The yardstick : How would a Tunisian man conduct a relationship with a Tunisian woman?

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  1. Going for the limit

    Going for the limit Well-Known Member

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    Hahaha mine really must be abnormal because he tells me to tell his family nothing .
    And never do we have them hanging around us unless i have invited them.
    I do remember once it was before we were married and i had called to visit his parents next i knew the dad was on the phone to hubby to tell him i was walking around and had visted them and i was putting myself into a dangerous situation.
    The look on his face when the hubby said she is fine was priceless
     
  2. Epiphany

    Epiphany Well-Known Member

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    So what is this wives group about? a bunch of rat wives enabling each other and their rats? sounds like a whole lot of misery to me.
     
  3. Snuggle

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    I do recognize the family always sticking their nose in.
    And all the family members joining when we went somewhere in Tunisia. They think it is normal to sit in the back of the car with 5 people. One time I went in the back seat at one side and left at the other side. They kept piling people in like they wanted to be in the Guinness book of records. I know they thought of me as a drama queen but I didn’t care.
    And another thing was going somewhere and take a de route ,without telling me, to pick up something or someone.
    Really my so called holidays to Tunisia where very stressful. I am so happy that I won’t have to go there anymore.
     
  4. Going for the limit

    Going for the limit Well-Known Member

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    Yes basically. Its to offer support and advice to everyone who has a tunisian boyfriend or husband.
    I think in total there is 4 groups and they all hate each other. Some have rules where you cant be on more than one group

    It is always kicking off on.there and so much back stabbing. Anything goes, he wants money.. .ok send him, hes cheating.. Ok work on your marraige . A girl sends a message to say hes with her..no the girl is a trouble maker.
    Very few of them will stand up and say no this is wrong etc.
    Funny thing is when you join you have to show pictures of you and your partner on.there just so they know you are not the girl on the side haha.
    I caught out 2 cheaters on that group just by the pictures
     
  5. Epiphany

    Epiphany Well-Known Member

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    Ew...all I can think about when reading this is all those nasty unbathed bodies piling in on you in that unforgiving heat...how intolerable it must of been for you. :sick:
     
  6. Mango Chutney

    Mango Chutney Moderator

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    Mine told me this too. I didn't need to tell them anything....they knew anyway, and he told them everything....it was just me that was silenced :rolleyes:
    You lucky thing :D
    Mine were just there. Always......just THERE, arghhhhhh!! :D
    I remember one night I was sneaking out for a walk when the freak was at work and Raghed was out.
    His freakin mother suddenly got dressed and appeared beside me outside the kitchen!!
    I told her no, I was walking alone (in a mix of jumbled English, French, Tunisian Dialect, hand gestures and mimes :D )......she went and got his dad!
    They kinda had me cornered on the front porch, I was NOT allowed to walk to the cheese factory and back alone, his mother was to come with me. I said no.
    His dad repeatedly said "No, no, no" :D
    He explained when Houssem is not there, he is responsible for me....I was an ADULT woman! They took turns OWNING me! :eek:
    Needless to say, I didn't go for my walk, as I didn't want to upset his parents anymore.
    It became a family joke after that, with the family doing impressions of the dads horrified reaction :D
    Later that night, Raghed took me out for a walk....I felt like the family pet dog :D
    YES!! Me too :D
    Sometimes, random strangers would get into our taxi too :D
     
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  7. AmberHeart

    AmberHeart Lady Amberheart of Gafsa

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    :confused: Wouldn’t be able to handle such with my anxiety issues. This place is safe :Ninja::love:
     
  8. Mango Chutney

    Mango Chutney Moderator

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    Forgot to add....until the moment Raghed came home, and I was dutifully handed over into his care, his parents kept sticking their heads into my room and saying "Ca va? Ca va?". .....and bringing loads of food in, frequently offered to light the gas for coffee....they were terrified I'd try to sneak out again!
    I couldn't stop laughing :D
     
  9. AmberHeart

    AmberHeart Lady Amberheart of Gafsa

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    Dear lord. :confused: So privacy can only be found at the bedroom? Just it’s the moment the freak in him comes out :confused:
     
  10. AmberHeart

    AmberHeart Lady Amberheart of Gafsa

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    Sounds like being held hostage.
     
  11. Going for the limit

    Going for the limit Well-Known Member

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    No mine know nothing at all they try to quiz me over lots of things but i say nothing and i know for sure he doesnt tell them anything .
    I tell them.what i want them to know and thats all.
    We now have a house right next to them honestly i hardly ever see them which suits me great.
     
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    Going for the limit Well-Known Member

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    Were you under lock and key mango bloody hell
     
  13. Epiphany

    Epiphany Well-Known Member

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    I am guessing this behaviour is to ensure that no other rats and families that see you can snatch you up to use for their own visa purposes? you were the shiny coin..how profound :)
     
  14. AmberHeart

    AmberHeart Lady Amberheart of Gafsa

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    Or to not be warned by someone. How sad and awful
     
  15. Mystery

    Mystery Well-Known Member

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    They are afraid of losing they cash cow.
    They nosey beyond any other culture.
    Even down to asking my rat was on on my monthly. My rat would talk about everything to his family and friends
    But what else do they have in they sad boring existence nothing. They gossip more than anyone I know and I was always compared to others in the family some thing a Muslim should never do.
     
