May I ask, when does he workWe talk most of the day via Facebook video chat. He calls me at 9-10am and we talk until noon, hang up so he can shower and get ready for coffee. He then calls me back around 1 being fresh up. We talk until he goes to coffee with his friend around 3pm my time, central time (it's Ramadan so he goes to coffee late as of right now) and visit his uncle. He calls back by 6 and we talk until bed. This is everyday.
It wasn't intended to warn people about the good guys. Of course there are some but they don't find themselves here.I've read it. But TBH it sounded prejudice. Like they are all the same. And also did not seem to apply as he has never asked me for anything (yet) and has only given. So I felt i needed info on my personal situation.
There is an US travel warning for Tunisia https://travel.state.gov/content/passports/en/alertswarnings/tunisia-travel-warning1.htmlAs of right now he does not. Only on the farm. He said after Ramadan (one more week) he will get a job to save money for my visit. I know not to go there w no money for my own safety but I sure won't be buying him stuff. I've already told him this.
May I ask what he gave youI've read it. But TBH it sounded prejudice. Like they are all the same. And also did not seem to apply as he has never asked me for anything (yet) and has only given. So I felt i needed info on my personal situation.
Your whole first post screams "RAT", dear. You should forget about himSo I've done all the reading about rats and Tunisian men. I honestly find it a bit prejudice that I can find not one good thing online about them. I am a firm believer that not all people are the same. So after having said that, I would like to share my story and based on MY situation get some opinions and advice.
I met a man from Tunisia online. We have been talking for awhile. He is Muslim. I am Christian. We are both 30 w him being 6 months my senior. We talk most of the day via Facebook video chat. He calls me at 9-10am and we talk until noon, hang up so he can shower and get ready for coffee. He then calls me back around 1 being fresh up. We talk until he goes to coffee with his friend around 3pm my time, central time (it's Ramadan so he goes to coffee late as of right now) and visit his uncle. He calls back by 6 and we talk until bed. This is everyday. He has never asked me for money or gifts. He has introduced me to his father and little brother on FB video as well while they was walking on their family farm and showed me all the fruit and olives.... Things seem to be getting deeper. He has asked me to visit for a week in Tunisia bc he wants to introduce me to his family and friends. He said we will travel and visit his country and stay in separate hotel rooms. When we get to his family I can stay w them but I will stay in his sister's room not with him. After we see how the family, friends and we connect (he says they will love me as long as he is happy) we will then decide if we want to marry. He specifically said there is no sex in islam until married and he WILL NOT have relations until we are married. He says he will pay for everything w the visit wedding. I just purchase my plane ticket. He did buy me a Skype credit to call him when he not online. He knows that I am poor. He said call anytime and so far he has answered Everytime I called. He tells me that im not his girlfriend but his hopefully future wife. All the things I've read online have scared me. He has shown me his I'd to prove who he is and his deplomas. He has a couple college deplomas and speaks 4 languages. His English is very, very good. He says when I come that he is taking me to the U.S. embassy so I can ask them about him and any doubts that I have I can get answers. I like him a lot but after reading all the stuff online im very skeptical. He told me that there are good and bad people everywhere in the world (I agree) and that if he wants nothing from me why im scared. That if he is all day everyday on phone w me why am I scared? He said we can live there or come to America. That he is just looking for a (real) woman. He always talking about the business he wants to open if he comes here and everything is a future with me. That nothing will change if he comes here that still he is all day with me except for work. He says he has been engaged to Tunisian woman twice before and the first one did not like his family so he cancelled and second one all she wanted was new phone, new clothes, new everything and he terminated that as well. He said he is looking for a real woman who will respect him, love him, and not be about money. In your opinion... How should I proceed?
My reply for you is- don't take him seriously.How should I proceed?
It's lie. He just wants to convince you "he is correct man" as they say.He specifically said there is no sex in islam until married
As I can see he is already in USA in his dreams. What kind of business he could open spending 24/7 with phone and in coffe shops with his friends? All he needs it's path to USA, that's why he found the girl ( you) from this country.He always talking about the business he wants to open if he comes here and everything is a future with me.
