Geezeeee

MH007

Administrator
Staff member
Boyfriend #1 and I have an open relationship. He knows everything that goes on in my life. Boyfriend #2 knew I was with #1 and was insistent. He is jealous, even though he knew I was in a relationship. He is angry daily because he knows I talk to #1.
Why would you even want two boyfriends - I'm not judging but struggling to understand the logic.

My opinion is get rid of both and start valuing yourself a little more.

MH x
 

tutusandfrogs

Major Ratslayer
You haven't met yet he gets a tattoo of your name.

You are already in a relationship with another Tunisian - have you met him yet?

Sorry to say but you appear to be an easy target and this is not going to end well!

What attracts you to Tunisian men - I presume you met online?
MH x

I haven't met either yet, although I helped #1 with preparing to visit me (non-financial) and he got lazy to go to the visa office in Tunis because he was enjoying his holidays.
 
Last edited by a moderator:
M

Mango Chutney

Guest
I'm polyamorous. :/
Had to Google that one, though the name is quite self explanatory, I wanted to be sure :thumbsup:

Polyamory - Wikipedia
https://en.m.wikipedia.org › wiki › Polya...

Polyamory (from Greek πολύ poly, "many, several", and Latin amor, "love") is the practice of, or desire for, intimate relationships with more than one partner, with the consent of all partners involved. It has been described as "consensual, ethical, and responsible non-monogamy". List of polyamorists · Polyamorous · Non-monogamy · Triad (sociology)

So are you this way in real life too? I couldn't cope with two blokes at once.....struggle to clean the house behind just one! :p

So, if this is just computer life, what do you do for love, affection, cuddles etc in real life? It actually seems quite a lonely existence.
Why Tunisian men specifically?
 
A

AmberHeart

Guest
Even in western world it is hard to accept. Trying to have this kind of relationship with Muslim men is out of place.
Some of them practice polygamy, but ONLY MEN are allowed to marry several women. Women must have only one man, a divorced woman is negatively seen.
 
Not judging at all but I will tell you now no Tunisian man ever will share his girlfriend they are possessive and jealous.
When I first meet my hubby there was steam coming from his ears and I'm sure he was going to have a heart attack that I had male friends and cousins who I talk and socialise with . This was a huge obstacle for us .
Now my hubby has a good relationship with said friends and cousins.
I will tell you now if I had a random man on my fb let alone talking to him or relationship I would see a side to my hubby I have never seen before and to be honest it would be vice versa
 
A

AmberHeart

Guest
Not judging at all but I will tell you now no Tunisian man ever will share his girlfriend they are possessive and jealous.
When I first meet my hubby there was steam coming from his ears and I'm sure he was going to have a heart attack that I had male friends and cousins who I talk and socialise with . This was a huge obstacle for us .
Now my hubby has a good relationship with said friends and cousins.
I will tell you now if I had a random man on my fb let alone talking to him or relationship I would see a side to my hubby I have never seen before and to be honest it would be vice versa
Agree, that is not easy to accept.
 
M

Mango Chutney

Guest
Not judging at all but I will tell you now no Tunisian man ever will share his girlfriend they are possessive and jealous.
:thumbsup::thumbsup::thumbsup:

My rat removed all men from my FB, including cousins and old school friends. The FIRST males he removed from my friends list, were my Tunisian friends....he also removed me from hotel groups etc.

No way on the earth would a Tunisian man accept this polyamory!
I’d never heard of it :D
Polygamy, yes.....but polyamory was a new one for me :thumbsup:
 
A

AmberHeart

Guest
:thumbsup::thumbsup::thumbsup:

My rat removed all men from my FB, including cousins and old school friends. The FIRST males he removed from my friends list, were my Tunisian friends....he also removed me from hotel groups etc.

