I think exactly like you in that respect. If after giving Zied a chance to change his work and cafe lifestyle in England, assuming I'm granted my human rights to marry the man of my choice, if lawyers fail, he does not keep his promises of travel, going to gym he will no doubt go there as so vain, help with cooking, get a job which I can help him get through contacts, then I cant see a future. I know he is consistent in many ways and is working like yours is but whether or not his earnings are for independent family of two or sent abroad will be a bone of contention between us. I have tried to cover all avenues with my expectations to live a western life in the main here. If he hascother plans then time will tell. What I wont do is put up with his crap for too long. If he buggers off after the 5 year period not much I can do then but I'm hoping to have the honeymoon period until then. I understand how your man took advantage of your kind nature. I do have a mean streak! "The girl with a curl!".I am separated since October pussycatz. I was asking him to leave earlier but he did not want to go till Oct. It was obvious he did not love or respect me since the first few days of his arrival in Canada. Yes he fooled me to get a way out of Tunisia. I do not feel any love for him any more. He has hurt me too many times and i mostly just feel hurt and anger right now. I can not love such a person who behaves like a zombie..who does not have any hobbies..interests zest for life compassion for others and who does not take any initiative but spends his free time in front of a mirror or on his phone.