I don’t know if I’m being played or if he’s genuinely such a nice person

[Plantsandsuch]

Oh I see lol. My bad, I've been wondering...

I'm afraid to say those ruses are no good, you're never going to beat a rat (if he is one) at their own game.
You're looking for more evidence that he's genuine but to be honest all what you've found doesn't amount to much because we're going to have to take his word for it.
The point still stands that he has a nonimmigrant visa and that means no option to work in the US. I guess those visas don't need too much paperwork but he had to prove some ties to his home country.
His idea to work in the US is most likely a pipe dream without a spouse in the US. And while you may be of no use to him if he's married, in that case he's already lied to you about being single.

This is all so very true.. I think my issue is that I trust someone until given a reason not to. But I’m definitely guarding my heart for a while on this one. From speaking with some of the other workers on the cruise they said the only way for them to be approved for this type of visa was to get an acceptance letter and turn it in when applying for the visa to show that you already have a job offer. He didn’t say anything about this to me, but some of the other employees did, so maybe the same thing? I’m honestly not too sure. I’m going to keep digging for Info on my own, but if I come across anything I’ll be sure to report back!

 

[Sabrina]

This is all so very true.. I think my issue is that I trust someone until given a reason not to. But I’m definitely guarding my heart for a while on this one. From speaking with some of the other workers on the cruise they said the only way for them to be approved for this type of visa was to get an acceptance letter and turn it in when applying for the visa to show that you already have a job offer. He didn’t say anything about this to me, but some of the other employees did, so maybe the same thing? I’m honestly not too sure. I’m going to keep digging for Info on my own, but if I come across anything I’ll be sure to report back!

He not only need a job offer he has to get a work visa more then likely from the offer of the people that want to hire him believe me. I once approached a company next to where I work that works on heavy air and heater components this is what my rat wanted to go to school for but of course “I caused him not to go” SMH but the guy said it would be to much paperwork at their expense. So doubtful a cafe is going to go to that extent or any company such as the one I’m talking about since he went to school for mechanical stuff since he is not even working in that field now. You are his only way to the USA….. we all were their cash machine or their ticket out of Tunisia

 

[Plantsandsuch]

He not only need a job offer he has to get a work visa more then likely from the offer of the people that want to hire him believe me. I once approached a company next to where I work that works on heavy air and heater components this is what my rat wanted to go to school for but of course “I caused him not to go” SMH but the guy said it would be to much paperwork at their expense. So doubtful a cafe is going to go to that extent or any company such as the one I’m talking about since he went to school for mechanical stuff since he is not even working in that field now. You are his only way to the USA….. we all were their cash machine or their ticket out of Tunisia

Thanks for telling me that! I didn’t know that, but he hasn’t asked me for money or anything yet. He said once his contract is over for the ship he goes back to Tunisia.. he really hypes the place up to me, and he asked me if if want to come visit him while he’s home. Just out of curiosity to see what he’d say I told him I wish I could but it’s so expensive for me to fly there. He asked me how much and I told him $1,100.. he then said “I could give you the money or book the ticket for you if you really would come” and I said I couldn’t accept his money because he works hard for it and he said “I really don’t care about the money. It’s not about money, I want to see you and show you my country, and show you how beautiful it is.” If he’s trying to fool me he’s doing a damn good job

 

[Yvonne]

Thanks for telling me that! I didn’t know that, but he hasn’t asked me for money or anything yet. He said once his contract is over for the ship he goes back to Tunisia.. he really hypes the place up to me, and he asked me if if want to come visit him while he’s home. Just out of curiosity to see what he’d say I told him I wish I could but it’s so expensive for me to fly there. He asked me how much and I told him $1,100.. he then said “I could give you the money or book the ticket for you if you really would come” and I said I couldn’t accept his money because he works hard for it and he said “I really don’t care about the money. It’s not about money, I want to see you and show you my country, and show you how beautiful it is.” If he’s trying to fool me he’s doing a damn good job

Don't be fooled by his gesture to pay for your ticket. It's an investment for him that gets payed back in the future if you will be together and get married . It screams visa to me but obviously it's your choice what to do with the advice given here
You need to read up about bezness. Google it. There are many stories here on the forum but also on the internet.
Bezness is a wide spread activity in North Africa.
Women who fell for the fake love from a love rat. These men are professionals.
What are your parents thinking about it all? Do they know about him?

