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AnnieAnon

Active Member
So here I am on the 7th year “anniversary” of knowing a rat. I blocked him today for what seems like the 1000th time but this time I am determined to finish this shit for good!! This is why I have decided to stop stalking the site in private and post the hell I have dealt with knowing this vile creature. I will not name him, as the last time I did somebody decided to run back and tell her husband who informed rat boy of everything that was said, but if this post can save even one person from the drama and heartache of dealing with these creatures, then it is very worth it.
On this day, 7years ago I met who I thought was a nice person, we talked constantly, he always wanted to know how I was, took interest in my life, would insist on falling asleep on the phone etc.
The lovey dovey stage didn’t last very long though, as 3 months later, woman contacted me to say rat boy was contacting her on Skype showing off his dirty zib! After bucket loads of tears and stories about jealous women trying to ruin his life, I forgave him.
I then discovered another lie, he told me he didn’t have facebook( we used to talk just by WhatsApp when we first met) I found his Facebook due to been nosey, the first time he asked me for money( because he needed to pay for his mothers hospital treatment) he provided the correct way to spell his name, I put the correct version into fb and boom there was his profile. I confronted him and asked why he had lied about not having fb, he told me he was married and his ex wife was jealous and made a lot of trouble for him on social media posting porn etc on his page, so he thought it was better to keep me hidden. Just to let you all know the maximum amount of time I was added to his fb was 5 days, he then deleted me and said I was too jealous to be allowed on his page. So in 7 years I was never on his Facebook, he then “closed” WhatsApp Bcos I would ask who he was talking to at 4 in the morning, so we have used messenger exclusively all these years.
Along came another drama, this time involving an ex gf and her friend claiming she was still sleeping with him, again tears and begging from him and his friends I stupidly went back to him.
This became the downfall as I lost a lot of trust in him, he would ask me to visit him and I wouldn’t go back to his country simply because I knew I was been taken for a fool, why I kept contact I still don’t know.
By this point I was a source of income, he would work and leave jobs simply because I was sending him more money than work paid him. The excuses came thick and fast no money for cigarettes, no money for food, electricity at home cut off living in darkness, sharing electricity via a wire with his neighbour, toothache, he had an accident needs money, had a fight needs money to pay police, oxygen mask for mum, cancer treatment for sister, money to go to university to improve his life, money to become a taxi driver, money to learn to drive and for the license!! So much money and I was sending it. I started reading on here and decided to start saying no, when I did this I saw his real face.. racist, horrible vermin! The more I said no the more he would call me vicious racist names! I refused to buy him a motorbike and a car I became the worst black bitch in the world! He would then threaten me and be abusive and call my mother bitch. He would then disappear for days giving me silent treatment or block me. Then came the women, not just tourists local women too, even his cousin, I was told by yet another profile that he was sleeping with his cousin! He would add all these girls to his fb and never allow me on there, they call us bitches but some of the worst whore behaviour I have ever witnessed was from Tunisian women and how they behaved with him. Possibly because at this point he could now drive and was taking the money I sent him to rent cars to visit different discos every week and buy clothes and fake shitty trainers.
In all the time that I knew rat boy there have always been women, his family have smiled in my face and waved knowing that rat boy has several other women on the go.
The biggest disrespect happened not to long ago, I remember the feeling of knowing that someone else was on the scene but was hidden, I kept asking him and he told me no I’m crazy there is no one, 3 days later he updated his fb with the new girl to state they were in a relationship. He heartlessly took my money to pay for the apartment for them and then blocked me.. karma was good though as weeks later their “relationship” was over and he returned back to me begging to take him back as “he couldn’t love her” and she was a bitch! He told me how she laughed when they were laying in bed and she shown him the message I wrote to her, he said when she was going to write back to me he told her never to write to me or say a bad word to me and it was then he wanted me back. I said I couldn’t take him back as he betrayed my trust and broke my heart all for a girl he knew for a few weeks, he told me she knew about me and still wanted to be with him in secret, he told her he was tired of waiting for me as I never came to him and he needed to improve his life and get to Europe, she went over to him and stayed with him all funded by me then returned home and dumped him. This was a Tunisian girl living in Europe( another vile heartless bitch)! After that I stupidly returned to him again after 2 months (pathetic) this time I did go to see him (with rose tinted glasses thinking everything would be fine) he promised me things would be different and we would make it work because we love each other! WRONG! 1 week later he was showing his face again, secretive, lies and abuse when I refuse to send money. When I send money he will be nice as long as I keep sending.
He expects money like it is a right for me to pay for his clothes money and cigarettes.
I recently left him for a period of 2 months and blocked him everywhere, he would get his friend to request me on Instagram but would never use his own profile ( I’m not allowed on there). He would send texts saying he will kill him self and begging me to come back as he loves me! Again after 2 months away from him I went back like an idiot, this time very different, all the begging he did to get me back, the minute I returned he ghosted me! He only will contact me after 8 in the morning and then only 3 messages throughout the day, nothing after 11pm at night. He now has WhatsApp again, and when asked when he started using it he got in a rage stating he can use whatever he wants! He video called me and I purposely took a photo he immediately turned off his camera and asked why I’m taking pictures! I asked him straight you are messing around with another woman again he constantly denies it and calls me crazy! I have been here before with him and know this behaviour!!
I would like to warn you if you have recently got involved with an almost 30 year old from sousse be very careful! He only wants to get to France especially! I have a feeling the woman he is involved with now is in France as when I returned he stated he wanted to see his life with me but if not he will go to France!! This was along the same lines of what he said when he was playing around with the Tunisian girl that lives in another European country!
I’m sorry for the long post but I’m tired of keeping this all inside, just yesterday he was sending me pictures asking if I still love him, when I said it’s clear he has another woman he then exploded and said 7 years of hell with me, I wasted his time and he needs to get to Europe and I say all shit to him the day before the “anniversary” then of course he was gone all night long. I found a message this morning saying good morning and decided to block him as I’ve had enough of the emotional abuse and the mental mess I have become wondering who it is he’s messing with behind closed doors.
 

