So sorry you had to go through this. They are charming in the begin but when the demanding for money starts it all changes. You feel used and they become mean or give you the silent treatment. Talking / not talking to them I think a lot of us had that. And yes talking to come kill you or blackmailing you is normal in their twisted mind. Leaving them is the best decision of our lives who needs such an evil person in their lives.Mine I met in 2016 we talked all the time he was so charming I fell, first time I went to see him was GREAT then 2 other times the last time was 2018 end of the yr and 2019 man he changed he was demanding of money in January on video I could see meanness in his face he spoke so bad said he would blackmail me kill me all kinds of stuff! From that day forward we were on and off giving me time to get him out of my head and heart! So now I do not have feelings for him at all thank God!