Bizarre behaviours...

Jane

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OK here is a question for all you experienced ladies....do all Tunisian guys have such bizarre and weird behaviour?

Things have been going well with me and my 'friend' (who I happen to love even though as I explained elsewhere, we are not talking marriage or anything like this).
Hes been lovely recently, attentive, kind, laughing happy etc.....
and suddenly he turns..becomes nasty, acuses me of things I have not said..to pick a fight, and then goes cold and silent til he decides to change.
This is a pattern I have seen over the long time I have known him.
It used to leave me really upset but now I see the pattern and wonder....is this a Tunisian thing or is it just guys in general?
Guess I just needed to get if off my chest.
 

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OK here is a question for all you experienced ladies....do all Tunisian guys have such bizarre and weird behaviour?

Things have been going well with me and my 'friend' (who I happen to love even though as I explained elsewhere, we are not talking marriage or anything like this).
Hes been lovely recently, attentive, kind, laughing happy etc.....
and suddenly he turns..becomes nasty, acuses me of things I have not said..to pick a fight, and then goes cold and silent til he decides to change.
This is a pattern I have seen over the long time I have known him.
It used to leave me really upset but now I see the pattern and wonder....is this a Tunisian thing or is it just guys in general?
Guess I just needed to get if off my chest.
I wouldn’t say it’s a general behavior, but typical from someone used to manipulate others.
 

juicyfruit

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Hi Galleta....Maybe results of long term inbreeding culture....:mad:this could also be a Tunisian "rat" thing which they display when happen to get another victim and use this behavior so they can skulk off and spend time with them:sneaky: leaving you guilty and thinking "WTF did I do?":confused: Or it could only be "bizarre and weird behavior:rolleyes: Please be careful and take care of yourself.:)

I am very positive you will get a lot of feedback on this one.;)
 

Jane

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There’s a thread named “psychological tips” that has several videos and info about Narcissism. It will help you understand why he reacts the way he does. Why they boicot and treat their targets.
Yes ... the “push /pull” dynamic .
He’s extra nice for a while and gets me as close as he can then spits me out . And the annoying thing is, it works every time
 

Jane

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Tunisia is not like the free world. These men didn't grow up like families in the free world. They're exposed to extremism, violence, death, poverty, theft, prostitution, every single day. You can't really expect a Tunisian man to behave like someone fostered in fair and diplomatic circumstances, especially like men fostered in a loving home that teaches gender equality, protection of boundaries, love, etc.
Yes I see your point. But when he’s “ normal” he comes across as just that . Anytime we get too close it’s like a switch in his mind comes on and he push me away
 

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Sure, they know how to mirror you, to emulate what you want to see in order to get close to you and get what they want... but, that's just it, it's all an emulation, a mask, a facade to get in the door.
But then , why switch like this? He must know he risks losing me when he does that .
 

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It is a clear sign to keep away from this individual..why do you want to continue with someone that makes you feel so down and depressed....

They practise this technique to keep you hooked....please get rid while you can...He wants to play this game show him you can play it better
 

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It is a clear sign to keep away from this individual..why do you want to continue with someone that makes you feel so down and depressed....

They practise this technique to keep you hooked....please get rid while you can...He wants to play this game show him you can play it better
Yes you are right ... he knows he has me on a string and normally I go straight back to him like nothing happened. This time I want to show him he’s gone too far
 

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.is this a Tunisian thing or is it just guys in general?
It is a narcissist thing in general.
He is pushing the boundaries further out, testing how hooked you are....before going in for the kill.

You would benefit yourself massively by reading up thoroughly on narcissism, blocking this freak and staying the hell away from him. He is building up....don't hang around and wait for the consequences.

You say you love this boy....yet he treats you like this.
Is this love, or an obsession?
You need to read up on narcissism....we do not warn people here for fun, but to help them, to save them....

My advice: Block the fruitcake, read up on narcissism....and be grateful you got away before things progressed far enough for real harm.
Why on earth do you not let go of this silly, greedy boy that treats you this way? Where is your self worth? You deserve better!
 

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He is not attached to you. He won’t lose you. You are attached to him, you can lose him. That’s his game and mentality.
It is a narcissist thing in general.
He is pushing the boundaries further out, testing how hooked you are....before going in for the kill.

You would benefit yourself massively by reading up thoroughly on narcissism, blocking this freak and staying the hell away from him. He is building up....don't hang around and wait for the consequences.

You say you love this boy....yet he treats you like this.
Is this love, or an obsession?
You need to read up on narcissism....we do not warn people here for fun, but to help them, to save them....

My advice: Block the fruitcake, read up on narcissism....and be grateful you got away before things progressed far enough for real harm.
Why on earth do you not let go of this silly, greedy boy that treats you this way? Where is your self worth? You deserve better!
yes you are right but I’m completely obsessed with him. Can’t let go, impossiblè. 5 years now !! I try to leave him and can’t .
 

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If he keeps you in this heightened mode of turbulence, of fear and of confusion, he can play the situation better. He can confuse you, raise the appeal of romance and unlock your sensitivity, your empathy to cover for his bad behavior... because he knows you want to sustain your bond with him. He is simultaneously testing you to see how far he can get, relaxing and taking his mask off, and playing/practicing his love game with you (and probably other people too).
Does he have nothing better to do with his time?? What does he gain ? He knows I love him ... he doesn’t need to do these games ..
 

Jane

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The only way to deal with these men is to be brutally cold, direct and confrontational, and ultimately completely unresponsive - no contact.
If only I was strong enough for this . But it would be like cutting off an arm or something lol ..and also he’s only bad sometimes.. maybe he’s anxious about something. It makes me crazy not knowing
 

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Does he have nothing better to do with his time?? What does he gain ? He knows I love him ... he doesn’t need to do these games ..
His interest is not in your feelings, but in benefits he could get from you. Recently he asked you for money for his visa or paperwork, I can’t remember what was it for... you refused so he is punishing you.
 
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