concerned mom needs advice..please help

carrow

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Carrow, sure it is possible to develop feelings online with someone, but, see online they can be what they want to be, you never know the real person without experienced a face to face, talks face to face, behaviours and so on. Of course there are people online we really like, like we all here ladies sharing opinions, experiences and much more on this great forum. But if we are speaking about Tunisian men, it s very easy to become loving them online because they use it on his favour, but when you meet his real one you will find out all was fake. Do you consider that they use net because its easy for them to cacth vulnerable women that are open about falling in love by net with some sweet words, come on we women know that we need much more than only sweet words don`t we? ;) Sure there are good tunisian men but these aren t find on net nor hotels staff.
Hi Kristy. That's true a person can be whatever they wanted to be online,when i think about it it's a scary situation american women or uk women etc..fall for a tunisian man through the net. (myself included) and a lot of those women do marry the guy their first time meeting face to face with out knowing whom they are committing themselves to..my tunisian wanted us to marry our first time meeting even though we had been talking over a year online..that isn't the same as knowing a person over a year in real life! The rush to marry made me nervous!! I thought dang tunisian men move quickly! Never realizing what the rush was for,till finding this site. I cringe when i think of how close i came to being just another statistic in the game of bezness!!:(
 

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Hi Carrow. Here is many worning signs. First of all. Wy would a young person just come out of his teenages marrie a woman 10 years older then him before even met her in person? In Tunisia it is tradision to NOT marrie a older woman. And to met the family at skype is not normal. He is 23...how do he think he can afford to pay for a wedding? You pay? And then to his accounts on fb and Tagged . It is a trend for a rat to "give" the password to the "western GF" This is a part of the scam to make us trust them. But think....Would a serius person give away this information to a person they just met on the net?
Never!!!! Be sure,,This is only one of his many accounts.And when you find another acount..There is someone other who have hack it and use it...I think everyone here agree...Hear all this before!! Like so many here say.. I dont like tinisian woman. This is just to get a new future in a western country. To make money so they can come home like "big" man and marrie a tunisian. And they can also suport their pressurs MOM. And the pressur MOM do what she can for her little boy. Because getting him to a western country will give her more money in her hand and a propper wife for him in the end when he return from you.
The truth is that familys like this are like prostetudes!! They are gredy. Just wait and see!!! It start with that they give u some cheap crap. Like Tunisian dresses they buy in the flee market. And some cheap neckless and stuf. Just to make you belive they Luuuuve you sooo much. Then it start. You must buy something for MOM. And then it´s not the flee market. Then the rat guide you to the most expencive shop in town. Or even better...You buy ind bring from your country. And the rat want T-shirts and shoes and jeans. So dont go into this trap!!! Run girl run!!!! Tunisian men u find in website like Tagged, Hig5,Gougle+ and fb are in 99% rats and friends and family are tplaying along in this scam game
Hello tiger. The age gap did concern me at first,but after talking with my tunisian guy for a good while it slowly became less of a problem. I must say he acted very mature for his age. When i asked him about our age gap he told me it was normal to find that in tunisia or some other lines,i didn't know any different so i took him at his word sorry to say. He did offer to pay for the whole wedding himself an turned down my offer to contribute money..im not saying this makes him less ratty but that not all rats play the game by the same rules. Him giving me his password for his accounts and saying someone was trying to cause trouble for him was a HUGE warning sign to me that something wasn't right people just don't do that to prove there trustworthiness! Only people with something to hide would push so hard to prove their innocence!
 

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Is there anyone on here that knows Arabic,that would be willing to translate a few lines for me if i pm it to them????
 

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Hello tiger. The age gap did concern me at first,but after talking with my tunisian guy for a good while it slowly became less of a problem. I must say he acted very mature for his age. When i asked him about our age gap he told me it was normal to find that in tunisia or some other lines,i didn't know any different so i took him at his word sorry to say. He did offer to pay for the whole wedding himself an turned down my offer to contribute money..im not saying this makes him less ratty but that not all rats play the game by the same rules. Him giving me his password for his accounts and saying someone was trying to cause trouble for him was a HUGE warning sign to me that something wasn't right people just don't do that to prove there trustworthiness! Only people with something to hide would push so hard to prove their innocence!
The age difference is not the norm out there ,,,It only applys to tourists ,,,,They would never marry an older Tunisian woman ,not even if its a small age gap !
 

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The age difference is not the norm out there ,,,It only applys to tourists ,,,,They would never marry an older Tunisian woman ,not even if its a small age gap !
Yes, that is absolutely true. Even when then woman is only like 3 years older, the whole town will speak about them and about what is wrong with this man. And, sorry, there is almost no exception to this rule (personally, I never came across even one).
 

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Yes, that is absolutely true. Even when then woman is only like 3 years older, the whole town will speak about them and about what is wrong with this man. And, sorry, there is almost no exception to this rule (personally, I never came across even one).
Me to ,,ive never come across a couple where the Tunisian wife is older
 

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I have a very close friend Ahlem who had the courage to divorce her abusive husband many years ago. Despite everyone knowing of the violence she had suffered year in and year out, she got called every bad name imaginable for divorcing him. To cut a long story short, a single man who she had gone to school with 25 years before contacted her and said that he had always loved her and wanted to marry her. All the family including her 2 sons totally refused to agree with this as she is 3 years older than him! I was furious and on a visit to an extended family gathering I brought up the subject of a possible marriage with Abdul and was told that it was totally impossible as he was younger than her. I pointed out that the Prophet Mohammad married Khadija who was 48 when he was in his mid 20's and they were happily married until she died many years later. That was received by a deathly and icy silence with only the little children communicating with me. I left early on that occasion and was eventually forgiven but Ahlem is still single, but secretly seeing her Adbul ! (With my encouragement I may add!)
 

