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simple

Major Ratslayer
lol I didn’t Reach out to him in six days..... I refused, and he has resurfaced just now. Instant Lovebomb. Lol as if I don’t have Anything better to do than to miss a guy

Anyone any ideas for tests I can Use to see if he’s a rat? Thanks :)
He only lasted 6 days !!! Desperate id say ,,,tell him to come and see you in your country ..Dont be swayed by his lovebombing as it can be dangerous ,messing with your head ..and getting you emotional ...You want a test ,tell him if he visits you ,You"ll take him shopping for Gucchi shoes ...
 

Bubbly

Major Ratslayer
Another advise I would give : do not send him any "intimate" photos or videos of you, even if he keeps asking. Many rats are using such photos to harass and blackmail their victims (If you don't do this, I will send all your photos to your family etc). Keep your purse closed and be very observant.
Sadly even non rats do it, this is way too risky to send nudes to anyone :Cry:
 

Gamora

Major Ratslayer
Anyone any ideas for tests I can Use to see if he’s a rat? Thanks :)

Not to give rats credit, but the one thing I learned is that you cannot out scam a scammer like rats. They are relentless in their pursuit to scam, we don't have the heart for that. They are ruthless. They are too good at scamming to even test them. The biggest hurdle you are going to run across when trying to test him, is that he does not care, so he will take the bait, then he will love bomb your friends and they may fall for him, then turn on you. He does not care and has nothing to lose. Therefore, testing him could cost your more heartache in the end, because he does not care. You are a means to an end. He will most certainly take the bait if he thinks this will get him a visa. The joke would be on you in the end.

The best way to deal with a rat is to notify every embassy of the country he wants to live, and out him here on TLR. Apply pressure by not playing his games and notifying the proper authority.

But playing with a rat by testing him will backfire. It always does.

SN: He is a rat. Go back and read your thread, then tell me there are not similarities in our stories here. Good Tunisian men are not meeting women this way. Very rare.
 

Butterflies

Major Ratslayer
Not to give rats credit, but the one thing I learned is that you cannot out scam a scammer like rats. They are relentless in their pursuit to scam, we don't have the heart for that. They are ruthless. They are too good at scamming to even test them. The biggest hurdle you are going to run across when trying to test him, is that he does not care, so he will take the bait, then he will love bomb your friends and they may fall for him, then turn on you. He does not care and has nothing to lose. Therefore, testing him could cost your more heartache in the end, because he does not care. You are a means to an end. He will most certainly take the bait if he thinks this will get him a visa. The joke would be on you in the end.

The best way to deal with a rat is to notify every embassy of the country he wants to live, and out him here on TLR. Apply pressure by not playing his games and notifying the proper authority.

But playing with a rat by testing him will backfire. It always does.

SN: He is a rat. Go back and read your thread, then tell me there are not similarities in our stories here. Good Tunisian men are not meeting women this way. Very rare.
So true Gamora they can't be played at their own game they are doing it for years and they know how to play it. Good advice she should read her own thread and open her eyes on what she was writing. A woman should trust her gut otherwise she wouldn't be here in the first place
 

Tigerpants

Major Ratslayer
Sadly even non rats do it, this is way too risky to send nudes to anyone :Cry:
Yes but its also 100% illegal to post such images and classed as revenge porn, but you must get the url link as well as a screen dump... heres a link

 

Bubbly

Major Ratslayer
Yes but its also 100% illegal to post such images and classed as revenge porn, but you must get the url link as well as a screen dump... heres a link

What can happen if he posts from Tunisia unfortunately nothing. Once it is online anyone can save the picture it will stay on till the end of times...
 

Bubbly

Major Ratslayer
Yeah I was stupid enough to do it and was blackmailed for months till I blocked his sorry tunisian ass. Good advice really because these man ask it and yes not only tunisians. Soon I can start my own book of Dick picks and it will be a bestseller as they come in all sizes :D
Even giving these pictures to a husband can become an issue, there is literally no man to trust.
 

Jennaf

Major Ratslayer
Hey @Georgia , my personal experience when I decided to test my rat was to ask 5 of my friends (women of course) to send him requests, on fb and insta and whatever he was socialising on the net, also I asked them to write interest notes to him, he responded a few and also love bombing them, they started making plans for the future and gave him personal information (lies of course) , to cut a long story short he fell for it, Game Over... they deleted him and I was able to make my decision that this GUY was a RAT , you need friends you can trust and get together on this plan, this was mine but other ladies here will tell you more. Good luck ;) ;)
My so called friend i got ahold of him now there talking behind my back and she made him believe im crazy and all i do is all and he actually believes her shes driving me to a mental breakdown very sad and she has a bf i wish i could say differnet.
 

