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Christine

Member
Hi everyone. I’m new here and still learning how to use this site but I am here as I’m concerned about my friend.

She met him on Twitter around 10 months ago and they have been smitten with each other ever since.

He is 26 and she is 28. He’s Muslim and she doesn’t have a religion. He has never asked her for any money or anything like that and vice versa. He has expressed that he is eager to marry her and spend the rest of his life with her. Originally he talked about her going to Tunisia to live but since she has a son and her sons father is here in Scotland this isn’t an option for her right now. So they have discussed him coming to Scotland. He has told his family about her and even that she has a child already and she’s even spoken to his mother on the phone. As mentioned before he is Muslim and seems really loyal to his faith. He has always told her he doesn’t want her to convert or change anything about herself for him.

Is he too good to be true? I would say his name but I’m unsure if the rules allow it.

TIA
 

Sabrina

Major Ratslayer
Hi everyone. I’m new here and still learning how to use this site but I am here as I’m concerned about my friend.

She met him on Twitter around 10 months ago and they have been smitten with each other ever since.

He is 26 and she is 28. He’s Muslim and she doesn’t have a religion. He has never asked her for any money or anything like that and vice versa. He has expressed that he is eager to marry her and spend the rest of his life with her. Originally he talked about her going to Tunisia to live but since she has a son and her sons father is here in Scotland this isn’t an option for her right now. So they have discussed him coming to Scotland. He has told his family about her and even that she has a child already and she’s even spoken to his mother on the phone. As mentioned before he is Muslim and seems really loyal to his faith. He has always told her he doesn’t want her to convert or change anything about herself for him.

Is he too good to be true? I would say his name but I’m unsure if the rules allow it.

TIA
Hi and welcome, he may be ok but 10 months is pretty early not having met in person to say he wants to spend the rest of his life with her, and most of these guys all seem loyal to their faith but a lot of them surely could not be, they prove that. A lot of times it’s a front! He might look at it as a way out of his country.(visa) Does he work does he make enough to keep her and her son up if they came to Tunisia? This could be a front knowing that she would not leave her sons father for her sons sake. These guys can be very persuasive and patient as it may take a while to get what they actually want out of a person. But you have come to the right place for more advice! Oh one more thing we have probably all talked to their mothers and other members of their family
 
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Butterflies

Major Ratslayer
Hi everyone. I’m new here and still learning how to use this site but I am here as I’m concerned about my friend.

She met him on Twitter around 10 months ago and they have been smitten with each other ever since.

He is 26 and she is 28. He’s Muslim and she doesn’t have a religion. He has never asked her for any money or anything like that and vice versa. He has expressed that he is eager to marry her and spend the rest of his life with her. Originally he talked about her going to Tunisia to live but since she has a son and her sons father is here in Scotland this isn’t an option for her right now. So they have discussed him coming to Scotland. He has told his family about her and even that she has a child already and she’s even spoken to his mother on the phone. As mentioned before he is Muslim and seems really loyal to his faith. He has always told her he doesn’t want her to convert or change anything about herself for him.

Is he too good to be true? I would say his name but I’m unsure if the rules allow it.

TIA
Hi @Christine welcome here. It's difficult to say he is a rat or not we need to know more about it all. The first thing is when a tunisian contacts a woman via the internet is not really a good sign as a genuine tunisian man doesn't do that. Your friend has a child and he will know this she will and cannot come and live with him in tunisia so the obvious next move would be to come and live with her. I understand she never met him in real life so wouldn't it be better to see eachother first after all he could have a bad smell or she doesn't like him in real life. On the internet you can be whoever you want to be so.... You can say his name here or send his name to a trusted member or Admin. @MH007 or @Mica. You can search here at the forum to if he was mentioned here in the past. Go to your left side of your screen to the 3 bares. Then go to search forum and add his name. Or take a look at the media there are alot of foto's from other rats
 

SouthernGirl

Major Ratslayer
Hi Christine and Welcome! It’s difficult to say if he’s genuine or not because you didn’t say much. This is normal since you know only what your friend revealed about him and their conversations. The only thing that may make him look not too good is that is that at first, he talked about her going to live inTunisia. Knowing that she had a child, this is not logical to say that.

Since she met him online, she needs to be cautious. She has a good friend in you and it’s understandable you worry about her talking to a stranger she met randomly on Twitter.
 

confuseddotcom

Major Ratslayer
Hi everyone. I’m new here and still learning how to use this site but I am here as I’m concerned about my friend.

She met him on Twitter around 10 months ago and they have been smitten with each other ever since.

