Help – I don’t want to be another victim, but…

[Butterflies]

The part about him being on your mind and then contacting you… that’s exactly what would happen with him and me. We’ve always had this strange connection with each other and my intuition knew when he’d be coming back.

I know I’m probably going to sound crazy and it really depends on your beliefs, but I believe in past lives, soulmates, etc. I saw a tarot card reader before “meeting” him and she said a past life soulmate would be coming into my life but… he would be a karmic soulmate. We’ve apparently met in each lifetime for various reasons… I swear it’s him.

On two different occasions I was thinking about him and had crazy anxiety… he contacted me both times, within hours, from fake accounts, saying he knew he was on my mind, he could feel it. And this was when I hated him, like really hated him and was so angry with him. This also happened multiple times when we were together.

Him and I have a connection I can’t explain. Yes, he’s a rat… but even if he never contacts me again, I know we’ll always be connected at a spiritual level and as of now, that concerns me.

Anyway, I’m happy to hear yours doesn’t contact you anymore! I hope life has been treating you really well since then.

We meet people from past lives where we felled a connection with untill we learned our lesson to stay away from them....

How are you today @taleo528 ?

 

[Dangerous Beans]

Er, not to sound harsh but I think human mating would not be the murky cesspool that it is today (social media) if we did away with beliefs like that.

Real connections are built, forged. Over the course of many years and through hardship.

Manipulators can connect to anyone. That's their #1 talent. It's how they get somewhere in life. Human relationships don't deal in absolutes, there are several perfect fits for you out there, take your pick.

But if he convinced you he's The One, he's halfway there because "you'll never find someone like him" again and it'll just get harder to leave.

Here's hoping the only karmic connection he has is with a lego brick when he steps on it

 

[Astarisborn]

Er, not to sound harsh but I think human mating would not be the murky cesspool that it is today (social media) if we did away with beliefs like that.

Real connections are built, forged. Over the course of many years and through hardship.

Manipulators can connect to anyone. That's their #1 talent. It's how they get somewhere in life. Human relationships don't deal in absolutes, there are several perfect fits for you out there, take your pick.

But if he convinced you he's The One, he's halfway there because "you'll never find someone like him" again and it'll just get harder to leave.

Here's hoping the only karmic connection he has is with a lego brick when he steps on it

the rat's always make those statements " I feel like we are soulmates all our lives" anything to create a bond
emotional ties, and to declare love like this to everyone the rats meet at first
the rats say "I love you" like they were saying hello and saying it to many others at the same time
when in fact real love takes awhile, very rarely does it happen like these psychics, tarot card
readers say
the psychics and tarot readers make money off of people's sorrows and feelings
saying oh your dead relative blah blah sends a message and they could go on and on
maybe one thing they said makes you think they are genuine
just like the rats they manipulate and exploit your feelings
who ever heard of a psychic having the winning lottery numbers
why don't they give us the winning numbers?? LOL
they say generic things like you had a soulmate and throw it out there, basically anyone
can say that and then they hit on something and being human beings we want to believe
there is someone out there like that, real life is different though

 

[Kate]

I don’t want to defend him or the situation, but… it was 100% written by him. I’ve seen his handwriting before. It isn’t great but it’s legible. Everything he wrote pertains to his life and his current situation. My name is also in there. The way he uses certain words and phrases things via text are the same on paper. Most words seem to be spelled the same way as well. When I read it, it was just like reading text messages from him or actually speaking with him. The fact that he could’ve gone THAT far… mind blown. He’s intelligent and writes/speaks English fairly well. I’ve never had to question him or ask him to repeat something. I guess that just means he’s been doing this for a long time.

My rat went so much further than writing a few pages of a diary. He put in work almost daily for over a year. So many messages, calls, voice notes, photos, (pictures of note pads, screenshots, receipts, ID, family, work, etc, etc). Lies and elaborate stories twisted for my benefit. He created a whole world between us. He is intelligent and extremely hard working. He will stop at nothing to reach his goals. Guys like this know how much truth to mix in with their lies. Then you feel like a psycho controlling insecure untrusting girlfriend for questioning anything.