  16. RatSnatcher

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    This is funny and sad at the same time Mango. I expressed how in my country, men and women coexist together. My sisters bestfriend is a male. She was darn near "bestman/woman" at his wedding. Now her and the wife are good friends too. She is like auntie to their kids. They have been friends since they were about 10 years old, met in the church choir. He plays piano and she can sing. You would think they were blood related. Never have they even tried to take it to the next level. Like cooties to them, haha.

    Telling this to my rat was like licking air, pointless. He could not see how people of the opposite sex could be friends (oh my, clutching my pearls :eek::rolleyes:).

    But I later found their jealousy is NOT like our men jealousy. Their jealousy is "protecting the investment " kind of jealousy. Not cute at all, shit is annoying really. So for those who think that jealous behavior is cute and innocent. He is only protecting his prize. Has nothing to do with your looks, your cooch (cus evidently they like the back door too:whistle:), and you ARE NOT SPECIAL. Hate to be the barrier of bad news, but you're not. Sorry.

    Glad you're away Mango.
     
  17. AmberHeart

    AmberHeart Lady Amberheart of Gafsa

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    :D It’s horrible and traumatizing but you made it sound hilarious. :thumbsup: This is right. They protect their investment.
     
  18. RatSnatcher

    RatSnatcher Well-Known Member

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    Hahaha. These rats dont care about the power of the cooch. They could care less. The thing that gets them up is the visa, money, etc. The cooch is an added incentive, NOT the prize. Example, no one thinks about the appetizer when ordering food, it just keeps you distracted for the main course. The main course for them is the visa, money, cell phones, etc. :whistle:

    I was one of those women that said, yep, mine was different. Hahaha. Yeah sure. I would have a better chance of fitting a camel through a needle, than my rat being a decent man. Damn I was gullible. :Cry: lol.
     
  19. Mango Chutney

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    No, they were always in there, just chatting, watching movies etc....privacy did not exist :D
    Yes, that is exactly what it was :thumbsup:
    Ya, pretty much.....isn't it crazy! I look back with horror now at what I tolerated :eek:
    It's funny. Back then, I was frustrated, but I really did laugh at it....because I just didn't understand.
    Now that I do understand the culture, I really do laugh so dang much....because I realise what a nightmare this independent, educated, free, Western woman must have been for them to control :D:D
    Yes, for sure.....there would have been a large element of that involved, but dickface always told me it was to keep me safe.
    They told me they were responsible for me there, that if anything happened to me, they would be punished, so even then....they were protecting themselves, not me :rolleyes:
    I had novelty value in the village, as most of them had never seen an English woman before.....so I was like an exhibit when taken out....but to tell me it was to keep me safe is bizarre, as they were constantly begging me not to leave, not to visit England, as it was safe there, I was safe, there were police and military everywhere, the family would look after me, I was at more risk in London etc, which begs the question:

    If I was so safe, if Tunisia was so safe.....why was I guarded around the clock, kept in the house etc? Because it's not safe......Tunisia is not even remotely safe, and actually.....my physical damage all happened in the property anyway :rolleyes:
    They didn't want my money (then). I think that bit was hidden....they were saving it for after the visa was secured....at which point, I think he would have financially stripped me bare.
    It backfired when I refused to marry him, refused to get him a visa.....and hid all my money elsewhere.
    Aren't they just! It's crazy.....I've never known anything like it :eek:
    Thank you :love: I'm glad too. It was like serving a prison sentence.....but my crime was only to love and trust the wrong people. Hard, but very valuable lesson learned.
     
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    Great post and embarrassment, yes every time I look in the mirror I say; what the fcuk were you thinking
     
  21. Mystery

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    If you want to marry a north African man be prepared to sit in the house while he go out all day . Do not call him on his phone or you be harassing him. If you want to message him be prepared to get what do you want now quote.
    When he returned as a grumpy ass bitch he will tell you nothing. No chat at all and back to his phone. His phone will go off all day and night
    Make sure his food is ready for him. Preferable with rat poison in it
    The sister if it is his sister will be hugging and kissing him sat with her hand on his leg but you must not.
     
  22. AmberHeart

    AmberHeart Lady Amberheart of Gafsa

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    :Evil: What is the excuse for this? I bet not a sister. They call sister to every woman like sister in faith. But not a sibling.:Evil: What excuse could they give for that
     
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    My rat used to tell me all of the Tunisian girls I saw in his photos with him, arm in arm, holding hands, leaning on, touching like a couple, etc where ‘just friends’. But I dug a little deeper. He was so full of it.
     
  24. Mystery

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    There is more women than men and all the women are looking for a husband.
    They even ask Allah to find a husband for them.
    If I ever need pray for a husband especially a no good one please shoot me.
    I wonder did he do them all then pay for a zip on they virgina. I bet there's more real virgins in the western world than a north African country
    They will know that a man is married and don't care.
     
  25. Going for the limit

    Going for the limit Well-Known Member

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    I cant comment because hand on heart and on my mams grave have not experianced anything at all like that. :confused::Not Worthy:
     

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