The yardstick : How would a Tunisian man conduct a relationship with a Tunisian woman?

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:D I have heard about possible G points in female anus too,... but I've also head from other source that it's only a legend..... ;) Ok-ok, I've finished!..... :oops::p
The whole area has a bunch of nerve endings that are responsible for causing arousal. Some people are just more in touch with those regions than others.
 

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:D I have heard about possible G points in female anus too,... but I've also head from other source that it's only a legend..... ;) Ok-ok, I've finished!..... :oops::p
what about the male anus ?
 

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I agree with this completely, its obvious the family have hidden agenda's if they are allowing you to stay in the family home out of wedlock, islamically it is haraam. My parents would never accept it but then again they're good, decent people that don't con money out of innocent women!
Can I just say I stayed in the family home of my boyfriend we never slept together
 

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Can I just say I stayed in the family home of my boyfriend we never slept together
Hi Doreen peake ,,,,,It isnt acceptable really ,even if you didnt sleep together .I dont know the ins and outs of your relationship with your Tunisian bf .But if you stayed ,as an unmarried female with men in the same house ,,,,The men should really have gone and slept at the neighbours or such ...
 

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Can I just say I stayed in the family home of my boyfriend we never slept together
Hi Doreen peake ,,,,,It isnt acceptable really ,even if you didnt sleep together .I dont know the ins and outs of your relationship with your Tunisian bf .But if you stayed ,as an unmarried female with men in the same house ,,,,The men should really have gone and slept at the neighbours or such ...
simple is right Doreen. I once missed my flight very late at night and had to stay with a Tunisian family I know. I had to share a bed with the mother because the two sons were in the house, even though I wasn't in a relationship with either of them (and there was a spare bedroom). They only let me stay because it was an emergency. The following night the boys were going to stay with their aunt but I managed to get a hotel room.

Lovely family, I'm sure they were worried about what the neighbours would say but they still helped me out big time
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Really i want to throw up.. This rat of mine is soooo muslim, how can a soooo muslim be so bad to his wife..? Many muslim hide behind their religion,its discusting..like so many people hide behind religion..
 

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Most of marriages in Tunisia are planned by the parents of the couple.
Normally they know the other family well and wants to get some advantage by marriage.
A friend of mine should marry a young tunisian woman to take care for his old parents.
The family of the young woman wanted to have one person less because survive hard in
their part of the country.
So the parents decided marriage. The young man should continue work in hotel in Djerba
to send money to his family. And his young wife should take care for HIS parents far away
in a small village next ot lybian frontier.
And every year they should meet each other 2 or 3 times and perhaps soon get children.

Unfortunatly he lost work. So nobody earn money and the family of the young woman
decided to search other husband for her.

Sorry if this story is a bit long. But it shows very good what marriage means in arabic world.
Not very often tunisian men or women marry because of love. That's imagination of
european world.
If a Tunisisan marries a woman he wants to have advantage. And if the woman has a
lot of luck he also has some feelings and respect her as he would do with a tunisian girl.
@kati3366 or as in my husband's neighbor'hood' they only marry their cousins
 

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Babys all tunsien men want them so when they say its if you are two old to give me chlidren its LIES !!....
@marylou how my heart breaks, im 43 years old and all my husband talked about was us starting our life and a family ASAP, in fact i was to go back there soon and off birthcontrol to try...at that poindidnt care if we living together or not, i just need to get pregnant and trying alot b/c i dont know how my chances are at my 'age', however he always acted like we'd deal with whatever fertility or infertility issues as they came. Watching his sisters all popping out babies and then us having such a time living apart...now he's just up and left me....I probably wanted our baby more than anything in this world and look how he left me saying "you cant provide me with a family a child a home" and remember what was said earlier about how theyd treat a TUNISIAN wife...lol....if they cant PAY they cant PLAY, they cant marry ok...so i dont see how he can have any woman, im too expensive and he's too poor....
 