No way on the earth would a Tunisian man accept this polyamory!
I’d never heard of it :D
Polygamy, yes.....but polyamory was a new one for me :thumbsup:
I watched a documental about it, seem a small group just like swingers. But they say it implies LOVE not only sex like swingers. Anyways it is not fitting Tunisian culture nor Law.
 
M

Mango Chutney

Guest
I watched a documental about it, seem a small group just like swingers. But they say it implies LOVE not only sex like swingers. Anyways it is not fitting Tunisian culture nor Law.
Bugger that.....I’ll stick with my one man policy! The thought of having to get outta my P.J’s twice a week to entertain TWO fellas just ain’t floating my boat.....and the housework, oh....the housework! :eek:
 
M

Mango Chutney

Guest
Can you imagine making two rats happy?
I can’t imagine trying to keep two normal blokes happy, let alone two deluded, greedy, temperamental, lazy, pampered rats!!

I swear, I’d dedicate the rest of my life to the church before I took on that challenge! I’d become a born again virgin and grow vegetables in a convent :thumbsup:
 
D

Deleted member 32724

Guest
I know a couple that are poly. They are married but have many lovers each. They have swinger parties all of the time and are instagram influencers. :rolleyes:

I can't imagine it myself but I'm curious about your situation? You have two online relationships with Tunisians? Do you have other suitors in your own country?
 
D

Deleted member 34774

Guest
Knew the answer but had to ask just to clarify
My best friend has been my friend since he was 6 years old. He is now a Police Officer. Him being a police officer keeps us closer because he works nights when all the crime normally happens, so I worry. My rat was pissed. Although this guy is literally like my brother. We have never ever crossed that line. I and my friends tried to explain this to my rat. My best friend was eager to meet my rat and bless off on our relationship. My rat still was jealous. He would not accept that this guy had been in my life since I was 6 (we were neighbors).

My rat sister explained to me that Tunisian men express love through jealousy. I thought that was odd, but that’s their mentality.

So it’s strange that her first Tunisian boyfriend is okay with the open relationship. But to each it’s own I guess.

Hope this ends well for you @tutusandfrogs. But you need to take care of your heart and guard it. These men are rats.
 

Mystery

Inactive
My best friend has been my friend since he was 6 years old. He is now a Police Officer. Him being a police officer keeps us closer because he works nights when all the crime normally happens, so I worry. My rat was pissed. Although this guy is literally like my brother. We have never ever crossed that line. I and my friends tried to explain this to my rat. My best friend was eager to meet my rat and bless off on our relationship. My rat still was jealous. He would not accept that this guy had been in my life since I was 6 (we were neighbors).

My rat sister explained to me that Tunisian men express love through jealousy. I thought that was odd, but that’s their mentality.

So it’s strange that her first Tunisian boyfriend is okay with the open relationship. But to each it’s own I guess.

Hope this ends well for you @tutusandfrogs. But you need to take care of your heart and guard it. These men are rats.
I don't have the energy for 2 guys.
Omg I think all north Africans is very jealous.
They won't allow another man even shake your hand never mind let you sleep with another.
Jeez I would have been hung drawn and quartered
Yes muslim men can take more than one wife and it happens in Tunisia.
Sometimes if the first wife can't have a child and she allows him another.
If a woman is a widow and needs a husband to survive finacially.
If the first wife agrees if not the man can divorce the first wife.
Of course it's all to satisfy the dirty husband and not the woman.
You must not forget that although it's not allowed in Tunisia they get away with it by marrying illegally.
That being said Tunisia is a muslim country and a religious marriages is acceptable in the eyes of Allah.
They see no wrong because it's written in the Quran.
I do believe that it was mostly allowed because many womens husband's died in war and not enough men, a rats dream come true.
The problem is that it's the husband's duty to provide for each wife equally, well that's ok in the bedroom 2 sec each but finacially they are fecked.
 