He is 26 and she is 28. He’s Muslim and she doesn’t have a religion. He has never asked her for any money or anything like that and vice versa. He has expressed that he is eager to marry her and spend the rest of his life with her. Originally he talked about her going to Tunisia to live but since she has a son and her sons father is here in Scotland this isn’t an option for her right now. So they have discussed him coming to Scotland. He has told his family about her and even that she has a child already and she’s even spoken to his mother on the phone. As mentioned before he is Muslim and seems really loyal to his faith. He has always told her he doesn’t want her to convert or change anything about herself for him.

Is he too good to be true? I would say his name but I’m unsure if the rules allow it.

TIA
As the other ladies have said the fact that they met online is a red flag. Marriage is not something that’s taken lightly, even by a Tunisian (unless it’s for personal gain), and they would definitely need to meet in person before any promises were made.

It really depends on what your friend is looking for in the long term, because if he’s genuine, and emphasis on the word genuine, then he will not accept her being an atheist. If they marry and he’s genuine then he’ll eventually try to get her to convert as they tend not to think highly of non believers (whether that’s of Islam or Christianity). If he’s after something else then she could be a satanist for all he cares, as he won’t be in it for the long haul. The fact that he’s told his family about her is suspect as if he’s such a devout Muslim, I highly doubt he’d be telling his parents that he’s met an atheist woman online and plans to marry her. On the off chance that he is genuine, she will definitely need to see him in person to see if they gel and also how he treats her and others. I’ve spoken over the phone for almost a year with a guy and once we met in person he was controlling, touchy feely etc. So you just don’t know
 

Christine

Member
Thank you so much everyone for your replies!

What I do know is that he is a real person as they FaceTime and send lots of videos back and forth.

He does work and lives at home with his mother who is currently undergoing cancer treatment. I was skeptical about this story as it’s common among catfishes but she has seen proof of his mother’s treatment and had spoken to his mother on the phone.

They seem to be very sexually attracted to each other but since he is Muslim he doesn’t believe in sex before marriage and seems to have stuck to his beliefs on this although I do believe they mess around on the phone

He is really adamant that after his mother’s treatment he wants to finish his college studies so he can find a job in Scotland to support her and her son (her son is autistic).

He really wanted her in Tunisia and is adamant that when her son is old enough he wants to travel back to Tunisia to live with her.

I will add on any more information I get as I speak to her more about him.

So far I know his name is Radhwen Fekir/Fekiri (he uses different spellings as its translated from Arabic), he’s 26 and lives in Tunis.
 

Sabrina

Major Ratslayer
Thank you so much everyone for your replies!

What I do know is that he is a real person as they FaceTime and send lots of videos back and forth.

He does work and lives at home with his mother who is currently undergoing cancer treatment. I was skeptical about this story as it’s common among catfishes but she has seen proof of his mother’s treatment and had spoken to his mother on the phone.

They seem to be very sexually attracted to each other but since he is Muslim he doesn’t believe in sex before marriage and seems to have stuck to his beliefs on this although I do believe they mess around on the phone

He is really adamant that after his mother’s treatment he wants to finish his college studies so he can find a job in Scotland to support her and her son (her son is autistic).

He really wanted her in Tunisia and is adamant that when her son is old enough he wants to travel back to Tunisia to live with her.

I will add on any more information I get as I speak to her more about him.

So far I know his name is Radhwen Fekir/Fekiri (he uses different spellings as its translated from Arabic), he’s 26 and lives in Tunis.
If a Muslim has real beliefs on sex they know that what he’s doing with her on the phone is fornication ITS WRONG so I guess that’s one red flag the other of course he’s going to say whatever it takes to get into Scotland to “take care” of her and son.... the treatments??! What proof is there to see? I hope she’s ok but these treatments seem to come up a lot in this forum. And being asked for surgeries I’m pretty sure didn’t exist I would have to see some hardcore proof
 

confuseddotcom

Major Ratslayer
If a Muslim has real beliefs on sex they know that what he’s doing with her on the phone is fornication ITS WRONG so I guess that’s one red flag the other of course he’s going to say whatever it takes to get into Scotland to “take care” of her and son.... the treatments??! What proof is there to see? I hope she’s ok but these treatments seem to come up a lot in this forum. And being asked for surgeries I’m pretty sure didn’t exist I would have to see some hardcore proof
Exactly if they’re having phone sex then surely he’s still getting a “release” from it. These rats and ratbellas will do everything besides piv penetration and believe they’re doing no wrong LOL. :confused:
 

Pennylane

Major Ratslayer
Hi everyone. I’m new here and still learning how to use this site but I am here as I’m concerned about my friend.

She met him on Twitter around 10 months ago and they have been smitten with each other ever since.

He is 26 and she is 28. He’s Muslim and she doesn’t have a religion. He has never asked her for any money or anything like that and vice versa. He has expressed that he is eager to marry her and spend the rest of his life with her. Originally he talked about her going to Tunisia to live but since she has a son and her sons father is here in Scotland this isn’t an option for her right now. So they have discussed him coming to Scotland. He has told his family about her and even that she has a child already and she’s even spoken to his mother on the phone. As mentioned before he is Muslim and seems really loyal to his faith. He has always told her he doesn’t want her to convert or change anything about herself for him.

