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MH007

Administrator
Staff member
I reported my rat to the highest management in a 5 star hotel.

It made no difference and he is still working there 5 years on.

That is NOT to say don't report them to the authorities. My rat didn't want a visa he just wanted money - he was married already to a Tunisian.

Fight these rats but only if you feel strong enough - if not then block them.

You don't need them - it's just nice to hear the FAKE sweet words.

Do what is right for you but the survivors here are the ones that block and ignore them.

MH x
 
Oh the wives groups the not so safe haven.
Many an argument over the fact these wives let their husbands on their Facebook's.
Screen shot stuff when advice is asked and yes admin do nothing. One lady was being messaged by a wife's rat , videos were sent to her . Admins did nothing!!
One of the many reasons I walked away from these ridiculous groups.
 

MH007

Administrator
Staff member
Oh the wives groups the not so safe haven.
Many an argument over the fact these wives let their husbands on their Facebook's.
Screen shot stuff when advice is asked and yes admin do nothing. One lady was being messaged by a wife's rat , videos were sent to her . Admins did nothing!!
One of the many reasons I walked away from these ridiculous groups.
Must admit I'm not a member on FB groups but I too heard similar.

MH x
 

MH007

Administrator
Staff member
That being said, I know what a distraction children are throughout recovery....how their innocent laughter and wacky comments make us giggle....so you enjoy this time :love:

Annie, you have already taken the two biggest steps on your road to recovery....you have dumped the rat and posted your story here. If you had the strength to take those two huge steps, you have the strength to continue.

Not one of us here is gonna lie and say recovery is easy, the truth is, it’s a living hell....



I agree with MC you need to get emotions out because you will damage yourself more.

My son was grown up but I almost wish he hadn't been - that innocent laughter the fun and the most amazing times.

I then think I'm glad he was older beyond the guilt I felt after the rat - he was my rock.

There is no right answer where these parasites are.

We are here and of course there are differences each and everyone of us will be there for you.

MH x[/QUOTE]
 

AnnieAnon

Active Member
I reported my rat to the highest management in a 5 star hotel.

It made no difference and he is still working there 5 years on.

That is NOT to say don't report them to the authorities. My rat didn't want a visa he just wanted money - he was married already to a Tunisian.

Fight these rats but only if you feel strong enough - if not then block them.

You don't need them - it's just nice to hear the FAKE sweet words.

Do what is right for you but the survivors here are the ones that block and ignore them.

MH x
How do I go about reporting him to the authorities, not out of spite, but he seriously doesn’t deserve to step a foot on European soil.
He has his cousin and I am sure his new victim is in France financing him and also his cousin. He will use anybody just to get over here. The dream is to build an apartment on top of his parents home.
 

AmberHeart

Lady Amberheart of Gafsa
How do I go about reporting him to the authorities, not out of spite, but he seriously doesn’t deserve to step a foot on European soil.
He has his cousin and I am sure his new victim is in France financing him and also his cousin. He will use anybody just to get over here. The dream is to build an apartment on top of his parents home.
all these details should be sent to your embassy, tell them it is a scammer pretendig to commit marriage fraud along with data of his enablers. let me check for the link
 

AnnieAnon

Active Member
Ladies, I really want to say Thankyou for all of your help and support at this time, honestly your input is really valuable and I finally feel I can express my story without been judged! I don’t really have a support system around me so this really means the world to me.
I’ve been out with the kids today looking at a new car. It’s about time I got another one and I always had to put it on hold due to him peeing my finances dry. They are keeping me busy which helps to keep my mind occupied, at night is where I’m really struggling because my mind wonders to him, but anytime I think of him I’m going to be online here.
 

