Heartbroken

[CyprusBoy]

Hello, I’ve been looking on your site for a while now, but have finally decided to tell my story, as I can no longer bear the pain of it............Around 15 months ago, I met a Tunisian man on a Bi-Sexual Dating Site (I am a bi-sexual man, Greek Cypriot by origin, and mainly living in Cyprus). Well, at first, he was as charming as could be, sending loving messages every day, and we were in regular contact, we had some disagreements here and there, but nothing major. However, around six months ago, his behaviour changed completely, and he suddenly started making false accusations against me. I told him that this had to stop, and asked why he had changed so suddenly. I couldn’t believe it when he blurted out that I had never truly cared for him, and that he had recently started talking to an English woman on-line. He said that she could offer him the sexual pleasure he was truly seeking, and, on top of that, was sending him considerable amounts of money, and encouraging him to visit her in England !
Well, I truly couldn’t believe it, and after a couple of weeks, he actually came back to me, declaring his love for me, saying that he had discovered that this woman was ‘cheap’ and having sex with a multitude of men on-line and in real life !!!
Well, we settled back into our initial relationship, not having had the chance to meet him in person as yet, but apparently, as of a week ago, this woman has turned up again, and he is wanting to spend time with her !!!! I had been planning to finally visit him in September, but all looks lost now, and truly, I feel heartbroken, as, without the interference of this woman, we have been so happy together, even in an online relationship..............I wonder if your Members have any thoughts ?

 

[Mica]

..... without the interference of this woman, we have been so happy together, even in an online relationship..............I wonder if your Members have any thoughts ?

I think if it wasn't this woman it would be another woman or man. She hasn't forced him to speak to her, it's his choice to do so and he will do it regardless of who the other person is.
He's obviously a player or he's manipulating you to make you feel insecure and needy.

 

[Astarisborn]

Hello, I’ve been looking on your site for a while now, but have finally decided to tell my story, as I can no longer bear the pain of it............Around 15 months ago, I met a Tunisian man on a Bi-Sexual Dating Site (I am a bi-sexual man, Greek Cypriot by origin, and mainly living in Cyprus). Well, at first, he was as charming as could be, sending loving messages every day, and we were in regular contact, we had some disagreements here and there, but nothing major. However, around six months ago, his behaviour changed completely, and he suddenly started making false accusations against me. I told him that this had to stop, and asked why he had changed so suddenly. I couldn’t believe it when he blurted out that I had never truly cared for him, and that he had recently started talking to an English woman on-line. He said that she could offer him the sexual pleasure he was truly seeking, and, on top of that, was sending him considerable amounts of money, and encouraging him to visit her in England !
Well, I truly couldn’t believe it, and after a couple of weeks, he actually came back to me, declaring his love for me, saying that he had discovered that this woman was ‘cheap’ and having sex with a multitude of men on-line and in real life !!!
Well, we settled back into our initial relationship, not having had the chance to meet him in person as yet, but apparently, as of a week ago, this woman has turned up again, and he is wanting to spend time with her !!!! I had been planning to finally visit him in September, but all looks lost now, and truly, I feel heartbroken, as, without the interference of this woman, we have been so happy together, even in an online relationship..............I wonder if your Members have any thoughts ?

The Tunisian love rats lie to everyone involved, you never know from one day to the next who they are
cut your losses
do you really believe this English lady is that bad, usually people who divert attention away from themselves are the ones who are actually doing what they accuse others of
These rats couldn't be faithful to a dog let alone another human being, they say many things, its doing what they say the hard part
This one has nothing but grief to offer you, they make false accusations all the time

What's wrong with these rats you can't fix, none of us can
sorry for the rant but cut your losses he has no respect for any relationship at all, not even for himself

 

[Peacock]

