Escaped321
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Hey everyone… First thing thank you for having this forum that helps so many women to see the truth and escape the disaster. My story is very long and finally it ended, I need to be strong because I know that my ex can come back any time even if I blocked him everywhere as this happened in the past.
i think I know all the answers, because I experienced certain behaviours and red flags that are described in this forum. I think I need a confirmation for myself just to keep going and to confirm that this break up is for good. So that I never look back.
His name is Foued B’a in Facebook if you want to look him up… I met him online in 2020, on Facebook. I was in the phones’s group on there and he found me there and added to his friends. I would never accept any stranger on my FB, especially from a Muslim country because I already had bad experiences in the past… However, his charm did all the job and I accepted.
4 days ago,,I was supposed to go to Tunisia to meet his parents and his entire family, relatives. However, everyone who I knew was against it so I made a decision not to go and flied to my birth country instead.
This person told me that he loves me when I was still married. After 2 months of only writing text messages he told me he loves me. And we did sexting with him quite soon, after those two moths of knowing him. I never saw him on video camera and he never called me. Ever. We had many disagreements from the begging and it always ended up in arguments and blocking. He blocked me on my birthday and this affected me a lot… He was playing blocking and unblocking games…
The first time when I decided to leave this relationship is because he kept me a secret and even I speeded up my divorce processs because of him.., he still kept me a secret…He was not talking to me on video calls and on a normal calls and always made an excuse that he is shy and that his English Is bad.., ( his English was perfect by the way from the day I knew him). My parents saw how much I cried for this relationship and told me that I should forget him… They told me to ask him to come and see me in my home country… but he refused. Because of this I blocked him and I lived my life without him. For few months,… I broke up with him so many times but he always came back. I was almost healed and was good. But this person reappeared in my life again asking for forgiveness and that he will make me forget bad past and his behaviour… After more than one year he started talking to me on camera and on phone…, And I was happy… he even agreed to apply for visitor visa and visit me in UK or at my birth country. He paid for our one weeks holiday in my birth country where we met. He met my parents also. He promised that I will see his parents on video call but that did not happen. He also told me that his parents should not see us together at the hotel because they will see that we live together which is forbidden. This was a disespect for me because he slept with me and my parents knew him and I never spoke with his.
He got his visitor visa to UK and he visited me one more time. Each time we meet we had sexual relations. Another time we met was again in UK during his birthday I bought him a ticket to see me… I bought him expensive gifts like mobile phone, and he never bought me anything I want or need.,, His gifts was two times only and very cheap,… He would always get angry that I mentioned this … I had to beg for him to buy me gift or flowers… in two years of relationship I never spoke with any of his family just with his female best friend. He had female friends and I did not like it.., even if I did not like it he would still keep them and communicate with them. He said … oh she is my best friends Fiance.., so you should not be worried. But they not even engaged… when I asked him to put us on his profile picture or on his time line he refused.,., he said I can’t it will creat problems for me and my mother… but he used to put pictures on his instagram with other female friends and he spoke so nicely about them under pictures.,,, what he did he put picture of us on his timeline only and only for specific people to see, ..,which I did not like. I felt hurt because he would easily put pic of his best friend with nice words under... even we was together at that time,, but never put me…
Another thing that I did not like that he would not do anything for my birthday…. He never bought me a gift for this occasion.., and he told me that my gift is delayed but it never came…and when asked him for distance bracelets …. He always say it is out of stock. Or it is delayed.., those bracelets could of improved our relationship but they would also tell wheee the other person is… so maybe that is why I never got them..
Our relationship was toxic because we would always argue and he would shout at me even if I was crying…. I was trying to explain how I feel and he would make it an argument… Recently he told me that I was such a toxic bad person but he still agreed to stay with me because he loves me… he blamed me for him being broke… he blamed me that he had to buy tickets for our one week holiday… (I asked to buy tickets) … and that he spend all his money to apply for tourist UK visa,,, he did not need visa for Europe country because he still lives in France with student visa …. He used to work as Uber driver but recently his account was blocked.,, he is in so much debt and he always complain how much debt he has….