AmberHeart

Lady Amberheart of Gafsa
So here I am on the 7th year “anniversary” of knowing a rat. I blocked him today for what seems like the 1000th time but this time I am determined to finish this shit for good!! This is why I have decided to stop stalking the site in private and post the hell I have dealt with knowing this vile creature. I will not name him, as the last time I did somebody decided to run back and tell her husband who informed rat boy of everything that was said, but if this post can save even one person from the drama and heartache of dealing with these creatures, then it is very worth it.
On this day, 7years ago I met who I thought was a nice person, we talked constantly, he always wanted to know how I was, took interest in my life, would insist on falling asleep on the phone etc.
The lovey dovey stage didn’t last very long though, as 3 months later, woman contacted me to say rat boy was contacting her on Skype showing off his dirty zib! After bucket loads of tears and stories about jealous women trying to ruin his life, I forgave him.
I then discovered another lie, he told me he didn’t have facebook( we used to talk just by WhatsApp when we first met) I found his Facebook due to been nosey, the first time he asked me for money( because he needed to pay for his mothers hospital treatment) he provided the correct way to spell his name, I put the correct version into fb and boom there was his profile. I confronted him and asked why he had lied about not having fb, he told me he was married and his ex wife was jealous and made a lot of trouble for him on social media posting porn etc on his page, so he thought it was better to keep me hidden. Just to let you all know the maximum amount of time I was added to his fb was 5 days, he then deleted me and said I was too jealous to be allowed on his page. So in 7 years I was never on his Facebook, he then “closed” WhatsApp Bcos I would ask who he was talking to at 4 in the morning, so we have used messenger exclusively all these years.
Along came another drama, this time involving an ex gf and her friend claiming she was still sleeping with him, again tears and begging from him and his friends I stupidly went back to him.
This became the downfall as I lost a lot of trust in him, he would ask me to visit him and I wouldn’t go back to his country simply because I knew I was been taken for a fool, why I kept contact I still don’t know.
By this point I was a source of income, he would work and leave jobs simply because I was sending him more money than work paid him. The excuses came thick and fast no money for cigarettes, no money for food, electricity at home cut off living in darkness, sharing electricity via a wire with his neighbour, toothache, he had an accident needs money, had a fight needs money to pay police, oxygen mask for mum, cancer treatment for sister, money to go to university to improve his life, money to become a taxi driver, money to learn to drive and for the license!! So much money and I was sending it. I started reading on here and decided to start saying no, when I did this I saw his real face.. racist, horrible vermin! The more I said no the more he would call me vicious racist names! I refused to buy him a motorbike and a car I became the worst black bitch in the world! He would then threaten me and be abusive and call my mother bitch. He would then disappear for days giving me silent treatment or block me. Then came the women, not just tourists local women too, even his cousin, I was told by yet another profile that he was sleeping with his cousin! He would add all these girls to his fb and never allow me on there, they call us bitches but some of the worst whore behaviour I have ever witnessed was from Tunisian women and how they behaved with him. Possibly because at this point he could now drive and was taking the money I sent him to rent cars to visit different discos every week and buy clothes and fake shitty trainers.
In all the time that I knew rat boy there have always been women, his family have smiled in my face and waved knowing that rat boy has several other women on the go.
