Ok, so I never got the whole picture in my particular situation. My rat got in a fight with a friend after leaving a bar....before I got to Tunisia. This "friend" showed up one of the first weeks I was here at the Cafe on the beach in Hammamet. The moment I saw this man, he glared at me in the way gay men do when they're extremely jealous. Like literally looked me up and down. Later, I found out, that this man is living with another gay man "for pay"... I spied on some of my rats archived messages, and found where these two men were speaking. One message I could decipher was this guy told him my rat had a "nice smile". There was also another message with someone in Europe, I think Germany, where my rat invited him to visit Tunisia. My rat asked this man if he had a girlfriend, and he said yes. Then my rat said he was not "lucky" with the women. Afterwards, the German guy told him that he personally had a LOT of experience with women... then my rat felt embarrassed. Ok, so I know this is probably so glaringly obvious, but then I started looking at my rats other friends. My rat confessed that the man I saw on Hammamet had sex with another one of his friends, when they were young. At this point, I was really appalled, because my rat had been suffering with symptoms that got worse when he was around this man. He was also not normally affectionate, like there was something strange about him -- he also had a lot of hate towards women, and seemed his best when he was with his male friends... Long story short, what's going on here? And, if these guys swing both ways, maybe this is their latent homosexuality here, and aggressiveness towards the woman playing out through a con. I could be thinking way too much into this, but to me, if a man here loves men, but hates women (like doesn't respect them in general), it seems like a pretty good idea to SELL yourself into marriage overseas, because that way you get your ticket to democracy where you can live as a gay man, bisexual, whatever, and no one will control you or know --- you also simultaneously help your family financially and make them thing you're normal because you're married and capable of having children, though deep down inside you're only doing it for the money, kinda thing... Maybe someone else will chime in here for clarification.