AnnieAnon

Active Member
@AnnieAnon, If you don't want to out him there is always the option of someone else doing it for you. Keep any evidence handy. Also, if you haven't already make sure your family and friends block him from all social media. Set their facebooks to private. Keep blocking at any cost.
I have told them to check their privacy settings and they have him blocked on fb now thank god.
In terms of evidence, I made the mistake of deleting everything from him on Sunday, there is no trace of his texts, messages on messenger, NOTHING, I wanted to remove all sight of him from my life. I only have a few screenshots, of him calling me a gorilla,that I’ve sent on here to another member! I don’t think this would be enough to prove anything to an embassy.
 

AnnieAnon

Active Member
Yes my country’s embassy is on here Thankyou, I will be making a report! I also feel the need to report him in France and Germany, I seriously believe he has women in these countries funding his dirty lifestyle.
He doesn’t deserve to step foot in Europe full stop, he is a dirty, lazy, lying, deceitful scumbag that will only leech of European resources. I hate him and hope he rots in the hell hole.
 

Mango Chutney

Moderator
Staff member
How do I go about reporting him to the authorities, not out of spite, but he seriously doesn’t deserve to step a foot on European soil.
He has his cousin and I am sure his new victim is in France financing him and also his cousin. He will use anybody just to get over here. The dream is to build an apartment on top of his parents home.
Annie, I literally have so many pm’s, I can’t find our original one....can you find it please and write a message in it, even just hello, to bring it where I can see it.

We had screenshots in that message, I want to go through everything with a fine toothcomb....see what we can cobble together. I know we have a lot of content proving racism....one word you have not written on this thread yet, so I can’t say it....but it’s the one that built up my inner rage....plus others.

Our countries are tolerant.....the authorities will not take kindly to his words, if need be....we can use that as a base....and build on it with your own descriptions of abuse. I’m sure we have screenshots regarding money too :confused:

There is nowhere I have not reported Houssem, I know how to do it....but we need to cobble stuff together...I think we have enough....but I can’t find that original pm, arghhhhhh!! :Cry:
 

AmberHeart

Lady Amberheart of Gafsa
Yes my country’s embassy is on here Thankyou, I will be making a report! I also feel the need to report him in France and Germany, I seriously believe he has women in these countries funding his dirty lifestyle.
He doesn’t deserve to step foot in Europe full stop, he is a dirty, lazy, lying, deceitful scumbag that will only leech of European resources. I hate him and hope he rots in the hell hole.
glad to know you found it. yes, fraudsters must be reported, they drain their targets emotionally, finacially, they dare to have children only to use them as a bridge. very nasty ways. it is better to stop them on time.
xx
 

AnnieAnon

Active Member
Annie, I literally have so many pm’s, I can’t find our original one....can you find it please and write a message in it, even just hello, to bring it where I can see it.

We had screenshots in that message, I want to go through everything with a fine toothcomb....see what we can cobble together. I know we have a lot of content proving racism....one word you have not written on this thread yet, so I can’t say it....but it’s the one that built up my inner rage....plus others.

Our countries are tolerant.....the authorities will not take kindly to his words, if need be....we can use that as a base....and build on it with your own descriptions of abuse. I’m sure we have screenshots regarding money too :confused:

There is nowhere I have not reported Houssem, I know how to do it....but we need to cobble stuff together...I think we have enough....but I can’t find that original pm, arghhhhhh!! :Cry:
Ok I will get on to it as soon as I’ve fed the kids x
 

Laura2014

Moderator
Staff member
I have told them to check their privacy settings and they have him blocked on fb now thank god.
In terms of evidence, I made the mistake of deleting everything from him on Sunday, there is no trace of his texts, messages on messenger, NOTHING, I wanted to remove all sight of him from my life. I only have a few screenshots, of him calling me a gorilla,that I’ve sent on here to another member! I don’t think this would be enough to prove anything to an embassy.
It’s not essential you have evidence although it helps. You can still write giving them his details. Date of birth, names, photos’s and an outline of your experience and your belief that he intends by any means to gain access to your country. Do you have receipts from when you sent money by Moneygram or another money transfer.

That information alone would flag him.
 

