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Jane

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Tunisian men like this are big whores and deserve to get the smack down 100%. Galleta, I would encourage you to escape this Tunisian rat before you share in HIS portion of judgment that will come from prostitution. Pouring out your sympathy and love out on a Tunisian prostitute is completely wasted... it's all evil, even the young men who see themselves as innocent and walking around in the traditions of evil men -- they deserve the circumstances that they are creating by selling dreams, lies, snake oil, and abuse to unsuspecting victims.
Oh god your story was terrible and I’m in no way condoning violence , prostitution and so on .. I just meant the general frustration is understandsble and the wanting to get the hell out of that country
 

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The two of you have been communicating for 5 years now. You mentioned that you both have the understanding that there will be no marriage in the future....so I guess I am not clear on what the two of you are heading towards then, what exactly are you looking to gain from all of this?
Good question - i often ask myself this !!
 

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I know that you are probably trying to absorb everything you are hearing and we all know that the hard truth hurts. Perhaps you need to look up a good muslim then because they don't fish online for older women first of all. We are infidels to them, they hate us, they hate anyone from western countries. Those years of conversations you've been having aren't real, they are staged. They follow the same script with everyone. Hell you are not even talking to him all the time, you are talking to his friends and relatives. Come on girl....I know you hear us
 

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I hear what you’re saying - I’ve got to break free as Freddy Mercury would say - and tonight !! But what can my final words be ? Don’t want to just block and vanish , that’s childish . Or just say “ bye “ . Want to say something that won’t be blaming (after all I don’t have evidence he’s scammed me and he has not been as vile as some of the rats on here ) but give me a get out on a good note. Any ideas?
 

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I just meant the general frustration is understandsble and the wanting to get the hell out of that country
I want to get the hell outta my country....should I scam an innocent person to achieve this?
Should I control, manipulate, steal from, rape, beat and imprison some innocent person that falls in love with me? Threaten to kill children? Lie, cheat and scam?
Does that make it ok, because I'm too lazy to get a real job and get my hands dirty? :confused:
 

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I know that you are probably trying to absorb everything you are hearing and we all know that the hard truth hurts. Perhaps you need to look up a good muslim then because they don't fish online for older women first of all. We are infidels to them, they hate us, they hate anyone from western countries. Those years of conversations you've been having aren't real, they are staged. They follow the same script with everyone. Hell you are not even talking to him all the time, you are talking to his friends and relatives. Come on girl....I know you hear us
But I don’t thinks I’m talking to his friends etc ... they would need his password ! Which I’m sure he wouldn’t give , it’s a real FB account.. I feel he’s not as scammerish ( if that’s a word)? As some of these rats I’m reading about
 

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But I don’t thinks I’m talking to his friends etc ... they would need his password ! Which I’m sure he wouldn’t give , it’s a real FB account.. I feel he’s not as scammerish ( if that’s a word)? As some of these rats I’m reading about
They hand their logged in accounts to friends and family members, while they eat, shag a local....or Skype with the other victims.
You'd be amazed what you see when you live there :thumbsup:
I feel he’s not as scammerish ( if that’s a word)? As some of these rats I’m reading about
Wakey, wakey.....he's really taking you for a ride :rolleyes:
 

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What you say about people in Tunisia not having hope - he told me this once . And I think maybe they can’t be blamed for being like this ? I mean , if we were in this situation - living in a dump they are trapped in - they’re not even allowed to have a holiday without a visa - and no hope of an interesting career in spite of education- no hope of marriage if they don’t have money- can’t even have normal relations with women at an age (30 in his case) when most guys here are in their prime - with all this going on no wonder they are how they are. This is why I feel for him as well as I can see his frustration with life sometimes
sorry Galleta but there is no excuse to abuse other people. no excuse.
 

