Of course. I agree. It is just my nature that I do not like to see us women suffering for a long time. My dad once saw my teary when a nasty boy was violent at school . He took me to the garden and said : ''And now I will teach you how to fight." Kick here, fingers in his nostrils.".I will spear you the rest. I remained like that to my own horror.Haha, Masha....I knew your intent was healthy, it was just worded badly
You've been here for a long time, are incredibly bezness savvy....so we'll just blame the language barrier here
I just felt that for potential future victims, it was important we stressed that the damage is bad, recovery is grim...and rats are not like other men. In fact, in my opinion....they are not men
Me too, but the key to that is education....which we are all striving hard (and taking a lot of abuse) to succeed at.I really believe that if women are strong and crafty players all rats will shrivel up.
Oh my God.....that made me cry!Of course. I agree. It is just my nature that I do not like to see us women suffering for a long time. My dad once saw my teary when a nasty boy was violent at school . He took me to the garden and said : ''And now I will teach you how to fight." Kick here, fingers in his nostrils.".I will spear you the rest. I remained like that to my own horror.My life motto is : trust only your ass cause it is always behind you and my favourite book is : Why do men love bitches''. I really believe that if women are strong and crafty players all rats will shrivel up. I like this TED talk.
I'm a survivor of a Tunisian Love Rat and hell no, I'm not here to fight for humanitarian rights or terrorism in toto. I'm here to help victims of Tunisian love rats according to their needs . I think that's what the TLR forum is about. I do worry about "PC", we all should. I'm here for the victims and don't mind at all if it turns out to be an uncomfortable process, challenging, and at some times exhausting and painfully emotionalI agree with the brutal honesty part. I have to say I really admire feminist Muslims right now who are working to combat the patriarchy in Arabic countries and religious extremism. I really connect that with the men who agree to bezness. They have no respect for women, and it's founded in concepts and ideas that demand to be challenged and exposed. Muslim feminists are really amazing to watch and you can find a lot of their materials online. There are feminists fighting in patriarchy in Saudi Arabia, right now. Men and women. Some have been imprisoned.
I am a fundamentalist Christian who admires Muslim feminists! And, I support women's rights. So, when we talk about the topic of terrorism, I don't think it needs to be a dividing thing, because there are many Muslims out there trying to fight patriarchy and terrorism (and things like bezness), and there are Christian women fighting against it, too - who are being brutally honest about it. Sometimes, we are completely fighting each other, and I think that's o.k.! I'd like to believe something will result from hacking away at this stuff and exposing it.
There are ex Muslims, athiests, Christians and all other religious groups in Arabic countries, as well as the LGBTQ, and other minorities. There are orthodox Jews and orthodox Muslims occupying similar territories every day. Some hate each other brutally, and some do not. And, here we are on the outskirts afraid to talk, at all. The most impoverished and restricted minorities (of course women) in Arabic countries admire us and look to people in democratic countries for solutions. They are expecting us to think about their suffering and lack of freedoms. We are victims here, but we are also representing other victims.
When you speak honestly it encourages others to fight for freedom, identify corruption, identify flaws, identify themselves and their own feelings and emotions, judge crime, punish it, and combat against radicalism and other kinds of evil in our communities. So, don't stop speaking and don't worry about being "PC" and don't buy into the fact that everyone is a racist and that we need to live in fear - there is absolutely a way to talk about the worst political, religious, and cultural issues, get facts straight, and be there for other victims (even if it's an uncomfortable process, challenging, and at some times exhausting and painfully emotional).
This gave me life. I say the same thing it gets tight, but its right. As uncomfortable as it was for me to admit that I got bamboozled by 2 rats, I needed to speak my truth.I'm here for the victims and don't mind at all if it turns out to be an uncomfortable process, challenging, and at some times exhausting and painfully emotional
Our rats were so much alike! I remember being frightened by his thinking, and his secretive, silent, dark side. Now I know, he had other victims on the side, but listening to those scary sounding imams worried me. It was in Arabic so I did not understand, but he faithfully listened to that crap!This is what I believe the situation to be with my rat...he wanted the money, not the martyr status.
Like AmberHeart's rat, I also believe my rat would be too cowardly to strap a bomb to himself....he himself happily boasted that he only hurts women and children, as can be seen on a screenshot in his main thread.
But on the other hand, he is mentally deranged, desperate...and I believe could be easily swayed. He is the kind of person that would be a dream to a terrorist organisation.
He had no fear of death, said that his life here was just a pathway to the next life, the ultimate life in Jannah he said we have to get used to terrorist attacks (also on a screenshot on his thread)...so I really just don't know with him....I can't write anything off really....but I was definitely leaving, he frightened me dreadful in so many ways.
I felt exactly the same way! It sure took me a very long time to recover, but I’m so thankful that I finally made it through! I’m a rat survivor! Never again though! I figure anyday, Abdelhak’s ugly mug will show up on here again from another victim! I can not imagine living my entire existence as a con artist! Pathetic bunch of idiot morons! It’s so nice to be really free from that piece of garbage!Despite all that.....when I understood the truth: His lies, deception, betrayal, the complicit family and friends.....and the reason why.....it cut like a knife...it hurt like hell..... even though I didn't even like him or want him anymore.
The victims and survivors here don't hide their scary stuff, as far as they can, without being abused by their rats. Everything else is done here in PMs. I see your situation no more complicated then others. The members speak their minds here and that is as it should beI respect what you do, Heidi. I’m just saying basically that I’m not hiding in my rat’s closet filled with scary stuff, shame, dolls, and harissa, anymore. I know my situation is complicated and differs, a little. But, I see other victims respond to the stories here. It makes me happy that other victims respond to the honesty.