Yvonne xxx

 

[Astarisborn]

Thanks for telling me that! I didn’t know that, but he hasn’t asked me for money or anything yet. He said once his contract is over for the ship he goes back to Tunisia.. he really hypes the place up to me, and he asked me if if want to come visit him while he’s home. Just out of curiosity to see what he’d say I told him I wish I could but it’s so expensive for me to fly there. He asked me how much and I told him $1,100.. he then said “I could give you the money or book the ticket for you if you really would come” and I said I couldn’t accept his money because he works hard for it and he said “I really don’t care about the money. It’s not about money, I want to see you and show you my country, and show you how beautiful it is.” If he’s trying to fool me he’s doing a damn good job

they have networks of friends, when there is an opportunity that will pay off in time they will get family members, affluent friends to chip in as that's
how they work and the rat will say he will pay them back after the investment pays off in other words in time he gets his investment back through you
I know this because this happened to me.
they are patient and it all seems legit on the surface, just because he gives you no reason and works hard or has not asked for money from you yet doesn't mean anything
why do they work quickly on marriage and relationships with foreigners?
Because they don't want to give you anytime to think it through and realize you are just a vessel to get them where they want.
you know this is how the rats say they are all poor and live a misery , but their close ties with family can be in the hundreds if one suffers the family, friends, village chip in
in so many ways, so their pitiful stories are to just get you to buy into their manipulation
You are so young and have so many better opportunities out there, these type lie so much to so many
you should never have to second guess yourself and jump into it without giving yourself more time to think about it logically.
It's your choice however, just telling you from our experiences and wish nothing but the best of intentions.
The rats will say we are jealous, bitter for telling the truth, and perhaps others will listen to that.
I envy no one going through the journey with a rat!
Just supporting you and trying to save others from making the same mistakes some of us did!
Wish you the best whatever you decide.

 

[Sabrina]

Thanks for telling me that! I didn’t know that, but he hasn’t asked me for money or anything yet. He said once his contract is over for the ship he goes back to Tunisia.. he really hypes the place up to me, and he asked me if if want to come visit him while he’s home. Just out of curiosity to see what he’d say I told him I wish I could but it’s so expensive for me to fly there. He asked me how much and I told him $1,100.. he then said “I could give you the money or book the ticket for you if you really would come” and I said I couldn’t accept his money because he works hard for it and he said “I really don’t care about the money. It’s not about money, I want to see you and show you my country, and show you how beautiful it is.” If he’s trying to fool me he’s doing a damn good job

I don’t know about booking the the flight but I know he can’t send you the money unless he is paid in some way besides Tunisian dinars. And we all have heard about them wanting to see their country. Yes it’s very expensive to fly there from USA last time I went was 2018 I waited till last minute so it was close to 2000 dollars, that and then I had to pay for rent food everything! Him being older hopefully he does have money saved and wouldn’t allow you to pay for all that. Again we don’t know this guy or his situation we just know what we went thru. So just consider all before making any life decisions.

 

[Astarisborn]

I don’t know about booking the the flight but I know he can’t send you the money unless he is paid in some way besides Tunisian dinars. And we all have heard about them wanting to see their country. Yes it’s very expensive to fly there from USA last time I went was 2018 I waited till last minute so it was close to 2000 dollars, that and then I had to pay for rent food everything! Him being older hopefully he does have money saved and wouldn’t allow you to pay for all that. Again we don’t know this guy or his situation we just know what we went thru. So just consider all before making any life decisions.