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I want to get the hell outta my country....should I scam an innocent person to achieve this?
Should I control, manipulate, steal from, rape, beat and imprison some innocent person that falls in love with me? Threaten to kill children? Lie, cheat and scam?
Does that make it ok, because I'm too lazy to get a real job and get my hands dirty? :confused:
No of course not !! But to be fair my friend has never been as bad as this- just has this thing of getting close and pushing away all the time which can hurt me a lot
 

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They hand their logged in accounts to friends and family members, while they eat, shag a local....or Skype with the other victims.
You'd be amazed what you see when you live there :thumbsup:

Wakey, wakey.....he's really taking you for a ride :rolleyes:
But we’ve exchanged pics etc ... surely he wouldn’t want his family or friends to see them?
 

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No of course not !! But to be fair my friend has never been as bad as this- just has this thing of getting close and pushing away all the time which can hurt me a lot
Did you read our replies? He is testing his boundaries.....seeing how far he can push you, ensuring the bait has been well and truly taken, before he strikes and reels you in.
Do you think mine started out as bad as that? He was lovely, he was so nice....I completely fell for the mask of a narcissist....and I sit here frustrated as hell, watching you walk into the same trap.....because you feel sorry for him, because you don't think he's that bad.
You are the golden victim for a rat :thumbsup:
But we’ve exchanged pics etc ... surely he wouldn’t want his family or friends to see them?
What kinda pics? I'm assuming that beings as you are only friends, you haven't sent him intimate pics?
If you have.....prepare for blackmail....they really like doing that :thumbsup:
Of course he shows his family and friends....they all do.
I watched them doing that in coffee shops....but didn't realise what was going on until I left.
You should hear the laughter as they compare victims....they think we are hilarious :thumbsup:
 

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I hear what you’re saying - I’ve got to break free as Freddy Mercury would say - and tonight !! But what can my final words be ? Don’t want to just block and vanish , that’s childish . Or just say “ bye “ . Want to say something that won’t be blaming (after all I don’t have evidence he’s scammed me and he has not been as vile as some of the rats on here ) but give me a get out on a good note. Any ideas?
A rat is vile for just being a rat in the first place.
He may not of been mean or abusive to me but that didn't mean he wasn't a rat. He wanted a visa, I am sure of that. I didn't need proof, I came here and read everything these ladies said, compared it to him and his actions, and guess what? it was enough for me.
What will make it enough for you?
 

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Oh god your story was terrible and I’m in no way condoning violence , prostitution and so on .. I just meant the general frustration is understandsble and the wanting to get the hell out of that country
no girl, you are making excuses to be with him and feel no guilt and keeping your eyes closed. i am sorry but this is very sad and ugly for you to say. you are saying its ok he abuses you because ha has no other chances in life so all of our rats...just today i realized something big about my ex f****** rat..this pisses me off. he is using and abusing many people to get what he wants and he gives a f*** who suffers or not....as long as he can brag about something he didnt earned.
 
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Did you read our replies? He is testing his boundaries.....seeing how far he can push you, ensuring the bait has been well and truly taken, before he strikes and reels you in.
Do you think mine started out as bad as that? He was lovely, he was so nice....I completely fell for the mask of a narcissist....and I sit here frustrated as hell, watching you walk into the same trap.....because you feel sorry for him, because you don't think he's that bad.
You are the golden victim for a rat :thumbsup:

What kinda pics? I'm assuming that beings as you are only friends, you haven't sent him intimate pics?
If you have.....prepare for blackmail....they really like doing that :thumbsup:
Of course he shows his family and friends....they all do.
I watched them doing that in coffee shops....but didn't realise what was going on until I left.
You should hear the laughter as they compare victims....they think we are hilarious :thumbsup:
Really???
What kind of things did they say ? Why did they laugh ??
 

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Really???
What kind of things did they say ? Why did they laugh ??
They were showing each other pics, switching phones etc. My Tunisian language was basic, but whore, dog and money were frequently mentioned.
They laugh because they are not emotionally involved....they think destroying innocent people to quench their thirst for greed is a game. They think we are stupid old women.
 