Hello, I’ve been looking on your site for a while now, but have finally decided to tell my story, as I can no longer bear the pain of it............Around 15 months ago, I met a Tunisian man on a Bi-Sexual Dating Site (I am a bi-sexual man, Greek Cypriot by origin, and mainly living in Cyprus). Well, at first, he was as charming as could be, sending loving messages every day, and we were in regular contact, we had some disagreements here and there, but nothing major. However, around six months ago, his behaviour changed completely, and he suddenly started making false accusations against me. I told him that this had to stop, and asked why he had changed so suddenly. I couldn’t believe it when he blurted out that I had never truly cared for him, and that he had recently started talking to an English woman on-line. He said that she could offer him the sexual pleasure he was truly seeking, and, on top of that, was sending him considerable amounts of money, and encouraging him to visit her in England !
Well, I truly couldn’t believe it, and after a couple of weeks, he actually came back to me, declaring his love for me, saying that he had discovered that this woman was ‘cheap’ and having sex with a multitude of men on-line and in real life !!!
Well, we settled back into our initial relationship, not having had the chance to meet him in person as yet, but apparently, as of a week ago, this woman has turned up again, and he is wanting to spend time with her !!!! I had been planning to finally visit him in September, but all looks lost now, and truly, I feel heartbroken, as, without the interference of this woman, we have been so happy together, even in an online relationship..............I wonder if your Members have any thoughts ?

He wants to spend time with someone else, so that means he isn't really involved with you. Best thing you can do is end things with him. Painful but better than wasting any more time on him.

 

[Yvonne]

Hello, I’ve been looking on your site for a while now, but have finally decided to tell my story, as I can no longer bear the pain of it............Around 15 months ago, I met a Tunisian man on a Bi-Sexual Dating Site (I am a bi-sexual man, Greek Cypriot by origin, and mainly living in Cyprus). Well, at first, he was as charming as could be, sending loving messages every day, and we were in regular contact, we had some disagreements here and there, but nothing major. However, around six months ago, his behaviour changed completely, and he suddenly started making false accusations against me. I told him that this had to stop, and asked why he had changed so suddenly. I couldn’t believe it when he blurted out that I had never truly cared for him, and that he had recently started talking to an English woman on-line. He said that she could offer him the sexual pleasure he was truly seeking, and, on top of that, was sending him considerable amounts of money, and encouraging him to visit her in England !
Well, I truly couldn’t believe it, and after a couple of weeks, he actually came back to me, declaring his love for me, saying that he had discovered that this woman was ‘cheap’ and having sex with a multitude of men on-line and in real life !!!
Well, we settled back into our initial relationship, not having had the chance to meet him in person as yet, but apparently, as of a week ago, this woman has turned up again, and he is wanting to spend time with her !!!! I had been planning to finally visit him in September, but all looks lost now, and truly, I feel heartbroken, as, without the interference of this woman, we have been so happy together, even in an online relationship..............I wonder if your Members have any thoughts ?

Welcome here @CyprusBoy. You met on that site and it was all nice untill he confessed to you he met a woman online. It means he never stopped contacting other men /women to start chatting to.
The other woman is innocent because she probably didn't knew what he was up to. He accepted her money so he's a big fat rat.
I'm sorry you are heartbroken @CyprusBoy but you discovered it early that he is not an honnest person.
Stay away from him he's not telling you the truth about it all

Yvonne xxx

 

[SouthernGirl]

Let him go. He sounds like a flake and an user also. I feel sorry for this lady he takes money from. Forget about him. He’d have tried to use you too the same way.
Remember how he treated you, making all sorts of accusations when he wanted to break things up. He’s not a good person. I agree with Yvonne. He’s a rat.

 

[Bubbly]

He is a prostitute and shows you how he works. He only goes with the customers who pay the most. What else do you expect from him ? Homosexuality being a big no no in Islam, Tunisia still being a Muslim country, there is no prospect for you. You aren’t ever gonna live together, marry, adopt kids.

If you go to Tunisia, you will have to pay him so he spends time with you. Please understand, he doesn’t care about anyone. Move on, he is a waste of time for you and a waste of space for humanity.

 

[CyprusBoy]

Well, thank you everybody for your responses.............Just to say that he has now sent me photos of himself with this woman in conversation on FB Messenger, saying ‘See what a slut she is, it is you I love ‘Bubba’ (his nickname for me)..............He really is playing me for all that it is worth at the moment...............

 

[Big Bang Theory]

Well, thank you everybody for your responses.............Just to say that he has sent me photos of himself with this woman in conversation on FB Messenger, saying ‘See what a slut she is, it is you I love ‘Bubba’ (his nickname for me)..............He really is playing me for all that is worth at the moment...............