Mango Chutney

Moderator
Staff member
It’s not essential you have evidence although it helps. You can still write giving them his details. Date of birth, names, photos’s and an outline of your experience and your belief that he intends by any means to gain access to your country. Do you have receipts from when you sent money by Moneygram or another money transfer.

That information alone would flag him.
Girl....we’ve got stuff, woop woop!!! :p
 

AnnieAnon

Active Member
It’s not essential you have evidence although it helps. You can still write giving them his details. Date of birth, names, photos’s and an outline of your experience and your belief that he intends by any means to gain access to your country. Do you have receipts from when you sent money by Moneygram or another money transfer.

That information alone would flag him.
Yes plenty of western union receipts the horrible begging rat!
 

Amira

Rat Expert
It's not your fault . They are not easy to scour through. But I think we can take them on cues as excuses to be busy asking for money and that most of them have a lot of female contacts. Everyone does not ask for money while if he is concerned about Europe and Europe's goods as social benefits social security or that he speaks several languages it should ring a bell and his should be manner. We can take them by looking for the right signals if he or she is not super good in their field. They have a lot of experience with their field the harder they are to take because they play well.

Learn to look for the signals and you will not be fooled
 

tipme

Junior Rat Expert
Thankyou, I have named him before but his friends wife saw what I wrote in here and told her husband everything I said. The husband then informed the rat and I was verbally abused and threatened by him for days after that. I don’t want a repeat of that and I really don’t want any contact with him so naming him is not worth the hassle anymore.
I am hoping that someone on here will read this and start to doubt her “man” she would have been involved with him from around May/June time and she would have been supporting him financially since then, especially on the Eid just gone, he asked me for money for the sheep but I refused... he then sulked and gave me the silent treatment then the next evening sent a picture of the sheep posing with his family member and a smiley face emoji.... just to show me that I didn’t get him a sheep but somebody else did.
The boy is a user, a liar and he will destroy your life. Everything is well until the minute you can’t provide money. I hate him and I hate I was so stupid all this time
probably had money all along.it's like Shane not have sheep so all family chip in.and the real poor get food free from neighbours no one goes without
 

AnnieAnon

Active Member
probably had money all along.it's like Shane not have sheep so all family chip in.and the real poor get food free from neighbours no one goes without
You are right, it is a fact no one goes without on Eid they all chip in and help each other out. He would have used the money simply to buy yet another pair of fake trainers for himself and clothes. Whoever his new victim is I hope she gets tired quickly because his demands for money will now become a whole lot worse... every 2 or 3 days he will need money
 

