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As far as the Rat is concerned where there is talk, even if it’s just berating then there is hope. He may have done the most despicable things but give him the opportunity and he will greet you like a long long friend who is confused as to why you won’t speak to him. Truly, it’s best not to engage at all. It will be like Groundhog Day and it just prevents you moving on.
‘Groundhog Day’....Well said, Laura2014....
 

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Oh man !!!! One has to be quite wealthy to afford an exotic bezness hubby these days . The wish list is impressive
Now, now...remember...we are all millionaires!
Our government gives us money for free, money also grows on trees, our pavements are made of gold....we have tens of thousands just thrown in the bottom of our handbags!
What is the purchase of a coffee shop, a bakery, a house and a car to us, hey? It's apparently nothing for us...but it's everything to them :rolleyes:
These freaks are so damn deluded...I don't know whether to laugh or cry!
 

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Oh man !!!! One has to be quite wealthy to afford an exotic bezness hubby these days . The wish list is impressive
I want to see who is the brave lady to give him all that :D He used to brag about women from many nationalities were there waiting to marry him. :eek::rolleyes::rolleyes::rolleyes: A gift from God! Right?:whistle:
 

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They are so cute! :D
Not quite the description I'd use....more like thick, braindead, uneducated, delusional twats :p
He used to brag about women from many nationalities were there waiting to marry him.
And I can understand why! I mean seriously, what woman could resist such charm, such subtlety, such words of romance:
"I want, I want, I want, you pay, you pay, you pay....if you love me, you buy me this, you dirty whore, you fat cow, you cheap bitch, I luuuuurve you all the world, you best thing in my life, I gonna add lots of 'yong' girls to my FB....I keeeeeeel myself, I love only you"!! :D

Christ, it's no wonder our heads were in such a spin....they literally flipped moods in the same sentence, or as the lady in that video described so perfectly....they flip flopped :D
 

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Not quite the description I'd use....more like thick, braindead, uneducated, delusional twats :p

And I can understand why! I mean seriously, what woman could resist such charm, such subtlety, such words of romance:
"I want, I want, I want, you pay, you pay, you pay....if you love me, you buy me this, you dirty whore, you fat cow, you cheap bitch, I luuuuurve you all the world, you best thing in my life, I gonna add lots of 'yong' girls to my FB....I keeeeeeel myself, I love only you"!! :D

Christ, it's no wonder our heads were in such a spin....they literally flipped moods in the same sentence, or as the lady in that video described so perfectly....they flip flopped :D
:D It’s wonderful that all that bipolar mess now sounds hilarious, time when it used to cause pain is gone <3
 

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I’m not being nice :D I’m tired, exhausted of all this going on and at points about to break my nerves. This experience was life changing for the worse, lack of sleep, worried, skipping normal tasks, overthinking. Besides was trying to make a small text cause it could be a magazine. This took a year to reach this point. THEY ARE PATIENT
I feel exactly like you! I’m truly exhausted and finally (the 100th time maybe)...told him very nicely that we are FOREVER finished and I wish him the best. He wrote me back a very kind letter thanking me for loving him and for everything I’ve done for him. That was the last I heard from him! I did write one letter back explaining the facts of what HE had done which brought me to this final point! He never replied! He was using a friend’s phone whom I do not know. He broke his phone in a big physical fight with a neighbor. Before then, he used his mother’s pad. I’m still quite nervous. I’ve read a lot of threads on here talking about how they keep trying to stay in contact with their victims. I’m so much stronger now! It took me many many months to get to this point though! He really had me in a mess physically, emotionally, and mentally! It was horrible! Please keep me strong ladies! Thank you for all of your advice over this past year. Much appreciated!!!
 

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:D It’s wonderful that all that bipolar mess now sounds hilarious, time when it used to cause pain is gone <3
Freakin fruitcakes....the whole bloody lot of them!
Something ain't right in the head, the wiring is all out.

