She did, but no doubt AFTER a lot of emotional (and probably financial) damage had occurred. Well I hope her so called friends, aka enablers, are there for her now, as we were at the start. I absolutely CANNOT get my head round rat survivors actively encouraging another woman to walk into the same destruction. I mean seriously, what is this? Why would you wish to see another woman destroyed the same way you were? Why would you not beg, cry, advise, scream....do everything in your power to save her from your hell? I do this for strangers, the majority of us members do....so I would certainly do it for a friend! Shelly, wherever you are, whatever you are doing....never, ever feel embarrassed to come here for support. At some point, we all believed our man was different, we were all Amiga.....so there is no judgement here, and no offense taken at your anger. I know that in that first fake year with Houssem, I would have felt the same as you did.....ain't no way on earth I would have believed he was a rat I would love to see you back here, Shelly....not for details, but to see you getting the laughter and support I received in abundance, after the rat I loved destroyed me.