Is he too good to be true? I would say his name but I’m unsure if the rules allow it.

TIA
Unless they have actually met in person and can prove a relationship, there's no chance of him getting a visa to visit the uk .The main priority I think is to make sure she never sends money to him . Treatment is free if you are poor in Tunisia, you pay what you can afford.
 

Lass

Major Ratslayer
Hi and welcome to the forum @Christine I don't want to put a downer on you and your friend but I see nothing but red flags. Meeting online, wanting to marry without even meeting her in person, claiming his undying love, his mother's cancer treatment, being a devoted Muslim but having some "fun" on the Internet. You asked if he is too good to be true. My answer is no, he is not. He is what he is. He doesn't even sound good. You added that your friend has a child with Autism, can I please add an extremely important fact- with all respect to Tunisian people but from my experience they have very little understanding of people on the spectrum or with any mental problems so it would be difficult for your friend and her son. Hope you find this comment helpful.
 

Croydon girl

Major Ratslayer
Hi and welcome to the forum @Christine I don't want to put a downer on you and your friend but I see nothing but red flags. Meeting online, wanting to marry without even meeting her in person, claiming his undying love, his mother's cancer treatment, being a devoted Muslim but having some "fun" on the Internet. You asked if he is too good to be true. My answer is no, he is not. He is what he is. He doesn't even sound good. You added that your friend has a child with Autism, can I please add an extremely important fact- with all respect to Tunisian people but from my experience they have very little understanding of people on the spectrum or with any mental problems so it would be difficult for your friend and her son. Hope you find this comment helpful.
Great Post Lass!
 

MH007

Administrator
Staff member
Thank you so much everyone for your replies!

What I do know is that he is a real person as they FaceTime and send lots of videos back and forth.

He does work and lives at home with his mother who is currently undergoing cancer treatment. I was skeptical about this story as it’s common among catfishes but she has seen proof of his mother’s treatment and had spoken to his mother on the phone.

They seem to be very sexually attracted to each other but since he is Muslim he doesn’t believe in sex before marriage and seems to have stuck to his beliefs on this although I do believe they mess around on the phone

He is really adamant that after his mother’s treatment he wants to finish his college studies so he can find a job in Scotland to support her and her son (her son is autistic).

He really wanted her in Tunisia and is adamant that when her son is old enough he wants to travel back to Tunisia to live with her.

I will add on any more information I get as I speak to her more about him.

So far I know his name is Radhwen Fekir/Fekiri (he uses different spellings as its translated from Arabic), he’s 26 and lives in Tunis.
I hate to pour water on this but the fact he met her online RED FLAG, talking of marriage so quickly RED FLAG, accepting another mans child RED FLAG and that will be just the beginning.

His mother has cancer and I truly hope this is not true and if it is then I wish her well however this is a very well known plot from rats, you do know health care is free in Tunisia? They have been known to send pictures of OTHER PEOPLES test results and x-rays to add weight to their lie, sick but it happens.

Is there much of an age gap between them?

MH x
 

Peacock

Major Ratslayer
Why on earth would someone want to provide proof of their mother's cancer treatment?????
I have had cancer treatment and never felt the need to prove it to anyone. I couldn't have shown proof anyway. You don't get documents from the hospital!! The only proof I had was my bald head in 2001 after chemo lol. What a load of rubbish. My son never felt the need to prove to his g/f that I was having treatment. Only liars feel the need to prove things.

He is a rat. Meeting online and insisting on marriage so quickly is total rat behaviour.

Being intimate on the phone is risky. Rats often blackmail their victims by threatening to send intimate photos to their victim's family. Tell your friend to be careful about what body parts and actions she shares with him, they might be shared with her family in the future!!!
 

Sabrina

Major Ratslayer
Why on earth would someone want to provide proof of their mother's cancer treatment?????
I have had cancer treatment and never felt the need to prove it to anyone. I couldn't have shown proof anyway. You don't get documents from the hospital!! The only proof I had was my bald head in 2001 after chemo lol. What a load of rubbish. My son never felt the need to prove to his g/f that I was having treatment. Only liars feel the need to prove things.

He is a rat. Meeting online and insisting on marriage so quickly is total rat behaviour.

Being intimate on the phone is risky. Rats often blackmail their victims by threatening to send intimate photos to their victim's family. Tell your friend to be careful about what body parts and actions she shares with him, they might be shared with her family in the future!!!
I was thinking the same thing he might be videoing her while they are intimate would not be the first time and he can use this against her later if she doesn’t give him what he wants! Very risky
 
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