 

[Sabrina]

My rat went so much further than writing a few pages of a diary. He put in work almost daily for over a year. So many messages, calls, voice notes, photos, (pictures of note pads, screenshots, receipts, ID, family, work, etc, etc). Lies and elaborate stories twisted for my benefit. He created a whole world between us. He is intelligent and extremely hard working. He will stop at nothing to reach his goals. Guys like this know how much truth to mix in with their lies. Then you feel like a psycho controlling insecure untrusting girlfriend for questioning anything.

Ya gotta ask yourself why do we question them and seek proof from the assholes?? Well it’s because we have caught them in 1 or many lies!!!! Toward the end I would demand receipts of what he wanted money for

 

[Moonshine]

We are not victims we are survivors in every way
Just please once u visit once u send money once u pay for everything they will trap u even further into a world that is so unreal like a dream that nightmares belong too
U will begin to hate everything u once loved including the rat !!!
Hatred is a strong word but fitting for the rats off Tunisia!!
U will hate the aggression abuse begging off the tuni rats
And if you're not careful u will begin to hate the person these rats have turned u into
I'm glad I'm back to myself and so happy that I had the strength courage to walk away u can find this strength and walk away with time head held high away from ratscum off Tunisia!!!

 

[Astarisborn]

We are not victims we are survivors in every way
Just please once u visit once u send money once u pay for everything they will trap u even further into a world that is so unreal like a dream that nightmares belong too
U will begin to hate everything u once loved including the rat !!!
Hatred is a strong word but fitting for the rats off Tunisia!!
U will hate the aggression abuse begging off the tuni rats
And if you're not careful u will begin to hate the person these rats have turned u into
I'm glad I'm back to myself and so happy that I had the strength courage to walk away u can find this strength and walk away with time head held high away from ratscum off Tunisia!!!

we can only advise and warn, but the rats will say to their victims that other women are jealous and bitter about their "love story"
so making the victim think she doesn't have a rat
so if seeing what's posted on here, with our experiences and advice that's all we can do
everyone has free will to decide what they want
unfortunately some will learn the hard way like some of us
and its not for any of us to judge we know how the rats can manipulate
so we just hope we can save victims before its too late
Why? the financial costs especially
the debts, the mental anguish and abuse.
That's all we want to do is save a victim on here
there is nothing to gain for us other than saving lives on here
yes we are survivors @Moonshine, we were victims before
not anymore the rats will revictimize us ever again

 

[Moonshine]

Never ever trust a Tunisian rat
They are liars and manipulation off lies
They will lie and lie to cover the lie up
To try make it look like your lieing don't allow it .Once the rats do this all trust is gone
Without trust there is nothing left
Never known rats as bad as these tunisians rats
Fucking vile narcissistic manipulating full blown liars
How I hate these Tunisian rats hate hate them so much .

 

[Moonshine]

Not all of them are bad people in Tunisia, most people there live an day to day life with working and taking care of their children.
It's bezness practiced by a small group and most of them have some kind of connection with the tourist industry

Yvonne xxx

Its big group off them a lot off rats they all group together in coffees and the rats are getting worse and increasing !
Its takes away these dam vile rats from the good peoole off tunisia

 

[Jennie]

The silence kills u at beginning but after doing it for years you began to enjoy it more and think less and less about the rat in those silent moods they have
It's silence when u say no or refuse to give
Or reuse / can't visit again 2 weeks after coming home from last visit
Or u won't send through mg/wu
Or he lied and u tell him truth
Ratty said something u correct him
Any little thing sends him into a silent frenzy mood mostly it's about money giving sending demanding visits
Don't react leave the rat let him Sulk
Don't call dont message
With a rat nothing is about you it's all about them attention seeking *******
Good or bad attention they relish in it all
Simply answer or advice
Dont give ratty attention
They hate this
100% pure teenage tantrums
Leave them to it !

I remember being at the medina and eating lunch outside and I mentioned that I only had $600 to last us until I left in 3 days and I was not spending $500 to rent a car!
Woah, this man-child was furious!
He jumped up out of his chair so quick and aggressively that his chair bounced back to the table beside us.
I was so embarrassed and could not believe he was acting like a child that just got told he couldn’t get a toy at the store.