He did not ask me for money for a long time… but …. I would pay for some things when he came to visit me.., I gave him some money because he run out of money he said,,, He also asked to pay for his tickets to Tunisia…, which he said he is ashamed and shy to ask,,, I asked how much he said 800…but I said sorry I can’t give u… he promised to return back… but I did not give…,
He said he will not marry me till he get his Eu residency which he is paying for a lawyer … he said to wait for 2-3 additional years till he becomes financially stable and proposes/marries me. This seemed to much for me,.. because these two years was a nightmare full of tears… when I tell him that he hurt me.,, he said that I hurt myself and I did this all to myself …. I would often wonder what kind of person he is….
I paid for tickets to see him in Tunisia because he went there beginning of this month…He came there to have his holiday and I was supposed to join him… but I did not go because he hurt me again by shouting and swearing at me when I was crying about our relationship,..,he told me I am bad person and there is hidden evil in me and that I should Google about my actions, that I should not be a victim. he blocked me that time …. Then later he unblocked me… I started thinking that everything is my fault … that I was bad person for him…
His words Never matched his actions,… one time he told me to have a good life after argue… I told him that I won’t have a good life because I feel like I want to die….but he just blocked me…and left me,,,
The end was that everyone asked me stay away from him…. Even my coworkers …. They told me not to go to Tunisia. He told me oh my mother said you will be her daughter… she is preparing to see you… even my father who I never spoke about any women is happy to see you… my aunty wants to buy u a gift,,, my mother gave me money to buy you gift,,.,my family loves you I told you…, His mother was fine for us to live in their house when I come. When I asked my ex why in these two years I never spoke with his parents… he told me they are shy! And then I responded how are they not shy for me to live at their house…. So I did not go to Tunisia and I told him goodbye a week ago,,, interesting thing is that each time we break up,., he puts smiley picture of himself like he is very happy about everything… I blocked him from everywhere. … I am sorry if something is not clear but it has been 2 years it is hard to put everything in few sentences... Thank you..
i think I know all the answers, because I experienced certain behaviours and red flags that are described in this forum. I think I need a confirmation for myself just to keep going and to confirm that this break up is for good. So that I never look back.
His name is Foued B’a in Facebook if you want to look him up… I met him online in 2020, on Facebook. I was in the phones’s group on there and he found me there and added to his friends. I would never accept any stranger on my FB, especially from a Muslim country because I already had bad experiences in the past… However, his charm did all the job and I accepted.
4 days ago,,I was supposed to go to Tunisia to meet his parents and his entire family, relatives. However, everyone who I knew was against it so I made a decision not to go and flied to my birth country instead.
This person told me that he loves me when I was still married. After 2 months of only writing text messages he told me he loves me. And we did sexting with him quite soon, after those two moths of knowing him. I never saw him on video camera and he never called me. Ever. We had many disagreements from the begging and it always ended up in arguments and blocking. He blocked me on my birthday and this affected me a lot… He was playing blocking and unblocking games…
The first time when I decided to leave this relationship is because he kept me a secret and even I speeded up my divorce processs because of him.., he still kept me a secret…He was not talking to me on video calls and on a normal calls and always made an excuse that he is shy and that his English Is bad.., ( his English was perfect by the way from the day I knew him). My parents saw how much I cried for this relationship and told me that I should forget him… They told me to ask him to come and see me in my home country… but he refused. Because of this I blocked him and I lived my life without him. For few months,… I broke up with him so many times but he always came back. I was almost healed and was good. But this person reappeared in my life again asking for forgiveness and that he will make me forget bad past and his behaviour… After more than one year he started talking to me on camera and on phone…, And I was happy… he even agreed to apply for visitor visa and visit me in UK or at my birth country. He paid for our one weeks holiday in my birth country where we met. He met my parents also. He promised that I will see his parents on video call but that did not happen. He also told me that his parents should not see us together at the hotel because they will see that we live together which is forbidden. This was a disespect for me because he slept with me and my parents knew him and I never spoke with his.
