The yardstick : How would a Tunisian man conduct a relationship with a Tunisian woman?

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  1. AmberHeart

    AmberHeart Lady Amberheart of Gafsa

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    The positive side is you are aware and wide eyes open. So you are kinda safe. The problem is when people have never heard of it. It’s easier to eat all lies and fall for the show. Xx
     
  2. Epiphany

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    ....But from what I can see your husband isn't a rat
     
  3. AmberHeart

    AmberHeart Lady Amberheart of Gafsa

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    Same here. :oops:
     
  4. Epiphany

    Epiphany Well-Known Member

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    :love:
     
  5. Going for the limit

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    It seems like your Tunisian is most definitely different and I am happy that you found your husband. Thank you for always being neutral even though you are married to one. You understand we are talking about rats and not people like your husband.

    But I really am blessed to be out of that world. It is not a world that excite me now that I look back at it. Took the blinders off and saw a demonic world that would probably kill me spiritually, emotionally, and mentally. The thought of losing my good life, I cant fathom.

    PS. First time I ever dated online. I wasnt even looking. It was a Facebook connection from a mutual group we were in. And he message me everyday and before I knew it, I was thrust into that world. The second one, found me here. Never again.
     
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    ***hugs***
    Oh youre going to come out amazing. This experience will make you so much stronger. And your prince charming is most definitely praying and patiently waiting to find you. :love:
     
  8. Mango Chutney

    Mango Chutney Well-Known Member

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    Who lives like that? ME! I did! It is an absolute freakin nightmare! They know everything that is going on, they know exactly where everyone is.
    I only had to go shower....and it seemed the phone network of the entire extended family was made aware.
    Argument? They are there. Day out? They are there.
    Fun stuff? They are there. Woman being assaulted? They suddenly are not there, until afterwards, when they need to clean the mess.
    Weird, weird people. So nosey and interfering.
    They ask no questions, yet they know everything.
    I've never forgotten the one time rat said I was allowed to go for a walk....and his family appeared one by one from around different corners...it was a damn comedy sketch.

    It's no life for us....we are not used to having no freedom, having our every move watched and reported on.....especially when it means we miss out on stuff like this:
    :love::love:

    And this:
    YES, YES, YES, YES, HELL YES!!!!! :D
    My God, I look at the face of that ugly freak of nature....and I am mortified!! :oops:
    What the hell was I doing? :oops:
    I look at the scars on my body and ask myself, why did I allow that, why didn't I fight back? :oops:
    Ya....I feel embarrassed for sure.
    Some gormless, uneducated, psychopathic freak kid, from a third world shit pit......and I allowed it to treat me that way! Say whaaaaaat????? :oops::D
     
  9. Going for the limit

    Going for the limit Well-Known Member

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    I am more than aware they can play a good game for years so i will just see.
    I would rather be here than on the wives groups where everything goes, no support for victims or how it is normal if money is given and stick to their marraige even if the husbands are treating them badly.
    Girls are just trouble makers if anything comes to light.
    The stories i could tell you all about them would knock your socks off.
    I have had many blow outs with them and happy i left .
    The wives would message me to help translate or sort out their mess, me and the hubby would be dragged into every situation , the hubby would get messages and phone calls from rats because the wives freely inform the cheating hubby who exactly had helped them.
    Their reality is very much different to ours
     
  10. Going for the limit

    Going for the limit Well-Known Member

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    Hahaha mine really must be abnormal because he tells me to tell his family nothing .
    And never do we have them hanging around us unless i have invited them.
    I do remember once it was before we were married and i had called to visit his parents next i knew the dad was on the phone to hubby to tell him i was walking around and had visted them and i was putting myself into a dangerous situation.
    The look on his face when the hubby said she is fine was priceless
     
  11. Epiphany

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    So what is this wives group about? a bunch of rat wives enabling each other and their rats? sounds like a whole lot of misery to me.
     
  12. Snuggle

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    I do recognize the family always sticking their nose in.
    And all the family members joining when we went somewhere in Tunisia. They think it is normal to sit in the back of the car with 5 people. One time I went in the back seat at one side and left at the other side. They kept piling people in like they wanted to be in the Guinness book of records. I know they thought of me as a drama queen but I didn’t care.
    And another thing was going somewhere and take a de route ,without telling me, to pick up something or someone.
    Really my so called holidays to Tunisia where very stressful. I am so happy that I won’t have to go there anymore.
     