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Today Tunisian women do choose their partners with lots of necessary criteria, job, prospects, property, good family etc. She will also need funds for her wedding. The grooms family normally provide a week of celebrations, food, music etc. He will also have good accomodation within his family home or his own property. A modern Tunisian woman will not put up with anything less than what she has decided on for her life. A country/ more traditional woman will idolize her husband but his family will treat her very well especially when children come along. I wouldn`t have minded having my children there, everyone joins in looking after them. I also am in awe of women in middle age just overseeing the house hold with the younger family members doing all the graft. Would suit me perfectly lol. Just a few differences that I personally see with close friends of several years and people around them.
@Galadriel i would had been happy to spend my days there and i already told my husband id prefer to raise them there, and i know the pros and cons of both cultures, societies , norms, etc...and yes these tunisian men just accept all, oh 2x divorced, 3 kids, working outside home, going out and doing this and that and you know what THIS message makes me realize THEY will never treat us the same or respect if now i had thought over and over again HOW his parents are ok with me staying and sleeping with you in their home BEFORE marriage????????????? and i love his family ok, and i thought i fit in perfectly and everyone loved me , i had a wonderful vision of me being there and being perfectly content just being with him his family and taking care of baby, but of course either there is NO WORK or the pay they earn is next to nothing...i understand that life is so hard there and sorry but even family DOES NOT help family, ive seen it....if i get off subject sorry, my point is that is hurts to think tunisian women are worth more than those of us who risk sacrifice and give all and then some to love and help these bloodsuckers.....and GOD FORBID if we speak up or shout any injustice or inequities ok....just let those tunisian women kick back and reap the utmost care and respect.....where's the toilet...to throw up
 

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Yes, couldn't agree more ... i come from a catholic family, and my parents would never, even at my age (18 ;))allow me to sleep in the same bed as a guy under her roof unless we were married .... no matter who it was .... and we aint strong regular church going people... so if some families in tunisia say its ok because you aint tunisian then be concerned because they normally take their religion far more seriously than my family......... and to bend the rules like that cos you aint tunisian just aint "right"
@Bella i agree even tho i have had sexual relations many times before marriage, it wouldnt be acceptable to me or even seem 'right' to allow my son's gf to live with us or sleep over with him, im old fashioned and so is my family but in several situations such as this, where american/european go to visit the fiancee or bf...i always stayed in home, even despite my feelings that it was against their norms and culture , even religion and yes b/c we are american/european, they dont hold us accountable to same things, it's not my fault if HE cannot afford me a hotel to stay in and ill be damned if i pay for hotel PLUS airfare but i do start to believe the family only tolerate it b/c of basis of 'marriage' and /or 'visa'. why else? as you said? but i would had been willing to sleep in separate room, would have sucked but i would have, in any case i only followed what i was told and if he said something was unacceptable i respected that BUT in beginning i did not feel at all comfortable with them seeing us 'sleep' in same room together but on other hand too, how else can we be closer to each other esp if marriage on the horizon...there is no time to waste and apparently i was FAMILY so he kept me with the family.
 

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As I know, it is pretty much the way Laurence said.

In Gabes, it is the bride who pays for the house to be furnished.
I don't remember who paid what when my BIL and his wife got married - I'll ask her today and let you guys know.
With my husband and I, he paid for everything.
As I know, it is pretty much the way Laurence said.

In Gabes, it is the bride who pays for the house to be furnished.
I don't remember who paid what when my BIL and his wife got married - I'll ask her today and let you guys know.
With my husband and I, he paid for everything.
@Tunisianbelle i guess you are one of the lucky ones
 

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Well I'm living in the South aswell and as you know in some ways more traditional than the North, but the Tunisian women who is getting married has to buy and pay aswell for a lot of things.
It costs both Tunisian man and Tunisian woman money.
The man has to build the house and buy all the furniture except the sofa.
Also the man has to buy offcourse lot of things for the women personally.
The Tunisian woman has to buy the sofa and all the decoration things for the livingroom (except curtains and carpet), she is also buying the things for the kitchen for cooking and serving food and drinks etc.