He got his visitor visa to UK and he visited me one more time. Each time we meet we had sexual relations. Another time we met was again in UK during his birthday I bought him a ticket to see me… I bought him expensive gifts like mobile phone, and he never bought me anything I want or need.,, His gifts was two times only and very cheap,… He would always get angry that I mentioned this … I had to beg for him to buy me gift or flowers… in two years of relationship I never spoke with any of his family just with his female best friend. He had female friends and I did not like it.., even if I did not like it he would still keep them and communicate with them. He said … oh she is my best friends Fiance.., so you should not be worried. But they not even engaged… when I asked him to put us on his profile picture or on his time line he refused.,., he said I can’t it will creat problems for me and my mother… but he used to put pictures on his instagram with other female friends and he spoke so nicely about them under pictures.,,, what he did he put picture of us on his timeline only and only for specific people to see, ..,which I did not like. I felt hurt because he would easily put pic of his best friend with nice words under... even we was together at that time,, but never put me…
Another thing that I did not like that he would not do anything for my birthday…. He never bought me a gift for this occasion.., and he told me that my gift is delayed but it never came…and when asked him for distance bracelets …. He always say it is out of stock. Or it is delayed.., those bracelets could of improved our relationship but they would also tell wheee the other person is… so maybe that is why I never got them..
Our relationship was toxic because we would always argue and he would shout at me even if I was crying…. I was trying to explain how I feel and he would make it an argument… Recently he told me that I was such a toxic bad person but he still agreed to stay with me because he loves me… he blamed me for him being broke… he blamed me that he had to buy tickets for our one week holiday… (I asked to buy tickets) … and that he spend all his money to apply for tourist UK visa,,, he did not need visa for Europe country because he still lives in France with student visa …. He used to work as Uber driver but recently his account was blocked.,, he is in so much debt and he always complain how much debt he has….
He did not ask me for money for a long time… but …. I would pay for some things when he came to visit me.., I gave him some money because he run out of money he said,,, He also asked to pay for his tickets to Tunisia…, which he said he is ashamed and shy to ask,,, I asked how much he said 800…but I said sorry I can’t give u… he promised to return back… but I did not give…,
He said he will not marry me till he get his Eu residency which he is paying for a lawyer … he said to wait for 2-3 additional years till he becomes financially stable and proposes/marries me. This seemed to much for me,.. because these two years was a nightmare full of tears… when I tell him that he hurt me.,, he said that I hurt myself and I did this all to myself …. I would often wonder what kind of person he is….
I paid for tickets to see him in Tunisia because he went there beginning of this month…He came there to have his holiday and I was supposed to join him… but I did not go because he hurt me again by shouting and swearing at me when I was crying about our relationship,..,he told me I am bad person and there is hidden evil in me and that I should Google about my actions, that I should not be a victim. he blocked me that time …. Then later he unblocked me… I started thinking that everything is my fault … that I was bad person for him…
His words Never matched his actions,… one time he told me to have a good life after argue… I told him that I won’t have a good life because I feel like I want to die….but he just blocked me…and left me,,,
The end was that everyone asked me stay away from him…. Even my coworkers …. They told me not to go to Tunisia. He told me oh my mother said you will be her daughter… she is preparing to see you… even my father who I never spoke about any women is happy to see you… my aunty wants to buy u a gift,,, my mother gave me money to buy you gift,,.,my family loves you I told you…, His mother was fine for us to live in their house when I come. When I asked my ex why in these two years I never spoke with his parents… he told me they are shy! And then I responded how are they not shy for me to live at their house…. So I did not go to Tunisia and I told him goodbye a week ago,,, interesting thing is that each time we break up,., he puts smiley picture of himself like he is very happy about everything… I blocked him from everywhere. … I am sorry if something is not clear but it has been 2 years it is hard to put everything in few sentences... Thank you..
and so you treated him how you would treat another normal person - nothing foolish in that x
