Is there anybody on here that has any good stories/ things to say about the men??

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jodi

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You're welcome. You get to know people in the same situation as life moves along, and it's important to have those people in your life because your "normal" friends don't always understand as it's alien to them and they aren't used to it x
True .Some of my friends that are married or have boyfriends here-always ask me why did u like him? arent u scared ?I get all kinds of dumb questions asked and I just smile and nod..knowing what i know and what i feel..
 

Laurence

Major Ratslayer
2 years of internet relationship, 1 meeting (and proposal!) in real life...is this a real healthy relationship according to most people???
I don't think so. Go and live with him for some longer time (at least a good year) and then you can say you know the man behind the screen...
You're in love with an image you made of this man in your head, an image that is far from realistic and that will fall into pieces once he's got what he wants: get OUT of his country and obtain papers to remain there!
The questions of your friends (real ones) are not dumb Jodi, they're just normal and justified...you're the one having a problem, just being taken in by an internet image that meets your weaker points and makes you dream...please do wake up!
 

BrownGirl

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2 years of internet relationship, 1 meeting (and proposal!) in real life...is this a real healthy relationship according to most people???
I don't think so. Go and live with him for some longer time (at least a good year) and then you can say you know the man behind the screen...
You're in love with an image you made of this man in your head, an image that is far from realistic and that will fall into pieces once he's got what he wants: get OUT of his country and obtain papers to remain there!
The questions of your friends (real ones) are not dumb Jodi, they're just normal and justified...you're the one having a problem, just being taken in by an internet image that meets your weaker points and makes you dream...please do wake up!
Lost cause Laurence, don't waste your breath.
I am glad that Jodi has some real friends who will hopefully stand by her when she needs them, because the TWAGs online certainly will not. In fact, they are probably talking about her in private messages. What they don't talk about on the sites are the times when their husbands have been kicked out and taken back, the times when they have been beaten and mentally abused. How do I know this - because it is talked about behind their backs. Not everything is rosy in the Facebook "i love my Tunisian husband" world ;)
 

wallah

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And, as you probably know BG, anyone who says anything even remotely negative and honest, are reprimanded as ''this is a facebook page for the happy fiances and wives of Tunisians and we do not want to hear stories of being scammed and cheated'' There are none so blind as those who cannot see springs to mind!
 
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marilyna

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Lost cause Laurence, don't waste your breath.
I am glad that Jodi has some real friends who will hopefully stand by her when she needs them, because the TWAGs online certainly will not. In fact, they are probably talking about her in private messages. What they don't talk about on the sites are the times when their husbands have been kicked out and taken back, the times when they have been beaten and mentally abused. How do I know this - because it is talked about behind their backs. Not everything is rosy in the Facebook "i love my Tunisian husband" world ;)
Interesting to hear what is really happening in the lives of the TWAGS, if only they knew what their friends post behind their backs.
 
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Ishie

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I think alarm bells should be ringing if anyone proposes to you after ONE meeting. We wouldn't find this behavior normal in the UK, so why do we suddenly accept these 'I love you's' within a few hours & marriage proposals within days as the 'norm' when it comes to Tunisian men?
How could someone possibly know that they want to spend the rest of their life with you after a few weeks of your company?
Marriage is something that shouldn't be & doesn't need to be rushed into!
 

I_fell_for_it

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I think alarm bells should be ringing if anyone proposes to you after ONE meeting. We wouldn't find this behavior normal in the UK, so why do we suddenly accept these 'I love you's' within a few hours & marriage proposals within days as the 'norm' when it comes to Tunisian men?
How could someone possibly know that they want to spend the rest of their life with you after a few weeks of your company?
Marriage is something that shouldn't be & doesn't need to be rushed into!
I can remember when I was 18 and I went on my first ever girly Holiday, 6 of us went to Turkey, All of the girls having blond hair apart from myself.. So you can imagine the attention we got. I met a local who after 2 days was telling me he loved me.. Even back then I was not Naive, I knew what he was playing at and told him straight.. I'm really glad that these early experiences I had with Rats prepared me for Tunisia.. On a first visit to a country like this it can be very overwhealming for some people.. Maybe they just go along with it...
 