Whatever it is, it is exhausting to keep up with the rat, at least some of us who experienced
a rat for ourselves know the exhaustion it its to just see them, keep up with their demands like they were the boss of us
and it never ends by the time you are done with them you feel like you have been through a war zone
for years.
If we were to follow all the money we spent, time wasted and our mental health deterioration its much worst
than we even realize, what it really costs us in the long run for a nothing to offer rat!
All I know is there is so much better choices we could have made in other people
and what a major waste of our time.

 

[Imj]

Whatever it is, it is exhausting to keep up with the rat, at least some of us who experienced
a rat for ourselves know the exhaustion it its to just see them, keep up with their demands
and it never ends by the time you are done with them you feel like you have been through a war zone
for years.
All I know is there is so much better choices we could have made in other people
and what a major waste of our time.

And the exhaustion of mind games and lies
The lack of sleep from the stress and worry
I certainly could of put my money to much better use, always putting him and his family first was a big mistake
In 5 years I never knew the real him. In the last 6 days I very much know the real him

 

[Astarisborn]

And the exhaustion of mind games and lies
The lack of sleep from the stress and worry
I certainly could of put my money to much better use, always putting him and his family first was a big mistake
In 5 years I never knew the real him. In the last 6 days I very much know the real him

I know how you feel and I have been there its like a post traumatic response
Even after you leave a rat, its like they find a way to control your life
All you can do is rise above it, ignore, block and delete and I know its hard
They make you out to be crazy and everything else bad because you set
boundaries that they should never had crossed
If they were white hearted men as they say they were and loved
with their great love which they said is all they needed to live LOL
why did they have high expectations from anyone else when
they themselves can't meet those high expectations?
when you end it and its not possible anymore to tolerate the BS! they call you out for being what they are
selfish, materialistic and lazy
all they did was wait and have their hands out!
this is the extreme narcissism of the rats , calling others out
for what they actually do and say

 

[Sabrina]

And the exhaustion of mind games and lies
The lack of sleep from the stress and worry
I certainly could of put my money to much better use, always putting him and his family first was a big mistake
In 5 years I never knew the real him. In the last 6 days I very much know the real him

All the money!!! And time! Yours came about fast and glad you decided to leave it. If only you had known earlier

 

[Sabrina]

I know how you feel and I have been there its like a post traumatic response
Even after you leave a rat, its like they find a way to control your life
All you can do is rise above it, ignore, block and delete and I know its hard
They make you out to be crazy and everything else bad because you set
boundaries that they should never had crossed
If they were white hearted men as they say they were and loved
with their great love which they said is all they needed to live LOL
why did they have high expectations from anyone else when
they themselves can't meet those high expectations?
when you end it and its not possible anymore to tolerate the BS! they call you out for being what they are
selfish, materialistic and lazy
all they did was wait and have their hands out!
this is the extreme narcissism of the rats , calling others out
for what they actually do and say

They gotta blame it on someone and we are the target…they never do wrong lol

 

[Imj]

All the money!!! And time! Yours came about fast and glad you decided to leave it. If only you had known earlier

There had been times before I caught him lying, he would always talk me round
It was this time something still didn’t feel right so I pushed and pushed
I saw all the messages. Saw the linked fb accounts and knew it was bigger than I could of thought, or had even wanted to believe
I made my decision while angry to be done
It’s not easy and I am really struggling, despite the nasty messages and threats I’m trying not to crumble x

 

[Sabrina]

There had been times before I caught him lying, he would always talk me round
It was this time something still didn’t feel right so I pushed and pushed
I saw all the messages. Saw the linked fb accounts and knew it was bigger than I could of thought, or had even wanted to believe
I made my decision while angry to be done
It’s not easy and I am really struggling, despite the nasty messages and threats I’m trying not to crumble x

Just stay strong because they are very deceitful they tend to hide so much while talking so sweet to us and manipulating us to believe they are right and never did anything wrong when it’s right in front of us! If you had not made the decision he would keep on lying covering up! Consider yourself lucky, because you are strong enough not to take it. Staying in the relationship after you found out it was for sure a lie is exhausting you pick thru all they say then you become a PI investigating! They are a worthless joke

 

[Imj]

