Hi Sammysmith and welcome.Hi and thank you
Can I ask what bits are the sign of a rat? Just so I know what to look out for?
If we keep talking I will go to Tunisia for a week in November
He knows this and he's not asked me to stay with him or his family
Hes not said anything about a visa
I asked him if he would like to come have a holiday in England with me for a week and he just laughed at me saying how hard it is to leave the country
I didn't realise so I looked on the Internet and I realised then how true it was
He said he would never get to England even if we married (he didn't ask me to marry) it was just convocation
The thing I would be thinking of now that I’ve learned the hard way is what would be your future if you did get seriously involved with a man from a developing country who could not leave? Is Tunisia a place you could live? It is a devout Muslim country/culture with archaic laws and views towards women. They do have a few new changes in place for equality, but they are still far from how you are treated in the UK. Living in a country/foreign city is not the same as staying in the tourist resort. That is the same for any place you travel. I have not been to Tunisia, but I did fall for a rat and I have done work in developing areas of Brasil. This is just something to think about before you invest your heart.
I’m not saying if he is or is not a rat. It sounds like it is too early for you to see the bigger red flags yet. I think those will come if you decide to visit in November or later on as he gets you hooked.
Please also keep in mind that they often lie about their age and most do look older than they are.