The biggest disrespect happened not to long ago, I remember the feeling of knowing that someone else was on the scene but was hidden, I kept asking him and he told me no I’m crazy there is no one, 3 days later he updated his fb with the new girl to state they were in a relationship. He heartlessly took my money to pay for the apartment for them and then blocked me.. karma was good though as weeks later their “relationship” was over and he returned back to me begging to take him back as “he couldn’t love her” and she was a bitch! He told me how she laughed when they were laying in bed and she shown him the message I wrote to her, he said when she was going to write back to me he told her never to write to me or say a bad word to me and it was then he wanted me back. I said I couldn’t take him back as he betrayed my trust and broke my heart all for a girl he knew for a few weeks, he told me she knew about me and still wanted to be with him in secret, he told her he was tired of waiting for me as I never came to him and he needed to improve his life and get to Europe, she went over to him and stayed with him all funded by me then returned home and dumped him. This was a Tunisian girl living in Europe( another vile heartless bitch)! After that I stupidly returned to him again after 2 months (pathetic) this time I did go to see him (with rose tinted glasses thinking everything would be fine) he promised me things would be different and we would make it work because we love each other! WRONG! 1 week later he was showing his face again, secretive, lies and abuse when I refuse to send money. When I send money he will be nice as long as I keep sending.
He expects money like it is a right for me to pay for his clothes money and cigarettes.
I recently left him for a period of 2 months and blocked him everywhere, he would get his friend to request me on Instagram but would never use his own profile ( I’m not allowed on there). He would send texts saying he will kill him self and begging me to come back as he loves me! Again after 2 months away from him I went back like an idiot, this time very different, all the begging he did to get me back, the minute I returned he ghosted me! He only will contact me after 8 in the morning and then only 3 messages throughout the day, nothing after 11pm at night. He now has WhatsApp again, and when asked when he started using it he got in a rage stating he can use whatever he wants! He video called me and I purposely took a photo he immediately turned off his camera and asked why I’m taking pictures! I asked him straight you are messing around with another woman again he constantly denies it and calls me crazy! I have been here before with him and know this behaviour!!
I would like to warn you if you have recently got involved with an almost 30 year old from sousse be very careful! He only wants to get to France especially! I have a feeling the woman he is involved with now is in France as when I returned he stated he wanted to see his life with me but if not he will go to France!! This was along the same lines of what he said when he was playing around with the Tunisian girl that lives in another European country!
I’m sorry for the long post but I’m tired of keeping this all inside, just yesterday he was sending me pictures asking if I still love him, when I said it’s clear he has another woman he then exploded and said 7 years of hell with me, I wasted his time and he needs to get to Europe and I say all shit to him the day before the “anniversary” then of course he was gone all night long. I found a message this morning saying good morning and decided to block him as I’ve had enough of the emotional abuse and the mental mess I have become wondering who it is he’s messing with behind closed doors.
im so sorry to read your story, have not many words right now since it gave me flash backs of my rat too. he has been scamming people ten years ago and some stuff didnt seem common. now knowing how they operate makes me very sad and mad. sending you a hug and thanks for sharing your story. xx
 

AnnieAnon

Active Member
im so sorry to read your story, have not many words right now since it gave me flash backs of my rat too. he has been scamming people ten years ago and some stuff didnt seem common. now knowing how they operate makes me very sad and mad. sending you a hug and thanks for sharing your story. xx
Thankyou Amber, they are horrible, heartless scamming rats! It has taken me a long time to share my story because of the shame
 

AnnieAnon

Active Member
Welcome @AnnieAnon
Thanks for sharing your story that is a rollercoaster of a ride you went through there and very sorry that happened to you. They are despicable creatures and you did the right thing blocking him. At least you are now out of it and away from him. Your healing process will begin now.
I’ve blocked him many times but this time I’m determined to stay out of all his bullshit.i can’t take it anymore
 