He's an arsehole
What sort of person plays with a person's feelings like that?
He accepts money from her, spends time with her, is probably telling her all sorts of love lies when he thinks so little of her.
If he can lie so easily to her he can lie to you too and he probably is

 

[CyprusBoy]

He's an arsehole
What sort of person plays with a person's feelings like that?
He accepts money from her, spends time with her, is probably telling her all sorts of love lies when he thinks so little of her.
If he can lie so easily to her he can lie to you too and he probably is

I can’t take this anymore...........I think I’m going to call his bluff...........I might just string him along, and then, wham !!!!!! and I’ll block his sorry ass..............

 

[Astarisborn]

Well, thank you everybody for your responses.............Just to say that he has now sent me photos of himself with this woman in conversation on FB Messenger, saying ‘See what a slut she is, it is you I love ‘Bubba’ (his nickname for me)..............He really is playing me for all that it is worth at the moment...............

you don't need these back and forth games, if she is such a "slut" why did he dump you to be with her.
Its all about MONEY to this rat nothing else, what does that make him when he is around her????
I used to hear this from my ex-rat he would say about his exes, things like old witch, ugly, fat and describe their bodies in such
offensive terms and why did I have to hear that anyways I never asked but you get the drift how the rats are....
then I find they are on their FB page as best buddies, I could show these ladies proof of all the hatred that was
spewed in his written messages on FB but the rat would say something like it wasn't him or I am jealous.
Let the loser rat go, who knows how many he is playing with besides the lady you know about.

 

[Big Bang Theory]

I can’t take this anymore...........I think I’m going to call his bluff...........I might just string him along, and then, wham !!!!!! and I’ll block his sorry ass..............

Why waste your time? if you're gonna block him you might as well do it now.

 

[Bubbly]

Well, thank you everybody for your responses.............Just to say that he has now sent me photos of himself with this woman in conversation on FB Messenger, saying ‘See what a slut she is, it is you I love ‘Bubba’ (his nickname for me)..............He really is playing me for all that it is worth at the moment...............

Disgusting and totally disrespectful for both that clueless lady and you.
You should play him harder and block his filthy a$$

 

[CyprusBoy]

Why waste your time? if you're gonna block him you might as well do it now.

The latest is that he’s now sent a message to me saying ‘Bubba, Bubba don’t leave me, ‘I don’t want any money from you, I just want you in my life, I need you’............He sure knows how to play on my emotions, but I think in all honesty, especially taking into account the advice of the other Members, I am only left with one choice, which is to block him ...............

 

[Deleted Member 002]

I can’t take this anymore...........I think I’m going to call his bluff...........I might just string him along, and then, wham !!!!!! and I’ll block his sorry ass..............

Block this asswhole for gods sake

 

[SouthernGirl]

@CyprusBoy, I am so sorry for how you were mistreated. He lied to you, he disrespected you and you now know he scams people for money. He’ll use you too, if not for money but for something else: visa, sex.. Cut all ties or he’ll get more and more toxic. Be strong and firm. You don’t need people like him in your life.

 

[CyprusBoy]

@CyprusBoy, I am so sorry for how you were mistreated. He lied to you, he disrespected you and you now know he scams people for money. He’ll use you too, if not for money but for something else: visa, sex.. Cut all ties or he’ll get more and more toxic. Be strong and firm. You don’t need people like him in your life.

It’s difficult because we were together for quite a while, and I became so used to him, and convinced that he cared sincerely for me, until the point where he mentioned this English woman and his involvement with her, and now that it’s happened for a second time, I couldn’t possibly trust him again.............I haven’t done it yet, but I will block him in the next couple of days, and try not to become involved with any Tunisian man again..............

 

[ThyBiher]

It’s difficult because we were together for quite a while, and I became so used to him, and convinced that he cared sincerely for me, until the point where he mentioned this English woman and his involvement with her, and now that it’s happened for a second time, I couldn’t possibly trust him again.............I haven’t done it yet, but I will block him in the next couple of days, and try not to become involved with any Tunisian man again..............

Hello,

It is very common for Tunisians to have this type of relationships with Bisexual men from Europe, the goal is simply money, then blackmail.
You have planned to visit him in Setptember, do you think that he'll be ok and comfortbale walking next to you in public, everyone will know that yu are in a relationship, it's obvious and not acceptable in a muslim country.
It was his choice to speak to the English woman, it's ont your fault. He is greedy and have no respect for you.