I have since unfriended & blocked him on social media and I have been no contact for one month exactly and I love life again, I don’t feel so rushed in life, I have saved money and planning vacations with my daughter & my mom.
Yesterday was a bad day for me and oddly I found myself wanting to reach out to him but I reminded myself that this is the trauma bond playing out, don’t give in so instead I came to TLR to remind myself what’s really happening.

 

[Sabrina]

I remember being at the medina and eating lunch outside and I mentioned that I only had $600 to last us until I left in 3 days and I was not spending $500 to rent a car!
Woah, this man-child was furious!
He jumped up out of his chair so quick and aggressively that his chair bounced back to the table beside us.
I was so embarrassed and could not believe he was acting like a child that just got told he couldn’t get a toy at the store.

I have since unfriended & blocked him on social media and I have been no contact for one month exactly and I love life again, I don’t feel so rushed in life, I have saved money and planning vacations with my daughter & my mom.
Yesterday was a bad day for me and oddly I found myself wanting to reach out to him but I reminded myself that this is the trauma bond playing out, don’t give in so instead I came to TLR to remind myself what’s really happening.

I have been wondering about you! Glad you are here again and don’t give in!! They do not change! They only try to change us! So keep him blocked he’s taken enough from you. Just keep in mind when you want to reach out to him how he was when you visited I’m sure the bad out weigh the good

 

[Astarisborn]

I remember being at the medina and eating lunch outside and I mentioned that I only had $600 to last us until I left in 3 days and I was not spending $500 to rent a car!
Woah, this man-child was furious!
He jumped up out of his chair so quick and aggressively that his chair bounced back to the table beside us.
I was so embarrassed and could not believe he was acting like a child that just got told he couldn’t get a toy at the store.

I have since unfriended & blocked him on social media and I have been no contact for one month exactly and I love life again, I don’t feel so rushed in life, I have saved money and planning vacations with my daughter & my mom.
Yesterday was a bad day for me and oddly I found myself wanting to reach out to him but I reminded myself that this is the trauma bond playing out, don’t give in so instead I came to TLR to remind myself what’s really happening.

seen these rages in my ex-rat especially after he was drinking excessively
it was a like an entitled man-toddler having a violent tantrum
I have seen him break a Rolex watch and smash it to pieces
thought smoke was coming out of his ears and the veins in his head popping out.
Like if this is how they resolve small issues then what they going to do with
bigger life issues.
Can't handle real life these rats!
they expect us to fix all that is wrong in their life
no one can fix the mess, it's beyond words to be honest

 

[Moonshine]

D

I remember being at the medina and eating lunch outside and I mentioned that I only had $600 to last us until I left in 3 days and I was not spending $500 to rent a car!
Woah, this man-child was furious!
He jumped up out of his chair so quick and aggressively that his chair bounced back to the table beside us.
I was so embarrassed and could not believe he was acting like a child that just got told he couldn’t get a toy at the store.

I have since unfriended & blocked him on social media and I have been no contact for one month exactly and I love life again, I don’t feel so rushed in life, I have saved money and planning vacations with my daughter & my mom.
Yesterday was a bad day for me and oddly I found myself wanting to reach out to him but I reminded myself that this is the trauma bond playing out, don’t give in so instead I came to TLR to remind myself what’s really happening.

My rat wanted me to rent a car at 1,700 Dinas
I refused as last time all we did was ferry his family friends cousins about
Every single dam day !!!!
This time I refused oh wow he wemt in a rampage banging his fist and head on wall screaming like a wild animal
Demanding we have the car
U are right they are men child tantrums off the violent kind
I haf enough they dint care how embarrassing they are but we always get blamed
this time I said no no
Amd i told him go on a tantrum i really dont care any more !!!!! Rent car pay petrol and ferry every fucker else about !!!!!

u know

 

[Sabrina]

D

My rat wanted me to rent a car at 1,700 Dinas
I refused as last time all we did was ferry his family friends cousins about
Every single dam day !!!!
This time I refused oh wow he wemt in a rampage banging his fist and head on wall screaming like a wild animal
Demanding we have the car
U are right they are men child tantrums off the violent kind
I haf enough they dint care how embarrassing they are but we always get blamed
this time I said no no
Amd i told him go on a tantrum i really dont care any more !!!!! Rent car pay petrol and ferry every fucker else about !!!!!

