Just ignore him. he will understand that sooner or later even if takes a while for him.This post is so good I have to come read it every day since I blocked my rat, hopefully for good. It has been three months of blocking and unblocking, he always knew how to put me under pressure to make me talk to him again. This time I searched for a help center for abused women and found people to talk with. First I deleted all social media, but then also messenger because I couldn’t handle the pressure he was putting on my friends and family. He made many fake profiles where he copied all my connections and threatens he will publish videos of me he took without my knowledge. I never knew how far the stalking can go, calling me from thirty different numbers a day, creating profiles in my name and requesting password codes so id receive 150 msgs a day. He was able to send me hundred emails in an hour, while laying in his bed and his rat mother bringing him food to bed. I don’t get it, I never sent him money, I always said I’ll not bring him to Europe and he still wants to ruin my life and force me to be with him. It’s one week now since I talked to him and I feel like it’s still long way to go.
I try but with the new technologies and social media that I felt are playing in favor of every pervert it’s getting difficult. Now they have this screen recording as well. And I heard from people over the weekend that they received my video. I was having nightmares since and getting anxiety whenever my phone lights up. Unfortunately for me the video got to the wrong hands and somebody shared it among friends. As I know his ego issues and jealousy, he didn't want men To see it. He still says he will get to my country and do something to me. You want to move on but constantly under pressure with him or without him.Just ignore him. he will understand that sooner or later even if takes a while for him.
Good lord! What a disgracefull and shameless rat..I think the only option left for you is try to report the video so it can be deleted.I try but with the new technologies and social media that I felt are playing in favor of every pervert it’s getting difficult. Now they have this screen recording as well. And I heard from people over the weekend that they received my video. I was having nightmares since and getting anxiety whenever my phone lights up. Unfortunately for me the video got to the wrong hands and somebody shared it among friends. As I know his ego issues and jealousy, he didn't want men To see it. He still says he will get to my country and do something to me. You want to move on but constantly under pressure with him or without him.
I have never been the victim of a love rat - and at 70 and happily married, I am not likely to be. However, having lived in a tourist area of Tunisia for a total of 6years, I have been in a prime position to see these Love Rats at work on a daily basis – and I have also been in a prime position to see the horrendous damage caused by these cruel, heartless and immoral individuals. Last night I got to thinking about possible coping strategies and came up with this list. I guess that other forum members can add to this.
Don’t disbelieve what’s happened – accept it – I know that it seems unbelievable, but it really did happen.
Don’t feel that you’re the only victim. It is quite possible that there were women before you, also possible that there were women at the same time and there will definitely be more women afterwards
Don’t compare his behavior with normal feelings - how could he etc? He could because he can and unlike the majority of humanity, has no moral conscience.
Don’t think about the ‘relationship that you thought you had – it was never there. You gave your own, but he simply used you as a means to an end.
Don’t think that he did love you – accept that he never did – and sadly, he may not even have liked you. You were simply a commodity to be used to gain money, visa, sex etc
Don’t make excuses for him. He did what he did in a cold calculated deliberate way with no regards what-so-ever for you or your feelings
Don’t replay all those good times – they weren’t. It was all a charade – an act necessary to achieve his targets.
Don’t take it personally. This time it was you, but could quite well have been another woman. You as a person didn’t actually come into the equation.
Don’t blame yourself. You were a victim. As a decent person you assumed that he was also a decent person
Don’t feel guilty – he won’t. It’s not your fault that you were duped – conned. He was the perpetrator and you rightly believed the situation to be genuine.
Don’t be ashamed – these men are professional at manipulating women. You are not a fool. You are not a mug. It has happened to thousands of women, because they are decent individuals.
Don’t ask ‘’how could he do such a thing, he knows how unhappy/sad/depressed I had been recently?’’ The fact that you were vulnerable made you more attractive as a victim – easier to manipulate.
Don’t try to analyse the situation – you’ll never make sense of it. Decent people will never be able to understand how any other human being can be so unfeeling and immoral.
Don’t seek for the things that you did wrong – could have done better. Nothing that you could have said or done will have resulted in him treating you in an acceptable way. That is not how they work.
Don’t dream about the ‘if only it were true’ scenario – it never was and never would be. That is not their aim. Generally the Tunisian female fits into the happy ever after category.
Don’t torture yourself with thoughts of other future women/relationships. They would and will be there and you’ll never change that.
Don’t be tempted by second chances. If he has done it once, he will do it again, but the second time you will be a softer target. You will literally give him the go-ahead to continue.
Don’t add up all the money you invested in the relationship – console yourself with what you can do with your spare cash now.
Don’t think of getting the money back – you won’t – ever.
Don’t give in to blackmail – let him do his worst – post his videos etc. Your friends – the people who matter - will be there for you
Don’t tolerate threats against you and or your loved ones. Try to record if possible and inform the police.
Don’t believe his threats of the ‘Tunisian Mafia’ that all live in England and will go to ‘sort your family out’. They don’t exist and if they did and they would no doubt be too busy with their own scams.
Don’t believe that his family loved you and welcomed you and your children. If they appeared to it was because they also saw you as a target for money/visa.
Don’t show that you are hurt, devastated, if in contact with him or mutual friends. If you do he will see this as a sign of weakness and move in again for the kill.
Don’t listen to any messages from his family, friends, colleagues etc. Irrespective of what they say, they will be securely on his side.
Don’t accept offers of support or friendship from his friends who criticize his behaviour. They are like jackals moving in to take advantage of the weak.
Nie nienawidź go - to tylko zatruwa twoją przyszłość. Nie jest tego wart - jest absolutnie niczym - bez znaczenia.
Nie sądzę, że następny będzie lepszy - jest każdy możliwy kaptur, którego nie zrobi
Nie żałuj „jeśli tylko”. Stało się i przeżyłeś - traktuj to jako edukację.
Zyskaj trochę siły każdego dnia
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Blok! Kasować! Ignorować!
Nie zostawiaj TLR - czytaj dalej - wsparcie jest dostępne. Polepszy się.
Czy postrzegam się jako zgorzkniała i cyniczna kobieta? Prawdopodobnie tak - widziałem wystarczająco dużo, aby uczynić mnie jednym !! Wszystkie najlepsze życzenia x
Exactly. Now i understand ...