Psychological tips

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  1. Heidi

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    AmberHeart Lady Amberheart of Gafsa

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    Yes, it’s a very good one, there it warns a little about family members too. Why are all these people participating and remaining quiet even they witness abuse towards innocent people. Happens they are covert narcissists. Very interesting to find some answers about all these groupies intentions.
     
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    6FC99D03-F218-4AD3-B1C3-06330ED80287.jpeg I used to feel exactly like this towards the ex rat. It’s better to step out at first warning signs than remaining under the spell hoping something magical happen and bring them back or finding excuses for them: perhaps cultural differences, language barrier, religion ... it’s none of them. They only want to take advantage in every possible way.
     
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    I feel that way about cake :D
     
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    AmberHeart Lady Amberheart of Gafsa

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    Wich is your favorite?
     
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    My favourite cake? Anything cake....I don't think I have a preference :p
     
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    sharing today’s cake xx
     
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    Oh my God....you actually have that!!! :eek:
    Bite it for me, describe the flavour in poetic and fluffy detail.....:oops::oops:
    I'll do the dribbling bit :D
     
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    AmberHeart Lady Amberheart of Gafsa

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    :D Poetic with my limited English? :eek::p But yes, actually got it to virtually share with you and the girls, let’s have a happy Friday :love:
     
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    Who can’t be happy with a bunch of rat-roaches and cake :D:D:D
     
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    Leslie Morgan Steiner: Why victims of domestic violence do not just go

     
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    Had to log out when I watched this earlier...made me cry :Cry:
    Every word....every damn freakin word....they hit me right in the feels...
     
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    I don't watch these videos anymore...I don't to go back to reliving 15 effen years of mental and physical abuse by my ex-h- narcissist:Cry:...NO THANK YOU!:mad:
     
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    The hardest part is learning to forgive yourself first before you will be able to forgive someone else...
     
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    I do watch them because I need to understand, I want to learn....and I want to help others.

    I need to confront my own anger and self blame to move forward....and this lady describes it perfectly....right down to the moment during the final assault when something inside of her changed.....just as it did for me, when I flew up off that floor like a woman possessed.

    On Wednesday, it is the three year anniversary of the loss of my baby....the baby I lost because of his assaults, so I will continue to watch, I will continue to learn and I will continue to fight....for other victims, for all those other innocent lives lost and destroyed.

    We all cope differently. Some need to put it behind them and not confront it, some prefer to get an understanding, confront it head on and try to make changes.

    I am of the latter, but neither is right or wrong....it's just how our subconscious decides we deal with such trauma :)
     
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    In my opinion, it’s time to start trying to rehabilitate and develop effective programs and treatment for a demographic that represents about half of the entire black population in the USA...

    It’s likely completely unknown accurate statistics for Cluster B’s in Arab countries...

    But, I have a pretty good idea what’s conditioning them, plus the heredity factors...

    Hopefully, one day there will be a significant attempt to address these problems for such a huge percentage of the world’s general population. Until then, be wise and understand the prevalence.
     
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    What are cluster B personality disorders?
    https://www.medicalnewstoday.com/articles/320508.php

    Awareness is empowering. For those diagnosed, and for others who have no experience with these psychological disorders. There are quite a lot of treatment options currently available.

    So, don’t be afraid to speak honestly about psychological disorder. It’s not really possible currently in North Africa and The Middle East, but elsewhere there are many options available, not to mention for addiction and other disorders.

    Otherwise, learn the signs and get educated. Psychological disorder isn’t the death sentence it once was, plus there’s bigger hope in the future for “Cluster B’s” with better research and treatment. That should be the goal anyways...
     
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    I believe that a rat is a criminal scammer, who sometimes happens to be also a narcissist
    Not a narcissist, who became a rat because of his ailment

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    They choose their way.
     
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    I beleive this too. My rat was not as bad as a lot of the rats I read about. He seemed almost normal, but he did have a temper at times. He followed the rat book to a T. He lied about almost everything and had many of the misfortunes designed to prompt financial help from his victim. But he wasn’t crazy like some of the rats out there. I think my rat was using me. He had a goal and for him it was just a job. I don’t think the rat loved me at all, ever. I’m not sure if he was a narcissist. But I am sure he was a rat.
     
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    I have a hard time imagining that a man who lies about his sexual preference and is using a woman doesn’t have some sort of personality disorder. But, what also makes it hard is they’re conditioned to see westerners as fair targets, and Bezness is largely supported by the community. So, it’s hard to know what’s a factor in addition to other more obvious causes.

    Plus, women (except for the mother) are just looked at as somewhat worthless and half-brained and bad. The men really are being encouraged to hate women and look down on them. So, I wasn’t surprised to see so many men conditioned to only trust men, plus there’s a lot of closeted homosexuality.
     
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    If they are raised to not trust women or hold women in high enough esteem, then it does make sense that they would feel more attached to men they trust. I beleive that there would be a lot of closet gays in Tunisia. I think they have mental issues. That’s pretty obvious.
     
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