  13. Going for the limit

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    Yes basically. Its to offer support and advice to everyone who has a tunisian boyfriend or husband.
    I think in total there is 4 groups and they all hate each other. Some have rules where you cant be on more than one group

    It is always kicking off on.there and so much back stabbing. Anything goes, he wants money.. .ok send him, hes cheating.. Ok work on your marraige . A girl sends a message to say hes with her..no the girl is a trouble maker.
    Very few of them will stand up and say no this is wrong etc.
    Funny thing is when you join you have to show pictures of you and your partner on.there just so they know you are not the girl on the side haha.
    I caught out 2 cheaters on that group just by the pictures
     
  14. Epiphany

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    Ew...all I can think about when reading this is all those nasty unbathed bodies piling in on you in that unforgiving heat...how intolerable it must of been for you. :sick:
     
  15. Mango Chutney

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    Mine told me this too. I didn't need to tell them anything....they knew anyway, and he told them everything....it was just me that was silenced :rolleyes:
    You lucky thing :D
    Mine were just there. Always......just THERE, arghhhhhh!! :D
    I remember one night I was sneaking out for a walk when the freak was at work and Raghed was out.
    His freakin mother suddenly got dressed and appeared beside me outside the kitchen!!
    I told her no, I was walking alone (in a mix of jumbled English, French, Tunisian Dialect, hand gestures and mimes :D )......she went and got his dad!
    They kinda had me cornered on the front porch, I was NOT allowed to walk to the cheese factory and back alone, his mother was to come with me. I said no.
    His dad repeatedly said "No, no, no" :D
    He explained when Houssem is not there, he is responsible for me....I was an ADULT woman! They took turns OWNING me! :eek:
    Needless to say, I didn't go for my walk, as I didn't want to upset his parents anymore.
    It became a family joke after that, with the family doing impressions of the dads horrified reaction :D
    Later that night, Raghed took me out for a walk....I felt like the family pet dog :D
    YES!! Me too :D
    Sometimes, random strangers would get into our taxi too :D
     
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    AmberHeart Lady Amberheart of Gafsa

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    :confused: Wouldn’t be able to handle such with my anxiety issues. This place is safe :Ninja::love:
     
  17. Mango Chutney

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    Forgot to add....until the moment Raghed came home, and I was dutifully handed over into his care, his parents kept sticking their heads into my room and saying "Ca va? Ca va?". .....and bringing loads of food in, frequently offered to light the gas for coffee....they were terrified I'd try to sneak out again!
    I couldn't stop laughing :D
     
  18. AmberHeart

    AmberHeart Lady Amberheart of Gafsa

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    Dear lord. :confused: So privacy can only be found at the bedroom? Just it’s the moment the freak in him comes out :confused:
     
  19. AmberHeart

    AmberHeart Lady Amberheart of Gafsa

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    Sounds like being held hostage.
     
  20. Going for the limit

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    No mine know nothing at all they try to quiz me over lots of things but i say nothing and i know for sure he doesnt tell them anything .
    I tell them.what i want them to know and thats all.
    We now have a house right next to them honestly i hardly ever see them which suits me great.
     
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    Were you under lock and key mango bloody hell
     
  22. Epiphany

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    I am guessing this behaviour is to ensure that no other rats and families that see you can snatch you up to use for their own visa purposes? you were the shiny coin..how profound :)
     
  23. AmberHeart

    AmberHeart Lady Amberheart of Gafsa

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    Or to not be warned by someone. How sad and awful
     
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    They are afraid of losing they cash cow.
    They nosey beyond any other culture.
    Even down to asking my rat was on on my monthly. My rat would talk about everything to his family and friends
    But what else do they have in they sad boring existence nothing. They gossip more than anyone I know and I was always compared to others in the family some thing a Muslim should never do.
     
  25. RatSnatcher

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    This is funny and sad at the same time Mango. I expressed how in my country, men and women coexist together. My sisters bestfriend is a male. She was darn near "bestman/woman" at his wedding. Now her and the wife are good friends too. She is like auntie to their kids. They have been friends since they were about 10 years old, met in the church choir. He plays piano and she can sing. You would think they were blood related. Never have they even tried to take it to the next level. Like cooties to them, haha.

    Telling this to my rat was like licking air, pointless. He could not see how people of the opposite sex could be friends (oh my, clutching my pearls :eek::rolleyes:).

    But I later found their jealousy is NOT like our men jealousy. Their jealousy is "protecting the investment " kind of jealousy. Not cute at all, shit is annoying really. So for those who think that jealous behavior is cute and innocent. He is only protecting his prize. Has nothing to do with your looks, your cooch (cus evidently they like the back door too:whistle:), and you ARE NOT SPECIAL. Hate to be the barrier of bad news, but you're not. Sorry.

    Glad you're away Mango.
     

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