Just stay strong because they are very deceitful they tend to hide so much while talking so sweet to us and manipulating us to believe they are right and never did anything wrong when it’s right in front of us! If you had not made the decision he would keep on lying covering up! Consider yourself lucky, because you are strong enough not to take it. Staying in the relationship after you found out it was for sure a lie is exhausting you pick thru all they say then you become a PI investigating! They are a worthless joke

I don’t feel strong, I’m falling apart
But after having so many of his lies, even when showed him proof, I knew he was a rat and not just suspected. I stayed longer than I should that’s for sure.
got caught up with the mind games, the sad pictures, haven’t got connection on my phone blah blah blah
If I hadn’t of done it then when I was so angry I know I would of calmed down and accepted it again
Did not take long for the verbal abuse and threats to start from the family

 

[Sabrina]

I don’t feel strong, I’m falling apart
But after having so many of his lies, even when showed him proof, I knew he was a rat and not just suspected. I stayed longer than I should that’s for sure.
got caught up with the mind games, the sad pictures, haven’t got connection on my phone blah blah blah
If I hadn’t of done it then when I was so angry I know I would of calmed down and accepted it again
Did not take long for the verbal abuse and threats to start from the family

Believe it or not every day will get better! May take a while to be honest but you are so much better off. We are all here to support you!

 

[Plantsandsuch]

Don't be fooled by his gesture to pay for your ticket. It's an investment for him that gets payed back in the future if you will be together and get married . It screams visa to me but obviously it's your choice what to do with the advice given here
You need to read up about bezness. Google it. There are many stories here on the forum but also on the internet.
Bezness is a wide spread activity in North Africa.
Women who fell for the fake love from a love rat. These men are professionals.
What are your parents thinking about it all? Do they know about him?

Yvonne xxx

I will definitely look it up. My parents know about him from the cruise as they all met him too, they liked him a lot and felt like he was a good guy. But I haven’t told them that I’m still talking to him.. I’m afraid they won’t be too happy about the age gap.

 

[Plantsandsuch]

Don't be fooled by his gesture to pay for your ticket. It's an investment for him that gets payed back in the future if you will be together and get married . It screams visa to me but obviously it's your choice what to do with the advice given here
You need to read up about bezness. Google it. There are many stories here on the forum but also on the internet.
Bezness is a wide spread activity in North Africa.
Women who fell for the fake love from a love rat. These men are professionals.
What are your parents thinking about it all? Do they know about him?

Yvonne xxx

I will definitely look it up. My parents know about him from the cruise as they all met him too, they liked him a lot and felt like he was a good guy. But I haven’t told them that I’m still talking to him..

 

[Astarisborn]

I will definitely look it up. My parents know about him from the cruise as they all met him too, they liked him a lot and felt like he was a good guy. But I haven’t told them that I’m still talking to him..

He will be everything to everybody at first, they are very good at faking
everything.
You know when someone tells you they got your back and says they will support you so soon after meeting
you have to ask yourself what does this person want from me?
Like its just empty words, remember if this is what this one is saying now
when you first meet him, do you trust someone at their word
for all you know you could be saying it to everyone he meets
to just network to better his life
but what do I know, it takes awhile to see what someone really is
not what they pretend to be

 

[Yvonne]

They liked him as a person who served them on vacation, helpfull, kind... But will they accept him as a boyfriend /future husband? The age gap is another fact and aslo the fact he's Muslim?
Here's a useful link about bezness

Tunisia Love 2020: What is Bezness - Love and marriage fraud in Tunisia, Love business. Fake love in realtionships with tunisian lovers

What is Bezness? Love fraud, Marriage fraud, Immigration fraud, tunisian lover, gits and visa

www.tunisia-love.com

Yvonne xxx

 

[Sabrina]

I will definitely look it up. My parents know about him from the cruise as they all met him too, they liked him a lot and felt like he was a good guy. But I haven’t told them that I’m still talking to him..

