Missing in Tunisia

Discussion in 'Tunisian News & Current Events' started by MacCoinneach, Sep 17, 2014.

  1. MacCoinneach

    MacCoinneach Well-Known Member

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    Hi all,

    I just spotted this on my FB - I'm not sure why it came up since I'm not in that group and don't know the person who posted it, BUT I thought it could do with as much exposure as possible.

    Here is the print screen:

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    I'll look out for her in our small town, you never know.
     
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    I am pretty sure this is the lady that was on stv this morning show exposing her Tunisian rat that conned her of money . It was aired recently. Cant be good if she is missing? :\
     
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  6. MacCoinneach

    MacCoinneach Well-Known Member

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    This doesn't sound too good! I hadn't seen any of that!

    Apparently as well as being on TV/in papers/online articles, she had set up a YouTube shaming her husband, too - which understandably he wouldn't be too happy about (even though he was the one in the wrong), and whilst I know some men are capable of some awful things, I would not want to jump to any conclusions that he's involved - yes he's a rat, but that is all I will say for now. Some people have also commented that she was actually getting to know another man/men (really?!!!!). There has been a few comments on that post saying it might be attention seeking, etc., which is a possibility too, but her family/friends seem convinced it's out of character. She supposedly flew out to Tunisia around 3 weeks ago and there has been no contact since. Whilst I do hope she's safe and well, I cannot believe anybody would put their family and friends through all the worry...

    If anyone hears anything can you update with thread! xx
     
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  7. MacCoinneach

    MacCoinneach Well-Known Member

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    Thank you. To be honest I think nobody really knows where she is, or even is meant to be, it's all speculation! I hope there is some news soon, this must be so distressing for her family and friends.
     
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    Long Distance Relationship :Cry:
     
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    Beautiful! :love: It really brought tears to my eyes..............

    You know, the main problem, that some women beleive (or want to beleive) in "fary tales" like this, and WOMEN THINK THAT THEIR CASE ARE ALSO SPECIAL LIKE THIS, AND THEIRS ARE REAL LOVE and fall into rat's trap.

    I know stories like this are rare, but exist. But the very big difference in the presented case - sorry to say - that the man in this story was not Tunisian, and didn't need the visa, or/and money!! I know genuine long distance relatioship can exist also between Tunisian men and European women, and it can be a honest love, but in many cases it isn't. Videos like this make women think that "they are exceptions", like the presented couple. But unfortunately usually not.....:Cry:
     
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  10. Kalas

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    Watching that video makes me feel so old and cynical...
    All I could think was, don't they have jobs, how do they afford these long trips, where will they live.... !
    Oh to be young and in love lol..
     
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    I have a question. When I Google this lady's name I cannot seem to find anything... I just want to follow the story. Has she been heard from or found yet?
     
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    There was a link somewhere here on TLR for the fb page and people had commented and so far she had not been in contact with anyone.
    Think it was called Tunisians United and friends... Something like that
     
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    Yes Kalas, thats the group name :) I have just taken a look, and she has now been in contact with her daughter, and is coming home around the 28th, so is safe and sound...it doesnt say where she's been, but the comments under her pic are an interesting read x
     
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    Great, at least she is safe :)

    I haven't read the Facebook stories as there are normally such a clique on them.

    MH xxxxxxx
     
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    Thanks MH, was just trying to figure out how to copy my post over to this thread xx
     
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    Apparently she is safe and well - she got in touch with someone within the last couple of days. I hope she has a good explanation for her lack of contact!
     
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    Completely agree, so happy she is safe and well but it is out of order not to let her family know she was okay! My son would be furious if I did that!! It's natural to let your loved ones know you are safe!

    When I first started going away and didn't have a smart phone I made sure I had a phone card and kept in contact regularly.

    Not only has she worried her family but she worried us!

    Happy ending but I am very cross.

    MH xxxxxx
     
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    Well considering recent events, it's normal to have been concerned about her anyway! If she didn't normally make contact that would be a bit different, but apparently she usually did. I am glad she is ok but the disappearing act was uncalled for... I hate to say but attention seeking does spring to mind!
     
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    Home News Visa rat! Tunisian toy boy husband duped me out of £35k
    Visa rat! Tunisian toy boy husband duped me out of £35k
    by Helen O'Brien -
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    Michelle was excited to start life in the sun with her new toyboy husband Hamma, until he started asking for a UK visa…

    By Helen O’Brien Google

    My heart skipped a beat as I saw a new Facebook message come through.

    It was Hamma again, and I felt the same surge of excitement every time he replied to one of my messages.

    He had started messaging me a few months ago and I was still a bit skeptical.

    He had added me out of the blue and I thought there would be no harm in having another friend on there.

    I never expected it to go any further and I was shocked when he asked to talk over webcam.

    At 21, Hamma was half my age and I was wary about his intentions – I’d heard horror stories about young Tunisian men scamming older British women for money before.

    He was gorgeous and I couldn’t help being attracted to him. But I was divorced with six children.

    Surely he would never fancy an old girl like me, I thought.

    Only he didn’t seem interested in money and he was so sweet and caring. He constantly showered me with compliments.

    “You’re beautiful,” he told me: “Come and see me in Tunisia, I want to see you in person.”

    I was tempted, but I held back, I didn’t want to fall for him too easily.

    But he was so genuine and persistent that I was eventually won over and after six months of talking I visited him in Tunisia in December 2010.

    Under the beautiful sunshine, everything seemed perfect.

    Hamma was even better looking in the flesh and he was so affectionate, I felt flattered.

    But, like his family, Hamma was a Muslim and felt uncomfortable having a relationship without his god’s approval.

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    Michelle and Hamma in happy times
    “Will you marry me? It would please my family,” he said.