black_angel

Junior Rat Expert
So here I am on the 7th year “anniversary” of knowing a rat. I blocked him today for what seems like the 1000th time but this time I am determined to finish this shit for good!! This is why I have decided to stop stalking the site in private and post the hell I have dealt with knowing this vile creature. I will not name him, as the last time I did somebody decided to run back and tell her husband who informed rat boy of everything that was said, but if this post can save even one person from the drama and heartache of dealing with these creatures, then it is very worth it.
On this day, 7years ago I met who I thought was a nice person, we talked constantly, he always wanted to know how I was, took interest in my life, would insist on falling asleep on the phone etc.
The lovey dovey stage didn’t last very long though, as 3 months later, woman contacted me to say rat boy was contacting her on Skype showing off his dirty zib! After bucket loads of tears and stories about jealous women trying to ruin his life, I forgave him.
I then discovered another lie, he told me he didn’t have facebook( we used to talk just by WhatsApp when we first met) I found his Facebook due to been nosey, the first time he asked me for money( because he needed to pay for his mothers hospital treatment) he provided the correct way to spell his name, I put the correct version into fb and boom there was his profile. I confronted him and asked why he had lied about not having fb, he told me he was married and his ex wife was jealous and made a lot of trouble for him on social media posting porn etc on his page, so he thought it was better to keep me hidden. Just to let you all know the maximum amount of time I was added to his fb was 5 days, he then deleted me and said I was too jealous to be allowed on his page. So in 7 years I was never on his Facebook, he then “closed” WhatsApp Bcos I would ask who he was talking to at 4 in the morning, so we have used messenger exclusively all these years.
Along came another drama, this time involving an ex gf and her friend claiming she was still sleeping with him, again tears and begging from him and his friends I stupidly went back to him.
This became the downfall as I lost a lot of trust in him, he would ask me to visit him and I wouldn’t go back to his country simply because I knew I was been taken for a fool, why I kept contact I still don’t know.
By this point I was a source of income, he would work and leave jobs simply because I was sending him more money than work paid him. The excuses came thick and fast no money for cigarettes, no money for food, electricity at home cut off living in darkness, sharing electricity via a wire with his neighbour, toothache, he had an accident needs money, had a fight needs money to pay police, oxygen mask for mum, cancer treatment for sister, money to go to university to improve his life, money to become a taxi driver, money to learn to drive and for the license!! So much money and I was sending it. I started reading on here and decided to start saying no, when I did this I saw his real face.. racist, horrible vermin! The more I said no the more he would call me vicious racist names! I refused to buy him a motorbike and a car I became the worst black bitch in the world! He would then threaten me and be abusive and call my mother bitch. He would then disappear for days giving me silent treatment or block me. Then came the women, not just tourists local women too, even his cousin, I was told by yet another profile that he was sleeping with his cousin! He would add all these girls to his fb and never allow me on there, they call us bitches but some of the worst whore behaviour I have ever witnessed was from Tunisian women and how they behaved with him. Possibly because at this point he could now drive and was taking the money I sent him to rent cars to visit different discos every week and buy clothes and fake shitty trainers.
In all the time that I knew rat boy there have always been women, his family have smiled in my face and waved knowing that rat boy has several other women on the go.
The biggest disrespect happened not to long ago, I remember the feeling of knowing that someone else was on the scene but was hidden, I kept asking him and he told me no I’m crazy there is no one, 3 days later he updated his fb with the new girl to state they were in a relationship. He heartlessly took my money to pay for the apartment for them and then blocked me.. karma was good though as weeks later their “relationship” was over and he returned back to me begging to take him back as “he couldn’t love her” and she was a bitch! He told me how she laughed when they were laying in bed and she shown him the message I wrote to her, he said when she was going to write back to me he told her never to write to me or say a bad word to me and it was then he wanted me back. I said I couldn’t take him back as he betrayed my trust and broke my heart all for a girl he knew for a few weeks, he told me she knew about me and still wanted to be with him in secret, he told her he was tired of waiting for me as I never came to him and he needed to improve his life and get to Europe, she went over to him and stayed with him all funded by me then returned home and dumped him. This was a Tunisian girl living in Europe( another vile heartless bitch)! After that I stupidly returned to him again after 2 months (pathetic) this time I did go to see him (with rose tinted glasses thinking everything would be fine) he promised me things would be different and we would make it work because we love each other! WRONG! 1 week later he was showing his face again, secretive, lies and abuse when I refuse to send money. When I send money he will be nice as long as I keep sending.
He expects money like it is a right for me to pay for his clothes money and cigarettes.
I recently left him for a period of 2 months and blocked him everywhere, he would get his friend to request me on Instagram but would never use his own profile ( I’m not allowed on there). He would send texts saying he will kill him self and begging me to come back as he loves me! Again after 2 months away from him I went back like an idiot, this time very different, all the begging he did to get me back, the minute I returned he ghosted me! He only will contact me after 8 in the morning and then only 3 messages throughout the day, nothing after 11pm at night. He now has WhatsApp again, and when asked when he started using it he got in a rage stating he can use whatever he wants! He video called me and I purposely took a photo he immediately turned off his camera and asked why I’m taking pictures! I asked him straight you are messing around with another woman again he constantly denies it and calls me crazy! I have been here before with him and know this behaviour!!
I would like to warn you if you have recently got involved with an almost 30 year old from sousse be very careful! He only wants to get to France especially! I have a feeling the woman he is involved with now is in France as when I returned he stated he wanted to see his life with me but if not he will go to France!! This was along the same lines of what he said when he was playing around with the Tunisian girl that lives in another European country!
I’m sorry for the long post but I’m tired of keeping this all inside, just yesterday he was sending me pictures asking if I still love him, when I said it’s clear he has another woman he then exploded and said 7 years of hell with me, I wasted his time and he needs to get to Europe and I say all shit to him the day before the “anniversary” then of course he was gone all night long. I found a message this morning saying good morning and decided to block him as I’ve had enough of the emotional abuse and the mental mess I have become wondering who it is he’s messing with behind closed doors.
Dear.. let go of wondering and spying on him. All that you will find out about him won't bring you peace but will push you further into the grief. You're not strong enough to face the whole shit you will find. Not yet. Close all the doors and possibilities for him to come back. When you do that, you can call yourself a winner. Believe me.. there are plenty of women on the go and you really dont want to get to know them and listen to their stories cause all of these stories were having a place during your relationship with him. This is the knowledge, which you dont really need at this moment. This time will come when you get stronger. All you need now is to build a big wall between you and him till he could never hurt you again. Thats your life.. fight for it cause he doesnt care if you are dead or alive, but you should care about it.
 