As you may know is the wedding seperate, so the woman and the man both at their own house, at the third and last day the man is bringing his bride to his house. They pay each for what is happening at their house, so the Tunisian man is not paying for dinner and drinks at the house from the Tunsian woman.
During the 3 days there are several programms at both houses including for excample the second day are the women (sometimes the man aswell but than eating seperate) from the Tunisian man's family, coming to the house from the bride to eat. The family from the bride is paying that, because it's at her house.
@NetNiet as most things in my life, i got slighted on all the traditional days worth celebration an gifts. we did have a legal ceremony at court house..all arrangements were made for me and i felt as tho they did their best...i never had money either, so of course im not thinking of paying for my own wedding, however, if their was a better plan and some time to save, surely i would have done more to make it more the way that would have been satifying to me....i was dressed very traditionally but in my sister's clothing..and that's just how i am , i am not superficial at all or materialistic and i just always accepted what was provided, what was given, what was afforded, which wasnt much and sorry that i do and have felt slighted not just now in my current marriage with our wedding but also with the ex moroccan..sorry but im so over the sob story about how poor and they dont have money ..i have always been grateful for what they could offer me and if it was nothing than i accepted that but I PAID FOR EVERYTHING OK even the gas bringing me from the airport and back which is an 8hour car ride ok.......(tataouine in in far south I think too)
 

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Does it happen where a Rat is in a relationship with a European woman, but also married to a Tun woman? If so, does the Tun woman just turn a 'blind eye' so to speak :)
@Chinagirl i dont know how ANY respectable woman who loves her man and in love with him can turn any 'blind eye' not saying that it doesnt happen, i could not do this and i have heard these men playing this way and this coming from folks who act like money isnt important or that they are so close to GOD they could never USE someone for money or LIE....i dont know but i have heard and seen about some really FAT liars over there
 

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We didn't have the big fancy wedding, so of course it was a lot less expensive in that aspect. However, he paid for a lot during or courtship - visits out to see me, calls, mail, and then of course moving me here, getting a house and letting me furnish it, etc.
@Tunisianbelle sounds like a woman's dream , which for me, has never and will never come true, too much to ask i say...too much to ask..to find a REAL MAN and all these men talk about is BEING MAN and WHOSE THE MAN and IM A MAN BABY...LOL whatever i really believe any man who takes from a woman any time MONEY is no man and also a LOSER, this includes my current husband WHO for the record i felt for and saw his life and would had shared what i had but after i saw the greed set in and then in the last what he's done to me....im a hateful person now ok
 

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Why are you answering posts from many years ago this one is 2012 ..these members do not post any more???
 

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LOL sorry I wasn't saying it very clear what I tried to say. You and Laurence did say that both your husbands did pay for the wedding, but from what I know that is more common because we European women don't have a house here for the seperate party's. So the wedding is mostly 1 or maybe 2 days, but all is happening at the house from the Tunisian man. So that is why than most times the Tunisian man pays for it when they get married to a European woman.

Allthough we know offcourse also all the stories that there has been asked at the European girlfriend money to pay everything for the wedding.
The problem here is that when a Tunisian man get to marry an European women, they all think there is loads off money, so the wedding has to be better than normal......

And actually I personally do not see it as a bad thing when the European woman also pay partly for the wedding, when it's together with the Tunisian man. Because it is expensive and it is a lot of money.
A lot of Tunisian just married couples are paying of their debts after the wediing for a long time and also their parents. Not every family has all the money cash for the wedding.
And in Europe when you get married, it's also not only the man who is paying for it all!
@NetNiet I dont mind to contribute but not be stuck to pay for all or then having to use hand me downs or second hand shit for my special day, sure ive done it and i have learned NOT TO EXPECT anything but despite our wedding not being the same as maybe a real Tunisian couple's, i was happy just to marry him , everything they did for me and what they could provide just warmed my heart so much even if i knew i deserved more, we deserved more, could have planned more, i was just happy to be his bride, and oh god the tears again, i just love him so much and how he can throw me out to the trash like he did when after i did and cared so much for him and his family..,wow, just wow...i feel gutted and it does no good to dream anymore....
 
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