Tunisian Love Rat Ahmed Arraf - Animation name: Avatar

Wendy

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I knew he couldn't be trusted!! What happened? Xxx
This story lasted about a year. I first met Ahmed at Marhaba beach hotel, Sousse, in the summer 2018. We didn’t talk much that time. I just saw him in animation, that’s it.

In October 2018 he messaged me on fb saying he likes me and so on. I didn’t want to talk because I didn’t like him at all, but he insisted and tried to keep me talking. He said he remembered my kids too (I’m 3 years older than him). So were talking every day and night and soon he started complaining about his poor life. He left his job in the hotel in July because of the problems with the manager and he had no money. He was unlucky, he was dying there... He spent a month trying to cause my sympathy. Of course I asked him ‘Why can’t you get a job?’ , he replied ‘ I can’t find it here, it’s a small place (Kairouan). I have to move to a big city’ - ‘Go then’ , I said. He said ‘ I don’t have money to rent an apartment and for food for the first month’
This continued until I asked ‘ how much’

I sent him 400 dt and he went to Sousse to look for a job as he told me. I don’t think that he was ever seriously concerned about finding a job. Work is available in Sousse. He was lazy and slept half a day. A month later the money ran out. He had ‘ nothing to eat’ (his words) and couldn’t pay a rent. I sent him a little money for food, but I wasn’t going to pay for his apartment.

He said ‘I will sell my phone to pay the rent. I have no other idea’ . I asked ‘ How will we talk then? ‘ . He assured me I shouldn’t have worried about it because he would use his friend’s phone’
He spent in Sousse 3 months. Only once he found a job and left it after a couple of days. ‘ That’s too hard, I’m not a donkey’ , he said. He thought he was too good to do it.
I sent money a few times , not much, 100-200 dt. Sometimes I was angry with him and said ‘go home’, but he said ‘ no, it’s a bad choice for me, believe me’.
 

Wendy

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I’m not talking about feelings now as everything has gone. Of course he said ‘ I love you. I miss you. I want you ‘ , they all say the same.
That time we were planning to meet in Turkey. He was going to work in animation there and I wanted to go on holiday, so I could book his hotel.
I didn’t charm myself too much, but I cared about him. He said ‘ if you don’t go to Turkey, I will not go to work. You are everything for me, the only good thing in my life’
I’d like to explain that asking for money isn’t the main issue. He promised to pay me back (that never happened, I didn’t care though).
The most important that I was hurt with his lies, cheating and rude attitude later.
Selling the phone was probably the biggest lie which I discovered. He had pretended having no phone for 5 months!

I noticed he was a little agressive sometimes for no reason. He didn’t like to talk much, was angry when I asked questions. He used to say ‘ wait when I’m in a better situation everything will be good. You will see how I love you’
I was waiting. Now I realise I had a really big patience with him which he didn’t deserve.

In February he was back in Kairouan looking for a job in animation in Turkey. I asked him to know the name of the hotel as soon as he could because I wanted to book early, it was cheaper, I had to pay for my mum, my kids and me for 23 nights. It was difficult for him to know the name of the hotel , he couldn’t choose it, the chefs chose their teams, not animators. Finally he managed to get 3 names of the hotels, in one of them he was supposed to work.
He had 3 meetings in Hammamet before they chose them. Again he had no money to go there. He had he needed 170 dinars to travel from Kairouan to Hammamet, that obviously wasn’t true.
I booked one of the hotels and he was chosen there. I was happy that all problems were past then, but I was wrong (...)
 

Wendy

New Member
(...) Looking back I realise that Ahmed was never polite or sweet, he was pretending when it was needed. I was tired of his endless complaints and psychological pressure. Before his leaving for Turkey another problem occurred. He told me his flight was on the 28th of March, the company paid for the tickets, but he had to change 100€ to leave Tunisia. I was already angry with him and said he was lying about it and I didn’t have money to help him. He said ‘ Ok, I can’t ask from you, even if I can’t go there’ Well, it was true about 100€, but lies about the date of departure, he showed me the ticket for the 29th.

Our hotel was in Antalya, but at first all the animators came to Bodrum for a few days. I’m not sure why. They were working there in a hotel. Ahmed was complaining it was too hard. About 5 days later he said he had had a ‘ problem’ with his chef and he wasn’t allowed to work anymore, so he had nothing to eat again It would be stupid to believe him and I didn’t send him anything. The next day he went to Antalya to our hotel.