AnnieAnon

Active Member
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Dear.. let go of wondering and spying on him. All that you will find out about him won't bring you peace but will push you further into the grief. You're not strong enough to face the whole shit you will find. Not yet. Close all the doors and possibilities for him to come back. When you do that, you can call yourself a winner. Believe me.. there are plenty of women on the go and you really dont want to get to know them and listen to their stories cause all of these stories were having a place during your relationship with him. This is the knowledge, which you dont really need at this moment. This time will come when you get stronger. All you need now is to build a big wall between you and him till he could never hurt you again. Thats your life.. fight for it cause he doesnt care if you are dead or alive, but you should care about it.
thankyou so much for this you are right, the hardest part I’m struggling with at the moment is checking in his social media, it’s difficult but you are right I am really not ready to find out any more of his shit, even though I know there are others, I don’t know who they are, but I’m sure he will update his fb with her on there soon enough. That is something I’m really not ready to see so I daren't look anymore
 

Jisela

Rat Expert
You are right, it is a fact no one goes without on Eid they all chip in and help each other out. He would have used the money simply to buy yet another pair of fake trainers for himself and clothes. Whoever his new victim is I hope she gets tired quickly because his demands for money will now become a whole lot worse... every 2 or 3 days he will need money
Your post reminded me of a time I gave money to my rat's father, who ended up spending all the money on alcohol. He literally drank the money. I wasn't even hurt, offended, or angry because his larger issues were worse. A rat will take money, but they burn through, mismanage it, and never, ever grow. I wouldn't look at social media. It's hopeless. Walking away is better...
 

AnnieAnon

Active Member
Your post reminded me of a time I gave money to my rat's father, who ended up spending all the money on alcohol. He literally drank the money. I wasn't even hurt, offended, or angry because his larger issues were worse. A rat will take money, but they burn through, mismanage it, and never, ever grow. I wouldn't look at social media. It's hopeless. Walking away is better...
True, the amount of money I sent him over the years surely he could have been living the high life right now, instead he is still in hell, as he calls it, due to poor money management! Disco, drink, renting cars, 50 pairs of fake trainers and jeans tighter than a nun is what he spent it on. The only sensible thing he did was learn to drive and pay for his license. Poor, poor rat and his victims, 235 European ladies later and he is still broke and stuck in Tunisia! The women that entertain him will tire easily from his constant demands for money. He has no idea what it’s like to earn his own cash, instead he feels he is entitled to our money that we’ve actually worked hard for! Horrible person,
The more I write on here the easier it is to hate him.
 
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