Or you can go to Tunisian love and see how many couples survived… lol

 

[Moonshine]

Thanks for telling me that! I didn’t know that, but he hasn’t asked me for money or anything yet. He said once his contract is over for the ship he goes back to Tunisia.. he really hypes the place up to me, and he asked me if if want to come visit him while he’s home. Just out of curiosity to see what he’d say I told him I wish I could but it’s so expensive for me to fly there. He asked me how much and I told him $1,100.. he then said “I could give you the money or book the ticket for you if you really would come” and I said I couldn’t accept his money because he works hard for it and he said “I really don’t care about the money. It’s not about money, I want to see you and show you my country, and show you how beautiful it is.” If he’s trying to fool me he’s doing a damn good job

He knows the offer off money will be turned down
Dont worry my rat offered to pay for me I said how will you do it
He said sell a sheep
I said OK then
But then He had to destroy the sheep as they caught a disease later on he said they were stolen !!
So be careful money most rats will never part with any money
A tiny percentage will if they know that the gain will be far more than what they gave
U have to be one step ahead off them.

 

[Moonshine]

I don’t feel strong, I’m falling apart
But after having so many of his lies, even when showed him proof, I knew he was a rat and not just suspected. I stayed longer than I should that’s for sure.
got caught up with the mind games, the sad pictures, haven’t got connection on my phone blah blah blah
If I hadn’t of done it then when I was so angry I know I would of calmed down and accepted it again
Did not take long for the verbal abuse and threats to start from the family

They mostly fake suicides to get attention
Yes they haven't got connection but free WiFi in all coffees and data 1 dina!
I never got any abuse from family but from ratty yes every day till I thought I was going to get in that phone somehow and strangle the ****** crazy rat,
I will die i will kill myself that was another crazy moment
They will use emotional blackmail to get whatever they can
But to use suicide is so low so fucked up In head
But they will do anything for a dina .

 

[Moonshine]

I don’t post much.
I didn’t want to listen to all on here as I thought (like many) mine was different.
He wasn’t!!!
His fb was very normal, nothing to show red flags.
His family were not pushy, no love bombing.
Because of reading in here I was careful with leaving money about.
I heard the usual age is just a number. Of course my will accept you, they love you like family already, got called sis etc…
It’s all a lie.
it’s only when I really pushed and he got annoyed with me that he said if you don’t believe me have my fb log in and check for these lies
Well I didn’t see other girls etc (yes could of been deleted)
He knew I couldn’t read Tunisian so I took screen shots of his conversations and got them translated.
That’s when I found out the truth!!!
Please be careful.
I’ve had the weekend from hell twisting it all back onto me even tho I had proof of his lies in black and white.
The whole family will lie for them and back them up again even with proof.
Then they get nasty.
I’m building up courage to post in media because if I can stop just 1 woman falling for his game then it’s worth my pain x

They think they are invincible
Giving u their messages in fb
And he didn’t think u could screen shot and translate
These rats are stupid behind belive.
They turn a blind eye to what their son / sons are doing and they know its so wrong
But blame u for the way the son is
Although he's in his 30s /40s
U are to blame because he screamed stole abused attacked lied cheated raped the woman is always at fault even their own woman are blamed
And ratty would say u are woman I am man
Big difference
So the last time I spoke before blocking was
I am woman u man I have choice to accept your behaviour or not
I refuse to accept it anymore
His behaviour got worse over the years
His demands were way too .much
And I was sickened by his lies and me always paying everything
You will tire off it all
My mornings are peaceful now ,his voice screaming in my head is no more
My day I can do as I please go where I want spend what I want
Work without constant Interuptions
And my nights are heaven quiet peaceful and no more abuse arguments screaming in your face and constant demands for mg / wu visits demanded goods
No more listening to suicide attempts threats demands lies .
The best advice i can give is blocking the rats keep them blocked
Peace harmony tranquility bliss .

