Hi everyone! I joined about 2 months ago so I could do some digging on someone and have been reading here a lot. Let me start by saying I'm a child of a rat so I have been and am very educated on the topic (from a different perspective, but still - they act just as ratty with their own children when it comes to money, gifts, emotional manipulation). Never thought I'd be one to engage in anything beyond smalltalk on holiday because I know so much, but here I am. Still, thankfully nothing major happened to me and things probably ended before they could really start. Actually nothing about my encounter seemed like the classic rat at first. A friend of mine was involved with a rat too and that was completely different. I just think mine has had a lot of practice. Things got a bit ugly when I uncovered a (small) lie and ditched plans. A small part of me always worries I did him wrong by cutting ties, (we're not in contact anymore), but deep down I know it's better this way. I know they are known to always come crawling back sooner or later, but I'm convinced he doesn't have to act that way because he has enough women throwing themselves at him left and right, the choices are mere endless to not get held up with a specific one. Don't profit from her - next. I've found a thread on "mine" on here, but it's from almost a decade ago, haven't found anything more recent here or on other forums in other languages. Actually I found this right after I met him but swore it can't be him due to details about himself he's told me that weren't adding up with the timeline of that thread. Well, turns out he is. There are no pictures on him here, but I know for sure it's him. Am quite good at digging up stuff, during my research I've actually uncovered about 3 others I've seen around with friends this year to be rats (one is on here, it's one where there haven't been any updates in a while) and will comment on it soon. I'm honestly just so happy when I see posts on here from a long time ago and then see those same guys around and they are still there working their awful jobs and still haven't found anyone stupid enough to marry them and take them to Europe. Anyways, I don't want to name him because to be honest I'm very afraid of the consequences if he finds out. But I'm really curious if anyone of the long term members remembers anyone coming here asking about him in the more recent years. Maybe someone asked in private or knows someone who knows him? Maybe even from a long time ago? (I just can't imagine no one has found their way here in such a long time considering he's been working in the hotels for almost a decade and is quite popular with the ladies... unless he really changed like he said, but who am I kidding?). Unfortunately the people commenting in the old thread haven't been active in years. I'd love to ideally find someone who knows him who I could talk to. I'm really needing this last bit of info from someone who knows him to turn me away for good with 0 risk of ever seeking communication again (have been quite good but don't trust myself completely just yet). I'm the kind of person, it's hard for me to close a book when I haven't read the last page, if that makes sense. So long story short, I'd love if someone could privately help me out, but I really don't want his name or picture on here because I don't have clear proof of anything. I promise to share more of the story here soon. The more people know about this kinda stuff the better!! Have a lovely evening, ladies.