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FoolInLove

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im trying very hard to be strong but the thing that hurts the most is to think he never really loved me at all and was playing a game all along - he even demanded I send him money this morning - what a joke !!

It is so hard to understand :(
Just stay strong, and please BLOCK him! First of all it stops him from manipulate you, and second of all THEY HATE to be ignored :)

Big hugs
 
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Elocin Ben, he only loved what you could bring him: visa, money, free sex...for some time!
You liked him because of what he mirrored you he could give you: love, understanding, commitment... In fact that's what he wanted you to believe because it serves his aims!
Don't try to understand, yuo're way too nice to be able to understand rats. Just block him, forget the illusion he gave you, it's all a ratty game to him!
Stay strong dear!
 

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im trying very hard to be strong but the thing that hurts the most is to think he never really loved me at all and was playing a game all along - he even demanded I send him money this morning - what a joke !!
I know, it's taken me over a year since I blocked my rat, the first few months were hell and if I hadn't deleted his number and all his friends and family and blocked on facebook etc, I probably would have weakened and started it all again. But gradually it got easier and easier. It's still difficult to believe that it was all a game but now I don't worry about it so much, I accept that I will never understand and I'm pretty much back to my old self and getting on with life now.

So it does get easier, just don't let him drag you in again because you'll have to start the healing process all over again. You're on your way now to a happier life without all the angst and emotional rollercoaster, just stay strong through this initial difficult bit. :thumbsup:
 

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I know, it's taken me over a year since I blocked my rat, the first few months were hell and if I hadn't deleted his number and all his friends and family and blocked on facebook etc, I probably would have weakened and started it all again. But gradually it got easier and easier. It's still difficult to believe that it was all a game but now I don't worry about it so much, I accept that I will never understand and I'm pretty much back to my old self and getting on with life now.

So it does get easier, just don't let him drag you in again because you'll have to start the healing process all over again. You're on your way now to a happier life without all the angst and emotional rollercoaster, just stay strong through this initial difficult bit. :thumbsup:
Thankyou so much all of you for giving me the support and advice I needed- much love to you all xx
 

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There really needs to be victim counseling available for the women these criminals have defrauded. It's a criminal con game, not love. Love was never part of it.

They laugh at the women they convince t they love for being so ridiculous as to think they could possibly have loved them. It is nothing more than a con job.
 
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Be strong we all have your back. Please please block him cause he, his friends family ect will all try to convince you that he is a good guy ect. It's all a game and a way to get money, visa ect DO NOT feel bad they are well skilled at this . Protect yourself and again please block him every way possible cause two things will happen he will lay the lies even thicker or become very abusive. You deserve much much more in life. It hurts right now but in time you will see how lucky you are to not have been hurt even more and taken to the cleaners. Be strong.... Everyone here is here for you to lean on.
 

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You have to go through the pain to reap the gain..

There is NO shortcut NO easy route ..But believe me the reward at the end is so worth it :)

Life with a RAT is hell on earth......Life on your own might be challenging at times.... but at least you can go where you want do what you want meet who you want...the list of positives is endless......:p
 

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Elocin Ben, he only loved what you could bring him: visa, money, free sex...for some time!
You liked him because of what he mirrored you he could give you: love, understanding, commitment... In fact that's what he wanted you to believe because it serves his aims!
Don't try to understand, yuo're way too nice to be able to understand rats. Just block him, forget the illusion he gave you, it's all a ratty game to him!
Stay strong dear!
This is the truth and the best advise. Use the block button. Be sure. He do not love you. He love what he think he can gain from you. And be sure to end this now will be the best desission you ever will do in your life. Yes it will be hard at first(been there , done that ) but you will be over it.
 

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I know, it's taken me over a year since I blocked my rat, the first few months were hell and if I hadn't deleted his number and all his friends and family and blocked on facebook etc, I probably would have weakened and started it all again. But gradually it got easier and easier. It's still difficult to believe that it was all a game but now I don't worry about it so much, I accept that I will never understand and I'm pretty much back to my old self and getting on with life now.

So it does get easier, just don't let him drag you in again because you'll have to start the healing process all over again. You're on your way now to a happier life without all the angst and emotional rollercoaster, just stay strong through this initial difficult bit. :thumbsup:

I'm glad you're doing better BBT...I want to underscore that it's important to block all the friends connected. I can't tell you how many women get double ratted. They escape the first one, but in the search for answers and/or comfort, some kind and understanding understudy steps in to console you....then WHAM! you're hooked again.
 

Elocin Ben

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Please can anyone translate this for me?
Ah win rakech

Fe dar

Ok

Hi tatle3

Wen

Le 7oma

Ok
Ija
Hani fel Houma

Ok

Wenek tet9o7eb

Haw jit
 

Elocin Ben

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Please can anyone translate this for me?
Ah win rakech

Fe dar

Ok

Hi tatle3

Wen

Le 7oma

Ok
Ija
Hani fel Houma

Ok

Wenek tet9o7eb

Haw jit
Please if anyone can translate this for me tonight - it's important i know what is says - thankyou
 

Filfil

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Please can anyone translate this for me?
Ah win rakech where are you

Fe dare at home

Ok

Hi tatle3 lets go out

Wen where

Le 7oma in town

Ok
Ija come now
Hani fel Houma Im already in town

Ok

Wenek tet9o7eb where are you

Haw jit Im coming
 
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Pearl

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Please can anyone translate this for me?
Ah win rakech

Fe dar

Ok

Hi tatle3

Wen

Le 7oma

Ok
Ija
Hani fel Houma

Ok

Wenek tet9o7eb

Haw jit
Ah where are you?
at home.
ok, do you wanna come,
where?
To the neighborhood (downtown).
ok, come, i'm there already.
Okay...where are you?
I'm there now
 

Pearl

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Do you know what this says pearl?

Emchi 3al ro7k

5f

Jatni 9athye taw dzl
-go leave now ( it's like saying "I needed you but you weren't there, leave now "but then again it depends on the context)

- 5f is 5rit fih which means ' what have you done , now? ' but in a sarcastic way. example: someone tries too hard to taunt you but you don't seem to be bothered. so you say ' 5rit fih)

- I had to do something now, sorry

(I know, tunisian slang is so weird and hard to explain, hope I helped)
 

Elocin Ben

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-go leave now ( it's like saying "I needed you but you weren't there, leave now "but then again it depends on the context)

- 5f is 5rit fih which means ' what have you done , now? ' but in a sarcastic way. example: someone tries too hard to taunt you but you don't seem to be bothered. so you say ' 5rit fih)

- I had to do something now, sorry

(I know, tunisian slang is so weird and hard to explain, hope I helped)
Thanks pearl I understand this translation perfectly and the conversation now. Makes sense to me ... Thankyou x

Any idea what this means ?

Hak saher
 

Pearl

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Thanks pearl I understand this translation perfectly and the conversation now. Makes sense to me ... Thankyou x

Any idea what this means ?

Hak saher
-you're still up (didn't sleep yet)
and I'm so glad it helped! :D
 
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