Dear, for whom are you ( all we) telling all this? The people who ask the question and after receiving the answers they don't like, escape . Such people are annoying me. Because they remind me the rats.You have to stay in separate rooms at a hotel. It's illegal for him to enter your room. The tourist police are aware of who stays in the hotels.
A Tunisian man with a western woman may be stopped by police frequently.
It's a dangerous place to be, that's why the USA and uk governments advise against all but essential travel. He will tell you it's very safe and lots of tourists go there. In reality it's not safe. 38 British tourists were murdered then in 2015 and there are frequent threats to tourist areas.
Being invited to the family home is really not acceptable. If a Tunisian man wants to date a girl there his father approaches the girls father and they are introduced but always accompanied by family members. Bringing you to his home is disrespectful to you.
Please bear in mind, Laura's post describes rat behaviour specifically, not Tunisian man in general. Out of curiosity, was there anything in Laura's post that sounded familiar to you? Any alarm bells ringing?TBH it sounded prejudice.
You have deleted your main post since I read it, but to be honest, I can't better what Laura has written here. You have a story absolutely full of red flags, if your post was still here, as somebody that lived in Tunisia with a rat...I could have picked it to pieces.You met on line
He has no job
He's invited you to the family home
He wants to stay at a hotel with you
He's asked you to visit there
You can live in Tunisia or the USA .... that will never happen, it's USA all the way.
He's been engaged twice , that will not be approved of and he will have a bad reputation.
You are not from Tunisia .. you will be a temporary bride until he has enough money to either return to Tunisia or to bring his Tunisian wife to the USA.
You met on line ....
You met on line
We were all here once @Liona , give her time. I adored my rat and my early posts here reflected my reluctance to believe it. I could not believe that the lovely kind sincere man I knew could be a rat. He told me so many times he was not like this, that he was a good guy.Dear, for whom are you ( all we) telling all this? The people who ask the question and after receiving the answers they don't like, escape . Such people are annoying me. Because they remind me the rats.
I think you are right. I just had no one who could explain me what happened. May be I would not believe as well than.We were all here once @Liona , give her time. I adored my rat and my early posts here reflected my reluctance to believe it. I could not believe that the lovely kind sincere man I knew could be a rat. He told me so many times he was not like this, that he was a good guy.
I was already invested by then and hated the prospect of letting him go and lingered. Then true for form eventually came the sudden tragedies, being robbed, needing money, wanting a business in Tunisia for us of course.... it takes a while as you know and sometimes it's very very hard to let go.
They're not worth a lot of money. Houssem looked at going into an olive business, after pricing everything up, he learned his overheads would absolutely overpower any money coming in, the only way to get any decent income is with a very old, well established business. Olives are ten a penny there. His farm cannot possibly be old and established, else he would not be looking for alternative employment after Ramadan and fishing women online...this tells me money is an issue.Sorry, I have to disagree here Tunisia is the the second largest producer of Olive oil after Spain
For some it's a few hours, truly people here have had marriage proposals within a day of meeting on line. Been introduced to family and planed a trip!Yes I understand that. I didn't mean to be offensive. Does anything I mentioned sound like rat behavior? How long does it usually take for the rat to come out of hiding
Mango, I think... may be come as it may..why does'not we find some tuni guy with olive and dates plantation. I love it!Also, in Tunisia, I was allowed to bring back excess weight in Tunisian made wine and olive oil, they were trying to attract markets outside of Tunisia, this didn't affect my duty free allowance or anything. Olives and olive oil are dirt cheap in Tunisia....and damn tasty!! Does his olive farm actually produce the oil, Boss Girl, or just grow the olives?
Yep, same old, same old The twags will tell you everything you want to hear, Bossgirl, but here....we will point out red flags and can spot a rat fast! We are not prejudiced, just realistic, but if you want to give it a go anyway, twags is the site for you...we just pick up the pieces and mop the tears up afterwards here, because while the specs are on, our truths aren't welcomed.we will be here to pick up the pieces later....
Ha, well I almost had an olive rat....but he had no money to finance his unrealistic dream. Obviously, I ruined his dream when I brought a practical aspect into itMango, I think... may be come as it may..why does'not we find some tuni guy with olive and dates plantation. I love it!