Only tantrum I witnessed with mine was on the phone he was demanding money to keep him out of the army! I looked at him like he was a freaking nut! Had I been in person I think I would’ve picked up something and knocked him up side the head! Especially with a little tequila in me

 

[Moonshine]

Wow sabrina u are so lucky
Everyday I was there he needed money for something it turned my stomach over
1 holiday to Tunisia with a rat can cost u as much as 2 months in a 5* hotel wtf
No way
Right now I'm happier and richer xxxx
And my holidays are 5* but cost me less than with ratty haha

 

[Astarisborn]

I treated myself to a 5 star hotel I knew it was over before I left
so for one week I went to the most luxurious hotel of course
ratface benefited but I went out of Tunisia with a bang
Never going back even if ratface paid me!

 

[Sabrina]

Wow sabrina u are so lucky
Everyday I was there he needed money for something it turned my stomach over
1 holiday to Tunisia with a rat can cost u as much as 2 months in a 5* hotel wtf
No way
Right now I'm happier and richer xxxx
And my holidays are 5* but cost me less than with ratty haha

Believe me I paid for all but if he had of wanted more ..NO WAY face it we are so much richer in life alone without the rats!!

 

[Sabrina]

I treated myself to a 5 star hotel I knew it was over before I left
so for one week I went to the most luxurious hotel of course
ratface benefited but I went out of Tunisia with a bang
Never going back even if ratface paid me!

You go girl you know honestly after reading and knowing what you and @Moonshine went thru….I wonder Was mine a rati do believe I was one of the lucky ones

 

[Astarisborn]

You go girl you know honestly after reading and knowing what you and @Moonshine went thru….I wonder Was mine a rati do believe I was one of the lucky ones

yes you were lucky Sabrina, compared to mine, Moonshine and others very lucky
Some of it I blocked out of mind, things too horrible to mention here
Along with the rest of the rats, I proved he was and is a Tunisian Love Rat
What about the rest I never said, about the constant messaging all day
it was so bad if I could have I would have laid a restraining order if he were here
Badgering family members, other friends and at work, I long left the rat and changed
everything to avoid this POS.
the fraud, the abuse, locking me in the apartment, the rat out all day while stole my money out of my purse
even the embassy in Tunis messaged me to find out where I was and days after
I was there in an apartment the rat finally gave me the address to give to them.
I did say I was in a hotel which I was but the rat moved me to a new place
then the character assassination of everything about me on social media
see this if I was a nightmare what was he ?
To all the new ones get your own accommodation when you go there
that way you won't be hostage to the bad intentions of a rat!
And to the people that enabled this rat and to listen to his crap
even when I told you my side of the story I raise a big F**ck you
And to the rat you thought I would give in and stay in my misery
Well I didn't I rose above all your nasty opinions about me
and you are not all that important in the grand scheme of things!
And to the loser that watches me everyday and what I say
your life must be so lonely to talk about me.
you are my biggest fan
Who the hell do you think you are??

Anyways I don't wish my worst enemy for this rat
He tried to destroy me for everything he was not
and to call him a decent Tunisian man is beneath me
Even his own don't want this one, one time the police were
called for his yelling and abuse at the hotel manager and the rat escaped
from facing justice so its not just about the foreign victims he screwed over!
He yells at his own mother to do his bidding, just pathetic POS
I am a kind, patient soul but when the rat crossed the line
even the best of us could never take this rat, not even an army could take
all the crap I endured.

 

[Sabrina]

yes you were lucky Sabrina, compared to mine, Moonshine and others very lucky
Some of it I blocked out of mind, things too horrible to mention here
Along with the rest of the rats, I proved he was and is a Tunisian Love Rat
What about the rest I never said, about the constant messaging all day
it was so bad if I could have I would have laid a restraining order if he were here
Badgering family members, other friends and at work, I long left the rat and changed
everything to avoid this POS.
the fraud, the abuse, locking me in the apartment, the rat out all day while stole my money out of my purse
even the embassy in Tunis messaged me to find out where I was and days after
I was there in an apartment the rat finally gave me the address to give to them.
I did say I was in a hotel which I was but the rat moved me to a new place
then the character assassination of everything about me on social media
see this if I was a nightmare what was he ?
To all the new ones get your own accommodation when you go there
that way you won't be hostage to the bad intentions of a rat!
And to the people that enabled this rat and to listen to his crap
even when I told you my side of the story I raise a big F**ck you
And to the rat you thought I would give in and stay in my misery
Well I didn't I rose above all your nasty opinions about me
and you are not all that important in the grand scheme of things!
And to the loser that watches me everyday and what I say
your life must be so lonely to talk about me.
you are my biggest fan
Who the hell do you think you are??

