I come from a family whereby they bottle everything up. U try talk about something they either shut u down and change the subject or say let's just forget about that now or other such similar. No wonder we all tend to self medicate to deal with all the crap inside our heads . They only want to talk about the weather polite pointless crap. I recall yelling at my my mum when she was having a paddy about something and when I started to try to get out of her what it was that bothered her she just shut down and said let's not talk about it . And I said let's just talk about fricking squirrels then ( there was some nature program on ). She wasnt even listening just wailing on so I pushed and pushed for answers and she obviously wasn't listening or hearing and she just said "what" and "you do go on". This is what it's like dealing with someone from the 1930s and I'm the youngest 31 years between us .