MH007

Administrator
Staff member
My so called friend i got ahold of him now there talking behind my back and she made him believe im crazy and all i do is all and he actually believes her shes driving me to a mental breakdown very sad and she has a bf i wish i could say differnet.
You are better off without them although it doesn't seem it now and it's been a double betrayal for you.

Block them - she's going to get hurt in the long run as soon as the rat gets as much as he can from her.

Spend the money you are saving post rat and get a new hairdo or massage and say good riddance to them.

MH x
 

Storm

Major Ratslayer
My so called friend i got ahold of him now there talking behind my back and she made him believe im crazy and all i do is all and he actually believes her shes driving me to a mental breakdown very sad and she has a bf i wish i could say differnet.

Stop letting the two of them consume your life. Believe me, I know what it's like to have someone who you thought was your friend, someone you trusted betray you like that and I know how hurt you feel but honestly, all you have to do is sit back and watch her life as it crumbles. I can't count how many times I have seen karma happen to those who have wronged me, it happens.
She'll get hers in time, the rat will destroy her. Sweet revenge without you having to lift a finger.
 

Bubbly

Major Ratslayer
Due to grooming and coercion its taken seriously as an international crime.

I wish it was much more than that. Too many girls/women are still suffering from this, just because they trusted the wrong person.

I saw a documentary about American women who were the victims of revenge porn from their own real partners, nothing much could be done. I wonder about the situation in Muslim countries.
Even here, we may find some cops saying ‘well you shouldn’t have sent the pictures...‘
Unless the victims are underage, we are fighting this battle alone...
 

Wiser

Major Ratslayer
I wish it was much more than that. Too many girls/women are still suffering from this, just because they trusted the wrong person.

I saw a documentary about American women who were the victims of revenge porn from their own real partners, nothing much could be done. I wonder about the situation in Muslim countries.
Even here, we may find some cops saying ‘well you shouldn’t have sent the pictures...‘
Unless the victims are underage, we are fighting this battle alone...
In Islamic countries they won’t support the woman, the way of reaching out for justice or legal action is showing proof to their authorities they are spreading porn. That way they will be incarcerated. It’s not acceptable.
 

Bubbly

Major Ratslayer
In Islamic countries they won’t support the woman, the way of reaching out for justice or legal action is showing proof to their authorities they are spreading porn. That way they will be incarcerated. It’s not acceptable.
That’s what I think, Tunisian authorities won’t do much against a POS who shares intimate pics of their ex online...
 

Tinker-lulu

Major Ratslayer
My so called friend i got ahold of him now there talking behind my back and she made him believe im crazy and all i do is all and he actually believes her shes driving me to a mental breakdown very sad and she has a bf i wish i could say differnet.
HI @ Jennaf sorry your friend stabbed you in the back, that it’s obviously NOT a friend, it shows you can’t trust anyone however it made you realised how important it is to choose your friends wisely, but it also shows what a Rat he is for chatting to your “friend” without any respect for you, I hope you have Ditched them BOTH, take care xxx
 

Jennaf

Major Ratslayer
You are better off without them although it doesn't seem it now and it's been a double betrayal for you.

Block them - she's going to get hurt in the long run as soon as the rat gets as much as he can from her.

Spend the money you are saving post rat and get a new hairdo or massage and say good riddance to them.

MH x
They can get married for all i care now its gone Way to far to where i lost my job thank God i have a better one lined up. And it really urks me that she made him believe i was a lier from the beginning so he woudlnt believe when i tell him she has a boyfriend! This has gone to far its a very sick sick narcissist game that its hard to even explain what shes doing its wrong i cant believe how a person can be so cruel to someone. Im really having a hard time with this. She gave me a false name and Is destroying my life! But telling pll im destroying hers. EVERYTHING SHE IS SAYING IAM SHE IS!!! all this over a pathetic lie that has gone to far. It is kinda funny though she sure has him fooled and alot of people. I know people like her all to well.
 