Anyways I don't wish my worst enemy for this rat
He tried to destroy me for everything he was not
and to call him a decent Tunisian man is beneath me
Even his own don't want this one, one time the police were
called for his yelling and abuse at the hotel manager and the rat escaped
from facing justice so its not just about the foreign victims he screwed over!
He yells at his own mother to do his bidding, just pathetic POS
I am a kind, patient soul but when the rat crossed the line
even the best of us could never take this rat, not even an army could take
all the crap I endured.

Glad you escaped! Oh my, is that him describing himself on a dating site or something? Lmao he really thinks a lot of himself.. now when does the truth come in? Plllleeaasseeeee omg

 

[Astarisborn]

Glad you escaped! Oh my, is that him describing himself on a dating site or something? Lmao he really thinks a lot of himself.. now when does the truth come in? Plllleeaasseeeee omg

All of its lies, he can't even get the story straight and calling me out on my nationality
like does that somehow make him important?
that just proves what he is about, a visa hunting rat
And I am the racist one? that alone says it all

​

how do we all of the sudden become wives to these rats the first we know them
apparently I was wed to this rat from the beginning and I didn't even know it???
Oh my God, I must have been in a parallel universe in this rat's mind
If I were the rat I would want to hide behind someone because look at the rat???
It's all about him and how bad he was treated, oh cry me a river
Like move on buddy, get over yourself you just keep
proving you are a loser over and over again because
nobody works out for you!!
Come on ratty don't you know people are used to you over the
years saying the same rat lines, I am laughing so much over here

 

[Moonshine]

Yex

All of its lies, he can't even get the story straight and calling me out on my nationality
like does that somehow make him important?
that just proves what he is about, a visa hunting rat
And I am the racist one? that alone says it all

​

how do we all of the sudden become wives to these rats the first we know them
apparently I was wed to this rat from the beginning and I didn't even know it???
Oh my God, I must have been in a parallel universe in this rat's mind
If I were the rat I would want to hide behind someone because look at the rat???
It's all about him and how bad he was treated, oh cry me a river
Like move on buddy, get over yourself you just keep
proving you are a loser over and over again because
nobody works out for you!!
Come on ratty don't you know people are used to you over the
years saying the same rat lines, I am laughing so much over here

We were all wife's to the rats without marraige
Why they call us wife
Well we all know why Don't we
Rat /Habibi your my wife u must help ur husband
You / But why must I help you
Rat/ Wife's help support husbands
Rat /U are not giving me money habibi u are supporting me so I can buy things I need so send me now for your husband bank close in 5 minutes only 500 dinas my love !!!! Haha baranek ratty !!
That's the fucking reason they call u wife wow these rats are comedians hilarious funny idiots !!!

 

[Astarisborn]

Yex

We were all wife's to the rats without marraige
Why they call us wife
Well we all know why Don't we
Rat /Habibi your my wife u must help ur husband
You / But why must I help you
Rat/ Wife's help support husbands
Rat /U are not giving me money habibi u are supporting me so I can buy things I need so send me now for your husband bank close in 5 minutes only 500 dinas my love !!!! Haha baranek ratty !!
That's the fucking reason they call u wife wow these rats are comedians hilarious funny idiots !!!

Imagine their resume, imagine the job interview if ratty got his wish to come here
I scammed foreigners for many years end of story
Don't think ratty will get the job!!!
Absolutely useless, no education, no skills and no bank account apparently
except for when he puts his western union money oh yeah he got that
no job history , I tried to work with this but I am sorry can't make anything out of nothing.
Can't fake documents, school transcripts like they do in Tunisia, everyone can see right through it!
When it was over with the rat, the nerve after
being an a@@hole for years asked me to get him a job contract???
Like he has nothing to offer to get him a job in the first place
and besides he would never make it here to get one
here's him begging for a job contract
oh yeah the endless messaging, finally I was able to
block his fake a@@ accounts after this

