta Well-Known Member

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    So is this Rat behaviour or a random guy thing?
     
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    Really, most of them would probably get diagnosed anywhere in the Cluster B framework... Narcissism, Psychopathy, or BPD.
     
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    I think it's a combination of inbreeding, mental illness, survival circumstances, effects from sexual abuse and sexual violence (maybe rape and sodomy), prostitution, poverty, injustice, and religious influences.
     
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    AmberHeart Lady Amberheart of Gafsa

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    It will never change for the better, it tends to increase. :/
     
  16. Jisela

    Jisela Well-Known Member

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    Tunisia is not like the free world. These men didn't grow up like families in the free world. They're exposed to extremism, violence, death, poverty, theft, prostitution, every single day. You can't really expect a Tunisian man to behave like someone fostered in fair and diplomatic circumstances, especially like men fostered in a loving home that teaches gender equality, protection of boundaries, love, etc.
     
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    AmberHeart Lady Amberheart of Gafsa

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    Abusers behaviour. Rats are abusers.
     
  18. Galleta

    Galleta Well-Known Member

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    Yes I see your point. But when he’s “ normal” he comes across as just that . Anytime we get too close it’s like a switch in his mind comes on and he push me away
     
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    Sure, they know how to mirror you, to emulate what you want to see in order to get close to you and get what they want... but, that's just it, it's all an emulation, a mask, a facade to get in the door.
     
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    But then , why switch like this? He must know he risks losing me when he does that .
     
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    AmberHeart Lady Amberheart of Gafsa

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    Yes, he makes you feel special then disposable. That’s the point.
     
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    It is a clear sign to keep away from this individual..why do you want to continue with someone that makes you feel so down and depressed....

    They practise this technique to keep you hooked....please get rid while you can...He wants to play this game show him you can play it better
     
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    I'm sure they all very much know and understand that the REAL SELF is completely unacceptable, violent, perverted, dangerous, selfish, greedy, primitive, etc. They have to hide that part... otherwise, you would reject them at the start. So, they have to make that mask very appealing, very sexy, very charming and desirable to get you hooked and believing in their unique and exotic allure. Once you're hooked, they can relax for a while, take the mask off and start to unload all of the evil stuff behind the mask. Then, you start to see the real self - the really broken, unresolved Tunisian man self...
     
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    AmberHeart Lady Amberheart of Gafsa

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    He is not attached to you. He won’t lose you. You are attached to him, you can lose him. That’s his game and mentality.
     
  25. Galleta

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    Yes you are right ... he knows he has me on a string and normally I go straight back to him like nothing happened. This time I want to show him he’s gone too far
     

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