He liked it a lot, and it was really unusual to hear it from him. The work wasn’t that hard and he was happy and satisfied with everything. He said ‘ there is a Russian girl here in the mini club , that will be good for your children’ ( I’m Russian, that is why) .

6 or 7 days later I got a message from him
‘ I have a big problem with the chef here. I will change the hotel. I’m sorry’ . I was so shocked. (...)
 

Wendy

New Member
Ahmed /Avatar always thought he was perfect and the best in animation, so self-confident that I really didn’t understand how it could happen. I called him and he said ‘ I swear I haven’t done anything wrong. Just the Turkish chef is jealous I’m a better animator than him’ Although he denied his fault, it was clear they couldn’t kick him out of the hotel for nothing.
I tried to ask questions, he was annoyed with it. He said ‘ I love you, but don’t make me nervous. I’m in a very bad situation. Possible they will say to me ‘go home’ ‘

They sent him back to Bodrum for 7-10 days and they to another hotel which was near Izmir. Antalya and Izmir are far away from each other. I was in a stupid situation. It was a little funny too. I booked a hotel to visit an animator, but he changed it, even he changed the resort!
I’d like to add that the company he worked for was French and their hotels were mostly for French people, it was cheaper for them, but more expensive for other nationalities. So I paid for the hotel more than I expected. Besides I used the early booking in February and then it was April. The new hotel was much more expensive. Ahmed asked me to change the booking, he was waiting for me he said.
In May I canceled the first hotel with a fine and booked the hotel for 23 nights for July-August.

I know I was stupid to do that. Ahmed wasn’t that nice towards me, but I did it. I was curious. He always said ‘ When you come here everything will be good. I will show how much I care’.

There, in Izmir he broke his phone and someone gave him a very old phone to use, so he couldn’t message me much. He complained about hard work again, he didn’t have time. He remembered the date when I was coming, but my flights were changed, we had to go via Istanbul and one day earlier than it was planned. I didn’t say anything to him. I thought it would be a surprise for him.

No, it was a ‘ surprise’ for me☹
 

Wendy

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We arrived at the hotel late, at about 11 pm. My mum and kids went to bed and at midnight I decided to walk around and look for Ahmed. I found him very quickly. He was standing on the path talking to another animator and smoking. Smoking was already a bad sign as he promised to give it up for me. He didn’t see me. The more I was looking at him the more I was feeling like everything was lost, my dreams, my holiday... It was a really bad feeling.

He was walking along the path alone and I decided to follow him. There was something like a small disco area near the beach. He was dancing with some guests there and went to the beach with one of them Wtf! First I wanted to go back to my room, but then decided to follow them. I just asked him ‘how are you’ . He looked a little frightened and his French girl looked surprised, then I said ‘ good night’ and left the beach . He ran after me saying ‘ wait, wait, when did you come?’ (...)
 

Wendy

New Member
He made lots of excuses. He didn’t know I was coming. They were just talking. The girl liked him, but he didn’t, it’s his job to talk to guests. I’m so important for him (lied to both of us for sure) . He insisted on the conversation on the beach. He was pushy and tried to touch my face, my hands and everywhere, not only on the beach , he didn’t care someone would see it, I felt even a slight aggression from him as if I belonged to him. I said ‘ Ahmed, you’re smelling with cigarettes and alcohol. I don’t like it and I’m tired after 2 flights, let’s talk tomorrow’ . He didn’t want to let me go, but finally agreed with me and even went upstairs with me.

The next day he was working and talked to me as usual and not much. We were supposed to meet that night after his work , he didn’t say anything special though.
My kids couldn’t wait till the end of the evening show, I had to go and put them to bed. When I returned the show had already finished. I was looking for Ahmed, but I didn’t find him and went back to my room.
I knew it was his day off the next day. He sent me a message ‘ Why you didn’t wait for me last night ? Look if you want to be together, we can, if not tell me, easy’
I didn’t like the message. He said it was ok, we had enough time. He told me I could wait him in the bar after the show. He seemed to be in a good mood and offered to go to the beach separately because the chef was watching him. I agreed.
 

