Hi Neela Let me clarify: spousal visa is granted to the husband for 2 years..in the uk stamped on his passport on entry is the date for him to return they add on maybe 10 weeks to give the spouse a chance to apply for Leave to remain. he has to reach a criteria meaning that he has to still be living with the spouse/wife and in a good relationship, meaning he has work..and support himself..and wife/family.. in his passport also is stamped no recourse to public funds.. meaning the wife has to support him as he cannot claim social security if he does not work.. that is that the wife's income and financial state has to reach a certain level before a spousal visa is given in the first place.. hence why many do not get this. If there is issues in the marriage and they separate before the 2 years is up the wife must right to the border agency with this information and the reason why the marriage is not valid.. if it is proven by the immigration judge that the husband has ulterior motives for marrying the wife the immigration judge curtails the visa.. therefore taking it away and the husband is deported.. that is if they can find him.. problem is that they disappear.. and the wife does not get informed of if he is deported.. I can't stress this enough the visa is his and the wife has no part in the removal or right to information. so she is left in Limbo.. Bearing in mind that these rats have shown their true colours and to different degrees.. some woman have babies, been beaten to a pulp, and in a lot of cases in fear of their life. The Rat then goes underground and many friends appear from nowhere and protect him.. therefore can get fraudulent documents and depending on what they have from the wife in the way of utility bills/provisional driving licence, that is a good one, is documents will either allow him to get a bank account as they need a uk address, if they get this or have some documents that say they live at that address they will scam the credit card companies..as they do not have the right to work once the visa has been taken away.. and they are very good at knowing the system. Getting back to leave to Remain he will never get this unless he is still living with the wife.. and they know this. many do not jump ship until they have this.. he can apply for Leave to remain under special circumstances.. but this is normally if he has another victim got her pregnant, but even then not normally given. Advice...get out before they have Leave to remain as he has won and achieved his goal to remain... Next step for them is British Citizenship after 5 years.. legislation has tightened up here that is why the rats are fishing further afield/Usa etc... As you said met married and three years later. I assumed that he did not have leave to remain in Germany.. the process must be different. Getting back to your problem: I am confused because he doesnt want a divorce and thinks we can be a married couple living separately but still be together (no doubt untill it suits him to change it) I am going backwards and forwards He wants his cake and eat it... he does not want all his eggs in on basket... he is going to the unknown and wants his safety net/you!! kept sweet ,in case all goes wrong with his plan. Whatever that is.. Forget what he wants// you will never work it out but believe me it is not in your best interests. Do not wait for him, do not discuss what you are doing with him, silence is your power. You say that he is not on anything jointly with you... but you are aware if you divorce that he might be able to get something? Get a good lawyer... he can get nothing from you that he did not buy or put in to the house. If he paid a few utilities so what.. he lived there. He can get nothing from you, I am sorry as I am trying not to hurt you, but if he could gain financially he would still be with you...they go where the money is... they know they have limited time and what they want to achieve within that time, I am sorry again but you have fufilled the part of his plan and therefore not necessary anymore. They are pretty sick in the head that they think no matter what hurt they cause/ what degree of pain and hurt they have done/ you can still be friends... they do not care if you re there friend/ not as we know it// this is more that you are not there enemy and fight them.. You need to be smarter than him now.. find out as much as you can.. start divorce proceedings right away..you cannot stop him now he has what he wants.. but you need to protect yourself and limit the damage.. You are not weak.. your confusion and love for him is the weakness.. this is the most difficult part.. but you have to act quickly.. I do not think he can divorce you by himself in Tunisia on the fly!!! I think you would also have to appear in person as you both reside in Germany.. or at least have to sign papers in agreement and send back to Tunisia. He is lying when he says he does not want a divorce of course he does... Fight him... let go....get on with your life.....Move on...... before the Tunisian new wife aoppears in Germany for a few years till they have enough money to move back to Tunisia and live in there shack. I hope this post is helpful. I am sorry if it is simplistic or patronizing and direct... it is not my intention to hurt you.. I have been where you have been but slightly different and it is a long hurtful soul destroying emotional upset than drags on.. I would not wish it on anyone and I hope this will help you to deflect the blows and be clearer in your thinking... Good luck my lovely, you are going to need it.. Hard as it might be.. think with your head not your heart..