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Ishie

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I can remember when I was 18 and I went on my first ever girly Holiday, 6 of us went to Turkey, All of the girls having blond hair apart from myself.. So you can imagine the attention we got. I met a local who after 2 days was telling me he loved me.. Even back then I was not Naive, I knew what he was playing at and told him straight.. I'm really glad that these early experiences I had with Rats prepared me for Tunisia.. On a first visit to a country like this it can be very overwhealming for some people.. Maybe they just go along with it...
I shouldn't have been so specific. There are a substantial amount of rats in many countries, (Turkey, Egypt, Algeria etc)
I completely agree with you, visiting any of these countries for a first time can be an extremely overwhelming experience & its understandable that any woman without any basic knowledge about beznezz & these rats ulterior motive can become a victim! The stereotypical opinion that the only women who are at risk of being targeted by a rat are older, overweight & less attractive is INCORRECT. Any women is at risk of being targeted by a rat. This is what makes me so angry whenever rats are mentioned in the media, it is always focused on older less attractive women & young men, never do I see a beautiful women in her early 30's & a rat also in his 30's being mentioned..But of course it happens.
Being aware of beznezz & listening to others stories, taking their advice & not having the mind set of 'it wont happen to me' is the best way to avoid any hurt & financial loss in the future.
Of course there are good & bad people everywhere, i have many male Tunisian friends who are respectable, hard working men. Finding these men who work with Tourists are far & few, but not impossible. There are many success stories of European women & Tunisian men, but unfortunately many many many more that have been very unsuccessful. But as i said before, any declarations of love or marriage proposals after a short period of time.. alarm bells.
 
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renata

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View attachment 2328 541973_327252960669066_8130tnoook.jpg no, I have not heard even one story with a happy ending in my area . there are stories about money and divorce . and intimidation , the pain , the lost years. Not happy about the children ... and as I watch a lot of live story on a facebook profiles as well, it's still the same song. American woman age 47 and age 25 Tunisian gigolo is love beyond the grave , until death :) . they have never met , but online date on facebook years day . she has no money . at the moment it tunisan finds love story ends and his facebook profile is deleted. American crying live and asks : " Why ? ? ? loved him , I can not live without him . sexy baby where are you????? " oooo my god, people warned her , wrote to him not taken seriously . she did not listen and ever dreamed his unreall dream online until the end of evil . therefore finally Wake up . happy end is impossible with Tunisian gigolo who lives for money and cheats us with others. Tunisian sick theifs are not true . Never . only to know conceal . but you will not be faithful . and good luck with them is really a relative term .
 

Big Bang Theory

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View attachment 2328 View attachment 2329 no, I have not heard even one story with a happy ending in my area . there are stories about money and divorce . and intimidation , the pain , the lost years. Not happy about the children ... and as I watch a lot of live story on a facebook profiles as well, it's still the same song. American woman age 47 and age 25 Tunisian gigolo is love beyond the grave , until death :) . they have never met , but online date on facebook years day . she has no money . at the moment it tunisan finds love story ends and his facebook profile is deleted. American crying live and asks : " Why ? ? ? loved him , I can not live without him . sexy baby where are you????? " oooo my god, people warned her , wrote to him not taken seriously . she did not listen and ever dreamed his unreall dream online until the end of evil . therefore finally Wake up . happy end is impossible with Tunisian gigolo who lives for money and cheats us with others. Tunisian sick theifs are not true . Never . only to know conceal . but you will not be faithful . and good luck with them is really a relative term .
Hi renata, who are photo's of ?
 
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renata

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Hi renata, who are photo's of ?
is 47 american woman name xxxx from xxxx and 25 age Tunisian theif name Mouha from Sousse Tunisia. he has love 2 years online with untill he knows that she don´t have money. his love fall down from one day. he work like animation in hotel "Tulip" i dont remember name of the hotel direct. it was" love forever" hahaha
 
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WildCat

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is 47 american woman name Tami from Oklahoma and 25 age Tunisian theif name Mouha from Sousse Tunisia. he has love 2 years online with untill he knows that she don´t have money. his love fall down from one day. he work like animation in hotel "Tulip" i dont remember name of the hotel direct. it was" love forever" hahaha

Retana, why did you post the victim's photo? Can you please delete it?
 
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WildCat

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If the guy is a rat, post his picture to the gallery. The girl is not a rat I guess..
 
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renata

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wildcat, ok i can delete it. but this story is not about some victim. i warned this woman about all the problem one year ago. she called me bitch. she knows very good that he is theif, many people warned her. and she helped him play game.. she make a lot of bad matters for make bezness problem in the true. so, in fact this woman is same like tunisian man. no victim, but advertise for bezness
 

befair

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Hi Trisha. I'm married with a Tunisian man and living in Tunisia.

I'm allways wondering how it is possible that persons who start a relationship tru the internet can already talking so soon about getting married and emigrating.