It never ceases to amaze me how much I laugh at this stuff now, at how thick, desperate and pathetic they are....and that seems so strange, as what they do is dangerous, life changing, so incredibly and pointlessly destructive....but they are so stupidly funny when you completely understand the scam.
his smile is like that, his gums show up and the sense of he could bite is imminent.
Mine has that same horsey grin.....and he frequently bit me! Be grateful yours didn't resort to that...it's feckin agony, especially when one tooth is broken!
They truly are animals :thumbsup:
 

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I feel exactly like you! I’m truly exhausted and finally (the 100th time maybe)...told him very nicely that we are FOREVER finished and I wish him the best. He wrote me back a very kind letter thanking me for loving him and for everything I’ve done for him. That was the last I heard from him! I did write one letter back explaining the facts of what HE had done which brought me to this final point! He never replied! He was using a friend’s phone whom I do not know. He broke his phone in a big physical fight with a neighbor. Before then, he used his mother’s pad. I’m still quite nervous. I’ve read a lot of threads on here talking about how they keep trying to stay in contact with their victims. I’m so much stronger now! It took me many many months to get to this point though! He really had me in a mess physically, emotionally, and mentally! It was horrible! Please keep me strong ladies! Thank you for all of your advice over this past year. Much appreciated!!!
Indeed he is trying to show you a sweetened face, “oh thank you””oh you have been the best””I made a mistake, hadn’t the intention” all those words were told by my rat too. Never believe him Judy. They say whatever they have to say to keep you attached. If they had true feelings since the beginning they would never dare to do all the horrendous and despicable things they did. A healthy and common sensed person wouldn’t. These guys are like toddler minded yet they manage to manipulate. There’s no need to keep feeling confused or to keep awake all night overthinking where did we fail? We failed giving them chances. But we can correct and stay away from their poison. I am happy and proud to say I can sleep all night again in peace, wich great achievement after months of not being able to. Keep strong and ignore him. Decide better and choose better. Yesterday I read a very sad thread of a young woman (43) three kids, and she couldn’t handle the huge pain of being used and abused. That pain was unbearable.... we can’t let these rats end up with us that way. Not fair. Not only destroy inner peace and health, they indeed can make their victim get so depressed and confused to lead her to death. Not fair.
 

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Indeed he is trying to show you a sweetened face, “oh thank you””oh you have been the best””I made a mistake, hadn’t the intention” all those words were told by my rat too. Never believe him Judy. They say whatever they have to say to keep you attached. If they had true feelings since the beginning they would never dare to do all the horrendous and despicable things they did. A healthy and common sensed person wouldn’t. These guys are like toddler minded yet they manage to manipulate. There’s no need to keep feeling confused or to keep awake all night overthinking where did we fail? We failed giving them chances. But we can correct and stay away from their poison. I am happy and proud to say I can sleep all night again in peace, wich great achievement after months of not being able to. Keep strong and ignore him. Decide better and choose better. Yesterday I read a very sad thread of a young woman (43) three kids, and she couldn’t handle the huge pain of being used and abused. That pain was unbearable.... we can’t let these rats end up with us that way. Not fair. Not only destroy inner peace and health, they indeed can make their victim get so depressed and confuse to lead her to death. Not fair.
I sadly read that too! It broke my heart! I was nearly at her level of despair too! In my family, suicide is the main cause of death! I’ve been aware of it since I was 18 yrs old! That is probably the only reason I never took that path, even though I thought about it a few months ago! I’ve been determined to not follow in my DNA’s footsteps! That is all that saved me! I kept fighting the urge over and over and over! I kept saying to myself that loser Abdelhak will not win!!! I’m still bitter and very angry and very hurt, but I think the love is gone....finally! He really messed up my head! Truly, I really think he is the loser! He’s really so destitute poor! Karma seems to be getting him!
 

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Freakin fruitcakes....the whole bloody lot of them!
Something ain't right in the head, the wiring is all out.

It never ceases to amaze me how much I laugh at this stuff now, at how thick, desperate and pathetic they are....and that seems so strange, as what they do is dangerous, life changing, so incredibly and pointlessly destructive....but they are so stupidly funny when you completely understand the scam.

Mine has that same horsey grin.....and he frequently bit me! Be grateful yours didn't resort to that...it's feckin agony, especially when one tooth is broken!
They truly are animals :thumbsup:
Somewhere I read that men or women who do that are passive aggressive, their intention is to make feel the partner like a belonging and wanting others to look at the marks in order to avoid someone else’s interest. So you are right: like animals. A dog protecting his treat. Suckers.
 

