Psychological tips

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  1. AmberHeart

    AmberHeart Lady Amberheart of Gafsa

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    I set as unwanted so it drops to spam. I did it from the phone, haven’t seen desktop version. Having a new email it’s easy, few mins. Notifying the bank is the issue. I have to travel and take my passport. It’s requirement for foreigners in order to avoid money laundry and illegal activity.
     
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    AmberHeart Lady Amberheart of Gafsa

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    Yes, he sent from two different accounts. I already got the insurance notification and hope not to even check in a few days. Tho the sense he hasn’t forgot my email is scary.
     
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  3. AmberHeart

    AmberHeart Lady Amberheart of Gafsa

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    No. Have been close to the forum to keep the strong mindset. Xx
     
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    Jisela Well-Known Member

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    Instead of getting fearful you could outright call him a criminal and threaten further legal action if he continues to contact. I drew those lines with my ex, called him my enemy and let it out in a directed way, letting him know that I know who and exactly what kind of evil he is...
     
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  5. Brasilgirl

    Brasilgirl Well-Known Member

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    You need to change your email.
     
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  6. Brasilgirl

    Brasilgirl Well-Known Member

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    Can you set it to send him to your deleted folder?
     
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  7. Brasilgirl

    Brasilgirl Well-Known Member

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    They keep everything. Just in case.
     
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    AmberHeart Lady Amberheart of Gafsa

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    Wich makes me mad too. He is still holding on to blackmail. I can’t be his forever hostage.
     
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  9. AmberHeart

    AmberHeart Lady Amberheart of Gafsa

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    Set as unwanted and it dropped it to spam. Will check from a pc if I can even tag the address, not sure if spam goes after a while to the bin.
     
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    Brasilgirl Well-Known Member

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    That’s too bad. But I think you can just delete spam without looking at it. It would be nice if you could not even know he sent anything.
     
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  11. AmberHeart

    AmberHeart Lady Amberheart of Gafsa

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    Yes, it creates paranoia, someone is behind my back. Hope this would be enough, need to develop thicker skin too. Rat immunity. Xx
     
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    Snuggle Well-Known Member

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    I do recognize this @AmberHeart he won’t contact me for ages and all of a sudden he is contacting me again. Like he keeps me on the back burner just in case.
     
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  13. AmberHeart

    AmberHeart Lady Amberheart of Gafsa

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    How long has he been doing this to you? Its too bad. Standing there like a shadow.
     
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    AmberHeart Lady Amberheart of Gafsa

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    What was his reaction to that?
     
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    Shocked. I think it drained him of some valor. They are shady people always trying to get your approval through manipulation... so when you just straight up tell they’re criminals, you are their enemy because they abused you, and tried to destroy your life... you have nothing more to give them - and you’re ready to throw down to protect your turf literally to the point of facing any level of pain, because you decide to never budge, they can FEEL that.

    I also told him to leave the kafir alone and to themselves :D I learned afterwards that Muslims are not supposed to be friends with the kafir anyways... so it hits home :D
     
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    since I told him that we are finished he is doing that. I think he keeps silence while he has got another victim and while he has got nobody he tries to get me back. He even was planning a holiday with me to Tunisia he made a plan where we were going. I told him I would never put one foot in that country again. He is really not very well in his head. I don’t care I just laugh at him now.
     
  17. AmberHeart

    AmberHeart Lady Amberheart of Gafsa

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    D65A534A-8B37-4813-97CA-BA57E0A9087E.jpeg It is what it is. :thumbsup:
     
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    It’s easy to see why we were targeted. We are all good people and that is evident in the efforts we take to help others. I’m sure a lot of us felt really good being able to care for someone who, at the time, seemed to appreciate and love us. We weren’t pushed away or stepped on right away. That made us feel good. And making us feel valued is how the rats hook us.
    I am no longer so quick to trust. I don’t show it, but I won’t go all in so quickly ever again.
    I’ve had some people say they think I’ve matured a lot. But what they see is not maturity in the way they think. It’s the change in the way I protect my heart.
     
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    AmberHeart Lady Amberheart of Gafsa

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    611B842F-55DE-4806-89DD-88B490006665.jpeg Just a reminder
     
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    This is spot on, Amberheart. Honestly spot on.
     
  22. Jisela

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    This is a good documentary. And, honestly, I think the psychologist is really sweet guy and cute. I guess you could say I have a little crush on this guy. Hahahaha. But, honestly, it's really good subject about social media - which is where many women meet rats.

     
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  23. Heidi

    Heidi The Sleuth

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    AmberHeart said:
    https://blogs.psychcentral.com/reco...8RsexFrHbJnSw8zR7fkbyXvOe-MIvNj6Bdf-aCUyZxL-U It’s about how society gaslights survivors of narcissists, sociopaths and psychopaths

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    Some abusers are more sadistic than others. Some lack empathy, while others also lack a conscience. If you want to help any survivor of psychological abuse by a malignant narcissist, you have to help them acknowledge the mindset of what it means to be a predator – not further gaslight them into believing that they are dealing with someone who possesses empathy or remorse. You have to extend empathy, compassion, and nonjudgment to the victim – not the abuser.
     
  24. AmberHeart

    AmberHeart Lady Amberheart of Gafsa

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    Another great find, Little Miss AmberHeart!! :love:
    I especially like this bit:
    • They are routinely recruited as spies for the evil-doers.
    • This is Penelope :thumbsup:

    • Most love watching from the sidelines while other people are physically damaged or socially destroyed by the Narcissist’s abusive victimization tactics.
    • This is MMClean :thumbsup:

    • All will readily proclaim, “There are two sides to every story!” as their excuse while fundamentally ignoring the dominant figure being the source of chaos, harm, and social dysfunction.
    • This is Miss Metal :thumbsup:

    :eek::eek::eek::eek:
     
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