Discussion in 'Tunisian Family Law' started by OnlyMe, Aug 30, 2009.
This thread is worth to read. Especially post # 106.
Originally posted by @ womenbewise
Normally I don't come onto sites such as these but felt compelled to given the misery that some (not all) Tunisian men heap on foreign women.
So, apologies if some of my words may appear uncaring or harsh but we share the bond of womanhood and I certainly don't want any more women to fall prey to these evil men. I live here and have seen/heard the sort of scams that go on. Also, I have a friend here who not only furnished an entire apartment for a man, but gave him money each week, provided clothing and all household items etc and then he became violent when he was declined a visa to the UK. (Bear in mind also that by not marrying them and denying them visa entry to the UK/other countries you are in fact supporting your home country as these people go mostly to milk the benefit system which I and others have contributed to all their lives.. think on!)
I also had another friend who met a man on-line and dated off and on for almost 3 years. He spun her a tale about being in the military and not being allowed to have a relationship with a foreign woman blah blah blah... and guess what? After he'd milked her of several thousand dinars (after saying he loved her and offering marriage) the contact stopped.
So getting back to the issue in hand. The man in question is spinning your friend a total yarn. There is no such law. Any Tunisian man is free to date ANY woman of any nationality and any age. This is now a democracy. He may marry any woman whom he chooses. Case in point I know a man whose a business partner to a friend of mine. He's 41 and is married to a 52 year old French lady. They have been married for 8 years. The problems arise should you wish to live with a Tunisian man. Then is it a matter of the law. And, as with all things in this country obtaining papers for anything official in this country tests the patience of a Saint!!!
I can give you the number of several Tunisian lawyers if you want to check any point of law. Often they can help you on-line first without charge. Or let your friend visit them when she's here.
I AM GOING TO SPELL THIS OUT IN PLAIN LANGUAGE, BASED ON HAVING LIVED HERE, MY FRIENDS HAVING LIVED HERE, THEIR PERSONAL TALES OF WOE PLUS NUMEROUS CONVERSATIONS WITH PROFESSIONAL AND EDUCATED TUNISIANS AND LAWYERS.
1. ALL Tunisians are under immense pressure to make a good match in marriage. By that I mean to marry for status, money and the procreation of children.
2. If a Tunisian man under 45 years of age says he does not want children it will not be truthful. This is a culture in which procreation is a given. Sometimes, if the man has been previously married and had children he may not want any more but it is rare and I mean rare.
3. The professional people of Tunisia do not need to marry for money (because they have it) or for a visa (because they can get one). It is usually people as described by yourself that are looking at a relationship as an easy way to secure an exit out of their country.
4. The RATS on this site operate to a long-term plan. And, you will be one of many women. That is hook the woman, get married, get divorced and claim anything he can from the marriage (property, money, pension funds etc) plus by then he'll be in a country other than his own. Another true story. My close friend's neighbour was 58 and met a 29 year old. It was meant to be love. Eight years down the line, after telling her she could ONLY buy property in this country if a Tunisian name was on the deeds, ended up loosing her home which represented her total life savings having worked in France non-stop for 35 years. I don't want it to happen to your friend. RATS ARE IN IT FOR THE LONG HAUL... 2 years, 5 years, 10 years, they will do what it takes to fleece you.
5. Often, although not everyone knows this, the family are in league with the young man doing "beeznees". They often encourage such matches in the hope that ALL the family will ultimately benefit financially. Pressure is put on the man to provide for the women... they are desperate some of them and will go to ANY lengths to improve their life-style. The culture here is different. They are far more status conscious than we are.
6. I have never met, nor has anyone I ever known of any nationality, met a Tunisian man that does not want children!
So, on a final note.
IN SUCH CASES AS THESE, BELIEVE NOTHING A TUNISIAN MAN TELLS YOU. CHECK IT OUT WITH THE TUNISIAN EMBASSY IN LONDON OR TAKE ADVICE FROM A TUNISIAN LAWYER.
DO NOT BE BULLIED OR HARASSED INTO MAKING ANY DECISIONS ABOUT YOUR RELATIONSHIP WITH A TUNISIAN MAN, MARRIAGE, PURCHASING PROPERTY OR HANDING OVER MONEY ETC. TAKE TIME OUT, CHECK IT OUT AND ONLY TAKE ACTION IF YOU ARE IN A LEGALLY SECURE POSITION.
IF IT WERE ME I'D KEEP ALL MY MONEY, BANK ACCOUNTS DETAILS, PIN NUMBERS, PENSION FUND DETAILS ANYTHING FINANCIAL AT ALL PRIVATE, SECURE AND LOCKED AWAY.
I don't want to say that all Tunisian men are snakes, because I have two close friends who are in very happy and secure relationships (1 living with her partner the other not). BUT and here is the BUT.... they are age appropriate and the men in question are DIVORCED, PROFESSIONALS, with GOOD JOBS/SALARIES and are FINANCIALLY INDEPENDENT and have children from previous marriages so are not looking to the woman for offspring.
Again, my apologies for being so blunt but I hope these comments help your friend. As well as saving her financial misery I'd like to save her potential emotional misery.
As someone said on this forum. Go on holiday, have fun then go home. Or, join the ex-pat community in Sousse. Men like this are in abundance so you'll never be short of company!
Best of luck.
ON BEHALF OF YOUR FRIEND (AND OTHER LADIES THAT NEED ASSISTANCE) I SPOKE WITH THIS LAWYER TODAY WHO SAID HE CAN ASSIST WITH FAMILY/PRE-MATRIMONIAL/MATRIMONIAL/DIVORCE LAW. (Unlike the UK the lawyers here are normally general practitioners unless specialist criminal lawyers.) He speaks relatively good English but go slowly, French and Arabic. I've not as yet a client of his but I got his number from an Irish business man I know here whose been a client for years and recommended him.
His name is Mohammed. His practice is in Sousse.
His number +216 975 973 57
Email: [email protected]
Good luck. If that doesn't work let me know as I have the name of someone else.
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