AnnieAnon

Active Member
so weird how they abused us that much that we feel shame, when it is them the ones to be ashamed. hope they get what they deserve some day...
It’s true, I often wonder why I feel so much shame? Im not the one that cheated constantly or scammed innocent people, yet I’m the one left feeling shame and even fear for writing my story, but it needs to be told! There is a woman out there entertaining his bullshit right now and she needs to know just how awful he is, maybe she already knows about me like the last one did, if she does good luck to her, it will only be a matter of time before he shows his disgusting true face
 

Epiphany

Junior Rat Expert
I’ve blocked him many times but this time I’m determined to stay out of all his bullshit.i can’t take it anymore
I understand how hard it can be to walk away from them as they are like an addiction. I am embarrassed to say but parts of me is still going through withdrawal from rat and its been about 8 months? Not even sure anymore but yeah you did the hard part of blocking him for good so that's a big step.
 

AmberHeart

Lady Amberheart of Gafsa
It’s true, I often wonder why I feel so much shame? Im not the one that cheated constantly or scammed innocent people, yet I’m the one left feeling shame and even fear for writing my story, but it needs to be told! There is a woman out there entertaining his bullshit right now and she needs to know just how awful he is, maybe she already knows about me like the last one did, if she does good luck to her, it will only be a matter of time before he shows his disgusting true face
true they cant hide their inner demon
 

AnnieAnon

Active Member
I understand how hard it can be to walk away from them as they are like an addiction. I am embarrassed to say but parts of me is still going through withdrawal from rat and its been about 8 months? Not even sure anymore but yeah you did the hard part of blocking him for good so that's a big step.
You are correct, he really is like an addiction,I walk away many times and somehow he manages to get back under my skin. He has treated me worse than shit and I keep allowing it. I can’t and won’t pit up with it anymore, but I need help and support to stay away from him, my family warned me from the beginning so I get no support, all I get is I told you so
 

Epiphany

Junior Rat Expert
It’s true, I often wonder why I feel so much shame? Im not the one that cheated constantly or scammed innocent people, yet I’m the one left feeling shame and even fear for writing my story, but it needs to be told! There is a woman out there entertaining his bullshit right now and she needs to know just how awful he is, maybe she already knows about me like the last one did, if she does good luck to her, it will only be a matter of time before he shows his disgusting true face
It is natural to frel shame but don't. You fid nothing wrong. You were following your heart when they have none.
Well hopefully the other women will find TLR as you did.
 

Epiphany

Junior Rat Expert
You are correct, he really is like an addiction,I walk away many times and somehow he manages to get back under my skin. He has treated me worse than shit and I keep allowing it. I can’t and won’t pit up with it anymore, but I need help and support to stay away from him, my family warned me from the beginning so I get no support, all I get is I told you so
Yeah they are good at their game.
You will get the support you need here. It is harder for others to understand all this as you have to go through it to understand it.
 

Megane

Well-Known Member
Hi AnnieAnon sorry to hear your experience but happy that you've blocked him. There is a lot of support here anytime you want to rant or if you start to doubt your decision again, the addiction is hard to break. Not asking for details but how is your confidence level and general state of mind after dealing with this nastiness for so long. It could be worth getting some counselling to help you stay strong and move forward with your life. Don't feel shame for loving, they are so well practiced in these scams that its fully understood how we get into this situation. You've made the first steps well done.
 

AnnieAnon

Active Member
Hi AnnieAnon sorry to hear your experience but happy that you've blocked him. There is a lot of support here anytime you want to rant or if you start to doubt your decision again, the addiction is hard to break. Not asking for details but how is your confidence level and general state of mind after dealing with this nastiness for so long. It could be worth getting some counselling to help you stay strong and move forward with your life. Don't feel shame for loving, they are so well practiced in these scams that its fully understood how we get into this situation. You've made the first steps well done.
My confidence and mental health are a mess, I have lost so much sleep over this idiot, the constant mind games, the constant fear of been cheated on and lied to, the gaslighting and then ghosting, all tactics that have messed me up. It’s been hell and I keep going back to hell I want it to stop I’m desperate
 

Epiphany

Junior Rat Expert
My confidence and mental health are a mess, I have lost so much sleep over this idiot, the constant mind games, the constant fear of been cheated on and lied to, the gaslighting and then ghosting, all tactics that have messed me up. It’s been hell and I keep going back to hell I want it to stop I’m desperate
They really do a number on us. I've never seen anything like it before.
You will get back to you. Give yourself time to heal and keep coming here and post. It helps alot then you will see that in time you will get your life back.
 

