The yardstick : How would a Tunisian man conduct a relationship with a Tunisian woman?

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  1. AmberHeart

    AmberHeart Lady Amberheart of Gafsa

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    :D It’s horrible and traumatizing but you made it sound hilarious. :thumbsup: This is right. They protect their investment.
     
  2. RatSnatcher

    RatSnatcher Well-Known Member

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    Hahaha. These rats dont care about the power of the cooch. They could care less. The thing that gets them up is the visa, money, etc. The cooch is an added incentive, NOT the prize. Example, no one thinks about the appetizer when ordering food, it just keeps you distracted for the main course. The main course for them is the visa, money, cell phones, etc. :whistle:

    I was one of those women that said, yep, mine was different. Hahaha. Yeah sure. I would have a better chance of fitting a camel through a needle, than my rat being a decent man. Damn I was gullible. :Cry: lol.
     
  3. Mango Chutney

    Mango Chutney Well-Known Member

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    No, they were always in there, just chatting, watching movies etc....privacy did not exist :D
    Yes, that is exactly what it was :thumbsup:
    Ya, pretty much.....isn't it crazy! I look back with horror now at what I tolerated :eek:
    It's funny. Back then, I was frustrated, but I really did laugh at it....because I just didn't understand.
    Now that I do understand the culture, I really do laugh so dang much....because I realise what a nightmare this independent, educated, free, Western woman must have been for them to control :D:D
    Yes, for sure.....there would have been a large element of that involved, but dickface always told me it was to keep me safe.
    They told me they were responsible for me there, that if anything happened to me, they would be punished, so even then....they were protecting themselves, not me :rolleyes:
    I had novelty value in the village, as most of them had never seen an English woman before.....so I was like an exhibit when taken out....but to tell me it was to keep me safe is bizarre, as they were constantly begging me not to leave, not to visit England, as it was safe there, I was safe, there were police and military everywhere, the family would look after me, I was at more risk in London etc, which begs the question:

    If I was so safe, if Tunisia was so safe.....why was I guarded around the clock, kept in the house etc? Because it's not safe......Tunisia is not even remotely safe, and actually.....my physical damage all happened in the property anyway :rolleyes:
    They didn't want my money (then). I think that bit was hidden....they were saving it for after the visa was secured....at which point, I think he would have financially stripped me bare.
    It backfired when I refused to marry him, refused to get him a visa.....and hid all my money elsewhere.
    Aren't they just! It's crazy.....I've never known anything like it :eek:
    Thank you :love: I'm glad too. It was like serving a prison sentence.....but my crime was only to love and trust the wrong people. Hard, but very valuable lesson learned.
     
  4. Laura2014

    Laura2014 Well-Known Member

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    Great post and embarrassment, yes every time I look in the mirror I say; what the fcuk were you thinking
     
  5. Mystery

    Mystery Well-Known Member

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    If you want to marry a north African man be prepared to sit in the house while he go out all day . Do not call him on his phone or you be harassing him. If you want to message him be prepared to get what do you want now quote.
    When he returned as a grumpy ass bitch he will tell you nothing. No chat at all and back to his phone. His phone will go off all day and night
    Make sure his food is ready for him. Preferable with rat poison in it
    The sister if it is his sister will be hugging and kissing him sat with her hand on his leg but you must not.
     
  6. AmberHeart

    AmberHeart Lady Amberheart of Gafsa

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    :Evil: What is the excuse for this? I bet not a sister. They call sister to every woman like sister in faith. But not a sibling.:Evil: What excuse could they give for that
     
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    My rat used to tell me all of the Tunisian girls I saw in his photos with him, arm in arm, holding hands, leaning on, touching like a couple, etc where ‘just friends’. But I dug a little deeper. He was so full of it.
     
  8. Mystery

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    There is more women than men and all the women are looking for a husband.
    They even ask Allah to find a husband for them.
    If I ever need pray for a husband especially a no good one please shoot me.
    I wonder did he do them all then pay for a zip on they virgina. I bet there's more real virgins in the western world than a north African country
    They will know that a man is married and don't care.
     
  9. Jisela

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    I'm so glad I'm out.
     