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I sadly read that too! It broke my heart! I was nearly at her level of despair too! In my family, suicide is the main cause of death! I’ve been aware of it since I was 18 yrs old! That is probably the only reason I never took that path, even though I thought about it a few months ago! I’ve been determined to not follow in my DNA’s footsteps! That is all that saved me! I kept fighting the urge over and over and over! I kept saying to myself that loser Abdelhak will not win!!! I’m still bitter and very angry and very hurt, but I think the love is gone....finally! He really messed up my head! Truly, I really think he is the loser! He’s really so destitute poor! Karma seems to be getting him!
Always keep the positives as priority, look at your strengths and make him unimportant, turn the table! He was a cute toy at his moment that’s all. You have the power and control to make him irrelevant. Take away from him the place of a man that deserves you. He never was and he never will.
 

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Somewhere I read that men or women who do that are passive aggressive, their intention is to make feel the partner like a belonging and wanting others to look at the marks in order to avoid someone else’s interest. So you are right: like animals. A dog protecting his treat. Suckers.
Haha, I feel as though I was being scent marked now! You know...like when a dog pisses up a street light to mark his territory :D
I told him frequently that I felt owned, that I felt like his possession....so that stuff you said really makes sense :)
 

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Big hug Judy. You worth lot more. Make him a last season coat and that’s all.
Haha...I like that! Actually he is 2 seasons ago coats! I found out about his other victim being a current victim last October....nearly 1 year now! She passed away on May 28, 2017 while that animal was still living with me! He felt nothing, no sadness, and told me, “She’s nothing to me and nothing to us so why do I care if she’s dead?” I swear...that monster said those words! I felt weird cause I felt bad and sad! I only knew of her as his ex at that time but I was sad! He felt nothing! Shows what a cruel psychopath he really is!!! Actually, another red flag which I ignored! I do remember thinking, “ if something happens to me, will he say those same cruel words?” He’s truly heartless!
 

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Haha...I like that! Actually he is 2 seasons ago coats! I found out about his other victim being a current victim last October....nearly 1 year now! She passed away on May 28, 2017 while that animal was still living with me! He felt nothing, no sadness, and told me, “She’s nothing to me and nothing to us so why do I care if she’s dead?” I swear...that monster said those words! I felt weird cause I felt bad and sad! I only knew of her as his ex at that time but I was sad! He felt nothing! Shows what a cruel psychopath he really is!!! Actually, another red flag which I ignored! I do remember thinking, “ if something happens to me, will he say those same cruel words?” He’s truly heartless!
Yes, I remeber reading this and brought me to tears. A total dehumanized individual. Cheating level king, he should have remorse, it’s correct he is a psychopath and maybe you ignored the red flags because of shock, you were having a good time and no clue of all his true self. Even knowing it takes time to detach.
 

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Haha, I feel as though I was being scent marked now! You know...like when a dog pisses up a street light to mark his territory :D
I told him frequently that I felt owned, that I felt like his possession....so that stuff you said really makes sense :)
I do agree! I remember that feeling of being “owned” “controlled”.....he guarded me 24/7! It was horrendous! I was always breathing a feeling of freedom every time we were forced to part at airports due to visas! It was like a breath of fresh air! He was stifling!!!!
 

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Yes, I remeber reading this and brought me to tears. A total dehumanized individual. Cheating level king, he should have remorse, it’s correct he is a psychopath and maybe you ignored the red flags because of shock, you were having a good time and no clue of all his true self. Even knowing it takes time to detach.
Yes, I overlooked so many things, but no more! Once the ladies on here sent me PROOF, how could I mentally think good of him anymore? OMG, it was so shocking though! I stayed up an entire week screaming at him! I was devastated to my core! I believed in that asshole and loved him so deeply! Never again! I’m wiser now! I have fixed his butt so well! I giggle to myself cause I’m really not a nasty person but I fixed that moron! I just hope he tries to leave Tunisia...thanks to another lady’s generosity....I hope that I can hear the outcome of his travels (con games)!!!
 

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I remember when you posted about him on the wives group judith, some of us tried to tell you this was not a normal relationship and we directed you over to here.
My only problem that the majority thought it was all ok. Your story was the one that led me to leave that particular group.
That group is the most brainwashed i have ever been on
Its disgusting and shocking
 
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