MH007

Administrator
Staff member
It’s true, I often wonder why I feel so much shame? Im not the one that cheated constantly or scammed innocent people, yet I’m the one left feeling shame and even fear for writing my story, but it needs to be told! There is a woman out there entertaining his bullshit right now and she needs to know just how awful he is, maybe she already knows about me like the last one did, if she does good luck to her, it will only be a matter of time before he shows his disgusting true face
Never ever feel shame - you did nothing wrong.

You trusted him and opened your heart to him.

It really upsets me that you feel ashamed - we have all been there, what a prick.

One day you will feel strong enough to name him but equally you may not. Your recovery starts now and we will walk beside you - there is no pressure to name him but my God he deserves it.

Much love MH x
 

AnnieAnon

Active Member
Never ever feel shame - you did nothing wrong.

You trusted him and opened your heart to him.

It really upsets me that you feel ashamed - we have all been there, what a prick.

One day you will feel strong enough to name him but equally you may not. Your recovery starts now and we will walk beside you - there is no pressure to name him but my God he deserves it.

Much love MH x
Thankyou, I have named him before but his friends wife saw what I wrote in here and told her husband everything I said. The husband then informed the rat and I was verbally abused and threatened by him for days after that. I don’t want a repeat of that and I really don’t want any contact with him so naming him is not worth the hassle anymore.
I am hoping that someone on here will read this and start to doubt her “man” she would have been involved with him from around May/June time and she would have been supporting him financially since then, especially on the Eid just gone, he asked me for money for the sheep but I refused... he then sulked and gave me the silent treatment then the next evening sent a picture of the sheep posing with his family member and a smiley face emoji.... just to show me that I didn’t get him a sheep but somebody else did.
The boy is a user, a liar and he will destroy your life. Everything is well until the minute you can’t provide money. I hate him and I hate I was so stupid all this time
 

MH007

Administrator
Staff member
Thankyou, I have named him before but his friends wife saw what I wrote in here and told her husband everything I said. The husband then informed the rat and I was verbally abused and threatened by him for days after that. I don’t want a repeat of that and I really don’t want any contact with him so naming him is not worth the hassle anymore.
I am hoping that someone on here will read this and start to doubt her “man” she would have been involved with him from around May/June time and she would have been supporting him financially since then, especially on the Eid just gone, he asked me for money for the sheep but I refused... he then sulked and gave me the silent treatment then the next evening sent a picture of the sheep posing with his family member and a smiley face emoji.... just to show me that I didn’t get him a sheep but somebody else did.
The boy is a user, a liar and he will destroy your life. Everything is well until the minute you can’t provide money. I hate him and I hate I was so stupid all this time
Please - you weren't stupid.

You have just seen through his bullshit and those pictures they take with the sheep disgust me.

MH x
 

Judithlyn

Rat Expert
Thankyou, I have named him before but his friends wife saw what I wrote in here and told her husband everything I said. The husband then informed the rat and I was verbally abused and threatened by him for days after that. I don’t want a repeat of that and I really don’t want any contact with him so naming him is not worth the hassle anymore.
I am hoping that someone on here will read this and start to doubt her “man” she would have been involved with him from around May/June time and she would have been supporting him financially since then, especially on the Eid just gone, he asked me for money for the sheep but I refused... he then sulked and gave me the silent treatment then the next evening sent a picture of the sheep posing with his family member and a smiley face emoji.... just to show me that I didn’t get him a sheep but somebody else did.
The boy is a user, a liar and he will destroy your life. Everything is well until the minute you can’t provide money. I hate him and I hate I was so stupid all this time
They are such horrible, evil people! These rats are going to burn in Hell one day. They think that Allah will forgive them for anything, but their abuses of nice people are heartless. Karma WILL come to these evil monsters! Stay strong and never give your rat another dollar! The using bastard needs to be named and shamed to warn other potential victims. You will recover from him but it will happen over time. It took me one year to get over Abdelhak. You have to rediscover yourself. Best wishes to you!
 
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