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me myself and I77

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Ow! I remember I was on pen pal site once. It 's even called Palpen or something close to it. I went there to practice languages. And it was like "OMFG! Am I on a dating site?" , because I have been attacked by males from Turkey, Morocco, and etc with poor English and stupid conversations which I did not want. I had to block 1/2 of list of the countries, I suppose, but anyway this sort of guys have been creeping in still somehow. My next step was to limit all the "palls" to girls only. But no one freaking girl wanted to speak with me.:D Well, I tried to speak with 2 actually, without success. I had good idea they definitely preferred speaking with boys. :D
you are funny, thank u. yes i met some interesting people but most were from N Africa and wanted money.. I did meet an intelligent guy from Syria who was a lecturer now in college in Sweden, This was years ago but thank u for responding

me myself and I77

Active Member
Of course no one is judging you ,,as you say no one writes to a pen pal anymore ,,its all done by internet ,faster and effeciently .I used to have penpals from all over the world ,wait weeks or months for a reply ,but there was no danger then,,Now its a rats haven ,espically during off season in Tunisia and its easy to get trapped in their web of lies .We all know this and understand what your going through,,,Please dont take offence because sometimes it even frustrates me ,knowing a rat succeeded in scamming another innocent person ,through the internet .Having read and listened to many stories of abuse and heartache from members ,only aggrivates the frustation even more .It seems to never end and sometimes i feel whats the point ,no one listens ,,But then i hear from a member ,who was devastatingly abused by a rat and writes, that had she not had the support from TLR ,she woudlnt have coped and just being able to talk about her pain ,is what got her through,So please stick with us and talk to us xx
thank you so much


Thank you for nice words..Healing the heart is the worst part..
But, once you become aware that everything was nothing but a dirty theater in which you were the clown, you will see how terrible, ugly, rude, fake, poor they are. The worst kind of man on the face of the earth. There are many bad men, of course! However, those who are MENA are oriented only to a selfish benefit, where the woman is nothing but a means to achieve their futile and filthy goals.
If they don't respect women from their own culture, can you imagine what women outside are for them?! Worse than dogs.
These men are brutal and sometimes it is even hard to believe that they are human beings, such is the cruelty and absolute lack of respect for the feelings of others, especially if these others are females.
You can't understand their hatred for women. It is far from being able to understand such brutality.
The exit is to get out as soon as possible. And you must make him pay judicially, be arrested, for the CRIME they commit.


Junior Rat Expert
Just talking to these guys as friends is a dangerous game. I used to go on HelloTalk which is an app meant to learn languages and I never had any issue with anyone but the middle eastern and North African guys. I’m almost positive you will hear from this man again at some point. To this day, I still get the occasional message from a particular guy I have blocked several times. He contacts me under different numbers. I just wanted to learn some Arabic but I noticed a lot of them, if not most, just talk to you under the guise of learning English. They treat it like Tinder or any other dating site. Luckily, it didn’t get to the point where I got feelings for any of them because I was too busy with my own rat I had here in my city. I was trying to learn some Arabic for him. Several found me on fb and Instagram and I made the mistake of adding some as friends and giving my WhatsApp number to some as well.

What ended up happening is a couple really determined ones added me just to gather information about me by looking at my friends, pictures, things I “liked”, reading old posts from years ago, etc. then his friends would try and add me and talk to me and they would also send messages and friend requests to girls I had as friends on my page. I’m also positive they may have wanted to find my ex and get information about me as well from him since they seem to stick together.
If you still want to talk to these guys, I suggest you do it under a fake name and picture and do not give them information that can lead them to find you on other places like Facebook. And definitely do not give them your WhatsApp. Blocking them does not work. They will still find a way to contact you.