D

Deleted member 34774

Guest
I don't have the energy for 2 guys.
Omg I think all north Africans is very jealous.
They won't allow another man even shake your hand never mind let you sleep with another.
Jeez I would have been hung drawn and quartered
Yes muslim men can take more than one wife and it happens in Tunisia.
Sometimes if the first wife can't have a child and she allows him another.
If a woman is a widow and needs a husband to survive finacially.
If the first wife agrees if not the man can divorce the first wife.
Of course it's all to satisfy the dirty husband and not the woman.
You must not forget that although it's not allowed in Tunisia they get away with it by marrying illegally.
That being said Tunisia is a muslim country and a religious marriages is acceptable in the eyes of Allah.
They see no wrong because it's written in the Quran.
I do believe that it was mostly allowed because many womens husband's died in war and not enough men, a rats dream come true.
The problem is that it's the husband's duty to provide for each wife equally, well that's ok in the bedroom 2 sec each but finacially they are fecked.
All of this just reminds me why I couldn’t marry into that religion or culture. While I know that not all Tunisian men are like that, I am speaking about rats. I like a peaceful marriage, not all that drama that comes alone with being married to one of them.

I hope that @tutusandfrogs dont get hurt in the process of juggling these two Tunisian men. :( It can be mentally exhausting dealing with one, let alone two. I couldn’t fathom. Mine drained the hell out of me. I slept more than I went to the gym and I love the gym. The mental gymnastics wore me out mentally. By the end of the week, speaking with him and dealing with his drama, I was exhausted.
 

tutusandfrogs

Major Ratslayer
Some back story as to why I'm here...

So, I found this website awhile back when I was looking at how much flights were from Canada to Tunisia. I've been with boyfriend #1 since last September. I had no doubts until I found this website and I got worried. I still believe, after this time he really is different, it's okay if everyone thinks I'm mistaken...and maybe I am... but I suppose time will tell. There have been no red flags for me with him and he is really quite different than any Tunisian man I have spoken with. But, obviously, reading everything that one would on a page like this, you will always have some doubt.

Boyfriend #2...well, I had no intentions of having another Tunisian boyfriend, ever. This man is more jealous, definitely. He knew I was in a relationship with #1 and unfortunately he got some kind of hold over me that he just can't leave no matter how much I have told him I won't leave #1. He believes, I will. So, I'm not going to lie and say there is no feelings involved there, but I haven't been dishonest with him. I plan on pursuing my relationship with #1. I know #2 would never work because he would never accept me as I am, but he doesn't want to give up..and like I said, there are real feelings for me.

I know this all makes me sound insane, but I assure you I am normal and I don't want to leave the group either just because I believe my #1 is really different. I've talked to many Tunisians and none are like him. He was more forthcoming about what he loves in a relationship before I was.

I can't control that I am polyamorous, I can't explain why I'm this way...it's not easy socially or emotionally. It's not about cheating or sex. I know it's so difficult to understand and I accept that.

I feel awful for all you ladies that went through what you did and obviously I don't want it for myself... but please don't question why I'm here...because I'm here for the same reason a lot of women are... by accident...and when you're in love sometimes you just have to get hurt on your own because you just can't listen to anyone else and relate your experience to anyone else no matter how many ways you try to.
 

MH007

Administrator
Staff member
Some back story as to why I'm here...

So, I found this website awhile back when I was looking at how much flights were from Canada to Tunisia. I've been with boyfriend #1 since last September. I had no doubts until I found this website and I got worried. I still believe, after this time he really is different, it's okay if everyone thinks I'm mistaken...and maybe I am... but I suppose time will tell. There have been no red flags for me with him and he is really quite different than any Tunisian man I have spoken with. But, obviously, reading everything that one would on a page like this, you will always have some doubt.

Boyfriend #2...well, I had no intentions of having another Tunisian boyfriend, ever. This man is more jealous, definitely. He knew I was in a relationship with #1 and unfortunately he got some kind of hold over me that he just can't leave no matter how much I have told him I won't leave #1. He believes, I will. So, I'm not going to lie and say there is no feelings involved there, but I haven't been dishonest with him. I plan on pursuing my relationship with #1. I know #2 would never work because he would never accept me as I am, but he doesn't want to give up..and like I said, there are real feelings for me.