  10. Going for the limit

    Going for the limit Well-Known Member

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    I cant comment because hand on heart and on my mams grave have not experianced anything at all like that. :confused::Not Worthy:
     
  11. Mango Chutney

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    Will do. Please ensure you all do me the same favour :D
    Yup, for sure. I have seen some cheap girls in my country and on my travels, but NOTHING in the same league as I saw in Tunisia!!!
    I felt like a nun!
     
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    You need to apply for a K1 Fiance Visa, you will have 90 days to get married or not.
    There is a TLC TV programme called 90 Day Fiance which has followed a number of couples through this process, it's well worth watching ;)

    But please be aware that you will be absolutely financially responsible for him for 10 years once he's in America, whether you stay together or not.
     
  13. Big Bang Theory

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    They don't speak Arabic, they speak Tunisian....
    Its similar but quite different. They learn arabic in school so most can understand it, at least the basics. But it will not enable you to understand them very well, especially when they are talking amongst themselves
     
  14. Heidi

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    Eligibility for Fiancé(e) Visas


    You may be eligible to bring your fiancé(e) to the United States on a fiancé(e) visa if you meet the following requirements:

    • You are a U.S. citizen;
    • You and your fiancé(e) intend to marry one another within 90 days of your fiancé(e)’s admission to the United States on a K-1 nonimmigrant visa;
    • You and your fiancé(e) are both legally free to marry (this means you both are legally able to marry in the United States and any previous marriages have been legally terminated by divorce, death, or annulment); and
    • You and your fiancé(e) met each other in person at least once within the 2-year period before you file your petition. You may request a waiver of this in-person meeting requirement if you can show that meeting in person would:
      • Violate strict and long-established customs of your fiancé(e)’s foreign culture or social practice; or
      • Result in extreme hardship to you, the U.S. citizen petitioner.
     
  15. Heidi

    Heidi The Sleuth

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    If American-Tunisian friends would go to Tunisia to marry the rat there and then bring him to the States:

    Responsibilities as a Sponsor


    When you sign the affidavit of support, you accept legal responsibility for financially supporting the sponsored immigrant(s) generally until they become U.S. citizens or can be credited with 40 quarters of work (which unsually takes 10 years). Your obligation also ends if you or the individual sponsored dies or if the individual sponsored ceases to be a permanent resident and departs the United States.

    Note: Divorce does NOT end the sponsorship obligation.

    If the individual you sponsored receives any "means-tested public benefits," you are responsible for repaying the cost of those benefits to the agency that provided them. If you do not repay the debt, the agency can sue you in court to get the money owed. Any joint sponsors or household members whose income is used to meet the minimum income requirements are also legally responsible for financially supporting the sponsored immigrant.
     
  16. AmberHeart

    AmberHeart Lady Amberheart of Gafsa

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    It reminds me @Heidi C ‘s case where her x rat is abusing Canadian system and bragging out she is his sponsor so she must give him money!! I hate that fucker, has been violent towards her and her kid. This is a big subject to consider. They stop being nice once you are Legally responsible for them.
     
  17. Heidi

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    Can you imagine a real man wanting someone else being responsible for him :eek:
     
  18. AmberHeart

    AmberHeart Lady Amberheart of Gafsa

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    Never. :thumbsup:
     
  19. Laura2014

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    It’s a very high price to pay for some love bombing and fake love. For them, it’s the gift that keeps giving long after they have flown the nest. The sponsor financially supports them and inadvertently a whole extended family in Tunisia whilst the sponsor struggles and lives with ever growing debt.
     
  20. RatSnatcher

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    This is what one of my friends reminded me of. She is an Air Force Officer that has dealt with her soldiers marrying these foreign women from Korea, Ukraine, etc. She was explaining that even if my rat and I divorce in my country, I am responsible for him. Especially if we are living in a community property kind of state. Whats yours is his and vise versa. It was something I had never thought about. I was shocked to know that.

    Will a prenup agreement cover spouses who bring these men to the country??? Thoughts.
     
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  21. Laura2014

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    I don’t think it has any bearing on being a sponsor. That’s a given , you pay regardless until they meet their own conditions to stay.
     
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  22. Mystery

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    Now you have to fill out a form and say your no longer living together then they can deport him.
     
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    AmberHeart Lady Amberheart of Gafsa

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