Discussion in 'The Cat's Coffee House' started by Liona, Jul 25, 2017.
You need to change your email.
Can you set it to send him to your deleted folder?
They keep everything. Just in case.
Wich makes me mad too. He is still holding on to blackmail. I can’t be his forever hostage.
Set as unwanted and it dropped it to spam. Will check from a pc if I can even tag the address, not sure if spam goes after a while to the bin.
That’s too bad. But I think you can just delete spam without looking at it. It would be nice if you could not even know he sent anything.
Yes, it creates paranoia, someone is behind my back. Hope this would be enough, need to develop thicker skin too. Rat immunity. Xx
I do recognize this @AmberHeart he won’t contact me for ages and all of a sudden he is contacting me again. Like he keeps me on the back burner just in case.
How long has he been doing this to you? Its too bad. Standing there like a shadow.
What was his reaction to that?
since I told him that we are finished he is doing that. I think he keeps silence while he has got another victim and while he has got nobody he tries to get me back. He even was planning a holiday with me to Tunisia he made a plan where we were going. I told him I would never put one foot in that country again. He is really not very well in his head. I don’t care I just laugh at him now.
It is what it is.
It’s easy to see why we were targeted. We are all good people and that is evident in the efforts we take to help others. I’m sure a lot of us felt really good being able to care for someone who, at the time, seemed to appreciate and love us. We weren’t pushed away or stepped on right away. That made us feel good. And making us feel valued is how the rats hook us.
I am no longer so quick to trust. I don’t show it, but I won’t go all in so quickly ever again.
I’ve had some people say they think I’ve matured a lot. But what they see is not maturity in the way they think. It’s the change in the way I protect my heart.
I love this!!
Just a reminder
AmberHeart said: ↑
https://blogs.psychcentral.com/reco...8RsexFrHbJnSw8zR7fkbyXvOe-MIvNj6Bdf-aCUyZxL-U It’s about how society gaslights survivors of narcissists, sociopaths and psychopaths
The Big Picture
Some abusers are more sadistic than others. Some lack empathy, while others also lack a conscience. If you want to help any survivor of psychological abuse by a malignant narcissist, you have to help them acknowledge the mindset of what it means to be a predator – not further gaslight them into believing that they are dealing with someone who possesses empathy or remorse. You have to extend empathy, compassion, and nonjudgment to the victim – not the abuser.
FLYING MONKEYS aka ENABLERS http://flyingmonkeysdenied.com/?fbclid=IwAR0HVtmmPj63tOOI4W5phcKOD7MktF8ERklr_jb0ALM8BrjuuxR03aPS7rI
Another great find, Little Miss AmberHeart!!
I especially like this bit:
They are routinely recruited as spies for the evil-doers.
This is Penelope
Most love watching from the sidelines while other people are physically damaged or socially destroyed by the Narcissist’s abusive victimization tactics.
This is MMClean
All will readily proclaim, “There are two sides to every story!” as their excuse while fundamentally ignoring the dominant figure being the source of chaos, harm, and social dysfunction.
This is Miss Metal
Yes, it’s a very good one, there it warns a little about family members too. Why are all these people participating and remaining quiet even they witness abuse towards innocent people. Happens they are covert narcissists. Very interesting to find some answers about all these groupies intentions.
I used to feel exactly like this towards the ex rat. It’s better to step out at first warning signs than remaining under the spell hoping something magical happen and bring them back or finding excuses for them: perhaps cultural differences, language barrier, religion ... it’s none of them. They only want to take advantage in every possible way.
I feel that way about cake
Wich is your favorite?
My favourite cake? Anything cake....I don't think I have a preference