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Wiser

Major Ratslayer
They can get married for all i care now its gone Way to far to where i lost my job thank God i have a better one lined up. And it really urks me that she made him believe i was a lier from the beginning so he woudlnt believe when i tell him she has a boyfriend! This has gone to far its a very sick sick narcissist game that its hard to even explain what shes doing its wrong i cant believe how a person can be so cruel to someone. Im really having a hard time with this. She gave me a false name and Is destroying my life! But telling pll im destroying hers. EVERYTHING SHE IS SAYING IAM SHE IS!!! all this over a pathetic lie that has gone to far. It is kinda funny though she sure has him fooled and alot of people. I know people like her all to well.
It really went too far, sorry to know about your job... it’s on your best interest tho to be away from them, cutting all contact in order to heal and have a peaceful beginning. He “didn’t believe you” because he had no feelings, he is just catching who is an easier target to take what he needs.
Losing a friend on other hand is harder because she is a person that has been longer in your life and has been in contact with other people you know, but you can’t depend on what she talks over the place, people that really appreciate you won’t set conditions and will accept you the way you are. The ones that are in your life know your strengths and weaknesses and still love you. Don’t give the false ones the power to bring you down, just let them go. Karma eventually visits everyone. Xx
 

Butterflies

Major Ratslayer
They can get married for all i care now its gone Way to far to where i lost my job thank God i have a better one lined up. And it really urks me that she made him believe i was a lier from the beginning so he woudlnt believe when i tell him she has a boyfriend! This has gone to far its a very sick sick narcissist game that its hard to even explain what shes doing its wrong i cant believe how a person can be so cruel to someone. Im really having a hard time with this. She gave me a false name and Is destroying my life! But telling pll im destroying hers. EVERYTHING SHE IS SAYING IAM SHE IS!!! all this over a pathetic lie that has gone to far. It is kinda funny though she sure has him fooled and alot of people. I know people like her all to well.
So sorry this all went so far that you have lost your job. They deserve eachother and this is not your fault. It is sad that these people gossip about you and tell untrue stories but your real friends and family know you and won't believe not any of it. Look forward to your new job and be happy that these nasty fake friends are out of your life.
 

Tinker-lulu

Major Ratslayer
To rats Facebook or any social link it’s a godsend, they have many accounts, many names, THIS IS THEIR FULL TIME WORK!!! If you see that their photos are “out of this world” like models, or macho image, that’s their way to attract women who prefer men according to their taste! Their main interest is MONEY or VISA, that’s why it’s so important for these miserable species to have many accounts under different names, beware of too many selfies from your rat, be smart!!!
 

Wiser

Major Ratslayer
To rats Facebook or any social link it’s a godsend, they have many accounts, many names, THIS IS THEIR FULL TIME WORK!!! If you see that their photos are “out of this world” like models, or macho image, that’s their way to attract women who prefer men according to their taste! Their main interest is MONEY or VISA, that’s why it’s so important for these miserable species to have many accounts under different names, beware of too many selfies from your rat, be smart!!!
Selfies with kids, pets, being helpful with others it’s just a facade. If the talk is always about his difficult life needing to improve that’s the main red flag.
 

MH007

Administrator
Staff member
They can get married for all i care now its gone Way to far to where i lost my job thank God i have a better one lined up. And it really urks me that she made him believe i was a lier from the beginning so he woudlnt believe when i tell him she has a boyfriend! This has gone to far its a very sick sick narcissist game that its hard to even explain what shes doing its wrong i cant believe how a person can be so cruel to someone. Im really having a hard time with this. She gave me a false name and Is destroying my life! But telling pll im destroying hers. EVERYTHING SHE IS SAYING IAM SHE IS!!! all this over a pathetic lie that has gone to far. It is kinda funny though she sure has him fooled and alot of people. I know people like her all to well.
I'm sorry to hear about your job but I believe everything happens for a reason and to be honest I think it's the best thing for you - working alongside her must have been torture. This is a fresh start for you so grab it with both hands and leave her and the rat in the distant past.......you don't need their toxic behaviour in your life. You will make new friends in your new job I'm sure.

MH x
 

Jennaf

Major Ratslayer
I'm sorry to hear about your job but I believe everything happens for a reason and to be honest I think it's the best thing for you - working alongside her must have been torture. This is a fresh start for you so grab it with both hands and leave her and the rat in the distant past.......you don't need their toxic behaviour in your life. You will make new friends in your new job I'm MH x
Thank you and yes i do believe its for the best as well, And i truly wish the best for them and as wrong as she did me She will Always be in my prayers.
 
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