 

[Imj]

They think they are invincible
Giving u their messages in fb
And he didn’t think u could screen shot and translate
These rats are stupid behind belive.
They turn a blind eye to what their son / sons are doing and they know its so wrong
But blame u for the way the son is
Although he's in his 30s /40s
U are to blame because he screamed stole abused attacked lied cheated raped the woman is always at fault even their own woman are blamed
And ratty would say u are woman I am man
Big difference
So the last time I spoke before blocking was
I am woman u man I have choice to accept your behaviour or not
I refuse to accept it anymore
His behaviour got worse over the years
His demands were way too .much
And I was sickened by his lies and me always paying everything
You will tire off it all
My mornings are peaceful now ,his voice screaming in my head is no more
My day I can do as I please go where I want spend what I want
Work without constant Interuptions
And my nights are heaven quiet peaceful and no more abuse arguments screaming in your face and constant demands for mg / wu visits demanded goods
No more listening to suicide attempts threats demands lies .
The best advice i can give is blocking the rats keep them blocked
Peace harmony tranquility bliss .

He thought I was looking for other women so probably didn’t think for one second I would screen shot other stuff and find his multiple fb accounts.
The endless lies are just crazy.
It’s only been just over a week I found it all out so I’m still very raw, in shock, hurt and angry.
I would not of posted in the media without proof he is a rat so I don’t feel guilty about that.
I’m left trying to fill a void and get over a fake relationship and he can carry on like nothing has happened and continue with women he may already have or start looking for a new victim and I can’t do anything to stop it or stop them getting hurt.
I blocked them all on social media so none of them can message me nasty messages any more.
Those that are real rats are cruel, nasty, lying, mentally fucked up low life’s.
Can only hope Karma sees fit

 

[Sabrina]

He thought I was looking for other women so probably didn’t think for one second I would screen shot other stuff and find his multiple fb accounts.
The endless lies are just crazy.
It’s only been just over a week I found it all out so I’m still very raw, in shock, hurt and angry.
I would not of posted in the media without proof he is a rat so I don’t feel guilty about that.
I’m left trying to fill a void and get over a fake relationship and he can carry on like nothing has happened and continue with women he may already have or start looking for a new victim and I can’t do anything to stop it or stop them getting hurt.
I blocked them all on social media so none of them can message me nasty messages any more.
Those that are real rats are cruel, nasty, lying, mentally fucked up low life’s.
Can only hope Karma sees fit

You are really brave to block him and everyone else because they expect us to give in and I know I did and gave mine chances after chance to stop the lying! So consider yourself self very strong to keep these folks out of your life they are no good! Karma will get these guys one day, you just don’t treat people like this

 

[Imj]

You are really brave to block him and everyone else because they expect us to give in and I know I did and gave mine chances after chance to stop the lying! So consider yourself self very strong to keep these folks out of your life they are no good! Karma will get these guys one day, you just don’t treat people like this

He had chances before when I knew he was lying but he always said he wouldn’t again, but when you see in black and white you were nothing but a plan, to be used for money and sex, a fake relationship for their gain, is there any other way to deal with it?
It’s not been easy and I have to keep busy to stop myself from unblocking but I know that’s pointless as he doesn’t feel the same as i do on any level. How can he when it was all lies? He had no feelings or emotions for me and that is fact.
I just have to process and heal from it all.
I can’t and won’t let him beat me on that part

 

[Sabrina]

He had chances before when I knew he was lying but he always said he wouldn’t again, but when you see in black and white you were nothing but a plan, to be used for money and sex, a fake relationship for their gain, is there any other way to deal with it?
It’s not been easy and I have to keep busy to stop myself from unblocking but I know that’s pointless as he doesn’t feel the same as i do on any level. How can he when it was all lies? He had no feelings or emotions for me and that is fact.
I just have to process and heal from it all.
I can’t and won’t let him beat me on that part

It’s so hard to imagine we were all in but as you saw otherwise it is very hurtful! I think you gave him enough chances just like we all did if they were serious they would’ve changed but I think for them lying is their life not ours! Just stay busy and keep in mind he hasn’t won this time, he’s used up all his chances. We are not naive and not to be messed with!

