Hi , I’m new to this forum and would very much appreciate your advice on my situation.
Sorry for the long story. Hope this is the right place to post it.
A few years ago I met a Tunisian guy in a college chat room when I was bored and we had fun talking. We just stayed friends for about 4 years, never talked about more than that or indicated anything more than friendship. We lost contact for about a year due to busy lives and recently we started talking again. This time our contact became more and more romantic. He says I am the girl of his dreams and that he loves me. Calls me his princess and is basically perfect (I know, alert alert for the red flags). He does complain sometimes about his situation there (bad salary, not many jobs available and he wants to own a business). I am a bit wary because of all the stories I read on this forum, but he says he doesn’t want to be a couple now because we never met in person (I absolutely agree). I will visit him in a few months - I made all arrangements myself and he didn’t try making them for me, although he told me “you can contact him and him and can stay at Hotel X if you like. My friend works there so you’ll be safe.” I didn’t follow that advice and he never said a word about it after I made arrangements.
His background: master’s degree, fairly good job for a Tunisian (economic affairs, so not in tourism or work with tourists), has visited Europe and traveled as a tourist here, and holds the citizenship of a (wealthy) European country through his father. He is a self-declared atheist (in secret though...). He’s never asked anything from me in material terms, but he does want to move to Europe. He’s asked my help for information because he doesn’t know how to begin moving here. I understand this. He does not need a visa from me because he already has a EU-country passport. He wants to try living in my country (also EU) to see how things work out between us. He wants to learn my language.
I like him a lot, but I wonder: do you see anything I might have missed due to my love induced view on him? Am I being ratted, any signs I missed?
I am 27 and he’s 28.
thank you so much
Sorry for the long story. Hope this is the right place to post it.
A few years ago I met a Tunisian guy in a college chat room when I was bored and we had fun talking. We just stayed friends for about 4 years, never talked about more than that or indicated anything more than friendship. We lost contact for about a year due to busy lives and recently we started talking again. This time our contact became more and more romantic. He says I am the girl of his dreams and that he loves me. Calls me his princess and is basically perfect (I know, alert alert for the red flags). He does complain sometimes about his situation there (bad salary, not many jobs available and he wants to own a business). I am a bit wary because of all the stories I read on this forum, but he says he doesn’t want to be a couple now because we never met in person (I absolutely agree). I will visit him in a few months - I made all arrangements myself and he didn’t try making them for me, although he told me “you can contact him and him and can stay at Hotel X if you like. My friend works there so you’ll be safe.” I didn’t follow that advice and he never said a word about it after I made arrangements.
His background: master’s degree, fairly good job for a Tunisian (economic affairs, so not in tourism or work with tourists), has visited Europe and traveled as a tourist here, and holds the citizenship of a (wealthy) European country through his father. He is a self-declared atheist (in secret though...). He’s never asked anything from me in material terms, but he does want to move to Europe. He’s asked my help for information because he doesn’t know how to begin moving here. I understand this. He does not need a visa from me because he already has a EU-country passport. He wants to try living in my country (also EU) to see how things work out between us. He wants to learn my language.
I like him a lot, but I wonder: do you see anything I might have missed due to my love induced view on him? Am I being ratted, any signs I missed?
I am 27 and he’s 28.
thank you so much
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This one is interesting. He can literally hop on a flight tomorrow to said country he has the passport in with no problems. Perhaps we need more info on this.
You really helped me and probably many other readers who come across this.
