doubts.please help.

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  1. Camomille

    Camomille Well-Known Member

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    Hello everyone!
    I red a lot of what u all wrote here.....
    A tunisian guy contacted me on internet and , even if I don't speak with stranger, I started a conversation with him....it.s been 2 months already since I started the chat...and last days I found out about rats...I didn't know anything until now...
    Well....we have nice conversations, he s funny, polite, all....he spoked about marriage, about love...I .m not fooled by sweet words and I said him that I know everything about their manipulation.
    I talked open about everything I red.of course, he wants to meet me to prove he is different...and he knows I have a bad marriage.
    He prays 5 times a day, works also, don.t want sex before marriage. He had in past only one sexual experience with his tunisian ex, who did that before married another with force by family.
    He s not the type of macho, slick, like I saw in gallery...seems normal, not dandy...but good looking.
    Never asked anything.I was one step in front of him always, by predicting any suspect move.
    I repeat, I told him I know all scams....
    But he seems so ok...he continues on listening to me, also answering at anything...about sex, love, traditions...
    Please, tell me..at what I should pay attention?
    Thank you very much.
     
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  2. Heidi

    Heidi The Sleuth

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    Welcome Camomille :) he found you on the internet, after 2 month he writes about love and marriage....
    That speaks for itself. You should ban him and keep to not speaking to strangers on the internet ;)
     
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    Camomille Well-Known Member

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    Thank you so much for your answer Heidi!
    Well, I tried to understand why these discussions about love and marriage, his mentality...anyway, he wants to meet, rent a house and see...
    I m not naive, I know men...but I really like this guy and I got attached...
    About other girls....I saw he used some nice words whith one, but he says he is polite and I hate that:)
    I know something is not ok....I red what you wrote here...and I can't believe in mind is now: this is different.....
     
  4. Heidi

    Heidi The Sleuth

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    In Tunisia it's not allowed to live together, if you are not married. He treats you like a prostitute ;) and if he get's caught, he can go to jail. If you were in a hotel, you would have to get two rooms. What does he work and where?
     
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  5. Camomille

    Camomille Well-Known Member

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    I never taked to strangers...
    Yes, I know....he works in a factory. Is not a touristic area.
    I know about hotels...he said he will rent a house for the time I ll stay( one week...10 days...) in a nice place, near sea.but no sex...he said very clearly.he prays for some years
     
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    Hello Camomille and welcome!
    This is haram ( forbidden) there. Men are not allowed to live together with the girl if they are not married. He is going to treat you like a cheap woman.
    Are you still married?
     
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    The police will not ask if you have sex or not in the house. Is there an age difference between the two of you?
     
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    Yes, of course.:rolleyes::rolleyes::rolleyes: Looks so "true".
    And what does this prove? He could pray 5 times per day, but it does not mean he is genuine one. And the one who never prays could be true human.
     
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    Camomille Well-Known Member

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    Yes, I am married....
    I understand it is haram, but I thought if u rent a house...it.s ok...
    He doesn't want sex at all, just after marriage, now he doesn't drinks or smoke
     
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    Camomille Well-Known Member

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    6 years.
    And I really look younger:)))is not my imagination.) I told him about that , but he said he doesn't care....I look really ok, I mean I believe when he says he likes me.I am not naive.
     
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    It's not only haram, it's against the law. Did you sent him the rent money?
     
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    He doesn't want sex for now.
    Heeei! But he knows I do.....it is possible to be a trick to keep me on fire?
     
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    Sorry dear, you are troest.gif I tell you what else is haram: fishing a married woman :whistle:
     
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    No.we never talked about money and I .ll never send him anything...
    So....we can.t stay in a private house?
     
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    :))) I understand.......
    But he knows I want to divorce....I also have a child....
    He just want to see with my eyes he is honest....
    God, I started defending him......
     
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    I hope you did not have cyber sex. Rats use it to blackmail their victims
     
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    Don't you feel a little bit confused that this fact does not disturbs him??? That he is flirting with married woman. And even so shameless that speaking about marriage. What about respect towards you? What about moral? Does he ever hear about this in his life?
    No, it's not ok. Try to read here as much as you can, and to learn about their traditions.
    I missed your message where you claimed he is a saint.
    Hard life he has indeed. Do you believe everything that is told you by a stranger?:confused:
    You are very naive.
     
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    No, I didn't...
    He doesn't start hot discussions...I do...
    He said only kiss, and touches.
    I can't believe I got so attached....
     
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    It is forbitten, but I'm sure that he finds a willing landlord, if you pay enough :)
    I wonder that he is willing to break a legal and islamic law, to live with you in the same house, but don't want sex before the marriage.
    I have the sneaky feeling, that he might not have much to show for :whistle:
     
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    It's possible to be SO attached, and even more than you can imagine. Proved by you and many others. You are not the first, and not the last.
    @Heidi, as I see we are answering in chorus almost.:):p
     
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    I don.t belive everything and I red and I searched...but..maybe the fact that I have a bad marriage encouraged him.
    Yes....i understand..
    :(
     
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    See, it's like with tunisian rat teeth. If a rat has a mouth full of them, they post smiling pictures. If they have bad teeth or teeth missing, they never smile with an open mouth ;)
     
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    But tell me, ladies...if I ll be crazy enough to go, where should I stay? In separate rooms at hotel? What I.ll have to do to be safe?
     
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    :D
     
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    Of course!!
    I have been there ( in Tunisia) with a girl who has been married ( but she was there without the husband and a child). And she met a rat there. In some days he proposed a mariage, knowing she was not free. These rats have no morals.
    You have found a rat for yourself, no doubts.
    The fact your marriage is not very happy as you said does not mean you should give yourself to some trash. isn't it???
     
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