 

[Moonshine]

There had been times before I caught him lying, he would always talk me round
It was this time something still didn’t feel right so I pushed and pushed
I saw all the messages. Saw the linked fb accounts and knew it was bigger than I could of thought, or had even wanted to believe
I made my decision while angry to be done
It’s not easy and I am really struggling, despite the nasty messages and threats I’m trying not to crumble x

We are all here for u U can private message anyone
Just don't give out personal details
Shout scream we will listen
Just think u think its bad now if u had gone any longer it would have been your worst nightmare
U got out now because u saw the truth
Your a survivor not a victim
Think off all he did it will make u angry but u moved on you left the liar behind
He didn't love you (sorry I really am ) he loved what he could gain from u your worth was his gain
It wasn't his heart it was his greedy hands .
Your suffering is now over relax take a few days off treat yourself be kind to you
The rat is beneath you hold your head high
Become your own queen
The rat will always be a pauper.

 

[Imj]

We are all here for u U can private message anyone
Just don't give out personal details
Shout scream we will listen
Just think u think its bad now if u had gone any longer it would have been your worst nightmare
U got out now because u saw the truth
Your a survivor not a victim
Think off all he did it will make u angry but u moved on you left the liar behind
He didn't love you (sorry I really am ) he loved what he could gain from u your worth was his gain
It wasn't his heart it was his greedy hands .
Your suffering is now over relax take a few days off treat yourself be kind to you
The rat is beneath you hold your head high
Become your own queen
The rat will always be a pauper.

I am angry, but I’m also hurt, confused and still in shock.
It’s only been 9 days and they’ve been the hardest 9 days I’ve ever had.
I fell in love nearly 5 years ago. I lived him, I do love him, except I love who I thought he was, who he pretended to be and wanted me to think he was.
I know now he never loved me, not at all and that’s hard to deal with.
I know I was only a pawn in their game to benefit him and the family.
I’ve been going to work like nothing has happened as how can you explain to people what he has done when I dont even get it myself.
my head is ready explode and my heart is already done in
I’ve been keeping busy but it still doesn’t stop the mind from over thinking.
I’ve managed to return some of the things I had ready to take next visit and sell some of the other stuff. I have enough for a nice new phone lol
I’ve removed all pictures from sight, removed anything in the home that has come from Tunisia or reminds me of him.
But I can still hear his voice. Hobi, Habibi, Gelbi, Nhebek barcha barcha, and that’s when I break, that’s the only time I allow myself to cry.

 

[Sabrina]

I am angry, but I’m also hurt, confused and still in shock.
It’s only been 9 days and they’ve been the hardest 9 days I’ve ever had.
I fell in love nearly 5 years ago. I lived him, I do love him, except I love who I thought he was, who he pretended to be and wanted me to think he was.
I know now he never loved me, not at all and that’s hard to deal with.
I know I was only a pawn in their game to benefit him and the family.
I’ve been going to work like nothing has happened as how can you explain to people what he has done when I dont even get it myself.
my head is ready explode and my heart is already done in
I’ve been keeping busy but it still doesn’t stop the mind from over thinking.
I’ve managed to return some of the things I had ready to take next visit and sell some of the other stuff. I have enough for a nice new phone lol
I’ve removed all pictures from sight, removed anything in the home that has come from Tunisia or reminds me of him.
But I can still hear his voice. Hobi, Habibi, Gelbi, Nhebek barcha barcha, and that’s when I break, that’s the only time I allow myself to cry.

This is so brand new to you! When I think back I’d like to think he felt something at least but I’m not sure honestly speaking from the heart! Why all the lies?? And in your case why all the messages you found. And different accts, they all probably had. I know it hurts but you have done right by getting rid of anything that reminds you of him and all the gifts he was expecting!? We know how it feels it will never stop but it will. I did this got rid of all deleted everything blocked everywhere so he couldn’t get a hold of me but also so I would not troll or look at his Acct. The fact that yours was so sudden I know mine dragged on and each time I would lose feelings, then one last chance but he blew it. So mine was more less planned not so sudden like yours. But it’s like how much can we take as humans? Hang in there