Is he a rat?

Is he a rat

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Daria0992

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Hi there ,

I’m reading all your stories and getting shocked most of the time. Here’s my story. Which is still kind of on.
So I met this guy online,he’s been living in uk for last 5 years we had a date after few day. Date was nice very open conversation m. He told me lot of things about him and lot of sensitive stuff too. Since day number two I feel like we are connected, we think the Same. Many times I was just about to say something and he said it. I feel in love with him obviously by end of the week. So did he (apparently) .. he keeps saying that he never felt this way , I’m different etc etc. We spend lot of time together. From the start he was saying there and there that he needs new phone etc but my money situation isn’t any better than his so he never asked me for anything. When we go together somewhere he pays. I met his daughter too n I got daughter as well so we get along really good. There was some questions about making spiritual promise in musk to be married not married but I said no. So he said we not gonna talk about it now. Otherwise he’s really nice to me, good manners etc etc. After I read this pages I don’t know what to say. I broke up with him without reason and then get back to him. Always through breakup he was saying that he will never love no one the same way but few times he was very rude. Writing mean messages. We always get back together. But I still don’t know? How do I know if he’s a rat?? He doesn’t have parents so no invitation in his. He’s got child so visa through that and I don’t have any money to be used for. I’m really desperate.
Daria
 

Laura2014

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Welcome Daria, so he’s living in the UK? Does he have an English wife?

Is he working in the UK and have a permanent citizenship? What are his living arrangements? Is he separated from his child’s mother?
 

Daria0992

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Welcome Daria, so he’s living in the UK? Does he have an English wife?

Is he working in the UK and have a permanent citizenship? What are his living arrangements? Is he separated from his child’s mother?
Yes they been separated for few years not divorced yet. She is British. He’s working normally but he’s visa ends soon. He said he will reapply through his child again. He has own place.
 

Laura2014

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Yes they been separated for few years not divorced yet. She is British. He’s working normally but he’s visa ends soon. He said he will reapply through his child again. He has own place.
Thanks Daria, Are you also a UK citizen? Do you know much about how he came here? Anything about his wife? You are right to be cautious. Especially with mean or rude messages to you. Unfortunately they do often have an unpleasant side which emerges when things don’t go their way. It’s very reasonable for you to try and find out what you can about him. This would be normal in his country for a girls family to check him out, especially since you have a child of your own.
 

Daria0992

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I’m EU citizen he came here through his wife. She married him in Tunisia and take him here where they were living together few years and had a child. She seem to be bit older than him but not too much. She wanted to met me because her daughter and my one become a good friends. But I wasn’t ready and now while she sees they’re getting along she doesn’t want to met up anymore. I don’t know if he was rude because I broke up with him without reason or reveal his real self out.
 

Heidi

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Hi there ,

I’m reading all your stories and getting shocked most of the time. Here’s my story. Which is still kind of on.
So I met this guy online,he’s been living in uk for last 5 years we had a date after few day. Date was nice very open conversation m. He told me lot of things about him and lot of sensitive stuff too. Since day number two I feel like we are connected, we think the Same. Many times I was just about to say something and he said it. I feel in love with him obviously by end of the week. So did he (apparently) .. he keeps saying that he never felt this way , I’m different etc etc. We spend lot of time together. From the start he was saying there and there that he needs new phone etc but my money situation isn’t any better than his so he never asked me for anything. When we go together somewhere he pays. I met his daughter too n I got daughter as well so we get along really good. There was some questions about making spiritual promise in musk to be married not married but I said no. So he said we not gonna talk about it now. Otherwise he’s really nice to me, good manners etc etc. After I read this pages I don’t know what to say. I broke up with him without reason and then get back to him. Always through breakup he was saying that he will never love no one the same way but few times he was very rude. Writing mean messages. We always get back together. But I still don’t know? How do I know if he’s a rat?? He doesn’t have parents so no invitation in his. He’s got child so visa through that and I don’t have any money to be used for. I’m really desperate.
Daria
He got to the UK five years ago and is seperated from his wife already. He wants an urfi marriage, he wants a phone, he writes rude messages, he tells you that he has no parents but he must have the rest of his family in Tunisia.
Let me guess, he wants the urfi marriage so he can tell you to move in with you so he has a woman who will do everything for him, while he sends his earned money to his family in Tunisia, to get the nest ready for when he has send enough money to marry his young tunisian virgin bride
 

Heidi

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I’m EU citizen he came here through his wife. She married him in Tunisia and take him here where they were living together few years and had a child. She seem to be bit older than him but not too much. She wanted to met me because her daughter and my one become a good friends. But I wasn’t ready and now while she sees they’re getting along she doesn’t want to met up anymore. I don’t know if he was rude because I broke up with him without reason or reveal his real self out.
So he got his visa child. Did you talk to his wife on the phone or did he tell you that she wanted to meet you ?
 

Laura2014

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Oh god it sound so horrible... do they swear on life’s too if they lying???
They would swear black was white. Mine had a father who was dying in hospital, all the family were gathered at the deathbed! He cried like a baby at the loss of his beloved father. (His father was actually at home feeding the chickens and was fit as a flee).
 

Daria0992

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They would swear black was white. Mine had a father who was dying in hospital, all the family were gathered at the deathbed! He cried like a baby at the loss of his beloved father. (His father was actually at home feeding the chickens and was fit as a flee).
He more swear on his kid
 

Daria0992

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I don’t know what to do. I feel so confused. I never been happier it’s hard to let go
 

Laura2014

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I don’t know what to do. I feel so confused. I never been happier it’s hard to let go
Just read here. Ask questions and be cautious. If something does not feel right it often isn’t. But you don’t have to do anything. No one here will put you under pressure to do anything but we are here to help. The responses may be a bit raw sometimes but that’s from the experience we have gained over time.
 

Daria0992

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They would swear black was white. Mine had a father who was dying in hospital, all the family were gathered at the deathbed! He cried like a baby at the loss of his beloved father. (His father was actually at home feeding the chickens and was fit as a flee).
This is unbelievable ...
 
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