New member needs advice

Discussion in 'Rat on a Rat' started by Aysha, Oct 24, 2018.

  1. Liona

    Liona Well-Known Member

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    Of course go :). What a question?
    Bad to whom? All your superstitions have been left in your previous "realtionships". ;) Now you are free from them.
     
  2. AmberHeart

    AmberHeart Lady Amberheart of Gafsa

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    My friends just say what a frightening situation, they don’t even look at the heartbreak but focus more on the risk, the damage they caused to uncountable women. So you will find empathy from the ones that love you and truly care about you.
     
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  3. Laura2014

    Laura2014 Well-Known Member

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    Go go go, take every opportunity to go out and dress up, even if they don’t work out just making the effort to get dressed up and have normal Rat free conversation is good. I would say though keep your rat experience to yourself with new guys, at least till you know them well. I had one hysterically funny blind date, new instantly he was not for me but he was nice company, then we got on to the subject of refugees, he pushed my buttons with usual send them all home stuff and I told him I had worked with a refugee agency and had been offering an emergency room to homeless refugees for three years. He got up, I thought to get a drink and walked out! First time I’ve ever had someone abandon me in a pub.... but had two dates since which were ok. Go for it and just enjoy meeting new people.
     
  4. AmberHeart

    AmberHeart Lady Amberheart of Gafsa

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    Rude guy. Not a gentleman.
     
  5. Liona

    Liona Well-Known Member

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    Politics is just so sensitive subject for the blind dates especially.:rolleyes:
     
  6. Brasilgirl

    Brasilgirl Well-Known Member

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    I don’t think it makes you look bad. You need to decide how it will make you feel. Just let the guy know you’ve just ended a relationship.
    You are still in a bit in love with the rat and it takes time to let that go completely. That is why you have the feelings you have. You loved him and he loved the situation.
    I’ve been on a few dates. When the guy compliments me I am skeptic. It brings back memories of all the things the rat said. I am literally a mess on dates now. I don’t know how to react. I’m polite, but I think the guys take it the wrong way. I get the impression that they think I’m being polite but don’t like them. I don’t get asked out again. They quit texting me. I’m ghosted. I think I would be better off just telling them I’m not ready. So now I tell them “Maybe we can try in a few months?” They say okay but I don’t know.
    It’s hard to go on a date with someone knew when your heart is still stuck, even partially, on the rat.
    But you only know what you feel. So think it over for how you feel. Don’t worry about how it will look. It’s okay.
     
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  7. Mango Chutney

    Mango Chutney Well-Known Member

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    Yes, you are at least physically not contaminated with their filth, and mentally.....you're doing a sterling job of fixing yourself :love:
    Yes!! Thank God for that.....you are a soft and calming presence here on the site....we need that amongst all us outspoken trouble makers :D
    Mine wouldn't have given a shit. She's probably just gutted I survived, so she can't give my kids agro for any inheritance :rolleyes:
    She's money obsessed....like a rat :thumbsup:
    Mothers are welcome too (except mine) :D
    Though on a serious note, I know that like me, it's your personal space to vent....and family members may affect how we interact :)
    Oh well......at least you were in the right place :D
    What a prize dick he was :rolleyes:
     
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  8. AmberHeart

    AmberHeart Lady Amberheart of Gafsa

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    She was refering to physical abuse wich no one deserves.
     
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  9. AmberHeart

    AmberHeart Lady Amberheart of Gafsa

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    She missed a wonderful daughter and gorgeous grand kids, fortunately for you there is your husband and your boys that can give you all the love in the world to survive this ugly chapter of life. Xx
     
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    AmberHeart Lady Amberheart of Gafsa

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    I’m a calm trouble maker too, drove nuts the poor rat ;)
     
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    AmberHeart Lady Amberheart of Gafsa

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    AmberHeart Lady Amberheart of Gafsa

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    :D:D:D:D:D
     
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    Mango Chutney Well-Known Member

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    Olly Murrs!! Isn't he great.....such a happy chappie :love:
    Omg....I hadn't even thought of that! Brilliant :D
    Sometimes, they will need a break from those appetising vaginas...so it's the perfect solution :thumbsup:
     
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    :D:D
     
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    I think Tunisians are very prejudiced against ALL white people! Rat called me a white woman who thinks I’m better than everybody else! He’s such a pig! I’m better than him, for sure, but not compared to others!
     
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    Our mothers must have been sisters!!!
     
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  18. AmberHeart

    AmberHeart Lady Amberheart of Gafsa

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    :(
     
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