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I found an old Facebook account for my guy and he has photos with his ex-Tunisian girlfriend and the profile says 'in a relationship' - I really think it will vary person to person...for some, having a girlfriend and dating is perhaps ok and acceptable...for others, it does not follow tradition or customs so would not be likely. Definitely with Western women it COULD be big 'show' thing, 'proof' of their feelings - when in reality, a relationship on Facebook means diddly squat (particularly when they have about 5 accounts each with a different girlfriend) !!!
Also it is a way for the rat to boast to his friends how well he is doing and scamming...this gives them some kinda sick status...in effect actually laughing and gloating at how well he has fooled her!!!
 

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I do know of ONE tunisian couple (both tunisian) and the wife is only few years older than her husband BUT it was broadly discussed in the village and everybody was really upset by her being older than him! He was in his late 20's and she was in early 30's I think when they got married...this was judged so NOT DONE by the whole community!
 

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I have a very close friend Ahlem who had the courage to divorce her abusive husband many years ago. Despite everyone knowing of the violence she had suffered year in and year out, she got called every bad name imaginable for divorcing him. To cut a long story short, a single man who she had gone to school with 25 years before contacted her and said that he had always loved her and wanted to marry her. All the family including her 2 sons totally refused to agree with this as she is 3 years older than him! I was furious and on a visit to an extended family gathering I brought up the subject of a possible marriage with Abdul and was told that it was totally impossible as he was younger than her. I pointed out that the Prophet Mohammad married Khadija who was 48 when he was in his mid 20's and they were happily married until she died many years later. That was received by a deathly and icy silence with only the little children communicating with me. I left early on that occasion and was eventually forgiven but Ahlem is still single, but secretly seeing her Adbul ! (With my encouragement I may add!)
The mentality hasnt changed since the 7th century ,,,
 

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Hi Kristy. That's true a person can be whatever they wanted to be online,when i think about it it's a scary situation american women or uk women etc..fall for a tunisian man through the net. (myself included) and a lot of those women do marry the guy their first time meeting face to face with out knowing whom they are committing themselves to..my tunisian wanted us to marry our first time meeting even though we had been talking over a year online..that isn't the same as knowing a person over a year in real life! The rush to marry made me nervous!! I thought dang tunisian men move quickly! Never realizing what the rush was for,till finding this site. I cringe when i think of how close i came to being just another statistic in the game of bezness!!:(


Sweet Carrow, just to save you from thinking too much and being unhappy, let me ask you: Do you want to marry someone that has a totally different culture, background after some chats online?
Also, a relationship is complicated , all are, so imagine with a man, that has a totally different culture, where you and him need to share more and more trying to combine cultures, is that what you want for you? Also being at home cooking, cleaning, and giving him children? Ask his permission to go out? and many others things about his culture. If you really want to go on, read about culture, behaviors in Tunisia society for a man and a woman (very different from our culture), and think about what is acceptable for you or not! As soon as you realize that you would be giving much more than yourself than you probably would support or accept in your own country, you will become happier, you will see :)
 

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Kristy Carrow has realised what the game of bezness is all about thankfully...;)

Just making sure that she won't be :( like she ended the post. But don't we know she will be thinking on it, so for that reason posted it.
 

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I have a very close friend Ahlem who had the courage to divorce her abusive husband many years ago. Despite everyone knowing of the violence she had suffered year in and year out, she got called every bad name imaginable for divorcing him. To cut a long story short, a single man who she had gone to school with 25 years before contacted her and said that he had always loved her and wanted to marry her. All the family including her 2 sons totally refused to agree with this as she is 3 years older than him! I was furious and on a visit to an extended family gathering I brought up the subject of a possible marriage with Abdul and was told that it was totally impossible as he was younger than her. I pointed out that the Prophet Mohammad married Khadija who was 48 when he was in his mid 20's and they were happily married until she died many years later. That was received by a deathly and icy silence with only the little children communicating with me. I left early on that occasion and was eventually forgiven but Ahlem is still single, but secretly seeing her Adbul ! (With my encouragement I may add!)
I love that she is still seeing her Abdul and I hope that they find a way to overcome the barriers - such a sad situation x
 

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Sadly, they won't -- she is adamant that she will not go against the general feeling, as she is only just managing to be accepted after the ''shame '' of her divorce. The family must wonder why she apparently sees so much of me! If only they knew that this often 'happens' when I am not actually in the country! ;) :D
 

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Sadly, they won't -- she is adamant that she will not go against the general feeling, as she is only just managing to be accepted after the ''shame '' of her divorce. The family must wonder why she apparently sees so much of me! If only they knew that this often 'happens' when I am not actually in the country! ;) :D
You are a wonderful woman Wallah, truly xxx
 

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It is very sad that this age gap thing is ingrained within the Tunisian culture...I am sure that it is possible for a younger man to truly love a woman a few yrs older than himself (well we have the proof of this with the story Wallah has told)
 

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It is very sad that this age gap thing is ingrained within the Tunisian culture...I am sure that it is possible for a younger man to truly love a woman a few yrs older than himself (well we have the proof of this with the story Wallah has told)
He adores her cuddle and would marry her in a shot if only she would agree. He is a very handsome man and she is a chubby beautiful lady who can do no wrong in his eyes :) xx
 
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