Florencia
Well-Known Member
Hello ladies,
For a while I’ve been reading the threads on this forum, and I would now like to get your opinion on my situation. It is a long story.
I am French, so my English grammar is not perfect.
A long time ago I met a guy online (can’t even remember where) and he happened to be Tunisian. Smart and speaks English (and French, of course) perfectly. Very kind and been friends for a long time, but never met in real life. He told me about his then-girlfriend and shared his pain with me when she broke up with him. He never talked bad about her or other Tunisian women. We continued to be friends. Now, 4 years after that breakup, he said he has developed feelings for me and to be honest so do I. Now of course we would like to meet when the whole pandemic issue has gotten better.
I said I don’t want to visit him in Tunisia and he was fine with it. He can not come to Schengen-Europe because of visa ristrictions, but is in the process to permanently come to France through his family. I’ve seen that application signed and stamped by the authorities.
He said he really wants to meet me and doesn’t matter where. I could say where. I told him I want to meet in Serbia (he can go there). He agreed and we will stay in different hotels, he never mentioned staying together.
In my opinion the former sounds quite ok. But what worries me is this: he is I think what the people here would refer to as “love bombing” me (never ghosts me). He also talks about intimacy.
He tells me that if we also have this chemistry in in real life and meet more often, he is in for it to lead to marriage, but not now or in a short time. He did ask me how a man should propose to a woman here and how he should behave with her family for a meeting with them.
Should we meet, he will tell his mother that he is going to meet me. He said he is serious about me
He never once asked me about money or my possessions or my job. I did ask him all that. He kindly responded. He has a great degree and a good job and never complains.
Our age difference is 1 year, him being older. We are 29 and 28. He never once ghosted me and is very consistent. His background checks out (his work and name and all) and does not have multiple social media accounts in any variation of his name. He does have 3 women from Western countries in his friend list, of 1 I can see she actually studied in Tunisia. They liked 1 picture of him. No flirty comments from Tunisian ladies either.
I hope I wrote it clearly.. I guess that are all the details. Am I in the amiga stage or do you think he might be for real?
Thank you so much for your time. Stay safe
For a while I’ve been reading the threads on this forum, and I would now like to get your opinion on my situation. It is a long story.
I am French, so my English grammar is not perfect.
A long time ago I met a guy online (can’t even remember where) and he happened to be Tunisian. Smart and speaks English (and French, of course) perfectly. Very kind and been friends for a long time, but never met in real life. He told me about his then-girlfriend and shared his pain with me when she broke up with him. He never talked bad about her or other Tunisian women. We continued to be friends. Now, 4 years after that breakup, he said he has developed feelings for me and to be honest so do I. Now of course we would like to meet when the whole pandemic issue has gotten better.
I said I don’t want to visit him in Tunisia and he was fine with it. He can not come to Schengen-Europe because of visa ristrictions, but is in the process to permanently come to France through his family. I’ve seen that application signed and stamped by the authorities.
He said he really wants to meet me and doesn’t matter where. I could say where. I told him I want to meet in Serbia (he can go there). He agreed and we will stay in different hotels, he never mentioned staying together.
In my opinion the former sounds quite ok. But what worries me is this: he is I think what the people here would refer to as “love bombing” me (never ghosts me). He also talks about intimacy.
He tells me that if we also have this chemistry in in real life and meet more often, he is in for it to lead to marriage, but not now or in a short time. He did ask me how a man should propose to a woman here and how he should behave with her family for a meeting with them.
Should we meet, he will tell his mother that he is going to meet me. He said he is serious about me
He never once asked me about money or my possessions or my job. I did ask him all that. He kindly responded. He has a great degree and a good job and never complains.
Our age difference is 1 year, him being older. We are 29 and 28. He never once ghosted me and is very consistent. His background checks out (his work and name and all) and does not have multiple social media accounts in any variation of his name. He does have 3 women from Western countries in his friend list, of 1 I can see she actually studied in Tunisia. They liked 1 picture of him. No flirty comments from Tunisian ladies either.
I hope I wrote it clearly.. I guess that are all the details. Am I in the amiga stage or do you think he might be for real?
Thank you so much for your time. Stay safe