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They were showing each other pics, switching phones etc. My Tunisian language was basic, but whore, dog and money were frequently mentioned.
They laugh because they are not emotionally involved....they think destroying innocent people to quench their thirst for greed is a game. They think we are stupid old women.
Ughhhh .. really?
 

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You have this delusion that the things he says to you are genuine. There is nothing genuine about them, they are just very good actors, professional con men, he is conning you. I promise you, the minute he ends his conversations with you he's off joking about it with his buddies, or engaging in another conversation with another victim.
 

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Ok I feel actually ill reading these posts now... thinking he may have been laughing at me in some cafe somewhere.. always knew he wasn’t an angel but thinking of him and friends laughing at “ stupid old woman “ seeing photos Of me etc ...
I have no way of knowing if this is true or not but just thinking of it makes me feel ill ...

Thanks for advice everyone... I need to take a break now.
 

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Ok I feel actually ill reading these posts now... thinking he may have been laughing at me in some cafe somewhere.. always knew he wasn’t an angel but thinking of him and friends laughing at “ stupid old woman “ seeing photos Of me etc ...
I have no way of knowing if this is true or not but just thinking of it makes me feel ill ...
You can bet your sweet bippy it's true ;)
 

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I have no way of knowing if this is true or not but just thinking of it makes me feel ill ..
It's true. Myself and Jisela lived there....we witnessed these behaviours first hand.
Read around the forum....we have rats here tell us what these scamming prostitutes think of us, how we deserved it because we are stupid, ugly, fat, desperate, sex deprived women, buying little boys in Tunisia, because nobody else wants us.
It's all here written by their own hands.
Jisela and I have no reason to lie.....it is true :thumbsup:
Thanks for advice everyone... I need to take a break now.
Oakie doke. Whilst having a break from here, please read up on narcissism.
 

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Oh god your story was terrible and I’m in no way condoning violence , prostitution and so on .. I just meant the general frustration is understandsble and the wanting to get the hell out of that country
You must stop thinking of them as victims. The lawless country they complain about - well they are more than happy to break the law and pay a bribe.

The lack of equal opportunities they complain about - well they will not speak to a family member who gave a stranger a job before them, regardless of who is best skilled.

Getting one over on someone, gaining from them and feeling full of pleasure that they were the winner - they do it all the time.

They live by the rules they supposedly hate. Are full of envy and feelings of entitlement.

They have an extrodinary fascination with your life “of luxury”.. telling you how lucky you are to earn such a good salary, that you have holidays, nice car, white goods. That they can’t make a living in Tunisia. But it’s all relative.

When did you last throw trash in the street or dump furniture of refuse at the side of the road?

When did you last pay 1 dinar (30p ) for a loaf of bread or five pounds a week for electricity, or retire with a state pension at age 50?

Don’t believe everything he tells you about his difficult challenging life. When I’ve needed to I’ve worked three jobs. No one ever gave me anything I didn’t earn. Yet some guy in his twenties has the audacity to ask a stranger for someone’s hard earned money?
 

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Abusers behaviour. Rats are abusers.
This is true. I hear accounts from women we support at our church. We help women who are trying to leave abusive homes sometimes. The man will be super nice, especially in front of others, then like a switch, he flips and then argues with his wife over nothing and will beat her. Then he is sorry. Grovels his way back and they are good for a period. Depends on the guy how long. Then the cycle starts over again. All the time the kids see this. It is horrible. But it happens anywhere. I think with the rats it more common because:
A man has to be a certain kind of narcissist to be a rat.
He has to have some kind of anger issues.
A rat does not care about his victim, only what he can get from them,
Etc.
I think those traits lend into the character of a violent or serial abuser.
So yes, I beleive that most rats are like this.
This behaviour is not as unacceptable in their society so it goes unchecked and is tolerated.
 
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