Ok so I am obviously new on here, but I have been reading posts for a while now, which I am so glad I did. Back in August this year, I took myself and my son to Tunisia for a well earned break. I only chose tunisia as it seemed to tick all the boxes for us. Water slides, beach, all inclusive and cheap etc. My son is 12 and the idea it eas a closed complex also appealed so he could have a bit of independence. I have seen single for 3 years and always enjoyed my independence. So, Tunisia. Obviously being a single mum I was a target for the many waiters etc at this complex. I rebuffed all and eventually I was pretty much left alone. Then I made the mistake of talking to one guy. Let's call him A. Very sweet guy, very complimentary. I wasnt sure and just put it down to a holiday kiss . Left Tunisia and A was constantly in touch , texting, calling sending me selfies. After time I grew to long for his messages. He made me feel like a princess. Obviously I had never heard of the term bezness so I had bo reason to not believe everything he said to me. We looked into a visitor's visa for him but he said it wouldn't work for various reasons. So he asked me to go back and visit him. Which I was planning to on boxing Day. But my mum and my son were both so unhappy about this. But still I continued with my plan. I was about to book the flights in October, and sent A a screen shot of the flights. He replied and said ''dont book anything yet, we have plenty of tine for that" Of course I was upset, but also alarm bells were seriously starting to ring. I asked for an explanation, he tried to fob me off with some sort of joke. In the end I told him he must tell me why. He said he couldn't talk at the moment and he would call me later to explain (obviously to give him time to get a story together) I waited and waited for the call that night. Nothing. So eventually i called him and he gave me some story about him getting a job on a cruise ship. He didn't know when this job would start etc . So we kept talking. Then eventually at the beginning of December, he told me that he wasn't starting this work until end of January so I could book my flights. I should have been happy, but I was just confused. I had a bad feeling in my gut now, and I couldn't quite put my finger on why. So I this is when I started to do some research. Found this site and hey presto. It all clicked into place. All the things these rats say and do...he had pretty much done all of it. So I tell him, actually I have just realised, I don't have enough money to come see you...just to see how he would react. It took a week and eventually he completely ghosted me! What a surprise! Obviously not so attractive now I have no money. So I am assuming he went back to another one of his potential women...one with money!?! I was gutted at first, but after reading more of other people's experiences, I now realize what a lucky escape I had. I wish more people in these situations knew about this and similar sites. It's saved my sanity! Thanks guys!