Wendy

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Yes, yes? What happened next Wendy??
We came to the beach, she offered to sit on a sunbed. It was my third night in the hotel, but I didn’t have a chance to talk to him properly. I questioned him about his job, about the chefs. He said ‘ You know I hate questions’ . Then he asked ‘ Does your mum know you’re here with me?’ I said ‘ She knows that I’m with you, but doesn’t know where exactly’ . After these words he attacked me. He was holding me with his hands very rudely and squeezed my mouth with his. It was the last thing I could expect from him. I knew he wasn’t very nice, but couldn’t imagine such abuse. Why would he do this if I already visited him for 23 days? At first I couldn’t resist the shock, then I tried to stop him. I didn’t know what to say and just blamed him on smoking cigarettes, he promised to stop when I came, but he didn’t. I said I didn’t like the smell and he got angry. I didn’t understand his situation, he had so much stress at work, he couldn’t stop smoking. He also said ‘ I’m talking to you, what else do you want me to do, to dance for you? If you don’t want you may go. Ok, I’m a devil, you’re an angel’ . I asked ‘ Why are you so rude with me?’ He said ‘ I can be more rude, more than you think’ . He let me go and even escorted me a little and kissed my cheeks. I came to the reception and was sitting there shocked for about an hour before I went to my room. I found a couple of bruises from his hands on my body.
 

Croydon girl

Junior Rat Expert
We came to the beach, she offered to sit on a sunbed. It was my third night in the hotel, but I didn’t have a chance to talk to him properly. I questioned him about his job, about the chefs. He said ‘ You know I hate questions’ . Then he asked ‘ Does your mum know you’re here with me?’ I said ‘ She knows that I’m with you, but doesn’t know where exactly’ . After these words he attacked me. He was holding me with his hands very rudely and squeezed my mouth with his. It was the last thing I could expect from him. I knew he wasn’t very nice, but couldn’t imagine such abuse. Why would he do this if I already visited him for 23 days? At first I couldn’t resist the shock, then I tried to stop him. I didn’t know what to say and just blamed him on smoking cigarettes, he promised to stop when I came, but he didn’t. I said I didn’t like the smell and he got angry. I didn’t understand his situation, he had so much stress at work, he couldn’t stop smoking. He also said ‘ I’m talking to you, what else do you want me to do, to dance for you? If you don’t want you may go. Ok, I’m a devil, you’re an angel’ . I asked ‘ Why are you so rude with me?’ He said ‘ I can be more rude, more than you think’ . He let me go and even escorted me a little and kissed my cheeks. I came to the reception and was sitting there shocked for about an hour before I went to my room. I found a couple of bruises from his hands on my body.
Oh Wendy!! I hope you finished with him! Horrible man!!
 

Wendy

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The next morning he greeted us as usually all animators do. I didn’t answer. We saw each other in the restaurant at lunchtime , he greeted me again. I didn’t want to talk and he said ‘ I’m talking to you, why don’t you want to talk to me?’ Yes, really, why!
And he just sat to have lunch with us at out table! He asked general questions if we liked the hotel and the aqua park, his performance last night and so on. I was with my mum and my kids, so what could I do? I replied as normal.
At that moment I thought he might have regretted about his behaviour. Now I suppose he just was afraid I could tell someone.
He had lunch with us the next two days too. Of course I didn’t wait for him after his work anymore.
3 days later he came up to me in the evening and said he wanted to talk, but he couldn’t that night because his big chef was there, his feet were hurting him and he had to go to his room.
I had nothing to do and was working around the hotel. I saw him in the pool bar talking to some guests. I was angry with him for his lies and I walked passed and pushed him.

The next day he said ‘ you understood me wrong , I didn’t mean that’
In the evening one of the Turkish animators asked me what my problem with Avatar was. He saw me pushing him. Maybe it was wrong to tell him the details, but I felt so bad that I told him a little. The Turkish guy was sympathetic, he said ‘ Your Avatar is fu****g that French girl on the beach , she is still here with her family. They are sitting in the bar together. Let’s go, I will show you’ . We went there together and yes, he was there too with her big big family, her sister, her parents and grandparents I guess. The Turkish boy and me sat at the table not far from them. Avatar looked at us sometimes. The animator asked what I wanted to drink, I said just water. He brought a few cans of water from the fridge. I said to my new friend that I wanted to pour that water on Avatar’s head. You can see on his pictures he likes to fix his hair with gel. He was sitting and smiling with that girl and her family. I was thinking about how much time I wasted on him listening to his complaints, supported him , he was polite with the French family, he was nice towards her and treated me like that!
So, I came up to him from behind and poured 2 glasses of water on his head! Many guests saw it. Then I left the bar.
 