    I was horrified at first, it was far too soon.

    But he explained it wouldn’t be an official marriage in law, just an Islamic marriage ceremony at his local mosque, so I happily agreed.

    It was so romantic and spiritual, I felt totally at home with Hamma and his family.

    It was like I had known him all my life.

    After that Hamma begged me to marry him properly, but I was determined to make him wait.

    I visited as often as I could and we spoke every single day when we were apart.

    I couldn’t help falling for him – he was never too busy to talk to me.

    “Come and live with me here in Tunisia,” he begged.

    It sounded like the perfect idea, but I was nervous about uprooting my life here – it was a big step.

    In the end he was so persistent that I couldn’t resist and agreed to marry him.

    But my son Jason, now 30, didn’t approve.

    Hamma and his family were very poor, so I often helped him out with money – I knew life in Tunisia was tough and Hamma had struggled for years to find work.

    Jason said: “I don’t like this Mum, he’s only in it for the money, he’s using you.”

    But he didn’t know Hamma like I did.

    I said: “Don’t be silly, I’ve been seeing him for ages now, I know what I’m doing.”

    We had been together for at least a year before Hamma first asked for cash. Hardly the approach of a desperate scammer!

    By then I had met his family and seen how little they had. That’s how I knew he genuinely needed help.

    So, ignoring my son’s warnings, I trusted in my heart and went ahead with the legal marriage.

    We said our vows officially under the Tunisian sun in May 2012. I wore a traditional white wedding dress and felt like the luckiest woman in the world.

    I’d been married before but it didn’t work out and we divorced in 2005 after 32 years of marriage.

    It was really important to me that this time it was perfect.

    I was sure Hamma was genuine – we had been together for two years already after all.

    This time I knew it was forever.

    But just a week after our wedding, Hamma called me up.

    He said: “Will you help me pay for a UK visa?”

    I was confused – we had always talked of building a life together in Tunisia.

    He said he wanted to be able to visit me and my family, which seemed reasonable.

    But when I realised a permanent visa would cost over a thousand pounds I told him I couldn’t help him – I had already spent thousands to support him and his family.

    I thought a visitor’s visa would be the best option and he seemed happy to apply for that.

    The application process was long and slow, and I was shocked when his application was refused in January 2013.

    We had been married for a year by then, and together for three, so I thought there wouldn’t be any problems.

    I assumed that there must have been a mix up so we appealed the decision and in the meantime I still visited him all the time.

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    Michelle Amri now
    But then Hamma’s application was refused again when our appeal went to a tribunal in May this year.


    Hamma had said in his application that he worked in Tunisia running a farm, but he didn’t have a job at all.

    Because he had been dishonest they just refused it outright – they said he had no ties to Tunisia to prove he would return.

    I was sad that my husband couldn’t come to visit me, but I thought we would just carry on as we had been.

    I started looking at moving to Tunisia. Life in the sun will be bliss, I told myself.

    But my toyboy husband had other ideas…

    Just days after the tribunal decision, I received a Whatsapp text message from him ending our marriage after just two years.

    It said: “I need someone who can support me with money to get a visa, I’m sorry.”

    He told me I was too old for him and if I couldn’t help him then he’d have to find someone who could.

    I was heart broken.

    I felt completely used – after we got married I gave Hamma access to my bank account and he withdrew money every week.

    I didn’t have much cash, so I’d even been letting him have the child tax credits that I got for my two youngest boys, who hadn’t turned 18 at the time.

    That money should have been spent on my kids, but instead I wasted £35,000 bailing him out of debt – and even more travelling back and forth to visit him.

    How could I be so blind?

    I felt like such a fool that I let him take over my life just to entertain his hopes of getting a free ticket to the UK.

    I had been caught up in my little love bubble, flattered that such a good looking, charming man was interested in me. I should have realised it was too good to be true.

    Then just when I thought it couldn’t get any worse, I logged into Hamma’s Skype account a few weeks later.

    Tears streamed down my face as I saw he’d been talking to more than 20 other British women.

    He says that he wasn’t using me, but I’ll never believe that, especially as he’s now moved onto other British women.

    I can’t believe that I’m facing my second divorce, but I’ve learnt from my mistakes. I feel stronger and wiser now.

    I’m just glad that he didn’t get what he wanted out of me.

    Hamma said: “We did apply for the visa and I was refused.

    “We appealed but it was refused again. I’d been waiting more than two years.

    “I don’t believe in relationships if you can’t see them. You know, she’s over there and I’m all the way over here so it doesn’t make any sense. It is difficult.

    “How can you live together as husband and wife when she’s over there and I’m over here?

    “I’m sure you have ideas about Tunisia and what it’s like here — no jobs. It’s hard to live here. But I didn’t use her to get a visa.”

    http://images.google.de/imgres?imgu...ved=0ahUKEwjL4M7QsKPOAhXNERQKHTOvCKgQ9QEIOzAJ
     
  20. magic

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    Well she is with another tunie boy now
     
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    How can a woman with six sons to be so stupid? I understand one time, it may happen, but two is to be demented.
     
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    But this ones DIFFERENT ,obviously :rolleyes:
     
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    At 21, Hamma was half my age and I was wary about his intentions – I’d heard horror stories about young Tunisian men scamming older British women for money before.

    I’d been married before but it didn’t work out and we divorced in 2005 after 32 years of marriage.

    I'm no Einstein but by my figures she was more than half his age
     
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    Fills me with joy my hard earned taxes pay for these parasites, British benefit merry go round
     
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    I can't even talk about this, I get so enraged and it dominates my day! Thieving, evil, lazy bastards! No dignity, nothing, arghhhhhhhh :mad::mad::mad:
     
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