I need help!

Discussion in 'Online Rats' started by Katelynn Smith, Jul 29, 2018.

  1. Laura2014

    Laura2014 Well-Known Member

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    We should keep this post bumped because it really shows the true reality for many who go there for the first time, totally unprepared and having complete confidence in their on line stranger. She was very lucky to get away after two weeks, as we know, many were not so lucky. I hope @Katelynn Smith reads this post.
     
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  2. Amira

    Amira Well-Known Member

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    He has managed to achieve what he wanted to get a visa and the worst thing is that they are married so now he can squeeze into America unfortunately for her
     
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    Liona Well-Known Member

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    I remember her very good. She was writting here a long before her desired trip for meeting a rat ( it was planned Paris first). She has been adviced not to do this, but it finished as it finished. Thanks God she came back home alive.
     
  4. Heidi

    Heidi The Sleuth

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    No, he can't. Being married to an american citizen does not get you a visa automaticly ;)
     
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  5. Big Bang Theory

    Big Bang Theory Well-Known Member

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    Absolutely agree. And also try to make contact with expats or regular travelers to Tunisia (through facebook groups) who know their way arround and maybe speak some arabic. They can show you how to use public transport, how to get yourself a tunisian telephone number so you can make calls and access the internet and maybe help get you into a 'safe house' if necessary
     
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    Brasilgirl Well-Known Member

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    I just want to give her a big hug!
    I’m so releived she made it out safely!
    Such horrible despicable people! And the filth!
    I read her story and I think ‘That could have been me!’
     
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    Masha Well-Known Member

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    I keep thinking someone will suddenly write here '' Smile you are on Candid Camera''[​IMG]
     
  8. Amira

    Amira Well-Known Member

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    Good to hear :)
     
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  9. Masha

    Masha Well-Known Member

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    One more question should be asked according to FBI
    " Constantly ask yourself, how desperate are you? The more desperate to find someone, the easier it is for you to become a pawn in the scammers' game."
     
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  10. Big Bang Theory

    Big Bang Theory Well-Known Member

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    Katelynn hasn't logged on since this last post :(
    I fear he managed to talk her round in the imminent phone call :(
     
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  11. Laura2014

    Laura2014 Well-Known Member

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    I’ve been wondering about her too. It must have been difficult to read a lot of the responses. She came with some doubts about a man she was due to marry and had a lot of responses, 65 roughly. A lot to take in and would have exaggerated the doubts she already had. I hope she comes back.
     
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    Mango Chutney Well-Known Member

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    I hope Katelynn comes back too, but for her to trust us enough to return here, it's crucial we we are honest, that we point out red flags, that we don't pretty up that without doubt, both he and his mother are in on this scam together.
    There is no point in Katelynn coming here asking if she's right to have doubts, if we are gonna go softly softly, rather than saying what we see....that this whole mess screams bezness.
    Being abrupt now could be her saving grace.....it could prevent more severe emotional and financial damage if she decides not to meet him, paying out travel expenses and possibly the wedding and visa costs.
    These creatures damage our health and our finances.
    In these instances, the victim usually still goes anyway (like ShelleyCherif)....but at least they go armed with knowledge.
     
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    Brasilgirl Well-Known Member

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    I hope she does too.
    Seeing the light is like staring into the sun. You know what’s it’s doing, but it’s hard to see when you’re looking directly at it.
    I hope she takes the time to let it all sink in.
    Either way, we’ll be here for her.
     
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  14. Going for the limit

    Going for the limit Well-Known Member

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    To be honest i rarely comment because i dont want women who have red flags or doubts to think oh she is married to a tunisian so therfore not all tunisians are bad etc.
    I had to this time because from a married point of view his behaviour is not acceptable at all and .i know 100% my hubby would say the same.
     
  15. Heidi

    Heidi The Sleuth

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    Yes, I guess Katelynn told the rat about TLR, so he forbid her to read here anymore and like a good soon to be muslima, she supports his wishes :whistle:
     
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    Amira Well-Known Member

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    It is a katastrofe can not understand why she do that . He is not own her
     
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    I hope she changes her mind and comes back. She needs a place to voice her feelings no matter if she gets married to him or not.
     
  18. Heidi

    Heidi The Sleuth

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    Hi @Katelynn Smith, how are you :) I do hope that you will not marry the rat and still read here
     
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    Katelyn I hope you have not fallen in his trap Why should you marry an unknown man that you have only known through a dating page. You have also known for a short time to marry him. Tunisia is not a dream country, they have many laws that you do not know. If you are going to live with him then he will decide everything over you. Maybe even your finances. When something seems too good to be true, it's usually that
     
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    Amira Well-Known Member

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    You put your life at risk by seeing a man you've never met face to face if you're going to travel make sure to take a hotel so you have someone asking if something should happen
     
  21. AmberHeart

    AmberHeart Lady Amberheart of Gafsa

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    Always near airport, in case you need to leave fast you don’t find problems doing it. There are stories here of women who been kept like kidnapped and couldn’t find a way out nor a taxi...
     
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    Amira Well-Known Member

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    Never trust his family or friends neighbors etc they will not help you if anything happens. Fun with new cultures but it has a backside too. Many women is to naive about these guys
     
  23. Heidi

    Heidi The Sleuth

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    Hi @Katelynn Smith :) I see you visited our forum yesterday. I'll give it a last shot ;)

    Tunisian men have been known to target western women in online chat rooms, Facebook, etc. that often turn romantic and result in an invitation to travel to Tunisia. Once in Tunisia, a common scenario involves the man and his family pressuring the woman into marriage. His goal is to then have the woman submit a petition for his immigrant visa. Western women are urged to maintain caution if traveling to Tunisia to meet someone met online
     
  24. AmberHeart

    AmberHeart Lady Amberheart of Gafsa

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    My ex rats mom spoke to me two days before he posted he was engaged with a foreign girl, we had an argument cause I suggested to postpone our wedding and do it in my country since paperwork is easier ( tho reality was his ex girlfriend warned me he was still trying to convince her to go back to him, she showed me everything and broke my heart) they ask for all documents to be translated to French and notarized, so I suggested why don’t we have only the “religious ceremony” as a promise or formality for the legal wedding...he turned worse than ever of anger, we didn’t spoke about a week then his mother wanted to video chat with me, he was present and she cried too sayin oh I was waiting for you (summer) to come to Marry (rats name) we laughed and I told her the reasons yes I have my ticket and the plan isn’t over just to accomplish all your government requirements is very complicated to me (excuse to make a little more time and not marrying right away, had to make thing clear with him about all his lies and the ex) Four days later he had out of nowhere a Foreign girl as a fiancé. He told me later he met her days after he met me (a year and two months of relationship) and his mother was there playing this role, knowing he was promising both marriage, crying, saying oh you’re so beautiful and I love you. BS.
     
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  25. Laura2014

    Laura2014 Well-Known Member

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    Horrible experience. It’s very hard to convey to people the lengths they will go to without any hint of remorse or guilt. That says everything that his mother was still talking to you knowing he was engaged to someone else. They are all in-on the scam.
     

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