Croydon girl

Junior Rat Expert
The next morning he greeted us as usually all animators do. I didn’t answer. We saw each other in the restaurant at lunchtime , he greeted me again. I didn’t want to talk and he said ‘ I’m talking to you, why don’t you want to talk to me?’ Yes, really, why!
And he just sat to have lunch with us at out table! He asked general questions if we liked the hotel and the aqua park, his performance last night and so on. I was with my mum and my kids, so what could I do? I replied as normal.
At that moment I thought he might have regretted about his behaviour. Now I suppose he just was afraid I could tell someone.
He had lunch with us the next two days too. Of course I didn’t wait for him after his work anymore.
3 days later he came up to me in the evening and said he wanted to talk, but he couldn’t that night because his big chef was there, his feet were hurting him and he had to go to his room.
I had nothing to do and was working around the hotel. I saw him in the pool bar talking to some guests. I was angry with him for his lies and I walked passed and pushed him.

The next day he said ‘ you understood me wrong , I didn’t mean that’
In the evening one of the Turkish animators asked me what my problem with Avatar was. He saw me pushing him. Maybe it was wrong to tell him the details, but I felt so bad that I told him a little. The Turkish guy was sympathetic, he said ‘ Your Avatar is fu****g that French girl on the beach , she is still here with her family. They are sitting in the bar together. Let’s go, I will show you’ . We went there together and yes, he was there too with her big big family, her sister, her parents and grandparents I guess. The Turkish boy and me sat at the table not far from them. Avatar looked at us sometimes. The animator asked what I wanted to drink, I said just water. He brought a few cans of water from the fridge. I said to my new friend that I wanted to pour that water on Avatar’s head. You can see on his pictures he likes to fix his hair with gel. He was sitting and smiling with that girl and her family. I was thinking about how much time I wasted on him listening to his complaints, supported him , he was polite with the French family, he was nice towards her and treated me like that!
So, I came up to him from behind and poured 2 glasses of water on his head! Many guests saw it. Then I left the bar.
Well done Wendy!! Good for you!!!!
 

Wendy

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I had another 17 days at the hotel. My holiday was spoiled. After the French girl had gone he talked to me alone only twice . He said he had nothing with her, I was his gf and I showed it to everyone that night with ‘water’ , that’s why he wasn’t allowed to talk to me alone, the chefs were watching us, he could talk to me only together with other animators and guests. I was with them at the beach smoking weed with some guests.

Maybe for someone it’s normal and I look too conservative, but for me he is a drug user. He smokes weed every day. I think he has been doing it for many years. He doesn’t look healthy at all. He is a cheater and a big liar.
He is agressive and rude.

I don’t know if the French girl is still with him. I tried to contact her after I returned home. I think he told her I was his ex and just jealous. I showed her the only proof I had that he lied to her too. I know when a girl is involved she doesn’t believe anything. She thinks he will be different with her, so I can understand her. I thought the same. He has been here in the gallery since May 2019 and I didn’t care.

I’m sure he preferred her because she was from France and he wanted his visa like all of them. He isn’t looking for the visa to Russia, the hotel was full of French and Belgian girls, he was chasing them , before my visit and after the French girl and me left the hotel too.

I discovered lots of things about him. He had problems wherever he works, in every hotel. He was a trouble for all his chefs. He always had problems with alcohol, girls, drugs... He is a rat, a user. He has no morals.

I don’t want to put all blame on him. I’m guilty too. I made some problems for him in the hotel. I should have thought better before visiting him. I just want to say that he is dangerous. I would never think that, but he is. I asked ‘ why are you rude with me ?’ And he said ‘ You provoke me with your stupid questions!’ . He turned everything to be my fault. Like a maniac who always thinks his victim provoked him.

I blocked him last August. I don’t want to hear anything from him or about him. I’m sure he’s trying with other girls. I don’t want any revenge and I don’t care. I’m happy in a new relationship. He behaved like a pig, but I forgave him and let him go.
 

simple

Ratslayer
What a dangerous man ,,im sorry you had to go through this kind of abuse .Doing the right thing just walk away and try to heal.This attack may not effect you right this moment ,but it will later ,so try and get some advise as it could be harmful mentally..Try not to lose trust in people as there are more good them bad out there.And dont forget you did nothing wrong ,you didnt deserve this treatment and he is just a wanker ,who belongs in the gutter ,,,Take care
 

Wendy

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What a dangerous man ,,im sorry you had to go through this kind of abuse .Doing the right thing just walk away and try to heal.This attack may not effect you right this moment ,but it will later ,so try and get some advise as it could be harmful mentally..Try not to lose trust in people as there are more good them bad out there.And dont forget you did nothing wrong ,you didnt deserve this treatment and he is just a wanker ,who belongs in the gutter ,,,Take care
Thank you. I’m really ok now
 
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