 

[Moonshine]

Imagine their resume, imagine the job interview if ratty got his wish to come here
I scammed foreigners for many years end of story
Don't think ratty will get the job!!!
Absolutely useless, no education, no skills and no bank account apparently
except for when he puts his western union money oh yeah he got that
no job history , I tried to work with this but I am sorry can't make anything out of nothing.
Can't fake documents, school transcripts like they do in Tunisia, everyone can see right through it!
When it was over with the rat, the nerve after
being an a@@hole for years asked me to get him a job contract???
Like he has nothing to offer to get him a job in the first place
and besides he would never make it here to get one
here's him begging for a job contract
oh yeah the endless messaging, finally I was able to
block his fake a@@ accounts after this

The only skills they have is being a little knobhead
Thats a proffesion only Tunisian rats are skilled with .
No brains No sense No intelligence No respect
Little zibibis little legs big head big hands and lack off looks and hair after 28 !!!!!

 

[Moonshine]

As far as I know members of the police and National Guard are not allowed to date tourists.
He told you lies, you blocked him and tried to be in contact again. Why? If he knew he would not be allowed to be with you.
Keep reading here I'm sure you will recognize many stories that resembles your story

Yvonne xxx

That's true Yvonne
And the rats know this but lie through their wonky bad fluorescent teeth !

 

[LetGo]

Hi everyone. I hope you’re all doing well. Before I begin, thank you in advance for taking the time to read this post and for the guidance that may be provided.

I’m not sure where to begin… I feel as though I have so much to share. I guess I’ll begin with the most recent event as it’s weighing heavily on my mind.

I met him back in August/September 2021 on IG – I’m sure this is a red flag already. He was in a relationship [with a Tunisian] when we met, and I was involved with someone as well. We started as friends, had great conversations, laughed a lot, shared music constantly… he was literally just a great friend before becoming more to me, and we connected well.

A lot has happened since then. Back in August 2022, he began training for the National Guard. We weren’t talking at the time, but he tried contacting me several times via friends, family, other accounts, etc. I eventually received a message from him via a friend’s account and decided to exchange messages with him from his own account. He told me about the National Guard, how challenging training was for him, going home on weekends, etc. Side note: I’m very proud of him for joining the National Guard. His life didn’t have much direction, and I know he was miserable. He’s expressed relief, happiness, finally being filled with pride.

Moving on… we started exchanging messages each weekend beginning the first week of December 2022. The conversations were just casual… I had a wall up and refused to be vulnerable. I gave in at some point, without persuasion from him. I can’t even blame him for anything at that point.

I want to share more details, but long story short… he’s been in training since the end of August 2022. Training will supposedly end in March 2023. He goes home on weekends and says he can’t use his phone during the week. He usually gets home on a Friday afternoon (his time) and leaves Sunday morning (his time). He told me yesterday we can’t be together. He said he shouldn’t even be communicating with me because I’m a foreigner (American). I’m not saying I would do this BUT I took the discussion to another level because I wanted to know how he’d respond. I told him I would renounce my citizenship, become an expat, etc. just to be with him. He basically said it would be impossible. There are more details, but I’m kind of looking for some type of response ASAP. My anxiety is through the roof with this one.

Again, thank you.

None of us needed any advice, our gut feeling told us not to trust but we did it anyway. The lesson I've learned is easy and so simple to do. The moment you question should be the same moment you end whatever it is you are doubting. Your story scream RUNNNNN! but if you want to play with him, I can give you great advice. Just remember many on here do not like that I'm playing with love rats, so it will be our secret. LOL

 

[LetGo]

The only skills they have is being a little knobhead
Thats a proffesion only Tunisian rats are skilled with .
No brains No sense No intelligence No respect
Little zibibis little legs big head big hands and lack off looks and hair after 28 !!!!!

You forgot the other skill they so brilliantly possess. They love coffee (my God they spend so much time at the coffee place) they love to send Dick pictures as if theirs were made of gold. LOL

 

[Moonshine]

You forgot the other skill they so brilliantly possess. They love coffee (my God they spend so much time at the coffee place) they love to send Dick pictures as if theirs were made of gold. LOL

1 coffee in 5 hours haha
Habibi I have no more Dinas u send me
Errgghh no !!!