Did you search the forum to see if his name/photo mentionned here? If not, I think you should make him his rat ass famous

Forget him and don't look back, you deserve better

 

[CyprusBoy]

Hello,

It is very common for Tunisians to have this type of relationships with Bisexual men from Europe, the goal is simply money, then blackmail.
You have planned to visit him in Setptember, do you think that he'll be ok and comfortbale walking next to you in public, everyone will know that yu are in a relationship, it's obvious and not acceptable in a muslim country.
It was his choice to speak to the English woman, it's ont your fault. He is greedy and have no respect for you.

Did you search the forum to see if his name/photo mentionned here? If not, I think you should make him his rat ass famous

Forget him and don't look back, you deserve better

Well, he has never asked me for money, and as far as I understand it, Bi-Sexual Relationships are very common in Tunisia...........I did research this before thinking of visiting Tunisia.............As I understand it, neither are relationships between Tunisian men and much older women for example, acceptable in Tunisia..............I am indeed thinking of publishing his details here; he holds a position of supposed authority in that country, so I think it’s quite important that he is known about...............

 

[Deleted Member 002]

Well, he has never asked me for money, and as far as I understand it, Bi-Sexual Relationships are very common in Tunisia...........I did research this before thinking of visiting Tunisia.............As I understand it, neither are relationships between Tunisian men and much older women for example, acceptable in Tunisia..............I am indeed thinking of publishing his details here; he holds a position of supposed authority in that country, so I think it’s quite important that he is known about...............

@aisha can you update us in this??

 

[Deleted Member 002]

From internet

 

[Mica]

Well, he has never asked me for money, and as far as I understand it, Bi-Sexual Relationships are very common in Tunisia...........I did research this before thinking of visiting Tunisia.............As I understand it, neither are relationships between Tunisian men and much older women for example, acceptable in Tunisia..............I am indeed thinking of publishing his details here; he holds a position of supposed authority in that country, so I think it’s quite important that he is known about...............

Big difference is that same sex relationships are an imprisonable offence whereas the older women relationships are just generally not accepted.

 

[CyprusBoy]

Big difference is that same sex relationships are an imprisonable offence whereas the older women relationships are just generally not accepted.

But heterosexual sex between unmarried partners (of whatever age) is punishable by prison also, I understand ?

 

[Mica]

But heterosexual sex between unmarried partners (of whatever age) is punishable by prison also, I understand ?

Yes, but they usually turn a blind eye if the female is foreign

 

[Yvonne]

Well, he has never asked me for money, and as far as I understand it, Bi-Sexual Relationships are very common in Tunisia...........I did research this before thinking of visiting Tunisia.............As I understand it, neither are relationships between Tunisian men and much older women for example, acceptable in Tunisia..............I am indeed thinking of publishing his details here; he holds a position of supposed authority in that country, so I think it’s quite important that he is known about...............

An interesting and eye-opening read about what can happen with gay men /women in Tunisia

Yvonne xxx

The ‘Nightmare’ of Being Gay in Tunisia

Karim Belhadj’s story is all-too familiar in Tunisia, where the criminalization of homosexuality contradicts the right to privacy and nondiscrimination enshrined in the constitution.

dawnmena.org

 

[CyprusBoy]

Yes, but they usually turn a blind eye if the female is foreign

Why would they do that ?

 

[Yvonne]

Why would they do that ?

Because it brings in more money

Yvonne x

 

[CyprusBoy]

Because it brings in more money

Yvonne x

So the law is an ‘ass’ and only works when the corrupt Police Force want it to ?

 

[Astarisborn]

Why would they do that ?

Because the hotels, the family, the rats get a cut off of this and everyone looks the other way!
Sadly this is the mentality in Tunisia, foreign women bring in money some have even invested
in businesses, apartments and homes. Its bezness over there!
And sadly the investments are in the Tunisian rats family but the foreign women are tricked
into thinking different.

 

[CyprusBoy]

An interesting and eye-opening read about what can happen with gay men /women in Tunisia

Yvonne xxx

The ‘Nightmare’ of Being Gay in Tunisia

Karim Belhadj’s story is all-too familiar in Tunisia, where the criminalization of homosexuality contradicts the right to privacy and nondiscrimination enshrined in the constitution.

dawnmena.org

Horrendous and repulsive treatment of an innocent, professional man............My heart really goes out to him and his family..............