Hello, I'm new here and can I just say what an eye-opener this site is, AND very helpful for women like me who know very little about Tunisia, but who have become involved in some way with a Tunisian man. I'd like to ask if you think it's common to find rats on dating sites that require a fee, like match.com? I joined about 2 months ago (separated last year after 20 year marriage) just to see how things went. About 2 weeks ago a Tunisian guy from Sousse sent me a lovely, well written email via match.com and so I sent a polite reply. I pointed out that I'm 11 years older than him & have a young child, but he replied again, so we've been chatting via the match.com website, and this week via MSN. He is well educated (has a masters and PhD) doesn't work in tourism & speaks 5 languages (so he tells me). He hasn't asked me for money, and I looked him up on pipl.com (thanks to reading about it here) and have found nothing bad, only a myspace account which is not used. The info on that regarding his education, job etc matches what he has said on match.com. I like him very much, but the only thing that I think is odd is that he wants me to visit him ASAP to see if we 'click', as he says he is not into playing games, he's not into one night stands,he is looking for a long term relationship and that we could spend 10 years chatting online and still not know whether we suit each other (hmmmm) I asked him why he doesn't want a Tunisian woman...he said that a lot of them only want men with lots of money (?) So I said 'well, you must be able to meet plenty of British tourists in Sousse?'. He says he doesn't go out in the tourist areas and he works such long hours. Also, he wanted to try match .com as his friend met his wife on it.He does say in his match.com profile that he is very idealistic and spontaneous, so I'm thinking it might just be his personality, but to be honest I think it's unreasonable to expect me to fly out to a strange country on my own, at my own expense so soon, on the off-chance that we 'click'. So I did a bit of Googling for Tunisia & found some hotel reviews which said that some hotels are full of older european women with their young male 'friends', and then I found this site and read about all the problems...and I'm starting to wonder if he is a fledgling rat or just a nice guy who is a bit too idealistic. We had an email argument last night as a couple of times he has flounced offline when I have been reluctant to commit to visiting. He said there was a storm two nights ago when we were talking on MSN via webcam, and it knocked out all the communications and that is why he went offline & hasn't been able to text to let me know...(hmmm). And he is VERY UPSET AND HURT that I think he might be one of those CHEAP NASTY MEN ( i told him my worries about getting hassled as a single women out there. I just don't know what to believe. Part of me feels like throwing caution to the wind and just flying out there, as he is attractive and well spoken, has a decent job...and if it doesn't come to anything, at least I'll have had a holiday, which i could really do with after the rubbish 12 months I've just had. But after reading about all the hassle women get there, and how the men prey on single women, logic tells me I would be mad to do that. Any thoughts welcome?