Lady Amberheart of Gafsa
- Jul 13, 2018
Hello everybody, will try to tell my experience the shorter way possible. I met that man on FB, I was searching for tourist info to North Africa, many male approached trying to “help” and this one in particular made me feel confident because his profile looked neat. So the talk started Only about that trip, later he started texting frequently but i didn’t find it annoying, was nice, polite and respectful. Subjects started to change to the point we became “friends” , confident this was the person I was trusting to visit the place. Now that i look backwards he was asking me things I thought related to the trip but it was a socio economic study. Where to stay, how much to spend, to rent a car... single, married, kids, no kids, Age (I’m five years older than him) talk changed to personal points of view, little by little he texted even at night despite time lag, it happened I was into him, and he said everything would be ok, Tunisia weren’t that strict despite religion. Then the Plan changed it wasn’t anymore about a tourist vacation, but to meet his family. I said ok but I need my hotel near the airport, he “agreed” until few days later started making drama to change the plan into his family home. He introduced me everyone by video call and they looked very nice, cheerful. With time running he got desperate and started to push, it was urgently to make that trip sooner, all the sweet words and kindness or time spent before wasn’t there anymore, it became a conflict. Told him I needed my time to first meet them all and then we could decide if we could go on or not. He started first crying a lot, then with suicidal thoughts, then drinking alcohol (which was weird, he was saying his family was in deep need sometimes they barely had something to eat) as I dared to ask questions about it he started to turn cold, not texting nor calling as often. I started to change too, becoming worried, sad and made several attempts to leave him. He came back all the times saying sorry, I need u, I can’t without you... but something that made me insecure was noticing he had many women on his fb account, suddenly during the silent treatment periods started to search for him on media and found about eight accounts with different spelling or different pictures at dif ages... all with mostly women. Plus one account with his ex pictures, wich made me feel the worst, I confronted him since he hadn’t post anything about us and my family already knew I was going to meet him and his family, we talked about marriage. It became a big discussion. Then the game changed he started insulting and scam severely. Calling names, millions of fuck you... the kind man once made me fall was gone. Obviously I canceled the trip. And someone recommended me to visit this forum in case despite the proofs I had doubts of what was going on. Few days later about four or six he had already post pictures of other woman whom he was supposed to be engaged too. A foreigner ofcourse, after twelve days he appeared sending me messages through friends or fake accounts that he needed to talk to me, they made clear it was urgent, he wanted to make clear if I warned that girl he would post personal stuff from the ex and me, after two days he send message again that girl run away lol and he wanted us to become friends and he was still needing my help to get a visa , what the hell does this person thinks.... so beyond having a broken heart and feeling ridiculous, and jealousy or feeling not enough cause he constantly was saying there were better women than me and prettier, beyond that now I’m dealing with his mental game or scam. It’s not worth it. Avoid by all means to open any door to cynical people, when they give red flags run, they won’t change and they will never be again the person you first met. It was just an illusion. Nothing real. Thanks to the gorgeous ladies that have been providing support.