Urgent translation needed before wedding in 4 days

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  1. fann

    fann Active Member

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    habibi is something like 'my beloved' and is used for men
    you use habibati in Arabic if you speake about a woman
    habib is a name (like Habib Bourghuiba)
     
  2. MH007

    MH007 Moderator Staff Member

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    I fear that SarahJaneys silence means she is going ahead, I really hope that I am wrong and will eat humble pie if I am, GLADLY!

    xxxxxxx
     
  3. SarahJaney

    SarahJaney Member

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    I'm here sorry, no I won't go ahead no way, but it's hard to talk and write right now, I hope you understand
     
  4. the nutty professor

    the nutty professor Bad Teacher

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    Hi Sarahjaney
    Im gutted for you and hope you will be ok.
    we are all here for you when you feel ready.
    please take care
    xxxx
     
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  5. BrownGirl

    BrownGirl Moderator And Queen of Summaries Staff Member

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    Hi SJ
    You take as long as you need. You have a rough few days, weeks, months ahead, but I really do think it would have been a lot worse for you if you had not seen that conversation.
    Just remember you are not alone.
    xx
     
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  6. paula01

    paula01 Well-Known Member

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    I feel very sad for you finding this out four days before your wedding BUT what a lucky escape you had! God these rats never fail to amaze me how low they stoop. I wish this website had been around when I met mine as I would never have married him! I was with mine for years and for the last five years I was really unhappy. I still make excuses for his behaviour and want to believe that he really loved me. Most of them have an agenda and they dont care who they hurt to achieve their goal. If I am really honest I never trusted him when he came to my country BUT I had no proof. You have made the right decision Sarah and I know how difficult that must have been. Sending you massive hugs BUT you deserve better......
     
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    MH007 Moderator Staff Member

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    I have never been happier to be wrong. Take care SarahJaney - what an awful thing to discover but as everyone says better now than after the wedding. He is the loser in all of this and you will, in time, move forwards. He on the other hand will always be looking for a meal ticket, will never know true love and will NEVER ever find inner peace!

    Xxxxxxxxx
     
  8. mezoo

    mezoo The Decider

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    long time since I've watched a thread. best of luck SarahJaney , you have friends and support here....
     
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  9. Caramel

    Caramel Clairvoyante !!

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    Sarah, you had a lucky escape. Just think you could have spent years trying to get justice if he had persuaded you to invest in Tunisia. Good luck.
     
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  10. Aunty Nora

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    Your emotions must be playing havoc with you right now, I really feel for you. Your hopes and dreams for the future have all been a lie. God bless you Sarah janey, stay strong and don't forget x
     
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  11. crystal

    crystal The Punchy Scot

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    I agree Paula.. she does not know it yet but she has had a lucky escape... Hugs to you SJ
     
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  12. lemonfizz

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    I feel so sorry for you. Good for you saying no to the wedding. It will hurt for a while, as they say "time is a healer". I wouldn't marry my rat and I am so glad that I didn't after what I found out. It took a long time for me to forget him.

    Big hugs xxxx
     
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  13. Niamh

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    Please dont Marry him, I found e-mails after I had married, to lots of different women from all over the world, using the same words only in different languages, to all these women. The trouble was I was married and he was in Ireland living with me. Go with your gut! As previous writer said if you have doubts why are u marrying him? This is hindsight talking and I completely understand you want to believe everything he is telling you. but I have learnt the hard way! Dont marry him! Sorry I know this is not what you want to hear, but if he is using the words above he is calling someone else his love x
     
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  14. Di0ne

    Di0ne Active Member

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    Sarah hope you're doing ok, Niamh those Tunisans are hitting up the Irish lots, am Irish too- did he get a visa here or did you get out?
     
  15. Niamh

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    He is living in Ireland now he got a Visa within a few weeks of applying for it. The amount of Irish women I met travelling back and forth for 2 years was crazy, so alot more Tunisian men are going to be living in Ireland in the next few years.
     
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  16. Di0ne

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    We shall have to shoot them on arrival at the airport !
     
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  17. CUDDLE

    CUDDLE Well-Known Member

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    Ireland has been an attractive destination for Rats for a long while now//they know it is much easier to get the visa ....
     
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    CUDDLE Well-Known Member

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    Hi SJ...

    I am so very sad for you right now, you must be devastated...

    I do believe in Guardian Angels however, and I am sure you really do have one.....

    A man like this can ONLY cause heartache and misery to anyone involved with him.............

    It will take you time to recover ..take as long as you need ...

    In the mean time use every resource available to ease your pain...

    Im sending you a virtual hug SJ...xx xx
     
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  19. Caramel

    Caramel Clairvoyante !!

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    Just wondering if these rats go through the British Embassy in Tunis to get their visas? Don't think there is an Irish Embassy there? Something is quite wrong here because England girls have it really hard to bring their husbands in (not complaining as this may be a good thing) but still not right. The rats are getting through a loophole which has to be plugged. Once they are in Ireland a few months, they can easily make their way to the rest of the UK.

    I think this calls for a letter to Brokenshire, the new Immigration Minister. What do you think ladies.
     
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  20. the nutty professor

    the nutty professor Bad Teacher

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    Yes, they do submit in brit embassy tunis, have met a few!
     
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  21. Caramel

    Caramel Clairvoyante !!

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    Thanks,NP. Need to write to British Embassy in Tunis and Immigration Minister. Ladies if you care about thes rats getting to Europe via Ireland, please write to new immigration Minister and embassy in Tunis.
     
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    Hi SarahJaney, I hope you will be ok. I was so sad to read this thread. Please come back to this site when you feel ready, there is so much help and support here for you. I send you big hugs
     
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    marilyna Chocolate Connoisseur

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    Do English girls have it really hard getting their husbands in?

    I know a number of rats who got in last year to my surprise, and they didn't go through Ireland, came straight to the UK>
     
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    wallah Well-Known Member

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    SJ has taken note of everyone's advice, but needs to take a back seat from here at the moment. xx
     
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    Are you thinking of the corrupt and evil ones that I actually wrote to the British Embassy about, with their track records of corruption, family names and addresses, names of women involved, their illegal plans on arriving in UK who were still let in M? The UKBA is more than a joke.
     
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