If you want to see serious if your internet / holiday love story is something more than that, than I can only advise you to come to live here for about 3 months and see how it goes between you and also how you do in Tunisia living.
And maybe you think I can't do that 3 months, but when you make such a hughe steps in your life like getting married to a man who you only have seen 2 times in person in Holiday Ambiance and not in real life and emigrating to here, well....what is 3 months of the rest of your life than....not much isn't it?
And if it works out, you can arrange everything to stay here permanantly, if not....it's much easier to go back to your home country!

What are you planning to do here when you're living here? I'm sure you're aware that it will be almost impossible to find work here for you?
im really intersted in how you managed to live there ? is it hard to get the papers ? what about a work may i ask you how you earn your money for living ? because you said its almost impossible to find a work there
 

gem15

Major Ratslayer
I don't think net is a member in here anymore.

The only way you can get a decent wage here (in Tunisia) is if you have your own business.

It maybe possible to get a job as a rep but that's few and far between. If your husband has a decent wage it makes it easier to live here.

Papers are very easy if you are married to a Tunisian, alternatively you will have to prove you have a certain amount of currency coming into the country to qualify for a residence card.
 

befair

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I don't think net is a member in here anymore.

The only way you can get a decent wage here (in Tunisia) is if you have your own business.

It maybe possible to get a job as a rep but that's few and far between. If your husband has a decent wage it makes it easier to live here.

Papers are very easy if you are married to a Tunisian, alternatively you will have to prove you have a certain amount of currency coming into the country to qualify for a residence card.
thank you for your answer !
do you maybe know something about how it is when he leaves tunisia and i leave my country because i have a job abroad ? or do you maybe know someone who experienced it ?
 

befair

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It all depends if he needs a visa and if your married and where you will be going.

Its not easy for a Tunisian to leave their country
because of that reason im not so much wondering why many want to get out of the country .. they dont earn much .. they are locked in the country .. maybe me in their place would want to leave too .. but not the way they are doing it their way is completly wrong .....

not talking about my situation now .. just about other people i saw doing so much Shite
 
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cathy gort

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Just wondering if there are any happy endings out there .....
yes . I married a Tunisian boy of 27 when I was 34 and we have been happily married for 15 yrs. he has never done anything bad to me and we ve had a happy easy going relationship, laughing a lot together. not very well off due to our poorly paid jobs but content nevertheless.he was not in a tourist area where I found him, and I think this is significant.hes from tunis.young men in the tourist zones see and watch and are influenced by how other men behave with the abundant foreign women there and then follow suit.
 
yes . I married a Tunisian boy of 27 when I was 34 and we have been happily married for 15 yrs. he has never done anything bad to me and we ve had a happy easy going relationship, laughing a lot together. not very well off due to our poorly paid jobs but content nevertheless.he was not in a tourist area where I found him, and I think this is significant.hes from tunis.young men in the tourist zones see and watch and are influenced by how other men behave with the abundant foreign women there and then follow suit.
Cathy, did you not state on another thread that a young tunisian asked you for money?

If you've been married for years surely you know about being scammed.
What does your husband say about it?
 

Kalas

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yes . I married a Tunisian boy of 27 when I was 34 and we have been happily married for 15 yrs. he has never done anything bad to me and we ve had a happy easy going relationship, laughing a lot together. not very well off due to our poorly paid jobs but content nevertheless.he was not in a tourist area where I found him, and I think this is significant.hes from tunis.young men in the tourist zones see and watch and are influenced by how other men behave with the abundant foreign women there and then follow suit.
Your Tunisian husband of 15 years doesn't mind you chatting to another Tunisian man and sending him money? .....
 
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WomenBeWise

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Just wondering if there are any happy endings out there .....
Personally I know two English ladies married to Tunisian men.

One couple met when the lady made trips to Nabuel. They have known each other 8 years now. The other was a personal introduction via friends and the man inquestion had been known in that particular circle of friends for two years prior to the introduction. Other than that I don't hear happy stories...but rarely people comment when things are going well.

Setting aside the "Rat Pack" even with the educated, well travelled ones I'm told that cultural adjustments need to be made. Divisions between what is seen as "manly" or not, the Tunisian always needing "to save face" and male jealousy over "his woman".

If I were ever to have any serious involvement with a Tunisian man, for me the family interference would be suffocating; but that's because I've lived since a young age without family.

Sorry.. wish I could offer more solice.
 

K forsyth

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You dont have to say anything nice unless you mean it lol I came here because a friend forced me to when she realized things were becoming more than just a casual fling with me and my Tunisian but honestly everything I have read here just shows me that mine is not at all like the men described here. I feel bad for the women who have been taken advantage of though .... it happens way to often in every country.
Very well written!
 
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