I know this all makes me sound insane, but I assure you I am normal and I don't want to leave the group either just because I believe my #1 is really different. I've talked to many Tunisians and none are like him. He was more forthcoming about what he loves in a relationship before I was.

I can't control that I am polyamorous, I can't explain why I'm this way...it's not easy socially or emotionally. It's not about cheating or sex. I know it's so difficult to understand and I accept that.

I feel awful for all you ladies that went through what you did and obviously I don't want it for myself... but please don't question why I'm here...because I'm here for the same reason a lot of women are... by accident...and when you're in love sometimes you just have to get hurt on your own because you just can't listen to anyone else and relate your experience to anyone else no matter how many ways you try to.
I'm not judging you for being polyamorous one bit - I'm just struggling with why you are putting yourself through this when you say yourself that bf #2 isn't what you want.

Why Tunisian men that are thousands of miles away and have no future with you.

I know polyamogy is much more prevelant where you are than here in the UK and its your choice but honestly why Tunisians. They will never accept your choice and are extremely jealous.

Find likewise people in your own country - you are playing with fire.

MH x
 
M

Mango Chutney

Guest
Some back story as to why I'm here...

So, I found this website awhile back when I was looking at how much flights were from Canada to Tunisia. I've been with boyfriend #1 since last September. I had no doubts until I found this website and I got worried. I still believe, after this time he really is different, it's okay if everyone thinks I'm mistaken...and maybe I am... but I suppose time will tell. There have been no red flags for me with him and he is really quite different than any Tunisian man I have spoken with. But, obviously, reading everything that one would on a page like this, you will always have some doubt.

Boyfriend #2...well, I had no intentions of having another Tunisian boyfriend, ever. This man is more jealous, definitely. He knew I was in a relationship with #1 and unfortunately he got some kind of hold over me that he just can't leave no matter how much I have told him I won't leave #1. He believes, I will. So, I'm not going to lie and say there is no feelings involved there, but I haven't been dishonest with him. I plan on pursuing my relationship with #1. I know #2 would never work because he would never accept me as I am, but he doesn't want to give up..and like I said, there are real feelings for me.

I know this all makes me sound insane, but I assure you I am normal and I don't want to leave the group either just because I believe my #1 is really different. I've talked to many Tunisians and none are like him. He was more forthcoming about what he loves in a relationship before I was.

I can't control that I am polyamorous, I can't explain why I'm this way...it's not easy socially or emotionally. It's not about cheating or sex. I know it's so difficult to understand and I accept that.

I feel awful for all you ladies that went through what you did and obviously I don't want it for myself... but please don't question why I'm here...because I'm here for the same reason a lot of women are... by accident...and when you're in love sometimes you just have to get hurt on your own because you just can't listen to anyone else and relate your experience to anyone else no matter how many ways you try to.
You stay with us, girl :love:
Neither of your Tunisians are different.....so you will need us, and I like how honest you are.

I do not hide that I have no idea how any sane woman could cope with two average men, let alone two rats at the same time, but your private life is not our business, and much though I'd eat my left foot before thinking I could cope with two untidy blokes, I do find it rather fascinating. Stick around :)
 
D

Deleted member 34774

Guest
You stay with us, girl :love:
Neither of your Tunisians are different.....so you will need us, and I like how honest you are.

I do not hide that I have no idea how any sane woman could cope with two average men, let alone two rats at the same time, but your private life is not our business, and much though I'd eat my left foot before thinking I could cope with two untidy blokes, I do find it rather fascinating. Stick around :)
I love her honesty and transparency. :love: I just hope she doesn’t get hurt. :( 2 rats can be mentally draining.
 
Top